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I have this female colleague of mine..I love her so much...So when I asked her out...she agreed...Though due to the fact that am a jovial and likeable person at work...Most of my female colleagues come around me...Though I assured her that their was nothing between me and the other females...

Yesterday....at work..she said she wanted to see me...and that it was urgent....the next is she said was "I shouldnt be angry o...that she wants us to end the relationship".I asked her to give me a reason for ending the relationship..She didnt give me any reason...so i left...and told her i respect her decision.

2 hours later.....she came and said she wanted to see me...She then said was she told me earlier about breaking up...."was a joke"....

Wow...what an expensive....I had to deeply think about it...well....i just concluded that its better i call the relationship off...and move on.
I told her my mind wasnt in the relationship again.


Hope i did the right thing.....advices and comments needed.

Stop loving and enjoy the body. You understand? If you like dey there dey mumu.

She want make you beg her, na why.

As you accept the breakup, she rethink am, come see say na she actually need you pass. No manipulation fit come from the threat of breakup again.

Thats why she is back.

She did the right thing by calling it off.
She just doesn't know it yet.

Who wants someone who's open to everyone?
If you want exclusive, be exclusive.
Mr most of my female colleagues come around me.
EwooO! Na you jovial pass!🙄

How do you guys date your colleagues? Ehn

Rilwayne001:
How do you guys date your colleagues? Ehn

People wey dey date their colleague na dem dey always start affair with neighbor , wife sister, house maid, landlord daughter....

#Close proximity daters

She is looking for power in the relationship. She wanted you to beg her. Like Samson of old, she'd "pluck out your two eyes" if you hand her the keys, and still leave you. Give her three weeks...and play the same trick on her.

Mariangeles:
She did the right thing by calling it off.
She just doesn't know it yet.

Who wants someone who's open to everyone?
If you want exclusive, be exclusive.
Mr most of my female colleagues come around me.
EwooO! Na you jovial pass!🙄

Who told u i want exclusive..so because am dating a female colleague i cant date other female colleague....

Na wa o.........

EmperorIsaac:
She is looking for power in the relationship. She wanted you to beg her. Like Samson of old, she'd "pluck out your two eyes" if you hand her the.keys, and still leave you. Give her three weeks...and play the same trick on her.

Well..I did the reversal immediately....

SocialJustice:
Stop loving and enjoy the body. You understand? If you like dey there dey mumu.

Bros....na to turn to fucknicant like dis...any office babe..na to knack am....


No cap

No love lost.

No love found

Kingogbotor:
Who told u i want exclusive..so because am dating a female colleague i cant date other female colleague....

Na wa o.........

Kingogbotor:
Bros....na to turn to fucknicant like dis...any office babe..na to knack am....


No cap

No love lost.

No love found

You see?

You and I will both agree that she dodged a bullet.


May God keep saving His precious daughters from what they cannot save themselves from.

Kingogbotor:
I have this female colleague of mine..I love her so much... So when I asked her out...she agreed...Though due to the fact that am a jovial and likeable person at work...Most of my female colleagues come around me...Though I assured her that their was nothing between me and the other females...

Yesterday....at work..she said she wanted to see me...and that it was urgent....the next is she said was "I shouldnt be angry o...that she wants us to end the relationship".I asked her to give me a reason for ending the relationship..She didnt give me any reason...so i left...and told her i respect her decision.
2 hours later.....she came and said she wanted to see me...She then said was she told me earlier about breaking up...."was a joke"....
Wow...what an expensive....I had to deeply think about it...well....i just concluded that its better i call the relationship off...and move on.
I told her my mind wasnt in the relationship again.
Hope i did the right thing.....advices and comments needed.

Please if she has something to offer, most especially something magical that can catapult you, please put up with her. If she is very productive, the don't leave her.
However, if she has nothing to offer besides the shakiness of bumbum we see on TIKTOK everyday, aggressively chase her out of your house.
As a "high value" asset (that's if you are), you shouldn't be seen with inconsequential people except you entertain retrogression & recycling of poverty.

Fo her character, it's absolutely normal with women...roughly 99%.
Significantly high among them. If you ask a woman to choose bewteen Oxygen and Attention, she would choose "Attention ".

Finally, saying you "Love" a woman so much is sickening.
That's the reason she's pulling your legs by threatening you with exit"
I don't mean you should hate them. MEN don't profess love that way. Don't be stupid.
For your safety, your woman must love you more than you love her.
Men know how to demonstrate their love and not door openings and kneeling around.
Please don't be that kind of man. Wake up, you're the Prize!

Kingogbotor:
I have this female colleague of mine..I love her so much...So when I asked her out...she agreed...Though due to the fact that am a jovial and likeable person at work...Most of my female colleagues come around me...Though I assured her that their was nothing between me and the other females...

Yesterday....at work..she said she wanted to see me...and that it was urgent....the next is she said was "I shouldnt be angry o...that she wants us to end the relationship".I asked her to give me a reason for ending the relationship..She didnt give me any reason...so i left...and told her i respect her decision.

2 hours later.....she came and said she wanted to see me...She then said was she told me earlier about breaking up...."was a joke"....

Wow...what an expensive....I had to deeply think about it...well....i just concluded that its better i call the relationship off...and move on.
I told her my mind wasnt in the relationship again.


Hope i did the right thing.....advices and comments needed.

Your value in her eyes is based on your ability to walk away.

WOMEN WILL ALWAYS SEEK WHAT THEY CURRENTLY LACK (OR DESIRE TO HAVE) IN THEIR LIVES IN OTHER MEN. THEY WILL MOST LIKELY LOOK TO OTHER MEN. They aren’t loyal even when they claim to be “in love”- or Whatever other words of deceit we use to describe biologically motivated sexual attraction.

Now when you walk away, live your life. Don’t brood. Don’t be sad. Hit the gym or whatever you used to do to have fun. Keep being likable in your office.

Chase dreams and goals and achieve them. Don’t worry she is noticing and she would act like she isn’t , but she is. Even if she doesn’t notice , isn’t it for your own good to be focused on things in your life that are assets and fun and wholesome and good for your emotional and mental well being?

When they see a man that they think is a simp they start testing him and acting foolishly. Trying to see his resolve. Trying to see if he will break. Hoping he would SO THAT THEY CAN TAKE CHARGE AND CONTROL THE POWER DYNAMIC IN THE RELATIONSHIP!

The funny thing is if you had begged her and cried and sobbed and wailed, the power dynamics would have shifted.
Now the power would be with her and she can reject your pleas and tears and go home laughing about how you begged. She inflates her ego and self worth and looks for the next man to toy with. Or she takes you back on her own terms, whims and caprices.


Men. Real Men. True Men. Proper Men. Men with a brain in their heads don’t take to such expensive jokes which is a form of threat. Men don’t take to threats easily. Not to talk of coming from someone that should we want to (and if there were no laws and moral codes and intelligence) , we could just hold on and press into their necks and choke them to death at will. People that most men can literally kill with our bare hands. I am not supporting violence. I am just saying, the nerve they have shows how they don’t think things through when they act the way they do.

- When You ask to date her which means you are chasing- she has the power

-When you are someone she wants to date which means she is chasing- You have the power.

- The moment you sleep with her -You have the power.

-When she manipulates you with sex and her presence and perceive value in her beauty- She has the power.

-When she tries to break up and you beg and cry - She has the power.

- When she asks to break up for no good reason or she just ups and leaves, and you man up and say ok it is fine - you have the power.

You did what a proper man would do. Focus on YOUR PERSONAL PLAN OF BETTERING YOUR

- HEALTH/FITNESS
- WISDOM, KNOWLEDGE AND SKILLS
- WEALTH
- SOCIAL STANDING (POWER/INFLUENCE)

Men are leaders, protectors, providers, creators and builders. But should we choose to take a woman seriously it should be only with a woman deserving of our precious time and attention.

10thTenthMan:
You value in her eyes is based on your ability to walk away.

Now when you walk away, live your life. Don’t brood. Don’t be sad. Hit the gym or whatever you used to do to have fun. Keep being likable in your office.

Chase dreams and goals and achieve them. Don’t worry she is noticing and she would act like she isn’t , but she is. Even if she doesn’t notice , isn’t it for your own good to be focused on things in your life that are assets and fun and wholesome and good for your emotional and mental well being?

When they see a man that they think is a simp they start testing him and acting foolishly. Trying to see his resolve. Trying to see if he will break. Hoping he would SO THAT THEY CAN TAKE CHARGE AND CONTROL THE POWER DYNAMIC IN THE RELATIONSHIP!

The funny thing is if you had begged her and cried and sobbed and wailed, the power dynamics would have shifted.
Now the power would be with her and she can reject your pleas and tears and go home laughing about how you begged. She inflates her ego and self worth and looks for the next man to toy with. Or she takes you back on her own terms, whims and caprices.


Men. Real Men. True Men. Proper Men. Men with a brain in their heads don’t take to such expensive jokes which is a form of threat. Men don’t take to threats easily. Not to talk of coming from someone that should we want to (and if there were no laws and moral codes and intelligence) , we could just hold on and press into their necks and choke them to death at will. People that most men can literally kill with our bare hands. I am not supporting violence. I am just saying, the nerve they have shows how they don’t think things through when they act the way they do.

- When You ask to date her- she has the power
When you are someone she wants to date- You have the power.

- The moment you sleep with her -You have the power.

-When she tries to break up and you beg and cry - she has the power.

- When she asks to break up for no good reason and you man up and say ok it is fine - you have the power.

You did what a proper man would do. Focus on YOUR PERSONAL PLAN OF BETTERING YOUR

- HEALTH/FITNESS
- WISDOM, KNOWLEDGE AND SKILLS
- WEALTH
- SOCIAL STANDING (POWER/INFLUENCE)

Men are leaders, protectors, providers, creators and builders. But should we choose to take a woman seriously it should be only with a woman deserving of our precious time and attention.

You are right on point.....I wonder what would have happened if i pleaded with her....

Kingogbotor:
I have this female colleague of mine..I love her so much...So when I asked her out...she agreed...Though due to the fact that am a jovial and likeable person at work...Most of my female colleagues come around me...Though I assured her that their was nothing between me and the other females...

Yesterday....at work..she said she wanted to see me...and that it was urgent....the next is she said was "I shouldnt be angry o...that she wants us to end the relationship".I asked her to give me a reason for ending the relationship..She didnt give me any reason...so i left...and told her i respect her decision.

2 hours later.....she came and said she wanted to see me...She then said was she told me earlier about breaking up...."was a joke"....

Wow...what an expensive....I had to deeply think about it...well....i just concluded that its better i call the relationship off...and move on.
I told her my mind wasnt in the relationship again.


Hope i did the right thing.....advices and comments needed.

Somebody actually interviewed you and gave you a job with this outrageous writing ?
Seriously?