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Leave her if you don't trust her

This one na reserve psychology she wan use for the guy head. For the guy to have the mind to call the girl that many times, he was made to feel he is the main guy by the girl. A side dude or toaster would not necessarily do that.

In a relationship most times, the red flags are there but due to sunken cost fallacy( the guy feels he has invested to much either emotionally or financially or otherwise), the guy refuse to bail out of the relationship. The evidence is clear and the guy knows what to do but dude to his "investment" he is second guessing himself.

A girl who is loves you and is loyal would go the extra mile to show her loyalty and love. she would even give you her fone for you to go thru and stuff or tell you of guys toasting her

Let's say for example this guy goes on to wife the girl despite all the red flags, he would now accuse marriage of being a scam, whereas na the the partners nor gree choose person for marriage

TheGreatIyaebe:
Very dumb mentality to have. How do you men reason like this?

This one na mumu
Abi u no sabi read writing on the wall.

A girl is cleary avoiding calls from other guy when she is with her bf waht does that mean to you?

My ex did it to me she will off her phone whenever she comes visiting me so she won’t receive calls from he other guys.

I can not abe in this situation, my level of jealousy is very low but what i usually do is concert them from girlfriend to nacking tool with zero emotions. People like her will gaslight you ro an extent where you start feeling like you are the problem when clearly they have not been sincere from the start

JAOS:
If you want her to be serious with you then marry her it is obvious you are not the only one dating her🙂

People don't change, if they can't change in relationships they will never change in marriage

annolomy:
Honestly it's painful. She wasted my whole time for nothing.

She dud you a favour for making you see this sooner than after 3 kids with paternity issues.
Count it all joy that this came earlier, me i go use her cure my conji until i find replacement with zero financial responsibility

You are not the only one asking her out... It is normal for a girl to have many men asking them out.. Some even get suitors daily but they won't tell you, that is not cheating that is normal.

Work on yourself not on her.

For a guy to call her 10 times and she didn't pick he is not her boyfriend or they are likely to break up soon.

Faber:
Where una dey see all these girls playing ping pong with una head... No girl have ever tried that with me ... it boils down to how you entered and started the relationship with her... If you entered as a simp, you gonna simp to keep it going and you will be destroyed at last...

Enter a relationship strongly, with boundaries and clear red lines next time

hello i saw your post on LPG generator some years ago, do you still advise i get the converter for my generator?

As it stands now, I'm not going to spend more than 8k on her again.

I'll just keep her as my f**k buddy—she already messed up. After everything I've done for her, she still doesn't regard me as her only boyfriend.

I'm not going to invest much in her anymore. I'll keep her around until I find a better girl—someone I can truly call my soulmate, who will be loyal to me.

annolomy:
I already blocked her on WhatsApp

Block her for what? Men should also be more cold blooded, that's why you are always told go have options. If a lady wants to marry she will take like 3 different male names to her pastor. Do you think she's a fool? Men too should have the spirit of abundance and you won't get emotional if a lady fks up. Make sure you waste her time wella then dump her.

cristy149:
hello i saw your post on LPG generator some years ago, do you still advise i get the converter for my generator?

Yeah, still working and advisable... though it seems Solar is taking over everywhere now. If you have enough funds, go for solar

Faber:
Where una dey see all these girls playing ping pong with una head... No girl have ever tried that with me ... it boils down to how you entered and started the relationship with her... If you entered as a simp, you gonna simp to keep it going and you will be destroyed at last...

Enter a relationship strongly, with boundaries and clear red lines next time

I no dey even set boundaries, I will give you the benefit of doubt to act abnormally, when I meet a lady I always tell them the reason why I'm not married is because I haven't found what I want yet in a lady. I will free do you what you like and when I see that you are a street dog I will just low-key till I eject as you talk. Me no dey stress myself anymore.

OKOATA:
I no dey even set boundaries, I will give you the benefit of doubt to act abnormally, when I meet a lady I always tell them the reason why I'm not married is because I haven't found what I want yet in a lady. I will free do you what you like and when I see that you are a street dog I will just low-key till I eject as you talk. Me no dey stress myself anymore.

That's a good one too

Sonnobax15:

Similar thing happened between mine and I last week......I even compelled her to answer the guy's call in my present but she refused . That was when I realized I've gotten a co-boyfriend . She was even swearing that she had nothing to do with the guy and I was like--"Ahhhhhh,oya pick the call na" .

The truth is that "foolish" is HE who trust a Nigerian banny

is it not the same girl you are still considering marrying even looking for a new accomodation

annolomy:
She's saying I don't trust her, but I only requested for their chats, but she said no

Why should she show you her chats with me?

Is it because I have been keeping quiet all this while?

annolomy:
[size=8pt][/size]My girlfriend visited me today, and while we were together, she received a call from someone who seemed to be a man. At first, I brushed it off, thinking it was just a random call.

But could you believe this same man called her a total of ten times? I even told her to answer the call in my presence, but she refused to pick up. Now she's telling me that I don't trust her and that I'm doubting her.

I told her to show me proof of their chats, and I would drop the matter completely. But she insisted, saying that if I don’t believe her, that I should forget that she's not sending any proof.

What do you think about this situation, my fellow Nairalanders?

Mistakes most men do is direct confrontation: will someone that's doing shit admit to it?.. They will play the victim game immediately. Imagine you are a thief and someone accuses you directly that you are one, will you accept or deny? So don't directly accuse anyone of infidelity they will all enter defense mode and if you aren't careful you'd start apologizing even when you know you are right. Rather play a sucker to catch one. Act like you don't give a shit and you are fully blinded; in no time you will see what you want to see. And as far she is girlfriend I no too de worry. This method has proven to be cause they will become careless.

annolomy:
[size=8pt][/size]My girlfriend visited me today, and while we were together, she received a call from someone who seemed to be a man. At first, I brushed it off, thinking it was just a random call.

But could you believe this same man called her a total of ten times? I even told her to answer the call in my presence, but she refused to pick up. Now she's telling me that I don't trust her and that I'm doubting her.

I told her to show me proof of their chats, and I would drop the matter completely. But she insisted, saying that if I don’t believe her, that I should forget that she's not sending any proof.

What do you think about this situation, my fellow Nairalanders?

You are dating our wife

You still dey call am ur girlfriend? Ode

annolomy:
[size=8pt][/size]My girlfriend visited me today, and while we were together, she received a call from someone who seemed to be a man. At first, I brushed it off, thinking it was just a random call.

But could you believe this same man called her a total of ten times? I even told her to answer the call in my presence, but she refused to pick up. Now she's telling me that I don't trust her and that I'm doubting her.

I told her to show me proof of their chats, and I would drop the matter completely. But she insisted, saying that if I don’t believe her, that I should forget that she's not sending any proof.

What do you think about this situation, my fellow Nairalanders?

what do we think? Something dey worry u??

Puhehehe, run oh!

BE LIK U WAN SET UR HOUSE ON FIRE ABI

cristy149:
hello i saw your post on LPG generator some years ago, do you still advise i get the converter for my generator?

annolomy:
[size=8pt][/size]My girlfriend visited me today, and while we were together, she received a call from someone who seemed to be a man. At first, I brushed it off, thinking it was just a random call.

But could you believe this same man called her a total of ten times? I even told her to answer the call in my presence, but she refused to pick up. Now she's telling me that I don't trust her and that I'm doubting her.

I told her to show me proof of their chats, and I would drop the matter completely. But she insisted, saying that if I don’t believe her, that I should forget that she's not sending any proof.

What do you think about this situation, my fellow Nairalanders?

That is what is called a shit test. Every ladies do this a lot and the purpose is to test how angry and jealous you can be. You should have just play along as if it is not a big deal and with time you will find out if it is just a mere test or if she is promiscuous.