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Man that will marry you will, whether you do pre-marital sex or not and man that is not ready to marry won't, no matter what you do for him.
No lady should place all her life on any man, he is just a man and can fail you. Same also goes for the guys....

Samantha125:
And how is he your fiance when you guys are not even engaged?

Who introduced you to nairaland?

It’s the guys gaslighting you and making you believe that they would accept a free sex relationship for me, smh.

It’s not your fault, he’s just bad. Seriousness jammed play. Move on fast, your time has been wasted.

Moseswest24:
She just realized she lost her power.i always use to say the downfall of a man is penis .if we get all men castrated we would do marvelous things here on earth 🌎

no procreation again?

Is anything wrong in female partner in a relationship initiating sex?

The guy has been the one asking for sex and you've been forming Kingkong everytime. He is tired of begging for it. Even if he is not cheating, you have pushed him to his wall and instead of making trouble, he decided to let you be.

You are constantly making him feel like he has nothing in his mind than sex, so he became what you wanted. "Just a friend" and now you are complaining again.

Better sit him down quickly and tell him you noticed a change in him. Beg him about the sex thingy and ask him for sex at that moment. If not even if he has not started cheating, he will soon move on from you as soon as he gets an alternative.

Quickly turn his attention back to you or you'll soon learn in a hard way.

jackals:
Our relationship just ticked the 1yrs 3months mark. I told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.

At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there.

If he initiated it, I always find an excuse..and most times he convinced me and I’ll give in. I won’t lie I know it’s hard because he’s had to initiate a couple of time which I denied and he’ll mostly beg and assure me of his commitment to our relationship.

However, I noticed since the beginning of the month of May, he’s stopped showing concerns. When he asked And I said no to sex, he will just say “ohh okay” and then sleep if it’s night time or pick his phone and off to gym. Nowadays he doesn’t even initiate anything nor ask for it. I asked him if he’s okay and he told me “he’s having some heavy back pain due to his recent workout routines” but I know he’s lying. He’s always like sex even after workout.

My intuition says he’s cheating and my friend confirmed same since her last relationship also ended the same way.

Tbh, I’d just stop getting worried about this and stop asking him since he’s decided to keep mute.

So,
You are his unofficial Wife!
AND
This status always ends in tears!





Sex is NOT an evidence of LOVE
Sex cannot buy LOVE
Sex cannot Build LOVE


Unfortunately, in this relationship, it's too late!

Omoawoke:
You denied a man pussy every time he asks!
Frustrated his life and he’s sick and tired of it

A girl did that to me, someone I was planning to marry…that was the beginning of our problem till it broke till real fight and we left it off…

It’s so annoying and frustrating, I’d conclude you are sexually boring, unloving, fake and uninterested and I’d begin to crave an ex that was more electric and fire…
I’d conclude it would get worse after marriage and stylishly avoid you before I go to fulfill commitment

If you want to salvage your relationship, better stop this nonsense fake stuff and give him the electric hot sex he deserves

Our ladies are just so dump. In some cases its there experience with some stupid boys.

If you have sex with your fiance or boy friend, you have an opportunity to hypnotize him with good sex. Make him keep coming back for you. Infact, its an opportunity to tire him down. But after some boring sex, the guy realises its not even worth it and moves on. She starts complaining. How can you be begging your woman for sex and she still expects you to enjoy the sex ? It most be boring as hell.
If i am lady, i will intentionally use good sex to get my man to propose and marry me.

ayoncox:
You have given access to the pot, he has tasted the meat, now you demand will be low, he is on to another lady. In case of another time don't allow a man to get access to your candy without marrying if your interest is marriage

Only if she's a virgin. Why would she use her pussy to trap a guy who didn't disvirgn her? She gave it for free to other guys. E come reach his turn she started acting like it's a price.

jackals:
Our relationship just ticked the 1yrs 3months mark. I told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.

At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there.

If he initiated it, I always find an excuse..and most times he convinced me and I’ll give in. I won’t lie I know it’s hard because he’s had to initiate a couple of time which I denied and he’ll mostly beg and assure me of his commitment to our relationship.

However, I noticed since the beginning of the month of May, he’s stopped showing concerns. When he asked And I said no to sex, he will just say “ohh okay” and then sleep if it’s night time or pick his phone and off to gym. Nowadays he doesn’t even initiate anything nor ask for it. I asked him if he’s okay and he told me “he’s having some heavy back pain due to his recent workout routines” but I know he’s lying. He’s always like sex even after workout.

My intuition says he’s cheating and my friend confirmed same since her last relationship also ended the same way.

Tbh, I’d just stop getting worried about this and stop asking him since he’s decided to keep mute.

After going through your complain, I can comfortably tell you that you created a big problem for yourself.

1. Why are you counting time and minutes for the relationship. It is giving a desperation vibe. Something you should remove time and enjoy yourself.

2.you started eating already, that's commitment. Now all of sudden you are withholding it in a serious relationship? Who told you that. You just weaponised SEX by doing such. Costly mistake.

3.Sex or no Sex cannot make a man marry you. Whatever a man wants to do is in his heart/mindset. First be yourself from the onset, if you like him, enjoy him. If he enjoys what is going on, the next is coming to see your parents as long as he has something doing. Life goes on.

Some ladies sef. You will start sweet relationship and spoil it in the middle.

The last expo I will give you is, Go and talk to him, cook his favorite meal, ride him to cloud9 and reset him back to factory settings. And walk with him. Otherwise them go soon send you back to square1. NEVER WEAPONISE SEX be you a Man or Woman.

jackals:
Our relationship just ticked the 1yrs 3months mark. I told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.

At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there.

If he initiated it, I always find an excuse..and most times he convinced me and I’ll give in. I won’t lie I know it’s hard because he’s had to initiate a couple of time which I denied and he’ll mostly beg and assure me of his commitment to our relationship.

However, I noticed since the beginning of the month of May, he’s stopped showing concerns. When he asked And I said no to sex, he will just say “ohh okay” and then sleep if it’s night time or pick his phone and off to gym. Nowadays he doesn’t even initiate anything nor ask for it. I asked him if he’s okay and he told me “he’s having some heavy back pain due to his recent workout routines” but I know he’s lying. He’s always like sex even after workout.

My intuition says he’s cheating and my friend confirmed same since her last relationship also ended the same way.

Tbh, I’d just stop getting worried about this and stop asking him since he’s decided to keep mute.

Oti'lo. Sex is nonnegotiable for a none virgin.

Only a virgin has the right to tell her man she wants abstinence or no sex relationship and it would be honored by a man, Subject to confirmation that you are a virgin.

A woman that has tested the cassava, suddenly realized she doesn't want sex again with her new man is on a long thing and any man accepting such nonsensical arrangement is a capital FUUL.

How do you know she has been misused? Advising her to leave her relationship for another one is not the best solution. she should handle the situation by knowing the problem of the man,than leaving the relationship for the next guy. If the next guy treats her the same way, she leaves for another guy. She is increasing her body counts. She should try to resolve the situation by asking questions than jumping from one relationship to another.

Ab025:
What do you women really want sef??

You said you don't want sex, he stopped asking for it.....now you come here complaining he is no longer asking for sex!!

Allow the man to breathe na...haba

you're indeed a bad guy

Munzy14:
After going through your complain, I can comfortably tell you that you created a big problem for yourself.

1. Why are you counting time and minutes for the relationship. It is giving a desperation vibe. Something you should remove time and enjoy yourself.

2.you started eating already, that's commitment. Now all of sudden you are withholding it in a serious relationship? Who told you that. You just weaponised SEX by doing such. Costly mistake.

3.Sex or no Sex cannot make a man marry you. Whatever a man wants to do is in his heart/mindset. First be yourself from the onset, if you like him, enjoy him. If he enjoys what is going on, the next is coming to see your parents as long as he has something doing. Life goes on.

Some ladies sef. You will start sweet relationship and spoil it in the middle.

The last expo I will give you is, Go and talk to him, cook his favorite meal, ride him to cloud9 and reset him back to factory settings. And walk with him. Otherwise them go soon send you back to square1. NEVER WEAPONISE SEX be you a Man or Woman.

Too much wisdom

I know it's hard for you to leave the relationship, but it's better you leave before it's too late.
From your post, he has not even make any move towards marriage, for the whole of this 1 year you have been together. For this period, he has only seeing you as sex materials other than wife materials.
Run please

jackals:
Our relationship just ticked the 1yrs 3months mark. I told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.

At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there.

If he initiated it, I always find an excuse..and most times he convinced me and I’ll give in. I won’t lie I know it’s hard because he’s had to initiate a couple of time which I denied and he’ll mostly beg and assure me of his commitment to our relationship.

However, I noticed since the beginning of the month of May, he’s stopped showing concerns. When he asked And I said no to sex, he will just say “ohh okay” and then sleep if it’s night time or pick his phone and off to gym. Nowadays he doesn’t even initiate anything nor ask for it. I asked him if he’s okay and he told me “he’s having some heavy back pain due to his recent workout routines” but I know he’s lying. He’s always like sex even after workout.

My intuition says he’s cheating and my friend confirmed same since her last relationship also ended the same way.

Tbh, I’d just stop getting worried about this and stop asking him since he’s decided to keep mute.

Let's be honest, it seems like you're controlling the relationship by making sex conditional on promises like marriage. While it's understandable that you want assurances, have you considered what he might gain from being with you beyond intimacy? You might be benefiting from staying in his apartment, but perhaps it's time to consider your own space. You mentioned he has desires, but if you're not willing to fulfill them, it's likely he'll seek satisfaction elsewhere. Ultimately, it's essential to approach relationships and marriage with a clear understanding of each other's needs and boundaries, rather than trying to cajole or convince someone into commitment.
I tell you for free. Your worst mistake would be continuing in this trend, he'll definitely leave you or bullshit you after wedding that is if it ever happens

This is someone you expect proposal from yet you wont give him sex. What a joke.

You expect him to propose without sleeping with you? What are you hiding? Its obvious he has moved on from the relationship.

Maybe you re not compatible, or you do not really engage in the act with all your mind, you probably don't wash, keep an untidy appearance of smell.

Sex is one of the most valuable things you can give in the relationship. If you have trouble doing it now better end the relationship, obviously he has moved on.

Know that there are other girls willing to give him what you are withholding, you are not a scarce commodity.

Come down from your imaginary high horse.

jackals:
Our relationship just ticked the 1yrs 3months mark. I told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.

At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there.

If he initiated it, I always find an excuse..and most times he convinced me and I’ll give in. I won’t lie I know it’s hard because he’s had to initiate a couple of time which I denied and he’ll mostly beg and assure me of his commitment to our relationship.

However, I noticed since the beginning of the month of May, he’s stopped showing concerns. When he asked And I said no to sex, he will just say “ohh okay” and then sleep if it’s night time or pick his phone and off to gym. Nowadays he doesn’t even initiate anything nor ask for it. I asked him if he’s okay and he told me “he’s having some heavy back pain due to his recent workout routines” but I know he’s lying. He’s always like sex even after workout.

My intuition says he’s cheating and my friend confirmed same since her last relationship also ended the same way.

Tbh, I’d just stop getting worried about this and stop asking him since he’s decided to keep mute.

Woman wey don loose guard dey find advise he's not cheating. He's gonna dump you soon.

Berankis:
Man that will marry you will, whether you do pre-marital sex or not and man that is not ready to marry won't, no matter what you do for him.
No lady should place all her life on any man, he is just a man and can fail you. Same also goes for the guys....

No mind them. Good sexual satisfaction was part of the reason I married my wife self... You can't weaponize sex and expect a real man to dance to your tune

purples25:
It’s the guys gaslighting you and making you believe that they would accept a free sex relationship for me, smh.

It’s not your fault, he’s just bad. Seriousness jammed play. Move on fast, your time has been wasted.

So every relationship should lead to marriage? She didn't even mentioned that she loves him. She just want to marry him. If the man is so much concerned about sex, he can have it multiple times elsewhere. Remember, sex is the cheapest commodity you could sell

jackals:
Our relationship just ticked the 1yrs 3months mark. I told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.

At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there.

If he initiated it, I always find an excuse..and most times he convinced me and I’ll give in. I won’t lie I know it’s hard because he’s had to initiate a couple of time which I denied and he’ll mostly beg and assure me of his commitment to our relationship.

However, I noticed since the beginning of the month of May, he’s stopped showing concerns. When he asked And I said no to sex, he will just say “ohh okay” and then sleep if it’s night time or pick his phone and off to gym. Nowadays he doesn’t even initiate anything nor ask for it. I asked him if he’s okay and he told me “he’s having some heavy back pain due to his recent workout routines” but I know he’s lying. He’s always like sex even after workout.

My intuition says he’s cheating and my friend confirmed same since her last relationship also ended the same way.

Tbh, I’d just stop getting worried about this and stop asking him since he’s decided to keep mute.

A man doesn't like the idea of begging for sex. That's all i have to tell you.

jackals:
Our relationship just ticked the 1yrs 3months mark. I told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.

At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there.

If he initiated it, I always find an excuse..and most times he convinced me and I’ll give in. I won’t lie I know it’s hard because he’s had to initiate a couple of time which I denied and he’ll mostly beg and assure me of his commitment to our relationship.

However, I noticed since the beginning of the month of May, he’s stopped showing concerns. When he asked And I said no to sex, he will just say “ohh okay” and then sleep if it’s night time or pick his phone and off to gym. Nowadays he doesn’t even initiate anything nor ask for it. I asked him if he’s okay and he told me “he’s having some heavy back pain due to his recent workout routines” but I know he’s lying. He’s always like sex even after workout.

My intuition says he’s cheating and my friend confirmed same since her last relationship also ended the same way.

Tbh, I’d just stop getting worried about this and stop asking him since he’s decided to keep mute.

When you weaponise sex, he would seek his weapons elsewhere........ 😁🤣😂

The worst thing you can do as a woman is to use sex as a negotiating or bargaining tool, whether married or not. Eventually, the man grows beyond your hold on him, mostly as a power play in the beginning and gradually he loses the desire to even ask you. I can tell you for free that it happens even in marriage.

YOU SHOULD HAVE STOOD YOUR GROUND IN THE BEGINNING AND NEVER PERMITTED SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE. NOW THAT YOU GAVE IN, YOU CAN'T EAT YOUR CAKE AND HAVE IT. THE RELATIONSHIP IS AS GOOD AS DONE, SO I'LL ADVICE YOU COUNT YOUR LOSSES, CRY A LITTLE OR A LOT AND LEAVE THE RELATIONSHIP!

Teymanhenry:
No mind them. Good sexual satisfaction was part of the reason I married my wife self... You can't weaponize sex and expect a real man to dance to your tune

Are you the one on your profile pic?

Noblejohn32:
It is very difficult to understand a woman. And for ages, there have always been an unanswered question; What do women truly want?

You weaponised sex and even restricted your man from having access to you because you feel he's just into you for the sex. And now, he's chosen to do your bidding by not initiating sex, you feel he's cheating?

What do you really want?
Him begging for sex every time?
No nau.

Not all men are simps.
And it will surprise you that he ain't cheating. He just can't beg you again for sex. Feels like you're doing it under duress.

I GET YOUR POINT SHA.


BUT TO ME, IT IS NOT CORRECT THAT WOMEN ARE HARD TO UNDERSTAND? IT IS ALSO NOT TRUE THAT WE DO NOT KNOW WHAT WOMEN WANT.

IT IS BECAUSE PEOPLE ERRONEOUSLY LISTEN TO WHAT THEY SAY AND WHAT THEY CLAIM AND SPEW, INSTEAD OF LOOKING AT WHAT MOVES THEM, SPURRS THEM AND TRIGGERS THEM TO ACT. FOCUS ON WHAT SHE REACTS TO THAN WHAT SHE SAYS. WITH THIS, THEY HAVE BEEN ABLE TO DECEIVE A LOT OF FOLKS. ESPECIALLY, NAIVE MAN.

EVERYTHING A LADY SAYS IS USUALLY FANTASTIC TO INCREASE HER MARKET VALUE.
FRANKLY NOTHING SURPRISES ME ABOUT WOMEN. THEY CAN BE PREDICTED- THEIR EVERY MOVE- 100 PERCENT BY OBSERVING WHAT MOVES THEM AND WHAT THEY REACT TO.

WOMEN LIKE EVERY OTHER HUMAN SPECIE HAS

(1) INNATE “FOLLOW COME” INSTINCT THAT THEY ARE BORN WITH, AND
(2) ACQUIRED KNOWLEDGE/INTELLIGENCE

BOTH OF THESE FORM THE INDIVIDUAL.

THERE ARE GENERAL MANNERS AND BEHAVIOR THAT ARE “FOLLOW COME” AND THERE ARE ACQUIRED KNOWLEDGE FORMED BY EXPERIENCE, EXPOSURE, PERSONALITY.

WHAT WOMEN WANT? WOMEN DO NOT WANT ANY FORM OF ACCOUNTABILITY FOR THEIR ACTIONS AND BAD DECISIONS AND CHASE THE OPPORTUNITY TO EXPERIENCE AND AQUIRE THE HIGHEST LEVEL OF PLEASURE AND MATERIALISM AND YET WANT MORE.

Do you understand? Women want to be able to have everything they want without accountability and that is also not enough. They still want more after they have everything that they want.
That is what women want.

Know this and know peace. There is nothing hard on knowing a woman and how she thinks. Entertain her stupidity and foolish dynamism at your own peril. Because they want this now and want that tomorrow and want the other next minute and want this next year but don’t want to work for it or don’t want to take accountability for their actions and any poor decision with a bad outcome is not their fault and after they achieve all of those they still want more and when they can’t get it, nature makes them look for it in other men or other places.

both of you are fornicating and you want us to put mouth

na fire go damage both of you if urna no repent

Amotolongbo:
Sister please look for a new relationship asap, you’ve been misused.

More confused than the lady.

I think u already sleeping with him in same house, girl u becoming too comfy for him, that's not good.
At least stay yr place that's the best and if u give a guy once or twice cool not Everytime
He will be too comfortable girl, now how do u want to ask him, guy why u nor dey ask me for sex, it looks low for u to ask him right.
So ladies always hold yrself high, If I want to wife u,the guy will do all to wife u, stop going to leave with him, e no make sense stay yr place make him come dey find u.
Lady to me start by moving to yr place and stop all sex matter, call to check up on him .
Let him start missing u, na him go use him leg come find u, when he comes ask him his plans for u, if marriage still far, hold yrself don't compromise
if he doesn't, come check u again, stay away and know he doesn't want u again

Yeye dey worry this woman

jackals only a simp man will agree to your kind of condition for a lady that's not a virgin.

You mean you have a man the condition to first propose to you before sex? Are you a virgin? Na for him side you want start your own celibacy lifestyle?

A real man can't be begging for knack from his woman all the time

Hanty , You told your guy to propose to you before sex which the dude accepted.
Why not move to the next stage of introduction and probably marriage instead of Cohabiting.
The biggest mistakes most ladies makes it thinking cohabiting would always lead to marriage.
You laid the wrong foundation of accepting sex as a recipe for good relationship.
And you starved him or he has to beg before getting it again.
Well, if you are expecting the best, prepare for the worst scenario.
Kindly talk to him about about what plans does he have for the relationship .
And know you next plans.
Best of luck.