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Every time a woman turns 30 and she’s not married, the world starts asking questions. “Why?” “What’s wrong with her?” “Is she too picky?” Society drags her like marriage is oxygen. Meanwhile, there are men walking around in their 40s, broke, unmarried, and still acting like they’re God’s gift to women.

Sir… what exactly have you been doing with your life?

You’re 42, you still live in a rented self-contain, you’ve switched jobs more times than a phone has switched hands, and your bank account is in survival mode. But when the topic of marriage or relationships comes up, your mouth opens wide to spew things like:

“I’m waiting for the right one.”

“I can’t marry a woman that can’t build with me.”

“Women of nowadays are too materialistic.”

Please, build what? IKEA furniture? Because your life is still in parts.

Let’s be clear, no one is saying you must be rich to be married or respected. But what we’re not going to do is pretend like being over 40, broke, and single is some king behavior. It’s not.

You’ve had two whole decades of adulthood. That’s enough time to gather sense, build character, learn a skill, or at least save something. If at 40+, you’ve achieved nothing but vibes and WiFi arguments, maybe it’s time to stop blaming women and face the mirror.

And let’s not forget the entitlement. These same men will insult women who have their lives together, calling them “too independent” or “hard to control.” Truth is, you just can’t handle a woman who doesn’t need you.

Well guess what? She shouldn’t have to build you from scratch. She’s not a bricklayer. She’s not a charity organization. And if you haven’t built anything meaningful for yourself by now, you should be asking for help not a wife.

Being 40+, broke, and single isn’t a red flag, it’s a billboard. And if all you have to offer is age and audacity, please rest. Women have suffered enough.

Stepout23:
You’re 42, you still live in a rented self-contain, you’ve switched jobs more times than a phone has switched hands, and your bank account is in survival mode. But when the topic of marriage or relationships comes up, your mouth opens wide to spew things like:

A single 42 year old guy living in a self-contained apartment isn't doing too bad really, given the present circumstances in Nigeria.

Average cost of self-contained apartment in a city like Lagos is N1m, mainland standard o. Despite the fact that N1m isn't a lot of money, how many women can afford to raise that for rent without depending on a man? 😒

The mistake you made was comparing a 40+ man who is not fully financially buoyant, to an unmarried woman (probably broker than the guy), for no reason except for marital pressure from society. That's a silly comparison.

Can we leave the war of the sexes in 2024? Are you people not tired yet? Humans are flawed and we're all trying. Sense, wealth, character, responsibility, and health are not by gender. There are good and bad people. Fortunate and unfortunate people. Rich and poor people! Please! we've been doing the gender wars for nearly 5 years. Let's move on and discuss things that impact us all as humans.

Double0h7:
Can we leave the war of the sexes in 2024? Are you people not tired yet? Humans are flawed and we're all trying. Sense, wealth, character, responsibility, and health are not by gender. There are good and bad people. Fortunate and unfortunate people. Rich and poor people! Please! we've been doing the gender wars for nearly 5 years. Let's move on and discuss things that impact us all as humans.

Nice word here... some people dont have sense, op put transh up there. Thread like this should be deleted instantly.

Double0h7:
Can we leave the war of the sexes in 2024? Are you people not tired yet? Humans are flawed and we're all trying. Sense, wealth, character, responsibility, and health are not by gender. There are good and bad people. Fortunate and unfortunate people. Rich and poor people! Please! we've been doing the gender wars for nearly 5 years. Let's move on and discuss things that impact us all as humans.

It’s really tough out here. 😣

God help us.

Any man over 40 that is broke is an idiot

Baronthecelebri:
Any man over 40 that is broke is an idiot

What's your definition of being broke?

How many 40 years Olds that are rich in Nigeria?

You expect 40 years old to be extremely rich in the poverty capital of the world to please a farm tool that is used up.

It's not everyone that will be rich and not everyone that will be poor.

Wealth knows no gender.

Nigerian girls are useless...All of them

Men and Women are not the same.

No matter how a man is, he can still get a wife.

A good looking woman on her 40's and not yet married definately has very bad attitude.

Man can decide to marry at his 50's and still be able to inpregnant a lady. That's why there's is less pressure on men unlike women when it comes to marriage.

Don't forget, men choose women and not the other way round.

Women has expiring date for giving birth as well. That's why pressure is on them more.

It’s the same old topics on Nairaland.

Stepout23:
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Every time a woman turns 30 and she’s not married, the world starts asking questions. “Why?” “What’s wrong with her?” “Is she too picky?” Society drags her like marriage is oxygen. Meanwhile, there are men walking around in their 40s, broke, unmarried, and still acting like they’re God’s gift to women.

Sir… what exactly have you been doing with your life?

You’re 42, you still live in a rented self-contain, you’ve switched jobs more times than a phone has switched hands, and your bank account is in survival mode. But when the topic of marriage or relationships comes up, your mouth opens wide to spew things like:

“I’m waiting for the right one.”

“I can’t marry a woman that can’t build with me.”

“Women of nowadays are too materialistic.”

Please, build what? IKEA furniture? Because your life is still in parts.

Let’s be clear, no one is saying you must be rich to be married or respected. But what we’re not going to do is pretend like being over 40, broke, and single is some king behavior. It’s not.

You’ve had two whole decades of adulthood. That’s enough time to gather sense, build character, learn a skill, or at least save something. If at 40+, you’ve achieved nothing but vibes and WiFi arguments, maybe it’s time to stop blaming women and face the mirror.

And let’s not forget the entitlement. These same men will insult women who have their lives together, calling them “too independent” or “hard to control.” Truth is, you just can’t handle a woman who doesn’t need you.

Well guess what? She shouldn’t have to build you from scratch. She’s not a bricklayer. She’s not a charity organization. And if you haven’t built anything meaningful for yourself by now, you should be asking for help not a wife.

Being 40+, broke, and single isn’t a red flag, it’s a billboard. And if all you have to offer is age and audacity, please rest. Women have suffered enough.

Madam how old are you again?

Good evening oh!

Baronthecelebri:
Any man over 40 that is broke is an idiot

You re still a broke guy in the eyes of many…

mosdii:
What's your definition of being broke?

How many 40 years Olds that are rich in Nigeria?

You expect 40 years old to be extremely rich in the poverty capital of the world to please a farm tool that is used up.

It's not everyone that will be rich and not everyone that will be poor.

Wealth knows no gender.

Nigerian girls are useless...All of them

You had something going till you killed it with your last sentence. Why generalize? Not all Nigerian girls are useless .

Abeg you people should leave single people alone o!

Baronthecelebri:
Any man over 40 that is broke is an idiot

So if he was having 10 million naira in his bank at 38 and lost it all due to bad business or one of the millions of circumstances (kidnap victim, fraud, hospital bills for parents, failed foreign travel, government policies) that can sink money in a flash, then he gets to age 40 without money, he is a fool?

You see how childish you are?
How old are you?
How much do you have right now?
How much will you have in two years?

Well, I don't blame you for showcasing your infantile sense of understanding in a public space, I blame SEUN OSEWA for not putting age restrictions on topics and threads.

Some men can be very shameless.

U are in ur 40s poor and still feel arrogant and boastful.

When women in their 30s are hoping to get married,these arrogant men would denigrate and insult the hell out of them while ordinarily,they themselves are broke,hopeless and stupid.

Men at 40 and single can sometimes be frustrated. Women,be careful and watchful as well.

Double0h7:
Can we leave the war of the sexes in 2024? Are you people not tired yet? Humans are flawed and we're all trying. Sense, wealth, character, responsibility, and health are not by gender. There are good and bad people. Fortunate and unfortunate people. Rich and poor people! Please! we've been doing the gender wars for nearly 5 years. Let's move on and discuss things that impact us all as humans.

I get your point, and you're right, it's tiring when everything becomes a gender war. But this wasn’t about men vs women. It’s about responsibility vs entitlement. Some truths need to sting for change to start.

Gbas gbos

AllBlack:
So if he was having 10 million naira in his bank at 38 and lost it all due to bad business or one of the millions of circumstances (kidnap victim, fraud, hospital bills for parents, failed foreign travel, government policies) that can sink money in a flash, then he gets to age 40 without money, he is a fool?

You see how childish you are?
How old are you?
How much do you have right now?
How much will you have in two years?

Well, I don't blame you for showcasing your infantile sense of understanding in a public space, I blame SEUN OSEWA for now putting age restrictions on topics and threads.

A fool at 40 is a fool forever.

At 40, you are past the middle of your life on earth............... Men and women alike

This is not about being rich or married.

Modified: This is not to pressure you, but at 40 you are close to your maker if you live in Nigeria (on average)

Double0h7:
Can we leave the war of the sexes in 2024? Are you people not tired yet? Humans are flawed and we're all trying. Sense, wealth, character, responsibility, and health are not by gender. There are good and bad people. Fortunate and unfortunate people. Rich and poor people! Please! we've been doing the gender wars for nearly 5 years. Let's move on and discuss things that impact us all as humans.

Women started the war with the advent of the social media in the early 2010s.

The men began to fight back and became just as vicious as the women.

Now that the men have almost obliterated their enemy you expect them to sheath their swords?

The war must continue...

Some men actually tried for their life 😔

But what can they do about it nothing some people are fortunate and some unfortunate

The gods of Time are not crazy

At the same time your own time fit no come

Stepout23:
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Every time a woman turns 30 and she’s not married, the world starts asking questions. “Why?” “What’s wrong with her?” “Is she too picky?” Society drags her like marriage is oxygen. Meanwhile, there are men walking around in their 40s, broke, unmarried, and still acting like they’re God’s gift to women.

Sir… what exactly have you been doing with your life?

You’re 42, you still live in a rented self-contain, you’ve switched jobs more times than a phone has switched hands, and your bank account is in survival mode. But when the topic of marriage or relationships comes up, your mouth opens wide to spew things like:

“I’m waiting for the right one.”

“I can’t marry a woman that can’t build with me.”

“Women of nowadays are too materialistic.”

Please, build what? IKEA furniture? Because your life is still in parts.

Let’s be clear, no one is saying you must be rich to be married or respected. But what we’re not going to do is pretend like being over 40, broke, and single is some king behavior. It’s not.

You’ve had two whole decades of adulthood. That’s enough time to gather sense, build character, learn a skill, or at least save something. If at 40+, you’ve achieved nothing but vibes and WiFi arguments, maybe it’s time to stop blaming women and face the mirror.

And let’s not forget the entitlement. These same men will insult women who have their lives together, calling them “too independent” or “hard to control.” Truth is, you just can’t handle a woman who doesn’t need you.

Well guess what? She shouldn’t have to build you from scratch. She’s not a bricklayer. She’s not a charity organization. And if you haven’t built anything meaningful for yourself by now, you should be asking for help not a wife.

Being 40+, broke, and single isn’t a red flag, it’s a billboard. And if all you have to offer is age and audacity, please rest. Women have suffered enough.

Na still one woman like you, wein konji don nearly faint, go still come finesse the over 40 broke single man, for nackings or just to answer married woman. Yes, an over 40s broke single man, who still looks ok and has good bed game will remain a king in some women's eyes, whether you like it or not. Speak to your gender

To be honest she's right. Some men actually wasted time till 40 and start giving excuses for there ignorant. Sometimes I don't blame women when they select men. Some women work really hard taking care of family responsibility and others some learn skills. And one man who has been playing bet naija all his life will want a lady to suffer with him at that age and start frustrating her. Imagine I have a consine brother who has been doing nothing all his life since teenage but playing only guilter for churchies for little penny. His not ready to learn skills even at 36.

I will make money 💰...
But you see marriage.... never....

I have never seen a totally good marriage..
And I love my peace...
Just have money, forget marriage...
That institution is flawed....

I don't blame any gender.... all the men I know are managing their marriage....
Almost all have side chicks or trying to get one....
Women looking for younger men...

I have seen many men afraid to go home... they would hang around work....I do pity them....

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Every time a woman turns 30 and she’s not married, the world starts asking questions. “Why?” “What’s wrong with her?” “Is she too picky?” Society drags her like marriage is oxygen. Meanwhile, there are men walking around in their 40s, broke, unmarried, and still acting like they’re God’s gift to women.

Sir… what exactly have you been doing with your life?

You’re 42, you still live in a rented self-contain, you’ve switched jobs more times than a phone has switched hands, and your bank account is in survival mode. But when the topic of marriage or relationships comes up, your mouth opens wide to spew things like:

“I’m waiting for the right one.”

“I can’t marry a woman that can’t build with me.”

“Women of nowadays are too materialistic.”

Please, build what? IKEA furniture? Because your life is still in parts.

Let’s be clear, no one is saying you must be rich to be married or respected. But what we’re not going to do is pretend like being over 40, broke, and single is some king behavior. It’s not.

You’ve had two whole decades of adulthood. That’s enough time to gather sense, build character, learn a skill, or at least save something. If at 40+, you’ve achieved nothing but vibes and WiFi arguments, maybe it’s time to stop blaming women and face the mirror.

And let’s not forget the entitlement. These same men will insult women who have their lives together, calling them “too independent” or “hard to control.” Truth is, you just can’t handle a woman who doesn’t need you.

Well guess what? She shouldn’t have to build you from scratch. She’s not a bricklayer. She’s not a charity organization. And if you haven’t built anything meaningful for yourself by now, you should be asking for help not a wife.

Being 40+, broke, and single isn’t a red flag, it’s a billboard. And if all you have to offer is age and audacity, please rest. Women have suffered enough.



Me am over 40 single and broke, living in roomself..in Mowe Ogun state, I cherish my peace... leave me like that afterall I dey chop. Make people wey don marry go use Thier marriage certificate or rings collect visa. Nonsense

Letmecum:
To be honest she's right. Some men actually wasted time till 40 and start giving excuses for there ignorant. Sometimes I don't blame women when they select men. Some women work really hard taking care of family responsibility and others some learn skills. And one man who has been playing bet naija all his life will want a lady to suffer with him at that age and start frustrating her. Imagine I have a consine brother who has been doing nothing all his life since teenage but playing only guilter for churchies for little penny. His not ready to learn skills even at 36.

Some of you just come here to say rubbish. How many people that learn skills are making it big, beside it better to marry late with a good planing for your children than to marry early without any proper planning for your children no wonder Africa will remain the headquarter of poverty because some of you don't know that marriage without properly planning is a disaster to the country and the society. I know a guy who was ready to marry at the age of 35 but the type of ladies that were coming to him were the bad ones, will you blame him, or will he marry just because of the sake of marriage. Same thing happened to me, how do you expect me to marry a lady that was not honest with her age, today she said she is 30 tomorrow she claims 33yrs, okay bring your birth certificate story

Stepout23:
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Every time a woman turns 30 and she’s not married, the world starts asking questions. “Why?” “What’s wrong with her?” “Is she too picky?” Society drags her like marriage is oxygen. Meanwhile, there are men walking around in their 40s, broke, unmarried, and still acting like they’re God’s gift to women.

Sir… what exactly have you been doing with your life?

You’re 42, you still live in a rented self-contain, you’ve switched jobs more times than a phone has switched hands, and your bank account is in survival mode. But when the topic of marriage or relationships comes up, your mouth opens wide to spew things like:

“I’m waiting for the right one.”

“I can’t marry a woman that can’t build with me.”

“Women of nowadays are too materialistic.”

Please, build what? IKEA furniture? Because your life is still in parts.

Let’s be clear, no one is saying you must be rich to be married or respected. But what we’re not going to do is pretend like being over 40, broke, and single is some king behavior. It’s not.

You’ve had two whole decades of adulthood. That’s enough time to gather sense, build character, learn a skill, or at least save something. If at 40+, you’ve achieved nothing but vibes and WiFi arguments, maybe it’s time to stop blaming women and face the mirror.

And let’s not forget the entitlement. These same men will insult women who have their lives together, calling them “too independent” or “hard to control.” Truth is, you just can’t handle a woman who doesn’t need you.

Well guess what? She shouldn’t have to build you from scratch. She’s not a bricklayer. She’s not a charity organization. And if you haven’t built anything meaningful for yourself by now, you should be asking for help not a wife.

Being 40+, broke, and single isn’t a red flag, it’s a billboard. And if all you have to offer is age and audacity, please rest. Women have suffered enough.

I am 41 and single, I am in my house come and beat me.

This is talking to both gender

Do not delay getting married because you're broke. Having no money is an outward situation, and for a man with a plan, it's only a temporary one.

Even women know that. The real reason you should postpone getting married is that you don't feel confident.

Stay single until you feel strong enough to take on the challenge of leading a family

Even if you have all the money but you feel unsure, hold back.

Most of the rich men were once broke. They were broke, but they were not weak.

A weak man is the real put-off in the dating market, not a broke man.

Women marry broke men all the time. What they look for is a confident man who has a plan and the drive to carry it through.

A weak man has more excuses than endurance. He lives for comfort instead of calling. He lies instead of leading. He is emotional rather than convictional.

Rather than being a turn-on for women, he's a turn-off.

And what is the female equivalent of a weak man? I'm looking for a more polite word than scatterbrain.

Let's use disorganized. A disorganized woman is a disaster to marry, even if she looks as fine as wine.

A disorganized woman can not be loyal because she doesn't even know what she wants herself.

She uses her words to nag rather than to nudge.

She doesn't feed a man. She feeds on him.

She can't say no to money, and she's always on sale for the highest bidder.

She avoids commitments because she wants to keep her doors open.

She always goes for empathetic men because they care too much to hurt her.

She gets her children with a weak man so that he can do the donkey work of raising the children while she remains hands-off.

A weak man and a disorganized woman can't marry each other because they're parasites looking for fat prey.

A disorganized woman can't value a broke man who has the right masculine energy and the drive to get rich over time. She's too impatient and lazy to build with him. She wants ready products only.

A weak man, on the other hand, can not put up with an awakened or mature woman because she wants accountability, which he avoids like a plague.

He always looks for resourceful but unaware women.

Your solution is to know that this is a dangerous world where if you don't know what you carry, people will use you for what they want.

You will only realize it after creating a child with a disorganized woman or a weak man, thereby getting recruited for emotional warfare that may easily consume all your productive years.

(©️ Benjamin Zulu Global)

Is better I become a broke man with definite plan ahead of me than be a weak man without plan.

Who ever tell you that money is not very important in family or marriage is a big fool.

Money + marriage = Happy home

No Money + marriage= Broken home/unhappy home

Am not talking of rich or wealthy hear but what am saying is " if you have money that is above your wife expenses you are a rich man/guy".

I will marry when I finish sampling pussies

mosdii:
What's your definition of being broke?

How many 40 years Olds that are rich in Nigeria?

You expect 40 years old to be extremely rich in the poverty capital of the world to please a farm tool that is used up.

It's not everyone that will be rich and not everyone that will be poor.

Wealth knows no gender.

Nigerian girls are useless...All of them

This guy again?

I thought you were dead

AngelicDamsel:
A fool at 40 is a fool forever.

At 40, you are past the middle of your life on earth............... Men and women alike

This is not about being rich or married.

If you still believe this, then you are the fool here.

No offence