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. You go dey check Nigerian banny phone? . Na chronic HBP you dey really dey find

My man,it is well

Everyman has one way or the other fallen so deeply in love before in his life......And as well, gotten disappointed by the daughters of Eve

But it's unfair to be angry with her when you aren't a saint on your own path,cuz at least you've equally admitted that you've been cheating on her but being so smart enough to be deleting your messages....

And it's even more disrespectful for you to tell her that you'd only be calling her when you're in the mood . What effrontery!!! . If I were her,na just to block you entirely from my life.....

Lastly, It'd be more better for you to move on with your life than to be stuck with someone who flirts with different guys at any slimmest opportunity..... And for the records,cheats hardly change and it's very obvious that your banny would rather choose to ride on different diicks than change

I don too talk already....in fact,make una get out

Sonnobax15:

Wow! 😲
Boss, you were able to read all that?
Omo!

small pikin still dey worry you. Come back 10 years from now and read this post by yourself if you will not be ashamed and shake your head.

May God not let me have time to be checking a woman's phone up & down when there are billions of women and I can have as many as I want.

Na guys like you I dey like well well. Your girl will be sucking my dick and answering your call at the same time and I will not ask her who she is talking to because I don't care. 😂

You give the girl close marking...

Like Ngolo kante. But wetin dey always baffle me na why people no want make their partners cheat on them. But they have no qualms cheating on their partners.



Anyways from what you narrated here it seems pretty obvious your woman is no more the naive little girl she was when you guys started dating. Her eyes 'don tear'.

I can bet Zonefree's balls she has moved on. Her mind is no longer with you. Even if you somehow convince her to come back (I see you are still into her) it will just be for a while. And sincerely I don't think it will end well.

My advice: Move on!

Beautiful beginning, a sad ending.

It takes two for a relationship to work, and no matter how painful it is, you must be able to accept realities for what it is.

If you postpone what you should have done today, it will be worse in the future. Since you have been catching her flirting here and there, she was already gone.

It is now that she summoned the courage to actually block you and flee. You aint even worthy of an explanation or a proper break up. It is a coward move from her side.

The basic rule of ghosting is to treat the person as a ghost. You are not Jesus Christ, do not go and resurrect the dead. If after years of dating, she can break up like that, then you insult yourself further trying to be friends.

You guys cant be friends. Let her be.

With each pang of emotions that vibrates your being because you miss her, see it as poison leaving your body, like how you drink medicine and feel weird, but with time, you will piss it out and feel good.

You have lost her, but dont loose yourself. Loosing yourself is validating her rejection, becuase if you loose yourself, why should she keep you?

Move on.

U no well at all.

U don't want her to keep communication with her exes. But u expect her to keep bedding you after you become ex.

Someone should help me summarize this I nor get strength

But make I no lie, you sef get too much wahala and I was expecting her to change it for you which she later did…She is seeing someone else bro.

@pansophist curious to know why you think I wasn’t worthy of an explanation or proper breakup from her?

Yes, I miss her and didn’t want break her heart, but catching her flirting online here and there already made me started losing love, but I didn’t just want to hurt her by just quitting giving that I met her a virgin and for she to have kept herself that long, she might have some sexual discipline. And, she could work on the flirt attitude.

Also, giving that her mom separated, I know its a red flag? But then, I met her as a good girl and a virgin who lives with her dad.
Maybe she could be different? Please talk brutally to me bro. Im reading and ready to move on. @pansophist

Keepamsafe:
@pansophist curious to know why you think I wasn’t worthy of an explanation or proper breakup from her?

Yes, I miss her and didn’t want break her heart, but catching her flirting online here and there already made me started losing love, but I didn’t just want to hurt her by just quitting giving that I met her a virgin and for she to have kept herself that long, she might have some sexual discipline. And, she could work on the flirt attitude.

Also, giving that her mom separated, I know its a red flag? But then, I met her as a good girl and a virgin who lives with her dad.
Maybe she could be different? Please talk brutally to me bro. Im reading and ready to move on. @pansophist

I didnt say that you are not worthy of an explanation.

But if someone ghost you, then it means they do not consider you worthy of explanation.

And in such situation, you do not loose yourself by trying to figure out why they dont wanna explain anything to you.

Beautiful beginning, sad ending. I'm worried though that you didn't take accountability of your cheating acts. What played out for you was karma. You were not faithful to her and you projected your insecurities. Uet again, you are feeling too macho to call your bluff off and apologise. Allow the young lady be. Learn to do better in your next. You need to take a break and mentally mature before venturing again. You would know when you realise that you cannot eat your cake and have it

Keepamsafe:
This might be a long read, but please pardon me. Its a matter of the heart and I will try as possible to be brief.
We met 2023 as at then, she was in the last semester of her year 2. She was a virgin too as at then. We started dating and I disvirgined her. Meeting her a virgin in her year 2 shows she has some sort of self control and sexual discipline.
So, everything was going on fine with our relationship. Tho” at first, it took a while for me to fall for her as I have been out of a relationship for a long while. But, seeing she meets some of my criteria, I started falling in love with her as she can be a girl for keeps.
All her past exs has nothing serious with her.
Nothing sexual the most she did with 2 of her exes was just kisses and handling here and there.
Those were not much to deal with.

She said she wanted a serious relationship, so had a serious relationship going on.
Tho” during this period, I wont say im faithful. But, she’s a girl I wanted for keeps as she came in a clean slate.
Early last year I went through her phone and saw her telling one of her exes “I love you”. I got soo pissed and broke. She came begging that she wouldn’t do it again. That she and the guy were bestie too.
So, I told her to cut every ties with every besties and ex.
As my SERIOUS GIRLFRIEND is not allowed to have tied with any besties or exs. Of which she did. And deleted the guy contacts. Things still kept on going smoothly. Mid last year, I went through her phone and saw her giving other guys attention. I told her I hate flirting and my gf is not allowed to flirt! She apologized saying its one of her weaknesses which she has gotten to know and working on it because when she broke up with those her previous exs she got used to talking to different guys here and there for fun.
But, shes trying to work on it. I said ok. Things still kept on going fine.
Mid last year, she got pregnant for me. Now shes in year 3. I wanted the baby, even wanted to go see the Dad if need be and claim responsibility and do a little rite. But according to her, she didn’t want to disappoint her Father who is a Policeman as the dad would be disappointed that she got pregnant outside wedlock and also, the mom said she should at least finish school before getting married too. Finally, we took out the pregnancy. PLEASE NOTE, the mom is separated from the Dad. I have no clear reason what the issue is. Non of them is remarried anyways and according to her, its not the first time the mom is leaving the house and coming back and the issue is from the dad. The Dad also has a son from another woman and the boy is living with them. Please note also that my GF stays with the dad and the step brother.
Back to us, after taking out the baby, we did genotype test. Im As and she said her mom said she was AA. But when we did the test, hers came out AS. So, we got confused and said to do another test for her which we never did till date.
We kept on dating through this all. During her IT, I went through her phone and saw where she’s entertaining one or two guys from her IT place. Like, meeting with them at the cafe, meet around corners etc. I chatted one of the guys with her phone in her presence. And asking the guy to tell me (her) what he feels about me etc, but the guy didn’t say anything serious. I let that one slide.
I believe as my serious girlfriend, your phone can’t be more private to me than your private part. She too is free to go through my phone if she wants. I keep it transparent. Even when I cheat, I delete every traces to respect her feelings as the serious girl in my life.
With in late last year too, there was a period we were both talking about how we have both fallen out of love with eachother. We researched and realized it can be normal in a relationship. So, we were still together and this stage passed.
2 weeks ago, I went through her phone and one contact with disappearing message. I asked her who was that, she said it’s somebody from her street.
On reading the chat, I realized the guy has invited her out a couple times of which she agreed to show up. December last year 7pm when making her hair, the guy chatted her that she should come out to that estate front of which she wanted to go that 7pm but for her dad that already came back home. So, she couldn’t go from the saloon to see him again.
The one that got me pissed was when the guy sent my serious gf a text that he’s “feeling down and needs someone to talk to”
I was pissed, what brought about such closeness? Or when is my gf a therapist. I told her how many times have I told her to stop flirting and stop entertaining guys!
I gave her back her phone, when I came back I realized she texted the guy 2 messages and deleted it for both. I asked her what the text was, she said she asked the guy if anybody chatted him with her phone? That she wasn’t the person with it.
I was pissed again, doing that in my presence. So, I told her to call the guy to come online. She did.
I used her phone to chat the guy asking him to screenshot their last text, so he said it was deleted for two.
So, I asked the guy to tell me (her) what he feels about me, so, the guy was like thats a funny question because she knows he doesn’t know how to do these text love things, that he prefers telling her in person.
So, I told him ok. Whats he doing, he said nothing that he was just chilling at home. So, I told him ok they should see so he was like, ok. She should let him know when as he’s wanting to go out soon. I didn’t bother to know anything further. If she has gone to his house before, if they have done anything before. I didn’t oet her talk on those. I told her to just go and she shouldn’t bother calling when she gets home.
Please note that we have broken up once for an issue like this with several warnings for similar issues.
She didn’t call. Later that night, I couldn’t stay. So, I called her and told her that so, she has been cheating on me all these while. She said how did she cheat? If I like, I shouldn’t believe her thats her business that she didn’t see any wrong she did. I told her alright. That I know what to do, I will only call her when im in the mood. So, I cut the call.

She sent me voicenotes started ranting that guys with entailment mentality.
That so, because shes in a serious relationship she cannot hang out with other guys? After all me too im not innocent who is SARAH (real name witheld). So I asked her are we now competing? After all who started the whole flirting thing.

She said guy guy guy, If it was before, she would have been crying and begging but shes not crying that I have tried. After all, nobody lose. That its her life, even if she slept with another guy, its her life and people make mistakes and learn from their mistakes.
If I like, I shouldn’t believe what she’s telling me, thats my business. I can go and fool myself and call the guy. Thats my business. And she will never come to my house again that shes not my cumbucket. I just told her I will call her whenever im in the mood.
Thats where we ended the call.
Stayed one week, didn’t talk. She sent me a couple pictures and text. I didn’t text back nor replied. Only liked the picture.

Yesterday, called her and realized that all my numbers were already blocked. So, I used a number she doesn’t have to call her of which she ended the call on hearing my voice. Well, I texted on whatsapp. And told her that being ex doesn’t mean being enemies, she can need assistance from me, or I can need from her.
So, we could still be friends and she should come pick up her remaining stuff. Of which she refused to come yesterday and said she will come when she feels like and let me know but shes not coming that yesterday. And, of course she doesn’t wanna be my enemies. But being friends means we”ll be having sex and she doesn’t wanna have sex with me again. I told her no need limiting our new friendship we should let it flow unless she wanna be the bitter ex of which she said shes not.
And thats how we ended things. She”d be coming to pick up her stuff soon. I dunno.
I know the relationship is over. I just miss her as this is someone we could have had a life together being couple. I rather she cheats with me than cheat on me. Sad reality but I have really fallen for her and emotional.
What should I do when she comes? I know not to simp for a woman but im human in as much as the love is sour now and its best we settle as friends as more of such issues will erupt later in the future again. Opinions, advice, insults needed to face reality please.


OAM4J Mynd44 Rocktation Nlfpmod Seun Dominique lalasticlala help for wider opinion please

Rule 1: once you start going back and forth with a woman in negotiations and sometimes intense arguments, just know that you have lost the plot.

A woman that loves you will create boundaries for herself because she doesn't wants to lose you.

It's easier for men to come back to their beloved mate after infidelity.

But once a woman cheats, hardly anything you can do. She now belongs to another man, a conqueror stronger and better than you in her psyche.

A woman going silent for days without talking with you is the height of it. Her heart belongs somewhere else.

She will learn a hard lesson.

As for you, bro, you've got your faults too even though you were not caught. Nothing tarnishes a relationship faster than infidelity.

Anyway, forget about her.

There are other good women outside.

Take this heartbreak as a necessary lesson that forges you into becoming a stronger man.

Thanks.

Bro I guess u are working or doing business... Channel ur energy there and thanks me later.. I was ones in ur shoe, as someone rightly said that in 10yrs u should revisit this ur post... Bro I regret all attentions I gave to this girl... Man up and move on

Monitoring spirit better calm down. Some people naturally attract friends. If you date a lady like me, you for done develop hypertension.

There is nothing wrong with a lady chatting with guys; as long as she has informed them that she has a boyfriend. But chatting with an ex is a no no.

so who you won leave this beautiful girl wey you disvirgin for

Smilleydr:
so who you won leave this beautiful girl wey you disvirgin for

Pesin wey don abort pikin ..

Abeg you for post her pictures so guys like me go clear if we mistakenly jam am for front ...

Keepamsafe:
This might be a long read, but please pardon me. Its a matter of the heart and I will try as possible to be brief.
We met 2023 as at then, she was in the last semester of her year 2. She was a virgin too as at then. We started dating and I disvirgined her. Meeting her a virgin in her year 2 shows she has some sort of self control and sexual discipline.
So, everything was going on fine with our relationship. Tho” at first, it took a while for me to fall for her as I have been out of a relationship for a long while. But, seeing she meets some of my criteria, I started falling in love with her as she can be a girl for keeps.
All her past exs has nothing serious with her.
Nothing sexual the most she did with 2 of her exes was just kisses and handling here and there.
Those were not much to deal with.

She said she wanted a serious relationship, so had a serious relationship going on.
Tho” during this period, I wont say im faithful. But, she’s a girl I wanted for keeps as she came in a clean slate.
Early last year I went through her phone and saw her telling one of her exes “I love you”. I got soo pissed and broke. She came begging that she wouldn’t do it again. That she and the guy were bestie too.
So, I told her to cut every ties with every besties and ex.
As my SERIOUS GIRLFRIEND is not allowed to have tied with any besties or exs. Of which she did. And deleted the guy contacts. Things still kept on going smoothly. Mid last year, I went through her phone and saw her giving other guys attention. I told her I hate flirting and my gf is not allowed to flirt! She apologized saying its one of her weaknesses which she has gotten to know and working on it because when she broke up with those her previous exs she got used to talking to different guys here and there for fun.
But, shes trying to work on it. I said ok. Things still kept on going fine.
Mid last year, she got pregnant for me. Now shes in year 3. I wanted the baby, even wanted to go see the Dad if need be and claim responsibility and do a little rite. But according to her, she didn’t want to disappoint her Father who is a Policeman as the dad would be disappointed that she got pregnant outside wedlock and also, the mom said she should at least finish school before getting married too. Finally, we took out the pregnancy. PLEASE NOTE, the mom is separated from the Dad. I have no clear reason what the issue is. Non of them is remarried anyways and according to her, its not the first time the mom is leaving the house and coming back and the issue is from the dad. The Dad also has a son from another woman and the boy is living with them. Please note also that my GF stays with the dad and the step brother.
Back to us, after taking out the baby, we did genotype test. Im As and she said her mom said she was AA. But when we did the test, hers came out AS. So, we got confused and said to do another test for her which we never did till date.
We kept on dating through this all. During her IT, I went through her phone and saw where she’s entertaining one or two guys from her IT place. Like, meeting with them at the cafe, meet around corners etc. I chatted one of the guys with her phone in her presence. And asking the guy to tell me (her) what he feels about me etc, but the guy didn’t say anything serious. I let that one slide.
I believe as my serious girlfriend, your phone can’t be more private to me than your private part. She too is free to go through my phone if she wants. I keep it transparent. Even when I cheat, I delete every traces to respect her feelings as the serious girl in my life.
With in late last year too, there was a period we were both talking about how we have both fallen out of love with eachother. We researched and realized it can be normal in a relationship. So, we were still together and this stage passed.
2 weeks ago, I went through her phone and one contact with disappearing message. I asked her who was that, she said it’s somebody from her street.
On reading the chat, I realized the guy has invited her out a couple times of which she agreed to show up. December last year 7pm when making her hair, the guy chatted her that she should come out to that estate front of which she wanted to go that 7pm but for her dad that already came back home. So, she couldn’t go from the saloon to see him again.
The one that got me pissed was when the guy sent my serious gf a text that he’s “feeling down and needs someone to talk to”
I was pissed, what brought about such closeness? Or when is my gf a therapist. I told her how many times have I told her to stop flirting and stop entertaining guys!
I gave her back her phone, when I came back I realized she texted the guy 2 messages and deleted it for both. I asked her what the text was, she said she asked the guy if anybody chatted him with her phone? That she wasn’t the person with it.
I was pissed again, doing that in my presence. So, I told her to call the guy to come online. She did.
I used her phone to chat the guy asking him to screenshot their last text, so he said it was deleted for two.
So, I asked the guy to tell me (her) what he feels about me, so, the guy was like thats a funny question because she knows he doesn’t know how to do these text love things, that he prefers telling her in person.
So, I told him ok. Whats he doing, he said nothing that he was just chilling at home. So, I told him ok they should see so he was like, ok. She should let him know when as he’s wanting to go out soon. I didn’t bother to know anything further. If she has gone to his house before, if they have done anything before. I didn’t oet her talk on those. I told her to just go and she shouldn’t bother calling when she gets home.
Please note that we have broken up once for an issue like this with several warnings for similar issues.
She didn’t call. Later that night, I couldn’t stay. So, I called her and told her that so, she has been cheating on me all these while. She said how did she cheat? If I like, I shouldn’t believe her thats her business that she didn’t see any wrong she did. I told her alright. That I know what to do, I will only call her when im in the mood. So, I cut the call.

She sent me voicenotes started ranting that guys with entailment mentality.
That so, because shes in a serious relationship she cannot hang out with other guys? After all me too im not innocent who is SARAH (real name witheld). So I asked her are we now competing? After all who started the whole flirting thing.

She said guy guy guy, If it was before, she would have been crying and begging but shes not crying that I have tried. After all, nobody lose. That its her life, even if she slept with another guy, its her life and people make mistakes and learn from their mistakes.
If I like, I shouldn’t believe what she’s telling me, thats my business. I can go and fool myself and call the guy. Thats my business. And she will never come to my house again that shes not my cumbucket. I just told her I will call her whenever im in the mood.
Thats where we ended the call.
Stayed one week, didn’t talk. She sent me a couple pictures and text. I didn’t text back nor replied. Only liked the picture.

Yesterday, called her and realized that all my numbers were already blocked. So, I used a number she doesn’t have to call her of which she ended the call on hearing my voice. Well, I texted on whatsapp. And told her that being ex doesn’t mean being enemies, she can need assistance from me, or I can need from her.
So, we could still be friends and she should come pick up her remaining stuff. Of which she refused to come yesterday and said she will come when she feels like and let me know but shes not coming that yesterday. And, of course she doesn’t wanna be my enemies. But being friends means we”ll be having sex and she doesn’t wanna have sex with me again. I told her no need limiting our new friendship we should let it flow unless she wanna be the bitter ex of which she said shes not.
And thats how we ended things. She”d be coming to pick up her stuff soon. I dunno.
I know the relationship is over. I just miss her as this is someone we could have had a life together being couple. I rather she cheats with me than cheat on me. Sad reality but I have really fallen for her and emotional.
What should I do when she comes? I know not to simp for a woman but im human in as much as the love is sour now and its best we settle as friends as more of such issues will erupt later in the future again. Opinions, advice, insults needed to face reality please.


OAM4J Mynd44 Rocktation Nlfpmod Seun Dominique lalasticlala help for wider opinion please

Your insecurity and hypocrisy get phd...leave that girl and go work on yourself. I'm happy she didn't let you tie her down with any silly marital rites. You're way too controlling and insecure to be in a serious relationship