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It is wrong to shame ladies in general for being single at 30yrs and plus because there are some other reasons that could make them single. And to talk of guys that may be shaming, most of them may have their own bad sides.

While it is clear that several ladies contributed to their being single at 30yrs and plus, I can tell you that many did not contribute to that.

Reasons why ladies are still single even at 30yrs and plus.

(1) Diabolic Limitations: Some good ladies marriage are tied down by diabolic powers. These includes witchracft, juju e.t.c. With this, no matter how they try, improve their character, do good e.t.c, they may find it difficult to marry until the diabolic powers are probably destroyed.

(2) Loss of Marital "glory or grace" through sex: Some ladies may have lost their marital grace by sleeping with yahoo boys, diabolic men e.t.c. These people may have exchanged their marital destiny to make money, and if so, might make the ladies not to get a life partner.

(3) Bad Character: Some ladies are single because of their character. They may be toxic, proud, promiscous, stubborn e.t.c. These may be a hindrance to them getting someone who wants to marry them.

(4) Personal Ideology or Plan: A lady may decide not to marry for a period of time, maybe because of career goal, academic pursuit e.t.c. No one should shame such lady because she has the right to make her choice.

(5) Waste of Opportunities and Time With bad boys: If God sends a husband to a lady, He won't wait for her to be done with the bad guys. She has to "brutally" make a decision outside her emotions of what is right and not right. If she wants to rock with bad guys before she settles with a good husband, when she is done with the bad guys, there may be no available good husband for her.

If several 30yrs and plus ladies go back to memory lane, they may notice that a responsible and serious guy came for love and marriage, when they were busy with the bad guys.

(6) Curses From Past Evil Acts: Things like abortion of children with great destiny and other abortions may bring a curse of marital delays. Also, past wicked acts and connivance with bad guys, evil men e.t.c, against innocent people or other people may bring a curse of marital delay. Anti-marriage curses from people because of a bad act may cause marital delay.

(7) Generational Problems: Some ladies have anti-marital issues from their lineage. It may be an ancestral agreement by their forefathers with a deity for the future generation not to get married on time. it may be a generational curse. e.t.c.

( Late Prayers For Marital Spouse: If ladies begin to pray seriously to God for husbands starting from the age of 15, many may be fully settled in marriage before or at 25. But if several ladies use their young age for clubbing, having sex around, smoking, doing hookup e.t.c, and then begin to pray for good husband at 26, they may still be single at 33.

(9) Sexual Covenants With Past Partners: Things like blood covenant with former lover e.t.c, marriage covenant during pre-marital sex may hinder marriage.
If a guy is having pre-marital sex with a lady and says "I will marry you" during sex. Such statement may prevent marriage with another person.

Other anti-marriage bondage may come through pre-marital sex.

(10) Spirit Spouses: This may sound like a myth to some, but it exists.
If a lady sees her self sometimes or frequently sleeping with someone in the dream or spiritually, she may have a spirit spouse/husband, and it may prevent suitors.

Bad character is the number one reason.

The others are just minor additions.

The most agreeable reason why a lady in her 30s is unmarried is because of unrealistic standards, there is always a guy in your circle that you can manage, but he may not be the dream guy you see in Korean movies.

I see my girls competing for a minority of men while their friend zone is filled with potentials whom they disqualified.


My ladies, check your friend zone, your potential husband is there.

cutecommend:
It is wrong to shame ladies in general for being single at 30yrs and plus because there are some other reasons that could make them single. And to talk of guys that may be shaming, most of them may have their own bad sides.

While it is clear that several ladies contributed to their being single at 30yrs and plus, I can tell you that many did not contribute to that.

Reasons why ladies are still single even at 30yrs and plus.

(1) Diabolic Limitations:

(2) Loss of Marital "glory or grace" through sex:

(3) Bad Character:

(4) Personal Ideology or Plan:
(5) Waste of Opportunities and Time With bad boys:


(6) Curses From Past Evil Acts:

(7) Generational Problems:

( Late Prayers For Marital Spouse:

(9) Sexual Covenants With Past Partners:
Other anti-marriage bondage may come through pre-marital sex.

(10) Spirit Spouses:

You tried, but Jonathan and APC is the bottom line here. If they didn't sell this country to satan, at least majority of the single ladies would have tasted marriage. They might get divorced due to character flaws, but at least they will taste the experience.

Millions of young men are finding it hard to even feed since buhari, let alone marry someone who will definitely expect financial responsibilities from him.

We're still single because we enjoy it... Leave us abeg, we shall marry at 50...💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿

Most of them don't want to humble themselves. Some of them have very dirty character

Oh no, not again , Muchecheche hahaha , una no dey Taya for this Same recycled stories , Wetin 30 years old women do Una

Marriage is not an achievement, they are many important things a woman can Strive for and marriage is not one of them

Getting married is a choice just like making a choice of whether to buy a car or not and what brand.
Its your choice you can choose to not buy the car and still have a great life.

My advice to women: DO NOT forsake your dreams and ambitions for the sake of anybody any dude any man. The world needs you to be great too and contribute your share. That dream you use to have as a child do not let go, chase it.

The most important reason why many ladies are single is that boys are broke. These days, guys cannot even feed let alone considering marriage

Their wahala too much,
All women na ogbanje,
Just pick the one u love,
Put oil for her head,
Then manage ur ogbanje

Very good for them, their shakara too much.

Mumu gender

Not all females are after marriage even we the males too

The way we Africans think ehh

Religion and marriage is what is killing people

delugadou:
You tried, but Jonathan and APC is the bottom line here. If they didn't sell this country to satan, at least majority of the single ladies would have tasted marriage. They might get divorced due to character flaws, but at least they will taste the experience.

Millions of young men are finding it hard to even feed since buhari, let alone marry someone who will definitely expect financial responsibilities from him.

Your post is not correct until you remove Jonathan from there.

11. I m waiting for the right man as if she's right herself

Okay. They're looking for Mr right..............

And some that will help them out of poverty

In addition, sexual covenant with bad boys and bad character have kept many unmarried. But looking for Mr right and someone to lift them out of poverty is the major reason. Then full here nah 😏😏😏😏😏

cutecommend:
It is wrong to shame ladies in general for being single at 30yrs and plus because there are some other reasons that could make them single. And to talk of guys that may be shaming, most of them may have their own bad sides.

While it is clear that several ladies contributed to their being single at 30yrs and plus, I can tell you that many did not contribute to that.

you are much on point here. GenZ ladies with much taste should take note

Please spell words correctly when you post, and try to use perfect grammar and punctuation.

Are you guys not tired of this discussion? It is getting boring

Married men dey shame single men in some situations, also.

When your married friend tells you that " you won't understand, you're still single, wait till you get married." Just know that subtle insults are coming.

I agree with all your points...but to me marriage is not the ultimate ooo...let them build themselves and clothe themselves with good character

Pride

Husbands are scarce these days

Some have wasted their prime

They were told that they have equal rights as men

Goldeno:
Marriage is not an achievement, they are many important things a woman can Stive for and marriage is not one of them

Can you please name those "many important things a woman can strive for" that far outweigh marriage?

There are men in their 40s and 30s single. When will we face them

Wizywiz:
I agree with all your points...but to me marriage is not the ultimate ooo...let them build themselves and clothe themselves with good character

Na body building dem de build ani na which building be that?

AngelicDamsel:
The most agreeable reason why a lady in her 30s is unmarried is because of unrealistic standards, there is always a guy in your circle that you can manage, but he may not be the dream guy you see in Korean movies.

I see my girls competing for a minority of men while their friend zone is filled with potentials whom they disqualified.


My ladies, check your friend zone, your potential husband is there.

Apart from bad character, this is another major reason. Ladies live in dreams and fantasies

You forgot one very troublesome reason.

OBESITY
After years of unrepentant GLUTTONY and abject disdain for any form of exercise, you see them looking for a man that will take them as they are.

Another reason is the KOREAN MOVIE SYNDROME

they are looking for guys that look and behave like their KOREAN MOVIE actors. This is a new trend.

It is not the wish of ladies to get married before 30 but most of the men attracted to don't even want them.
At youthful age, they set unrealistic target for themselves, they make yanga to their toasters

lexy2014:
Can you please name those "many important things a woman can strive for" that far outweigh marriage?

The same things the man strives for.
When we were kids we all had dreams girl or boy, dreams of how we can make a difference in the world.
Why should the man be able to chase his dream and the woman abandoned hers in servitude to some dude called husband(who gets to chase his own dreams)

If you are married, let me ask you: have you ever ask your wife what her dreams where growing up?
You think her dream would have been to not have a dream and become a glorified slave and a birth machine to some dude?

AngelicBeing:
Oh no, not again , Muchecheche hahaha , una no dey Taya for this Same recycled stories , Wetin 30 years old women do Una

Abeg help me ask ooo. Na their marriage? No b every lady go marry b4 clocking 30. Life is like a race, everybody they him track abeg.

Evening boss