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Is it advisable to marry a struggling 38 year old woman? Yes she's employed but financially not stable. ?? Any pros and cons?

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How old is the suitor?

The answer to the above question will determine my opinion.

Why do you need online validation or invalidating to make to make your decision?

I thought love conquers all.

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Run for your life.

The purpose of marriage is for the two to combine assets and benefit from the effect synergy. Not for two liabilities to combine or an asset with a liability.

You will regret bitterly ten years down the lane. Keep her as a fwb or gf while you build yourself and evaluate other options.

bazoodo:
Hi everyone

Is it advisable to marry a struggling 38 year old woman? Yes she's employed but financially not stable. ?? Any pros and cons?

Thank you

If she's employable, employed like you postulated and industrious, then very well. That's a great step.

Financial stability is something that can be hard to hack especially in this part of the divide where one has to work thrice as hard as anything to break even. On the other hand, a lot of people are just late bloomers, had less access to information that could have helped them earn money or skills to pave way to their financial freedom, or were just plain unambitious or laid-back. And you know that thing they say about time? A lot of people do not utilise it well; they stay hoping that things will just metamorphose or would glide from one enjoyment to the other. Well, reality bites hard in the end.

Is the suitor financially stable to carry the burden pending when she breaks even? Does she have skills that can be invested in should the need arise?

Be very practical with your eventual decisions.

Nnamdipapa:
Run for your life.

The purpose of marriage is for the two to combine assets and benefit from the effect synergy. Not for two liabilities to combine or an asset with a liability.

You will regret bitterly ten years down the lane. Keep her as a fwb or gf while you build yourself and evaluate other options.

It is wrong to string people along knowing that you won't eventually settle with them. That's plain wickedness. It is better to set them free so that someone else can have them since you don't deem them fit for marriage.

don.'t unless You're certain God is leading you, or you don't want kids.

95% of a woman's eggs are gone by 37. So, if you're wanting children, she might not be able to give you at that age. just keep that in mind.

UyaiIncomparabl:
It is wrong to string people along knowing that you won't eventually settle with them. That's plain wickedness. It is better to set them free so that someone else can have them since you don't deem them fit for marriage.

Honestly, the other part would have to read between the line and make the decision as to when to leave. No one needs ro be set free in 2025 and my advice also goes for the lady who is dating a guy not up to her standards.

That someone is not good enough for marriage dies not mean she is not useful for other purposes. Also, I am increasingly not seeing the purpose of a marriage to a successful young man after being married a long time myself.
If I have a redo, I will go with a baby mama of one child and take care of the woman znd child while never getting married.

A struggling person at 38 is a big liability, except they are family members, I wouldn’t keep them as friends talk less of dating or even considering a marriage.

UyaiIncomparabl:
If she's employable, employed like you postulated and industrious, then very well. That's a great step.

Financial stability is something that can be hard to hack especially in this part of the divide where one has to work thrice as hard as anything to break even. On the other hand, a lot of people are just late bloomers, had less access to information that could have helped them earn money or skills to pave way to their financial freedom, or were just plain unambitious or laid-back. And you know that thing they say about time? A lot of people do not utilise it well; they stay hoping that things will just metamorphose or would glide from one enjoyment to the other. Well, reality bites hard in the end.

Is the suitor financially stable to carry the burden pending when she breaks even? Does she have skills that can be invested in should the need arise?

Be very practical with your eventual decisions.

love the way you write. Please how do you mean by postulated? I checked didn't really give me what I wanted. Thanks

Nnamdipapa:
Honestly, the other part would have to read between the line and make the decision as to when to leave. No one needs ro be set free in 2025 and my advice also goes for the lady who is dating a guy not up to her standards.

That someone is not good enough for marriage dies not mean she is not useful for other purposes. Also, I am increasingly not seeing the purpose of a marriage to a successful young man after being married a long time myself.
If I have a redo, I will go with a baby mama of one child and take care of the woman znd child while never getting married.

Huh...you say wetin? There's no way you won't get attached. She'll never be completely yours na

Tenrack:
Huh...you say wetin? There's no way you won't get attached. She'll never be completely yours na

I mean I will have her give me one child and be my baby mama instead of a wife. I will also compensate her heavily and take care of my child. I will make her my baby mama.

Nnamdipapa:
I mean I will have her give me one child and be my baby mama instead of a wife. I will also compensate her heavily and take care of my child. I will make her my baby mama.

Man, that's weird. Wouldn't it be better if you made her baby mama from the go. Well, I donno sha. Everything just tire me these days everything is a gamble.

bazoodo:
Hi everyone

Is it advisable to marry a struggling 38 year old woman? Yes she's employed but financially not stable. ?? Any pros and cons?

Thank you

When did a woman's financial capability became a criteria for marrying her? Hmmmm, this is a sign of worsening national economic situation, sighs.

No, run for your life.
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Pray to God for direction and Marry who you want to marry. At that age she's wise and will value you more than Gold.... Concerning giving birth, have you not seen women in their 40's give birth and also seen women in their 20's barren?

How old are you?
Do you want to still have kids?
Ask yourself these questions first.


No 38yr old woman should be financially unstable by the standards they give to us.

Excess baggage, run for your life. She can't settle for a man her age during her prime. Most of single around her age come with bad character 👌📌💯

If the case is reversed, will she marry you (a 38 years old employed but financially unstable man)?

Like negroid001 said, no 38yrs old woman should be financially unstable at the standards they give us (men)

Lack of critical thinking is black man's best friend.

marlow1962:
If the case is reversed, will she marry you (a 38 years old employed but financially unstable man)?

Like negroid001 said, no 38yrs old woman should be financially unstable at the standards they give us (men)

Lack of critical thinking is black man's best friend.

Gbam!

Except she's stinkingly rich, there's nothing to consider actually.

A lot would depend on your own age and your financial capabilities.

If you are very stable financially and can bear additional cost of maintaining at least two people then you may proceed if you're sure she checks all your boxes

Nnamdipapa:
Honestly, the other part would have to read between the line and make the decision as to when to leave. No one needs ro be set free in 2025 and my advice also goes for the lady who is dating a guy not up to her standards.

That someone is not good enough for marriage dies not mean she is not useful for other purposes. Also, I am increasingly not seeing the purpose of a marriage to a successful young man after being married a long time myself.
If I have a redo, I will go with a baby mama of one child and take care of the woman znd child while never getting married.

I still think you're wrong and it is fine if you object. You do not use people without their permission, else that's just plain manipulation. If they aren't what you want, you must set them free.

And this is largely your opinion and not a generic one. We have to be careful sometimes not to project what we perceive as truths and opinions onto other people to accept.

Esthered:
Why do you need online validation or invalidating to make to make your decision?

I thought love conquers all.

Lool some of you ehn. You are bad advisers.

Love conquers all kwa.

Esther can you marry a 56 years old man that is financially unstable, please tell us

The level of double standard that is inbuilt some people ehn.

UyaiIncomparabl:
It is wrong to string people along knowing that you won't eventually settle with them. That's plain wickedness. It is better to set them free so that someone else can have them since you don't deem them fit for marriage.

We are not naive here. Let’s stop using emotional manipulation, trying to play the ostrich.

A woman that has decided to be with a man, it is of her own decision. She is not under lock and key.

She would leave in a heartbeat if she finds “someone better” and feels the current relationship is not going anywhere. She is there cause she hasn’t found. Women are far more pragmatic than man.

She is not a victim here. Why didn’t Christian Ronald’s girlfriend leave, for years the whole world (including her), have known he has made a decision not to get married to her.

franchasng:
When did a woman's financial capability became a criteria for marrying her? Hmmmm, this is a sign of worsening national economic situation, sighs.

If we must be practical and realistic, for a woman her age, it is a large criterion especially if she's not yet well grounded. You cannot compare the privileges of a 25-year-old woman to that of a 38-year-old woman.

The former has time and can be worked on, while the latter especially if she doesn't have a well-defined career path or substance can be hard to work on. Someone her age would primarily be thinking about marriage, then childbearing would be next. Someone that age would also likely be set in her ways. Except for lucky scenarios which are very unlikely, one just have to be practical.

I can not view a 30-year-old man the same way I will view a 40-year-old man who would be interested in me for marriage. I am likely to give grace and time to the 30-year-old than the 40-year-old, because all of what would be going through my mind is, what exactly did the older one use his youth for? I mean, I will expect a 40 year old man to be well grounded and have something substantial to offer, if otherwise, it is really tricky.

It is just how the world works, really.

UyaiIncomparabl:
I still think you're wrong and it is fine if you object. You do not use people without their permission, else that's just plain manipulation. If they aren't what you want, you must set them free.

And this is largely your opinion and not a generic one. We have to be careful sometimes not to project what we perceive as truths and opinions onto other people to accept.

I am trying to let you know what obtains in real life to be honest. I have seen tons of real-life situations where ladies manipulate the guys and vice versa in a relationship and, my opinions are largely influenced by the day-to-day occurrences in the modern dating world out there.

I am honestly not trying to convince you to change your views, but it is important for everyone to evaluate their partners and the relationships to determine if to continue or to quit. I will only protect my own interests in any kind of relationship, and I would expect my partner who is an adult to stay of their own freewill. It is not my duty to set anyone free as I will never promise marriage. They are free to stay or go.

UyaiIncomparabl:
If we must be practical and realistic, for a woman her age, it is a large criterion especially if she's not yet well grounded. You cannot compare the privileges of a 25-year-old woman to that of a 38-year-old woman.

The former has time and can be worked on, while the latter especially if she doesn't have a well-defined career path or substance can be hard to work on. Someone her age would primarily be thinking about marriage, then childbearing would be next. Someone that age would also likely be set in her ways. Except for lucky scenarios which are very unlikely, one just have to be practical.

I can not view a 30-year-old man the same way I will view a 40-year-old man who would be interested in me for marriage. I am likely to give grace and time to the 30-year-old than the 40-year-old, because all of what would be going through my mind is, what exactly did the older one use his youth for? I mean, I will expect a 40 year old man to be well grounded and have something substantial to offer, if otherwise, it is really tricky.

It is just how the world works, really.

Oh wow, now I understand very well. Well explained with relatable real life scenarios, thanks Uyali, it's been decades, hope you are good?

Tenrack:
love the way you write. Please how do you mean by postulated? I checked didn't really give me what I wanted. Thanks

Thanks.

Synonyms: Said, claimed, asserted. etc.

Do you get it?

franchasng:
Oh wow, now I understand very well. Well explained with relatable real life scenarios, thanks Uyali, it's been decades, hope you are good?

Right.

Yes, I am doing very well, thank you.

Hope you're well too.