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Pray that you don't have to wait for your children before you eat in your old age.Plan your retirement and don't be a liability to anybody.In America,people now work past the age of 70 years because they cannot retire and their kids cannot fund their retirement,those kids too will pay for the mortgage,student loan,child support etc.If you are wise and you still can work,plan and plan.Not all parents need their children money during retirement!

Sirchiboy:
Parenthood is responsibilty not an avenue to breed kids in the hope of making them your retirement plan.
This is very common in African culture where parents make their kids their life time retirement.
Every parents should plan for their future retirement.
You can decide to support them once in a while but not a most it is your reponsiblity to cater for them in their old age.

Yes now ... the statement is easy to say now, the reality is different from online likes and share ..... no be today ... even common rodent do rely on it kids breast for old age so who are you .... easy to say when the old age come let see the new version

Sirchiboy:
Parenthood is responsibilty not an avenue to breed kids in the hope of making them your retirement plan.
This is very common in African culture where parents make their kids their life time retirement.
Every parents should plan for their future retirement.
You can decide to support them once in a while but not a most it is your reponsiblity to cater for them in their old age.

But governments all over the world make children their continuity plan. Why not the parents that bare them. A man should reap where he does. When you are old and frail, who else is better to care for you and protect you Other people's children?

DeepSight:
If they become a burden, it is also your responsibility. The thing is that they should not have planned it so - it should not have been their plan to make you ther retirement plan.

Nevertheless all people of good conscience know very well the responsibility they have to their aged parents.
Only exception might be those parents who were horrible, abusive and neglectful.

Hmmm
You're correct

Sirchiboy:
Parenthood is responsibilty not an avenue to breed kids in the hope of making them your retirement plan.
This is very common in African culture where parents make their kids their life time retirement.
Every parents should plan for their future retirement.
You can decide to support them once in a while but not a most it is your reponsiblity to cater for them in their old age.

If taking care of your parents is what you see as a burden, then what is your purpose of existence?

If you’re broke, it’s understandable but that doesn’t even justify such orientation. It should be a pride for every children to take proper care of their parents.

Sirchiboy:
Parenthood is responsibilty not an avenue to breed kids in the hope of making them your retirement plan.
This is very common in African culture where parents make their kids their life time retirement.
Every parents should plan for their future retirement.
You can decide to support them once in a while but not a most it is your reponsiblity to cater for them in their old age.

When you're old, out of employment, your pension is not enough, your bills are choking, make sure you don't ask a dime from any child. Else you'll be a hypocrite.

ibedun:
Yinmu big time! Better adjust to new economic realities.

Your parents disregarded economic reality for you to survive.
They forgot about their own future plans so that YOU could have a future
Here you are saying all sorts of gibberish about economic reality. Your parents had the choice, yes, but they decided to forgo their own happiness for YOU.
When you became an adult at 18, they could have made the decision to stop supporting you, but no, it was then that your demands got higher and they braced up to weather the storm.
All you saying nonsense on this thread are children of dysfunctional homes, no doubt.

Sucre6:
Op you dey yarn dust, continue saying it until it sticks, karma will always got your address, for me, I owe my parent every good damm thing in this world, they deserve it all, so does my future kids owes me, my parent spent their youth raising me and providing me all ever asked of.in my neighbor hood, me an my siblings attended the best and most expensive school, my parent aren't rich nor poor, just average but I am always seen as a rich kid in the neighborhood and everywhere, do you know why?

Because they made sure we lacked nothing, now my parent are retired and elderly, their strength can't carry them to do much as before, now I place them on monthly stipends and make sure they lacked nothing, I bought them health insurance and I am doing my best to give them the best, and so would my future kids,

if you say u owe your parent nothing, karma will smile at you when you are very old and struggling when you should be retired and resting with your kids abandoning you to suffer

Please don't mind him, the op is not feeling fine or he wouldn't be posting that rubbish up there. I kinda suspect maybe his parents did him strong thing and he has become vengeful.

Olurondo:
Pray that you don't have to wait for your children before you eat in your old age.Plan your retirement and don't be a liability to anybody.In America,people now work past the age of 70 years because they cannot retire and their kids cannot fund their retirement,those kids too will pay for the mortgage,student loan,child support etc.If you are wise and you still can work,plan and plan.Not all parents need their children money during retirement!

How many of those parents are happy?
Do you know the number of them that die from depression?
Social workers, nursing homes blah blah blah are artificials that can never replace what a child does for the parents.

Parents are out second God. If my parents were to be alive, there's nothing I won't do for them.

This Mumu thinks it's easy to raise a kid through school, all the money the used in raising you, they could have channeled it to the retirement plans.

To me, it's always Parents First, Siblings second.

When you married it will now be, your wife/husband and kids first, parents second, siblings last

You owe your parent everything.
Good parents though.
Are you kidding me. Some parent kept borrowing and borrowing just to sponsor you to become someone. You think dey no get sense abi or dey no sabi chop life?.

Nnamdipapa:
The first time I am agreeing with you but still, I cannot have money and watch my parents suffer. They are blood but I cannot stand entitlements mentalities.

No! Don't kuku give them.

FreeIgboho:
He's right. Don't plan to be a burden on your children

Don't but the child has a divine responsibility to take care of the parents, rich or poor; good, bad or ugly....

Parenting is not just responsibility.
It is also about love and mutual family support!

In Yoruba prayers we always say. Olohun ajeki ojeun Omo. Meaning you will eat the fruit of your labour. Since you don't want your kids to owe you anything then may I pray to you you won't eat the fruit of your labour. Hope you can say an Amen to that. Joseph honoured his father Jacob with wealth before his demise 🤑. Only a broke, hateful or vengeful son will say what you said. I hope you learn soon.

Mariangeles:
No! Don't kuku give them.

My sister, let's be very careful with logic in English as it is one of the reasons our country is not going forward today.

The word "owe", means an obligation. I suggest helping your parents and siblings as much as you can but you do not owe them.

Why, because you are in this world of the actions of your parents and not vice verce.

You parents are adults who choose to have unprotected sex, get pregnant and bring a child into the world. See, all these are there actions which has nothing to do with the child. I have seen lots of couple who decide not to have kids and I do not judge them at àll.

On other hand, the parents have an obligation to take care of hjeir responsibilities, feed, clothe, send to school and provide a roof for the kids.
These are not favours but parental responsibilities so the parents owe you untîl you become an adult while a child does not owe the parents.

Ad adults, the parents have decades to work, plan , invest and save money for retirements nor birthing more kids or wasting time empty religious activities.

This is how it is abroad reason why the richest demograph abroad are the old people who have saved, invested and paid off their homes.

We shoùld ́ learn a thing or two from them.

Sirchiboy:
Parenthood is responsibilty not an avenue to breed kids in the hope of making them your retirement plan.
This is very common in African culture where parents make their kids their life time retirement.
Every parents should plan for their future retirement.
You can decide to support them once in a while but not a most it is your reponsiblity to cater for them in their old age.

Unfortunately, it's those parents that didn't invest in their kids education et al that sees them as retirement plan e.g Mohbad's father

FreeIgboho:
Here are what OOOKEWALE and henrybomb said below.
Please how are we saying the same thing?
Maybe I'm missing something

Since you say

FreeIgboho:
He's right. Don't plan to be a burden on your children

, then ypu, OOOKEWALE and henrybomb are saying the same thing which is when you get old, you can come back and have this conversation and tell the world whether or not you are doing what you are saying.

would you be able to say

FreeIgboho:
He's right. Don't plan to be a burden on your children

when you are old?

FreeIgboho:
I hope you're not slow or something. So you plan to be FINANCIALLY dependent on your children when you're old. Are you OK at all?

FreeIgboho:
We obviously mean FINANCIAL burden! We're NOT talking of them coming to visit you or showing they care!

who said anything about visit?

like I said earlier, you, OOOKEWALE and henrybomb are saying the same thing.

when you get old, you can come back and have this conversation and tell the world whether or not you are doing what you are saying

Sentimental BS
How old are you and which law state these your claim?

ibedun:
Sentimental BS!
Parents are obliged to take care of the children they brought into this world.
But children are not obliged to take care of parents in old age. Strictly

FreeIgboho:
He's right. Don't plan to be a burden on your children

I get what you're saying, but how do you expect an elderly parent who is receiving no money or assistance to sustain himself or herself?

The lack of government assistance or social security benefits for the elderly in Nigeria is another reason why parents look to their children for support.

No sane individual, in my opinion, would be happy to see their parents' suffering.

In Nigeria, children are responsible for taking care of their parents as they age.

It’s not a right but rather a moral thing to do.

LtChisom:
So by not taking care of your parents, Nigeria go good abi?

The OP is not talking about taking care physically but more of financial dependence. Many people misunderstood the OP because of the title. The truth is that most of the responsible parents I know have retirement plan. Most have landed properties that they would even leave for their kids.

FreeStuffsNG:
Everywhere in the world, parents make their children their life time retirement. Don't let inferiority complex destroy you.

When you grow up and start raising children, you can choose not to make them your retirement plan. Children are the only investment a dutiful parent will never retire from its ROI. Not even your marriage that you placed above your own parents can be your retirement plan because your spouse will divorce you.

Only Failed parents and products of failed parenting/dysfunctiomal parents believe that they don’t owe one another anything

nonsense talk, build a family not become a burden to them. You know how many marriages don pack up because of this

Nnamdipapa:
The first time I am agreeing with you but still, I cannot have money and watch my parents suffer. They are blood but I cannot stand entitlements mentalities.

What of your entitlement mentality as a child You think raising you was easy? It's a curse for a child to abandon parents

lexy2014:
Since you say , then ypu, OOOKEWALE and henrybomb are saying the same thing which is when you get old, you can come back and have this conversation and tell the world whether or not you are doing what you are saying.

would you be able to say when you are old?

Are you ok? They're saying the exact opposite of what I said - they're supporting your position

FreeIgboho:
Are you ok? They're saying the exact opposite of what I said - they're supporting your position

how are they saying the exact opposite of what you said?

allthingsgood:
What of your entitlement mentality as a child You think raising you was easy? It's a curse for a child to abandon parents

Did I bring myself into the world? Why did my parent no use condom? You see what I mean?

Well, I owe my parents everything.

Sounds like you just travelled abroad.

Na poor poor people full nairaland i swear.


Imagine Bill Gates depending on his son(s) for stipends.

This is how you know someone that has dysfunctional parents. If you love your parents you won't be saying this. Even if you are dangote there is no way you won't need assistance and care in your old age.

Sirchiboy:
Parenthood is responsibilty not an avenue to breed kids in the hope of making them your retirement plan.
This is very common in African culture where parents make their kids their life time retirement.
Every parents should plan for their future retirement.
You can decide to support them once in a while but not a most it is your reponsiblity to cater for them in their old age.

Types like a true gen Z
You go soon learn when you grow up