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You are correct. But stop taking it to the point of whether they are wealthy or not!

PS- abeg no vex. It not you i wanted to quote. Sorry pls.

saintmm:
There's no problem here, the father-in-law had seen the son-in-law and his family like that before he said.

If he knows the son-in-law knows his onions he wouldn't have said it.

The father is correct to me. I can enter the kitchen and prepare a dish for myself. I hate dat traditional lifestyle of waiting for my wife in the parlour to come serve me meals. If i can cook very well, no problem taking turns sometimes!

Irresponsible man.

dominique:
Nigerian men expect women to contribute 50% financial upkeep and 100% domestic upkeep. Bunch of lousy scammers! If she's working and contributing to the family finances and she's unable or unavailable to cook all the time, you arrange your own damn meals. Heaven won't fall!

Naija men I know does not need ur money. Be respectful, hardworking and loyal. Your man will definitely love and respect you. Support him financially when he's in need. That's why u are called wife. You are his helper and neck that carries his head. I come in peace. Let me quickly light my weeds and Bleep one olosho wey visit me now 😝

MrStarskie:
As I'm writing this, my wife is in the shop while I am cooking dinner.
No body told us what to do.
Any marriage with outside interference will never last, any one who is free should cook and any father in-law who will dictate to his son in-law should marry his daughter.

Well said.

A lot of people don't realize that men are territorial by nature and we DETEST another man telling us what to do.

Many men old and young cook and do other household chores BUT they were not told to do so by their wife's father.

Jennyclay:
A rich man will train his daughter so expensively to the fullest then one Yeye man will retire her to the kitchen.

If the groom isn’t comfortable with what the bride’s father then he should call it off. It’s as simple as ABC

It’s not by force

How many hours do they spend in the kitchen?

Mikespecialone:
That shows the kind of wife you are

Are u sure she is married or still a wife? Ladies also sounding bitter like these don't last in marriages or end up with lots of intimacy gadgets at 65 with serious hate for men. If dey manage to train any girl child, and u marry her. You will die of drama before 55yrs

Father dey protect her daughter wey no sabi cook.

What you sow you reap(indiscipline and disorder you reap disharmony and divorce).

GistMedia0:
A bride’s father stirred controversy at a wedding by telling the groom, “YOUR WIFE MUST NOT COOK FOR YOU.” His remark immediately ignited heated discussions both at the event and on social media.

Many critics argued that such a statement undermines traditional marriage roles, with some insisting that it weakens the groom’s authority and disrupts household harmony. “The foundation of marriage should be based on mutual roles, and cooking has always been a part of a wife's duty,” one person commented. Others expressed concerns that this could lead to a power imbalance, making the groom feel less in control in his own home.

On the other hand, some defended the father’s perspective, emphasizing that modern marriages are about mutual understanding rather than rigid roles. “The husband and wife should determine what works for them,” a supporter remarked, arguing that every marriage is unique. Others suggested that when a woman isn’t pressured to cook, she may actually enjoy doing it more willingly. “If a man doesn’t impose expectations, she’ll likely cook for him out of love and not obligation.”


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-987RYe_ff4

she must not cook for the children too

motymop:
Majority of the guys here didn't read what he said

The man made lot of sense.

It is not an obligation for your wife to cook for you, when you make it an obligation, then it brings lot of stress.

The woman should cook out of love and respect for you not out of obligation

So this thing wey you talk now make sense right?

Bahamas95:
Some things are better left unsaid.


The bride's father is a foolish man.

God bless you for this statement.

The bride's father is really foolish and I don't see the point in saying or raising such issues at that location and point in time.

dominique:
Nigerian men expect women to contribute 50% financial upkeep and 100% domestic upkeep. Bunch of lousy scammers! If she's working and contributing to the family finances and she's unable or unavailable to cook all the time, you arrange your own damn meals. Heaven won't fall!

Will you kip kwayet, fishface!!!

With your losened and sagged pussies, yet you demand for bride price and all that shiit....is that not the greatest scam of all?

The foundation of this marriage is so weak, it's obvious the man didn't train his daughter well

And the girl was busy gnashing and shining her 32 😂

dominique:
Nigerian men expect women to contribute 50% financial upkeep and 100% domestic upkeep. Bunch of lousy scammers! If she's working and contributing to the family finances and she's unable or unavailable to cook all the time, you arrange your own damn meals. Heaven won't fall!

The man will work all day and still come back and do any heavy lifting and security checks around the house. There are some roles women and men do better than each other... We all kmow these roles.

Namaster:
NOT an issue as long as the father of the bride is ready to cook the daily meals in a LACY G-string.

hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha emphasis on Lacy

Mikespecialone:
That shows the kind of wife you are

You a broke mugu

No worry na dyke sucking and pounding go be her cooking in 5h3 azar room then , make she ready 5o born 12 children

Dem go dey alright o. The man is getting married to a Daddy's girl who obviously hasn't grown independent of her father.

Love800:
You are correct. But stop taking it to the point of whether they are wealthy or not!

PS- abeg no vex. It not you i wanted to quote. Sorry pls.

No problem

Bahamas95:
Some things are better left unsaid.


The bride's father is a foolish man.

Better yet, those are things he should have said while the boy is being introduced to the family, definitely not on the wedding day in front of a crowd of witnesses.

Hohaiiiode:
you are the fool here!
Is this some sort of some taboo statement or what?
Or is there anything disrespectful in what he said?
In this constantly changing world , roles in marriages are not as rigid and defend by the boundaries set by old customs!

I called him a fool because there're some things common sense should tell you not to say in public.

I married a wife and not a slave, I ain't got problem assisting my wife with house chores. As a matter of fact the only thing I can't assist her with right now is breastfeeding our baby.

I don't care who you're, you can't just grab the mic at my wedding and start capping nonsense in the name of advice. He should have discussed any issue bothering him with the groom when he came for introduction/back marriage and not in the presence of guests.

I know his type, they mess up other people's children but want people to pamper their children like egg.

pocohantas:
Context is everything. This clip is too short and I believe it is deliberate to misconstrue the message. From his opening statement, "you don't sit, frown your face...", I want to believe he is referring to days when she is overwhelmed and the man is still angrily expecting cooked food.

^^^
Yes indeed - context is everything. But having watched the whole clip, I think the bride's father genuinely sees meals cooked by a wife as a privilege. His comments throughout the entire clip reinforce this belief of his.

If he wanted to pass across the message that a smart man should help his wife when she needs help in the kitechen - he would have worded his message differently.

pocohantas:
This cook and clean arguments are not for responsible adults.

^^^
Surprisingly, they are.

They are!

The overwhelming majority of married couples start out without hired help. Cooking and cleaning often become a source of friction even among 'responsible' adults. It happens all the time.

pocohantas:
But then, to each his own.

^^^
Exactly. Which is why the bride's fathers comments are potentially very dangerous.

This is the second clip I have seen on this platform of the bride's people giving the groom a public flogging of sorts. The first one was of a bride's mother threatening the groom if he ever laid hands on his wife. Just like this bride's father, that warning wasn't made in the privacy of the bride's home in front of immediate family members only. It was done at the wedding proper. What purpose does that serve?

Not all men react calmly to this sort of beatdown. Some may react badly right there and then. Others may keep their cool for the occassion but they will be indifferent or even hostile towards their parents in law for years after the wedding.

In the end the couple will figure it out. What works for them will work for them. Comments like those of this bride's father will just end up as a completely unnecessary provocation, doing more harm than good.

dominique:
Nigerian men expect women to contribute 50% financial upkeep and 100% domestic upkeep. Bunch of lousy scammers! If she's working and contributing to the family finances and she's unable or unavailable to cook all the time, you arrange your own damn meals. Heaven won't fall!

the father statement is very wrong,he should have told him this in private,not openly,

Other women will cook for me nau!

I never argue with a woman; I agree with everything she says and then proceed with my plan B.
Life is like a penn1S; soft, dangling, and free until a woman comes and makes it "HARD"

dominique:
Nigerian men expect women to contribute 50% financial upkeep and 100% domestic upkeep. Bunch of lousy scammers! If she's working and contributing to the family finances and she's unable or unavailable to cook all the time, you arrange your own damn meals. Heaven won't fall!

Tell that to the unfortunate man that ever makes the mistake of marrying you

Jennyclay:
A rich man will train his daughter so expensively to the fullest then one Yeye man will retire her to the kitchen.

If the groom isn’t comfortable with what the bride’s father then he should call it off. It’s as simple as ABC

It’s not by force

he should have told the all this rubbishy before the marriage ,not during reception

kessler53:
he should have told the all this rubbishy before the marriage ,not during reception

It's not too late to get a side chick who will do the duties of the wife.

If na me be the Mama of the groom, me sef will collect Mic and tell the bride 'My son must not bring money for family upkeep'

Make everywhere kuku scatter

na like this some oldmen madness take dey start, they should watch that man, he is sick upstairs

GistMedia0:
A bride’s father stirred controversy at a wedding by telling the groom, “YOUR WIFE MUST NOT COOK FOR YOU.” His remark immediately ignited heated discussions both at the event and on social media.

Many critics argued that such a statement undermines traditional marriage roles, with some insisting that it weakens the groom’s authority and disrupts household harmony. “The foundation of marriage should be based on mutual roles, and cooking has always been a part of a wife's duty,” one person commented. Others expressed concerns that this could lead to a power imbalance, making the groom feel less in control in his own home.

On the other hand, some defended the father’s perspective, emphasizing that modern marriages are about mutual understanding rather than rigid roles. “The husband and wife should determine what works for them,” a supporter remarked, arguing that every marriage is unique. Others suggested that when a woman isn’t pressured to cook, she may actually enjoy doing it more willingly. “If a man doesn’t impose expectations, she’ll likely cook for him out of love and not obligation.”


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-987RYe_ff4

Interference already even before the marriage starts. I pity the man

GistMedia0:
A bride’s father stirred controversy at a wedding by telling the groom, “YOUR WIFE MUST NOT COOK FOR YOU.” His remark immediately ignited heated discussions both at the event and on social media.

Many critics argued that such a statement undermines traditional marriage roles, with some insisting that it weakens the groom’s authority and disrupts household harmony. “The foundation of marriage should be based on mutual roles, and cooking has always been a part of a wife's duty,” one person commented. Others expressed concerns that this could lead to a power imbalance, making the groom feel less in control in his own home.

On the other hand, some defended the father’s perspective, emphasizing that modern marriages are about mutual understanding rather than rigid roles. “The husband and wife should determine what works for them,” a supporter remarked, arguing that every marriage is unique. Others suggested that when a woman isn’t pressured to cook, she may actually enjoy doing it more willingly. “If a man doesn’t impose expectations, she’ll likely cook for him out of love and not obligation.”


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-987RYe_ff4

From duty comes love, not the other way round.