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Well, everyone has a choice to make..In my opinion, remarrying after shege Banza promax Some people experienced before deciding to quit doesn't make sense..
Better, stay focused career wise and take care of yourself and your kids..
Except the person doesn't know her worth, or isn't morally conscious.. Jumping from pillar to post in the name of trying to look for Mr Right after having kids is a no no no for me!!!..
Shalom.

fmlala:
➜Some single mothers too are something else

And who installed you as monitoring spirit over what single mothers can or cannot do, though? Are single individuals not equally prone to being something else?

atoliman:
Being a single mum is not a death sentence or sentence to remain single for forever. Off course a single mum priority is going to be her children, what do one expect when you are dating one? To cook rice for you and buy you beer while her children are hungry. if you have sex with one, expect billings- It is what comes with the terrority. if you do not want date one, leave them alone. Let them find someone who wants to date them

why should "billing" be the consequence of having sex with single mothers?

are they prostitutes?

if you say billing after sex is what comes with single mothers (in your words "It is what comes with the terrority", how then are you expecting them not to remain single?

Being a single mum doesn't make anyone less loving and caring towards a man... Same way being a virgin doesn't equate to being virtuous.


If you truly connect with a single mum and both of you are deeply committed, you should feel the same way towards her kid or kids.


Funny how some of you bashing single mums have no qualms about a single dad getting into relationships with single ladies without kids.

Double standards.

atoliman:
Being a single mum is not a death sentence or sentence to remain single for forever. Off course a single mum priority is going to be her children, what do one expect when you are dating one? To cook rice for you and buy you beer while her children are hungry. if you have sex with one, expect billings- It is what comes with the terrority. if you do not want date one, leave them alone. Let them find someone who wants to date them

Unfortunately, it is what it is

Same way broke guys are broke shame

Stop being the mouthpiece for single mothers

Another simp write-up. They always learn the hard way.

Of course being a single mother isn't a death sentence, but make them sha avoid me.

Marry a single mother. And be relegated to a single husband in your own home.

dmgr:
➜Of course being a single mother isn't a death sentence, but make them sha avoid me.

It is your responsibility to avoid those who are red flags to you, not the other way around.

Why he should be me to rebuild the Bonds I didn't break?,why me beared the Consequences of covetousness her?,why he should be me to clean another's messes?
I need answers to this question

InDiscov500:
➜Why he should be me to rebuild the Bonds I didn't break?,why me beared the Consequences of covetousness her?,why he should be me to clean another's messes? I need answers to this question

. Did anyone force you into dating a single mother or something? What sort of inane questions are these?🙄🙄🙄

You are responsible for your choice of who you date. If you choose to date a single mother, then it is on you that you made that decision for yourself, not the other way around. So, grow up and start making more mature decisions for your life so you don't have to ask these ridiculous questions of anyone. 🙄🙄🙄

Them sabi Bleep around

TechBaron:
I recently had an episode with one.

Single mum of one. Her marriage lasted less than 6 months and the ex husband blocked her everywhere and has even abandoned their 5 year old kid.

She tried enticing me with gifts and some dramaric nollywood style of love.. But deep inside, I knew there was something wrong with the lady, I sha wanted to see what made baba to run within a span of 6 months, and even abandoned his kid

Everything was going well, till she started showing me her true character.

Omoh. I need not go into details...

See ehn.. Run from anything single mother. Even the one that you made, just run.

I repeat, RUN..

You're getting it wrong. She might be a single mum because she has bad character. But she doesn't have bad character because she's a single mum.

TechBaron:
➜I recently had an episode with one. Single mum of one. Her marriage lasted less than 6 months and the ex husband blocked her everywhere and has even abandoned their 5 year old kid.
➜ She tried enticing me with gifts and some dramaric nollywood style of love.. But deep inside, I knew there was something wrong with the lady, I sha wanted to see what made baba to run within a span of 6 months, and even abandoned his kid. Everything was going well, till she started showing me her true character. Omoh. I need not go into details... See ehn.. Run from anything single mother. Even the one that you made, just run. I repeat, RUN..

Nonsense! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

The person you described is not a single mother but a divorced of which there are so many out there too. Second, if her ex-husband, father of her child, blocked her, what you are insinuating is that she is not getting support from him as far as his own child is concerned, meaning he is some sort of deadbeat dad. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

2. Silly retort! You mean like your other girlfriends, whom you are no longer with, before that point in time, and maybe afterwards? Most of you are too dramatically deluded for your own good. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

lawrenzooo:
➜You're getting it wrong. She might be a single mum because she has bad character. But she doesn't have bad character because she's a single mum.

She is a divorced woman because she was abandoned by her husband during their marriage. He told you the husband ran off, abandoning his child— is the child a bad person too?—, and last I checked, abandonment is considered a criminal offense in Nigeria. 🙄🙄🙄

Angelfrost:
Being a single mum doesn't make anyone less loving and caring towards a man... Same way being a virgin doesn't equate to being virtuous.


If you truly connect with a single mum and both of you are deeply committed, you should feel the same way towards her kid or kids.


Funny how some of you bashing single mums have no qualms about a single dad getting into relationships with single ladies without kids.

Double standards.

Close your eyes, raise your right hand, but it on your head!

Repeat after, Who do me like this🙄🙄
A single mom is like every woman, they can barely love a man when they are single, once they become a mom, the man is just a tool, something that has to provide or it becomes useless.

If you want to test, just tell her you don't have money when she asked, see how fast she moves on.

Goodlady u never born for house?

Angelfrost:
Being a single mum doesn't make anyone less loving and caring towards a man... Same way being a virgin doesn't equate to being virtuous.


If you truly connect with a single mum and both of you are deeply committed, you should feel the same way towards her kid or kids.


Funny how some of you bashing single mums have no qualms about a single dad getting into relationships with single ladies without kids.

Double standards.

Mumu Thinking, who has more to loose in marriage than Men.

See as everybody avoid konokobo junkie

The thing sweet me

tanigororo:
Mumu Thinking, who has more to loose in marriage than Men.

Just give up the misogyny abeg... It's not a good look.

It's well known that single mothers have happier and more lasting marriages than women that got married without having kids out of wedlock.

Dem nor dey write good or bad character for person head.


Sha marry who you like... Those marrying single mothers and enjoying their homes no be mumu.

Ire o!!!

Lolzzzz😂 u guys shouldnt even dream it not to talk of try. Something need to struck your mind, u grow up another person's child and some day u n the child together with mum had serious issues and it happened that it must be the biological that can solve the problem, u think the child will not make up the real father later and dump u? Waste of time, resources and money. Guys don't try it! I repeat don't try it!!

sparko1:
➜Close your eyes, raise your right hand, but it on your head! Repeat after, Who do me like this🙄🙄
A single mom is like every woman, they can barely love a man when they are single, [b]once they become a mom, the man is just a tool, something that has to provide or it becomes useless.[/b]
➜ If you want to test, just tell her you don't have money when she asked, see how fast she moves on.

Wait a second... isn't a woman— every woman— equally just a tool to many of the very same men?

2. Hold up! Let's revisit reality here, shall we?

The traditional marriage system in Nigeria— the societal norm— requires the man in the relationship to be a provider during and throughout the entire duration of the relationship/marriage in return for the woman's submission to him. This system mandates that the man regularly bring to the table his capacity as a provider for him to continue to enjoy submission from the woman in the relationship. By catering to the financial needs of his woman and family, the man is rewarded with his ego's desire — her submission and loyalty. This system of relationship insists that as long as the man is a provider, the man offers his submission. This equally implies that once that man is no longer able to act as a provider, the woman is not obligated to continue offering him her submission.

But here you are insinuating, against the very societal norm, that a woman should continue to submit to the man even when he has lost his ability as the provider for his family? Why? Where does this idea of yours come from? Why is the woman, against the very contract that society holds to at the basic level, to live as a slave to the man in this case? What is your reason for thinking this way?🙄🙄🙄

Kobojunkie:
Wait a second... isn't a woman— every woman— equally just a tool to many of the very same men?

2. Hold up! Let's revisit reality here, shall we?

The traditional marriage system in Nigeria— the societal norm— requires the man in the relationship to be a provider during and throughout the entire duration of the relationship/marriage in return for the woman's submission to him. The man, by catering to the financial needs of his woman and family, is rewarded with his ego's desire — her submission and loyalty. This system of relationship insists that as long as the man is a provider, the man offers his submission. This equally implies that once that man is no longer able to act as a provider, the woman is not obligated to continue offering him her submission.

But here you are insinuating, against the very societal norm, that a woman should continue to submit to the man even when he has lost his ability as the provider for his family? Why? Where does this idea of yours come from? Why is the woman, against the very contract that society holds to at the basic level, to live as a slave to the man in this case? What is your reason for thinking this way?🙄🙄🙄

Leave these poorly raised and unloved sons of the Naija soil...!

Lolzzzz😂 u guys shouldnt even dream it not to talk of try. Something need to struck your mind, u grow up another person's child and some day u n the child together with mum had serious issues and it happened that it must be the biological father that can solve the problem, u think the child will not make up the real father later and dump u? Waste of time, resources and money. Guys don't try it! I repeat don't try it!!

Baronthecelebri:
I hate single mom with passion

same here bro

I think I need to share this story so that we can all learn. I have a female friend, her husband died and she has kids. She told me that her husband was dating different women when he was alive and even got kids outside. So she said she's now alone, taking care of the kids after the death of the husband. Presently she's dating a married man, I asked why she's doing that since she also detest such thing when her husband was alive. She said the man gives her 100k monthly and pays her kids school fees. So she doesn't have to care about any other thing. Now, can you see that women will not want their husbands to cheat but they will cheat with another woman's husband if they have the chance.