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Xso666:
Hello nairalanders, I am new to this forum and I was introduced by a friend of mine to this forum to seek advice on how to go about my marital issue.

Here is the problem, I married my wife a virgin and as at that time she was almost done with schooling as I met her when I went to stay with a friend around her school area. So we connected and then I told her I had interest in her and I would like for us to be in a relationship so she agreed and we started dating.

Fast forward to 2024 she was done with school so I went to pay her bride price and then brought her over to Lagos where I stay and then we started living together as husband and wife.

Everything has been moving fine after I disvirgined my wife and I felt like I was the luckiest man on earth and I feel like I already made it in life because I believe as a man if you get a good wife then you have solved 80% of your problem the remaining 20% will be making money to sustain the family.

So of lately I notice my virgin wife became so addicted to sex that she barely can’t go a day without sex and I am ready to give it to her any day any time.

So I traveled for work sometimes around feb 2025 and I stayed 2 weeks over there so when I came back I decided to take a stroll with my wife to get something down the street so I noticed as I was getting something she greeted a guy that sells female stuffs in my street so immediately I turned to talk to her she quickly discharged the guy and then they both acted like they were not talking together well I was unbothered because I mean the guy is just a trader doing his business and maybe she bought something from him and so I suspected nothing. Not until I noticed my wife likes going out to get things and she would spend time outside and this is something she doesn’t like doing before so I thought she is getting used to the Lagos life and so she is enjoying herself now and comfortable now in Lagos. I never had any insecurities whatsoever because I don’t believe she could have anything to do with any man since I married her a virgin although I know she has high sexual drive but I still think she can’t do no such thing.

Fast forward to sometimes around June I traveled again but this time somewhere close to where I live so I told her I would be spending a week or more and so I left to work getting there we lodged and waiting for update as regards to why we are here so on the 3rd day the contractor called and said we should all go and come back that the job has been rescheduled till the next month so I decided to go back home that same day since it was not far from where I stay so I tried reaching out to my wife’s number but she wasn’t reachable so I thought her phone was off, so I boarded a bus home to relax and break the news to her only to find my house locked and my wife wasn’t home and her phone was not going through so I managed to open the door using my spare key and then went inside and took my shower then I went to the kitchen but there was no food to eat so I decided to prepare something for us to eat in the house. I tried reaching my wife again and still not reachable and it was getting late already so I was worried and was curious to know what happened to her because she’s not so conversant with areas in Lagos. So I decided to pray and take some wine while I wait to think of my next action.

Suddenly she messaged me and told me she has not been able to charge her phone and there have not been light in the house, so I asked her where she was and she told me she was in the house and then I told her to come on video call I want to show her something I got for her but she told me the ba3 will die that she managed to use this to call me so I know she’s fine well I told her there was no problem and she should do her to make sure the battery don’t die so we can communicate tonight. So I went outside the compound only for me to find my wife coming back that night with this guy that sells female stuffs down the street and she was so shocked to see me at home she shouted immediately saw me and the guy just disappeared from no where.

Till now I don’t just know what to do because I married this woman a virgin but she has turned something else and I don’t know if to tell her parents or handle this like a man within us here although she told me she didn’t do anything with him that he tried to have her but she didn’t but how do I believe that please guys help me move this to front page so I get more suggestions as I am really confused.

She has been in the game for long and have masked herself with the virgin stuff just to deceive you to believe what she was not.


Its a game!


How would she just turn promiscuous in just a week or two? And even lied to you she was in the house even when she's absent even saying its battery issues and so on. She has mastered the game.

If truly she is a virgin, she should have been reserved, homely and so on..there are virtues that goes with it.

She doesn't even display any of those virtues.


If this a Christian home, I want to believe that both of you are active in church activities, newly married in new location are always open to enermy attacks of different kinds if you are not the type that put your faith to work whether you are a Christian or Muslim. You must put your faith to work by practising what the holy book says.

Its even better she displayed her colours this early in marriage so you can better put it on checks.

As it stand, God made it possible for you to see this, your handling of this matter is what will further strengthen your marriage or continue to put question marks in the future.
My prayer for you is this, that you will find healing and strength to overcome this challenging state of your marital journey.

Ferrous:
Which one is "bed to bed" midfielder again. Una no go kill me for this forum 🤣.
But, on a very serious note, I'm not saying she should be "community service" type. Men should concentrate more on character.

Your right, character first, just that ladies knows how to hid their character very well

Xso666:
Thanks for your contribution, a friend suggested this too as I am thinking of changing environment I’m afraid if I still remain in this area and I leave for work it might repeat itself and this time she might be more smarter😔

I'm 100% sure ure high libido wife is fvcking the female wears guys. The Logics of evidence is there staring u in the face.


1, She has high libido.
2, She greated the guy suspiciously infront of u like there's more to hide.
3. she goes to see him only when ure not around and goes at night time or goes wherever and stays till late night.
4. She lies to u about her location and who she's seeing so how can she tell u the truth about any other thing?

If she didn't lie about any or atleast 1 of ur questions I would have said she's capable of telling u the truth but it clear she's comfortable telling u lies than saying the truth.

So invariably when she says he made attempts but nothing happened she's lieing.

How can he make attempts and she rejected them yet he walks her home after she visited him probably at home??

5. She saw u and she shouted meaning guilty,

6, The female wears guy ran after u caught them walking home together. Definitely serious guilt.

Last u will be a fool if u don't take this seriously and escalate it to a family meeting and emergency. Act like she's guilty already whether or not she is but I guarantee u she is guilty.

Kobojunkieee:
In what case does virginity mean something? What guarantees does it truly offer those who seek it out(particularly when they could not hold on to theirs)?

i explained it already if u read my points properly. Virginity counts as discipline ony when it is kept in the midst of or despite numerous temptations not when kept in isolation. She may not even value her Virginity she just didn't see the right opportunity.

jaxxy:
i explained it already if u read my points properly. Virginity counts as discipline ony when it is kept in the midst of or despite numerous temptations not when kept in isolation. She may not even value her Virginity she just didn't see the right opportunity.

She just didn’t see the right opportunity 😂

Did he say he married a ten-year-old?

The fairytales probably didn't come true; unmet expectations. I have explained several times that misleading advertisements can attract misled buyers.

jaxxy:
I'm sorry to disappoint u but in this scenario virginity means nothing and in the case loses.

Character over virginity.

The op thought he win the lottery but that was not the case.

A virgin I'm the village cannot be compared to a virgin in the city where there are all kinds of temptations.

That cloth guy has fvcked his wife more times than him by now. Congrats to virginity.

Believe whatever you want to believe

Eniolohunda:
The virginity is needed so the little nairaland boys thinking virginity is all that sustains marriage will learn.

You are free to believe whatever you want to believe

bepositive11:
The fact is you can't know someone's true character until they've been tested.

Men who seek virgin wives are very insecure.

But the ones who marry community properties are very secure?

Okay then

Godseed:
Virginity is part of character, an integral part.
If sexual discipline is not part of your character, then what is left of it? What are you actually referring to as good character?

You have brain jàre. Unlike those failures

End the marriage

It's over 🥱


Once a woman began to be unfaithful the marriage is simply over

Merry100:
She just didn’t see the right opportunity 😂

Did he say he married a ten-year-old?

The fairytales probably didn't come true; unmet expectations. I have explained several times that misleading advertisements can attract misled buyers.

She was a virgin in the village not city. Also She has no discipline like he thought.

Xso666:
Hello nairalanders, I am new to this forum and I was introduced by a friend of mine to this forum to seek advice on how to go about my marital issue.

Here is the problem, I married my wife a virgin and as at that time she was almost done with schooling as I met her when I went to stay with a friend around her school area. So we connected and then I told her I had interest in her and I would like for us to be in a relationship so she agreed and we started dating.

Fast forward to 2024 she was done with school so I went to pay her bride price and then brought her over to Lagos where I stay and then we started living together as husband and wife.

Everything has been moving fine after I disvirgined my wife and I felt like I was the luckiest man on earth and I feel like I already made it in life because I believe as a man if you get a good wife then you have solved 80% of your problem the remaining 20% will be making money to sustain the family.

So of lately I notice my virgin wife became so addicted to sex that she barely can’t go a day without sex and I am ready to give it to her any day any time.

So I traveled for work sometimes around feb 2025 and I stayed 2 weeks over there so when I came back I decided to take a stroll with my wife to get something down the street so I noticed as I was getting something she greeted a guy that sells female stuffs in my street so immediately I turned to talk to her she quickly discharged the guy and then they both acted like they were not talking together well I was unbothered because I mean the guy is just a trader doing his business and maybe she bought something from him and so I suspected nothing. Not until I noticed my wife likes going out to get things and she would spend time outside and this is something she doesn’t like doing before so I thought she is getting used to the Lagos life and so she is enjoying herself now and comfortable now in Lagos. I never had any insecurities whatsoever because I don’t believe she could have anything to do with any man since I married her a virgin although I know she has high sexual drive but I still think she can’t do no such thing.

Fast forward to sometimes around June I traveled again but this time somewhere close to where I live so I told her I would be spending a week or more and so I left to work getting there we lodged and waiting for update as regards to why we are here so on the 3rd day the contractor called and said we should all go and come back that the job has been rescheduled till the next month so I decided to go back home that same day since it was not far from where I stay so I tried reaching out to my wife’s number but she wasn’t reachable so I thought her phone was off, so I boarded a bus home to relax and break the news to her only to find my house locked and my wife wasn’t home and her phone was not going through so I managed to open the door using my spare key and then went inside and took my shower then I went to the kitchen but there was no food to eat so I decided to prepare something for us to eat in the house. I tried reaching my wife again and still not reachable and it was getting late already so I was worried and was curious to know what happened to her because she’s not so conversant with areas in Lagos. So I decided to pray and take some wine while I wait to think of my next action.

Suddenly she messaged me and told me she has not been able to charge her phone and there have not been light in the house, so I asked her where she was and she told me she was in the house and then I told her to come on video call I want to show her something I got for her but she told me the ba3 will die that she managed to use this to call me so I know she’s fine well I told her there was no problem and she should do her to make sure the battery don’t die so we can communicate tonight. So I went outside the compound only for me to find my wife coming back that night with this guy that sells female stuffs down the street and she was so shocked to see me at home she shouted immediately saw me and the guy just disappeared from no where.

Till now I don’t just know what to do because I married this woman a virgin but she has turned something else and I don’t know if to tell her parents or handle this like a man within us here although she told me she didn’t do anything with him that he tried to have her but she didn’t but how do I believe that please guys help me move this to front page so I get more suggestions as I am really confused.

She isn't a "virgin" anymore so what's with the reference to "virgin wife."

Now, WITHOUT a shadow of doubt, your young wife and the trader have smooshed each other and had sex. This is how some females end up passing HIV to their male spouses and vice versa.

The FACT that a woman got married as a virgin doesn't mean she would be faithful in marriage. Some virgins have the desire to want to know how it feels to sleep with other men.

So, head on over and let her parents and fam know about this situation. The FACT that she lied to you that she was at home when infact she wasn't shows that she's a highly IRRESPONSIBLE young lady!

Go to Church and pray for her. That man must have charmed her, this is clearly the work of the devil.

Thank God you caught her yourself, just quit the marriage or else your life is at risky. Anything can still happen to you if you continue to stay put

Xso666:
Hello nairalanders, I am new to this forum and I was introduced by a friend of mine to this forum to seek advice on how to go about my marital issue.

Here is the problem, I married my wife a virgin and as at that time she was almost done with schooling as I met her when I went to stay with a friend around her school area. So we connected and then I told her I had interest in her and I would like for us to be in a relationship so she agreed and we started dating.

Fast forward to 2024 she was done with school so I went to pay her bride price and then brought her over to Lagos where I stay and then we started living together as husband and wife.

Everything has been moving fine after I disvirgined my wife and I felt like I was the luckiest man on earth and I feel like I already made it in life because I believe as a man if you get a good wife then you have solved 80% of your problem the remaining 20% will be making money to sustain the family.

So of lately I notice my virgin wife became so addicted to sex that she barely can’t go a day without sex and I am ready to give it to her any day any time.

So I traveled for work sometimes around feb 2025 and I stayed 2 weeks over there so when I came back I decided to take a stroll with my wife to get something down the street so I noticed as I was getting something she greeted a guy that sells female stuffs in my street so immediately I turned to talk to her she quickly discharged the guy and then they both acted like they were not talking together well I was unbothered because I mean the guy is just a trader doing his business and maybe she bought something from him and so I suspected nothing. Not until I noticed my wife likes going out to get things and she would spend time outside and this is something she doesn’t like doing before so I thought she is getting used to the Lagos life and so she is enjoying herself now and comfortable now in Lagos. I never had any insecurities whatsoever because I don’t believe she could have anything to do with any man since I married her a virgin although I know she has high sexual drive but I still think she can’t do no such thing.

Fast forward to sometimes around June I traveled again but this time somewhere close to where I live so I told her I would be spending a week or more and so I left to work getting there we lodged and waiting for update as regards to why we are here so on the 3rd day the contractor called and said we should all go and come back that the job has been rescheduled till the next month so I decided to go back home that same day since it was not far from where I stay so I tried reaching out to my wife’s number but she wasn’t reachable so I thought her phone was off, so I boarded a bus home to relax and break the news to her only to find my house locked and my wife wasn’t home and her phone was not going through so I managed to open the door using my spare key and then went inside and took my shower then I went to the kitchen but there was no food to eat so I decided to prepare something for us to eat in the house. I tried reaching my wife again and still not reachable and it was getting late already so I was worried and was curious to know what happened to her because she’s not so conversant with areas in Lagos. So I decided to pray and take some wine while I wait to think of my next action.

Suddenly she messaged me and told me she has not been able to charge her phone and there have not been light in the house, so I asked her where she was and she told me she was in the house and then I told her to come on video call I want to show her something I got for her but she told me the ba3 will die that she managed to use this to call me so I know she’s fine well I told her there was no problem and she should do her to make sure the battery don’t die so we can communicate tonight. So I went outside the compound only for me to find my wife coming back that night with this guy that sells female stuffs down the street and she was so shocked to see me at home she shouted immediately saw me and the guy just disappeared from no where.

Till now I don’t just know what to do because I married this woman a virgin but she has turned something else and I don’t know if to tell her parents or handle this like a man within us here although she told me she didn’t do anything with him that he tried to have her but she didn’t but how do I believe that please guys help me move this to front page so I get more suggestions as I am really confused.

If you can afford, install a secret WiFi controlled camera. You’ll be able to access it from anywhere & see what’s going on at your home. For now, it’s her word vs yours. Why did the guy run? Why did she lie that she was home when she wasn’t? Sounds suspicious, but camera will give you all the evidence you need.

Your fegin wife even lied to you she was at home when she wasn't. Humm !The combinazzion of the crime she committed was madt.

I think you two should move closer to God ..this will bring a huge difference.

Xso666:
Suddenly she messaged me and told me she has not been able to charge her phone and there have not been light in the house, so I asked her where she was and she told me she was in the house and then I told her to come on video call I want to show her something I got for her but she told me the ba3 will die that she managed to use this to call me so I know she’s fine well I told her there was no problem and she should do her to make sure the battery don’t die so we can communicate tonight. So I went outside the compound only for me to find my wife coming back that night with this guy that sells female stuffs down the street and she was so shocked to see me at home she shouted immediately saw me and the guy just disappeared from no where.

Therein lies Ur answer. Don't be naive and be bold enough to admit the bitter truth. That pussay is long gone... She's trading it with the trader hardcore 😂😁

Merry100:
Go to Church and pray for her. That man must have charmed her, this is clearly the work of the devil.

What the.....

nnamdi640:
Your right, character first, just that ladies knows how to hid their character very well

Imagine the emotional and psychological stress she would have subjected the man to?🤔

Xso666:
We are from Christian background and we are Catholics and we don’t swear oracles but I am also trying to think she did it but someone on this forum asked me if I have a proof that she did it but I don’t

there's no denying the fact she has done something sinister. But u have to hear her out. Then caution her. But I doubt if cautioning alone will solve the problem.

Firebox123:
if Dominique mynd44 seun or any mods push this post to frontpage

Make sure they delete my nairaland account along to avoid problems

I'll provide proof and evidence where you see the post on Facebook

No be person anonymous message you com copy and paste it here

Experiences are shared so others can learn.

Sometimes, the truth just doesn’t fit the fairytale you’re holding onto.

Not every story is fake just because it makes you uncomfortable. I don’t know if this exact story is real. But I’ve heard enough like it to know: It happens.

Ask some women why they’re still virgins, and you’ll hear: "Because my husband will cherish me."

But what happens when the one expecting to be cherished… Becomes the one doing all the cherishing?

Let’s be honest: The men who truly value women aren’t obsessed with virginity. The loudest ones are often insecure, or just looking for a slave with a moral certificate.

It’s funny how virginity is overhyped, Yet non-virgins can brag about gifts like G-Wagons, Lamborghinis, and houses in Ikoyi...

But virgins?
They get endurance.
And bragging rights; for their husbands.

A pure show of strength, and a lifetime performance just to prove her worth.

You’ll hear: "I married my wife a virgin. She’s so strong. She cooks five meals a day, cleans, wakes up at 5am, sleeps at midnight. She is so homely and reserved..."

Just endless praise. Where is the reward promised in the advertisements?

Virginity doesn’t need misleading ads or empty hype. And there’s no need to divide women into virgins and non-virgins. Let women breathe. Simple.

It is sad but the truth is that, that trader is banging your wife. That is the truth.

What was she doing with the guy at that time?

Where are they coming from?

Why was she shocked to see you?

Why did she lie to you that her battery was down?

From the time she declined the video call to the time she came back, how many hours was that?

Is that time frame not plenty enough for them to enjoy themselves?

Some virgins become extremely wild after their virginity is broken. They want to enjoy all the things they have missed.

All those lies your wife told you shows that she is having shags with the trader.

I hope your tradition and culture does not forbid infidelity in marriage, it it does, you may be swimming in a hotter and deeper soup.

May God give you wisdom to handle this issue.

nnamdi640:
➜Your right, character first, just that ladies knows how to hid their character very well

But the following poster claims that virginity is a part of character, a clear mark of sexual discipline.

Godseed:
Virginity is part of character, an integral part. If sexual discipline is not part of your character, then what is left of it? What are you actually referring to as good character?

And this other guy agrees with him too.

FRANCISTOWN:
You have brain jàre. Unlike those failures

. So, why insist OP's wife still had a fault?

If your life is still important to you, it's better you let her go for your own peace of health if not it's this woman that you have so much trust that will eventually kill you, I'm talking from experience and besides if your woman has been having sex outside, it's better you let it go if you don't want to die untimely

Xso666:
...Till now I don’t just know what to do because I married this woman a virgin but she has turned something else and I don’t know if to tell her parents or handle this like a man within us here although she told me she didn’t do anything with him that he tried to have her but she didn’t but how do I believe that please guys help me move this to front page so I get more suggestions as I am really confused.

You're kidding with this here, right bro?

Xso666:
She has sworn with everything that she didn’t do anything with the guy. We promised not to involve 3rd party in our relationship but at this point I am thinking of doing that which is why I came here to seek advice and not to act based on emotions because I love my wife so much

If you don't chase her .. you may just be slowly poisoned to death one day. Women hate to be caught especially in matters of infidelity

Do you really believe they didn't have sex?

From my experience, a woman or a cheating wife can't admit to have sex with another man unless you caught her red handed.

So you are waiting for her to say yes they had sex. No na. Don't be a fool.

1. You know her sex drive is up. So she's needed dick.

2. She lied to you about being in the house. And you believe she's going to tell you a more harder truth about the guy banging her.

How old are you?

G0odharddick:
Oga, your wife has knacked that guy. It's as simple as that!

You cannot put banana in the mouth of a monkey 🐒🐵 and expect the monkey not to eat it.

The thing is, your wife has already started exploring other diccks and there's absolutely nothing you can do to stop it. Tomorrow she'll taste another big one.

That's true

Xso666:
Thank you for your contributions I really appreciate. I will monitor her and get her tested to know if she’s still okay. I really do love my wife and I waited and prayed for this girl to be mine only for this to be happening.

Bro that Kobo you were speaking with, is a woman. Please learn NEVER to take relationship advice from a woman who isn't your family member.
Do you see how she was trying desperately to defend your wife who's almost definitely cheating?
Why did your wife lie about her whereabouts and come back home that night with another man? Why?
That woman immediately dismissed all your worries and called you "Insecure" for being concerned. That's their code word. That's how they try to manipulate you men into turning a blind eye when your wife is doing something she isn't supposed to be doing.

She said you should talk to her, yes so your wife can have the perfect opportunity to cry and lie to your face, to manipulate you further into thinking there isn't any issue.

She also said your wife is your equal and not your child. What the hell does that have to do with the current topic? You saw your wife coming home with another guy after lying to you about her whereabouts, and this woman here was trying to tell you not to be too concerned?
Bro don't take relationship advice from women.

Vrgin or no vrgin, that's what about 60% of high libido woman will do.

Get used to it.

Or

Run for your life.