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pocohantas:
Let your brother here talk true first. 😂

Is not fair na. I've been looking for crocodile since and you have 57 of them lying idle. There's love in sharing.

CTee1:
Surrogacy no way… it’s against the faith I’m a Christian. 💔 God abeg

It's not. You don't like the idea doesn't make it wrong.

pocohantas:
I am not. You will get 1 crocodile from the 57.
This man here is 37yo. 37 whole years. 3 years away from 40, but somehow all the females are bad and he is angel Gabriel. How is it possible a 37yo decent man with a good circle cannot boast of meeting 1 responsible woman? Then something is wrong with him or his selection process. As for love. An almost 40yrs old man is looking for a small girl to deceive with love.
Men are deluded into thinking older men are so attractive and desired solely for that. Whereas their appeal is financial stability. Bring that your money or move away.

Lol! I knew there was a snitch here.
Either that or she has very strong instincts.

LoL, l agree with you 😜

FalseProphet1:
Is not fair na. I've been looking for crocodile since and you have 57 of them lying idle. There's love in sharing.

What are you still doing here, l thought we have derobed you and banished you to planet Pluto for your 7000 years of fasting and spiritual cleansing

CTee1:
Two good head better pass1…. Lets connect bro

would love to join but not at ur level financially

lusid:
you don meet hookup gal?

those ones worst

Mryacks:
Exactly.... And someone in the comment section up there is advising him that 'no time'. No time for what exactly I don't know...there are people who are already dead at 37 (married & unmarried). Everyone should just follow their path in life and do what legally works for them. Societal pressure go kee some people finish for nothing.

No mind them. The funniest thing is that it's the unhappy ones in marriage always hurrying people with advice up and down about getting married, painting marriage as if it's a big deal and an institution full of bed of roses🤣

Manculated:


This Post too make sense except for the "Get A Girlfriend Pregnant" which i don't support.

Deadbeats parents are one of the biggest problems which affects society.

You don't have to be a deadbeat parent because your gf has a child for you. You take care of your child and have a financial agreement with your gf without the burden of marriage.

Samantha125:
Marriage has always been like that from the beginning... A woman would stay at home while the husband would provide.

You men of nowadays are just weak... If he's no longer able to provide financially and he wants me to go back to whoever has be looking after me before him, I'll gladly pack my bags and go back to my father's house... I can't force a grown man to perform his duties as a husband because real men have savings accounts for rainy days.

Oh nice, i see girls having this mindset as the lazy ones.
What makes a man better at making money than a woman in this generation?

If you have issues with women, then just stay away from them and be single, no one is forcing you to be in a relationship or to get married... Enjoy your money alone as a single man.

optm:
Oh nice, i see girls having this mindset as the lazy ones.
What makes a man better at making money than a woman in this generation?

temi4fash:
Oga McJay,

Where have you being?

Its good to have you back.

Hope you good boss?

I'm doing great brother. Been here. How's everything?

CTee1 do you mind sharing some of your experiences with women you have met, that way some of us here could give better judgment.

CTee1:
Construction company Lagos…
Abeg help me

U don't mind marrying Lagos ladies, or marrying from any tribes? U are from where... Let's start from somewhere

We are in this together bro, am also 37 single and search
i base in Kwara State, single life don tired me, am tired of sleeping and waking up alone
am self employed many times i intentionally close late at work because there is no one i wanna go and meet at home, i swear as i am typing this comment and still at work and am doing nothing, i always close late so that i will just go and sleep since nobody is saying welcome and no welcome daddy, May God help us we wont give up bro

lusid:
instead of telling him to go out and approach girls. Nawa for you

You think is everyone that can approach girls, even if he can, you know the kind of heart breaks the guy don face. Some people can approach girls, but after a lot of heart break and cheating, they don give up on girls.

CTee1:
Two good head better pass1…. Lets connect bro

no problem, what about a mail to continue the convo from there

WarrenP:
How’s the badagry vacation?

You go with groups or what ?

Solo vacation most time , life can't just be about work work work man ...I go on time out trip

When you see people calling you 'egbon', big bro and they are bending down to greet you that means you are off market for street doing.So settle down to fit in the married phase which is next after street.

emmaodet:
Which lane are you actually Gerrard?
You always support women being financially independent and mostly don't need men again nowadays since their is intimacy gadget and they can finance their own lifestyle. You also support not shamming women for sexual liberation because it is their body and they can use it how they feel without men breeding down on them.

I support women in earning their own money, as it brings them respect and dignity. Men, by default, have to earn money whether they like it or not. To be clear, though, I have always espoused sexual liberation, but with caution. The issue of sex to.ys is that as women who can stay off sex for a long time, have their own money, it makes the sexual use of men in their lives to be unimportant, aka useless. So, yes, women earning their own money kinda of makes the usefulness of men in their lives nonexistent. It is why modern-day women have much higher sieving standards for men these days, unlike, say, the 1980s and 1990s.

Then, somehow you are worried the same men shouldn't go the babymama way because kids raised under this condition are mostly social misfit and such men are dead-beat dads.

Yes, because if one is to have properly raised children, the chances are higher in a two-parent household than otherwise. This is a global phenomenon. Fun fact: when I was much younger, I entertained the idea of baby-mama largely because of pop culture (Tuface na eim cause this thing), but after reading numerous scientific studies and articles and comparing the results, I realised that the two-parent household is the best setting to have a family. Even within my immediate family, there is a stark difference between families who have a father figure and those without one.

In my opinion, it is much better to remain child-free or not marry at all than indulge in baby-mama and baby-papa. See the recent news from Port-harcourt where a baby-mama frolicks with seven other men other than her baby-daddy, who has four other baby mamas. Recently, I was reading about crime rates in the Caribbean islands and came to realise that Jamaica has a high crime rate, way higher than other Caribbean nations. The unifying reason amongst the commentators is: fatherless homes. Children, especially males, who grew up without fathers or a father figure. So the effects of baby-daddy go beyond the family and spill into the society. It is the reason I support polygamy, as it provides a father figure for children who otherwise would lack one. Both genders (male and female) are needed to raise children.

Let me tell you a truth - The moment we accept women sexual liberation aka women can be shameless without been judged, the "dead-beat dad" statement too goes out of the window.
There are no more dead beat dads because you can't use a metric for a man while exonerating the woman.
There can't be a jailer, if there are no prisoners.
The same law that apply to a masquerade apply to a person using hijab because they are both covered.
Nature will always find it's balance irrespective of human's sentiment or biasness.
Lastly, no reasonable person invests where their interest is not protected. They did that out of the personal conviction that the women are their properties. It is the same way you will fight to the end the land you buy and someone wants to take it away from you.
But when you have properties that can be taken away from you easily without you saying love-vendor, that property becomes a risky investment to do.
If investing my sweat on a lady/relationship, sometimes send her to school, put her on monthly payment, take her abroad etc and she can just wake up to say she is not doing again or give me a bastard or just cheating on me without any repercussion, rather am been laughed at to move on, then it is only natural that survival instinct will kick-off relationship-wise. It will never be about what the kids will turn out to be or whatnot, my survival, sweat, investment is on the line and nothing else people say or gaslighting or emotional blackmailing will do.

You made strong points here. I think the solution would be to dial down on the sexual liberty for women and promote sexual chastity so that men are made to realise its importance. A situation where men can get the milk for free without owning the cow or tending to the ranch means cows wouldn't be well taken care of or regarded in the grand scheme of things, because hey, the milk is free. The court systems towards men, too, have to be reworked to make things much fairer. The problem, however, is that women have "tasted freedom", which would be hard to collect. The birth control and education are the greatest weapons they have. It gives them so much power. Na why birth rates dey fall everywhere aside Africa. I have thought about a severe and widespread economic depression (men by nature can withstand such conditions), but those weapons will always make women resist a return to the '50s.

The men of olden days were not just responsible (this is debated anyway), ready to die for their women and fight for the village to protect their women and kids.

The bold reminds me of a reddit thread (r/Singapore) where the young males stated that they won't fight for their women should Singapore face a war, after all, women are equal to men. They argue that since women say they are equal to men in job requirements, housing, education et al., then they (women) should be equal in going to war.

P.S. Singaporean males have to participate in a compulsory military exercise for two years, while the females don't have to. So, each man has offered two years to the country, yet the birth rate in Singapore is below 1 TFR. So, what are women offering the country despite all the education, freedom, safety, money and economic opportunities men offered them?

Every day I think through these topics, I realise why God and his prophets in the Bible did what they did.

Double0h7:
Let's hear your criteria for a good wife:
Age bracket
Physical attributes
Religious beliefs
Educational level
Employment status

Don't lie to yourself and say you're not picky. Pick these 5 none negotiables and we'll see if it's attainable.

25yrs downwards
Tall and fair
Christianity
Graduate or non graduate
Employed or ready to hustle

I am on the same situation now. I come be introvert join. I don't even know were to go look for wife sef

Gerrard59:
The bold reminds me of a reddit thread (r/Singapore) where the young males stated that they won't fight for their women should Singapore face a war, after all, women are equal to men. They argue that since women say they are equal to men in job requirements, housing, education et al., then they (women) should be equal in going to war.

P.S. Singaporean males have to participate in a compulsory military exercise for two years, while the females don't have to. So, each man has offered two years to the country, yet the birth rate in Singapore is below 1 TFR. So, what are women offering the country despite all the education, freedom, safety, money and economic opportunities men offered them?

This is quite an interesting perspective from Singapore men and I hope that they will successfully advocate for their women to fight for the country as well.

Do you think that is why Israel population growth is different from that of Singapore and other developed countries- women being as involved in fighting for the country, as the men?

Every day I think through these topics, I realise why God and his prophets in the Bible did what they did.

Can you please explain further on this.

Munzy14:
Oga life balance, na the person no stand well

Lolz

Rexnegro:
Solo vacation most time , life can't just be about work work work man ...I go on time out trip

I’m just wondering if there are nice places or resorts to visit there cos I really need a good rest for myself.

Bukola94:
U don't mind marrying Lagos ladies, or marrying from any tribes? U are from where... Let's start from somewhere

yoruba

shegzydave:
We are in this together bro, am also 37 single and search
i base in Kwara State, single life don tired me, am tired of sleeping and waking up alone
am self employed many times i intentionally close late at work because there is no one i wanna go and meet at home, i swear as i am typing this comment and still at work and am doing nothing, i always close late so that i will just go and sleep since nobody is saying welcome and no welcome daddy, May God help us we wont give up bro

You are better off than going home to trouble and a liability. I will give everything I have to be in your shoes.

pansophist:
Men have always being the architect of rot or nobility in women.

People complain about girls being on Only Fans, but it is men that invented it.

What about cornographic sites, it is men that create and control every chain of such industry.

Pimping nko? or those that patronizes such services, it is men.

Hotels, clubs, bars etc facilitating the negotiation, pickup and drop off for hookup sexpats are controlled and owned by men.

The one that are impregnating unsuspecting girls, catching them when they are very young, naive and broke, it is men.

We complain about single moms, but lots of men have different kids with different women, while being married to none.

Women are like sponges, they will soak up the nonsense or goodness the men of every given society have created.

In good societies, the men led well, and the women turned out to be good.

So the lack of virtuous women in Nigeria is a result of rotten men.

This is why it is necessary for young women not to resist or rebel against male leadership (especially from their dad), because he knows men, and he is only protecting you from the degradation outside decorated under beautiful package.

If God doesn't give you female child in this generation, you don't know what God has done for you

So unfortunate that it has gotten to the point where naija men have to embark on a trip to other countries to look for wife, what happened to our culture? why are our girls so uncultured and mannerless? I'm so worried for the future, we are fast losing all we've got on the altar of modernism.

Rexnegro:
Are you in Lagos ? Should we plan to try other African countries in search of wifey ? Honestly I'm older than you single and tired ... My prob is I don't go to church anymore maybe just maybe I would have met one to settle down with. Bro to see a core decent girl now ehn hmmm 🤔. Simply put I don tire and no want give birth out of wedlock. Not my wish.

lusid:
I'm thinking of toasting a POS gal I saw by the roadside. Should I go ahead

If she has decent qualities shoot!

Nnamdipapa:
Get a girlfriend pregnant and move on, settling down is a scam and most married men with kids are never really settled. You are lucky to be single and have no k8d at 3 and you dont know what you have until you lise it. Most married people in Nigeria are suffering and smiling and, will always lie about their experiences. Do not fall for it.

No be lie bro na why most of them dey bald quick and greyy so fast!

As a single man you have so much time to plan your life save money like a ba$tard and take dangerous business risk that if it pays off, you are set.

As a man you can't afford to take some kind risk cos the bills keep pilling every now and then.

zanshi:
No be lie bro na why most of them dey bald quick and greyy so fast!

As a single man you have so much time to plan your life save money like a ba$tard and take dangerous business risk that if it pays off, you are set.

As a man you can't afford to take some kind risk cos the bills keep pilling every now and then.

I will give the whole world to be single again. People don't know how good they have it and we have been programmed by society to believe we have to marry or bring other people into our lives. If I do it again, I will have a baby mama of one child and live alone.