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I am really concerned about this.
My last relationship ended like my first.
Billing!
Ok, so this lady called me that we should be in a relationship. I was excited about it and we started dating.
We haven't had sex we are both Christians.
This particular week she started testing me financially. First she said she is hungry, later she said her phone spoilt then she said she needs a new laptop.
What made us breakup was when she said she needed airtime. And as at then I didn't even have any available money except my savings I said I don't have
She then told me she deserves to be taken care of that she hasn't asked me directly of anything than this airtime. It shows I am stingy...and if it's happening like this this early we might have to cutoff. She said is it because we both work in same place and we earn same salary? ,she said I should take care of her
So I thought about her statements and I told her we should break up. That I am not ready.
I

This same scenario happened to me in my first relationship. I really loved my first love. But she pressured me financially. Which led me to all end it.

I know myself I am not STINGY.
I am feel I am been manipulated be these ladies

Lolz, bto the same thing happened to some of us, what can one do, at the very end you will have to pick the one you can manage. It is in their mentality. 😁

Mine doesn’t last more than 3 years!

Rearealki:
I am really concerned about this.
My last relationship ended like my first.
Billing!
Ok, so this lady called me that we should be in a relationship. I was excited about it and we started dating.
We haven't had sex we are both Christians.
This particular week she started testing me financially. First she said she is hungry, later she said her phone spoilt then she said she needs a new laptop.
What made us breakup was when she said she needed airtime. And as at then I didn't even have any available money except my savings I said I don't have
She then told me she deserves to be taken care of that she hasn't asked me directly of anything than this airtime. It shows I am stingy...and if it's happening like this this early we might have to cutoff. She said is it because we both work in same place and we earn same salary? ,she said I should take care of her
So I thought about her statements and I told her we should break up. That I am not ready.
I

This same scenario happened to me in my first relationship. I really loved my first love. But she pressured me financially. Which led me to all end it.

your own is good

Me and labake1 own dont last 2hrs

Rearealki:
I am really concerned about this.
My last relationship ended like my first.
Billing!
Ok, so this lady called me that we should be in a relationship. I was excited about it and we started dating.
We haven't had sex we are both Christians.
This particular week she started testing me financially. First she said she is hungry, later she said her phone spoilt then she said she needs a new laptop.
What made us breakup was when she said she needed airtime. And as at then I didn't even have any available money except my savings I said I don't have
She then told me she deserves to be taken care of that she hasn't asked me directly of anything than this airtime. It shows I am stingy...and if it's happening like this this early we might have to cutoff. She said is it because we both work in same place and we earn same salary? ,she said I should take care of her
So I thought about her statements and I told her we should break up. That I am not ready.
I

This same scenario happened to me in my first relationship. I really loved my first love. But she pressured me financially. Which led me to all end it.

Women will continue to test you, manipulate you and bill you until you meet the one who is genuinely interested in you. The one intrested in you will be the one ready to see you successful and grow in all areas of your life. One in a while she may ask for something but she wouldn't pressure you and if you tell her you don't have it wouldn't be an issue. Stop chasing women and allow them chase you. If you check very well, there is a lady giving you green light just that maybe you don't fancy her.

Common underlying factor

You are been pressured financially

It's two things.. either you increase your hustle so that you can date comfortably

Or you keep the qqqqwwwaaaaiiieet there, face your work that pays your meagre salary and keep your third leg in a pocket

Àwọn ooopooonnnuuu

A lady that earn the same amount with you expecting you to take care of her is bewitchment. As the man you should take care of her out of your own volition without depressing your pocket

mariobalotelli09:
Women will continue to test you, manipulate you and bill you until you meet the one who is genuinely interested in you. The one intrested in you will be the one ready to see you successful and grow in all areas of your life. One in a while she may ask for something but she wouldn't pressure you and if you tell her you don't have it wouldn't be an issue. Stop chasing women and allow them chase you. If you check very well, there is a lady giving you green light just that maybe you don't fancy her.

Real truth and to add to that, avoid broke girls 💯
Atleast your woman should be hardworking so anytime you don’t have, she’ll understand.

Even as a man, you can’t satisfy anyone’s wants. Human wants are insatiable. So just look for the lesser evil. Mind you, no matter how a lady loves you, you must still spend. Just look for the lesser evil that’s all.

mariobalotelli09:
Women will continue to test you, manipulate you and bill you until you meet the one who is genuinely interested in you. The one intrested in you will be the one ready to see you successful and grow in all areas of your life. One in a while she may ask for something but she wouldn't pressure you and if you tell her you don't have it wouldn't be an issue. Stop chasing women and allow them chase you. If you check very well, there is a lady giving you green light just that maybe you don't fancy her.

You last statement is correct 💯

You both are Christians so no sex in the relationship...


Why didn't you remind her that y'all are Christians so God commanded that we look up to Him not our fellow men ....



Sometimes Una go dey behave like say una no get strategy for mouth....

BTW none of una be true Christians, or else you'll have dated for marriage not for sex or material things....


Bros, your future wife still dey front, avoid that leech please...

There's nothing wrong with you. Don't fall for those Vampires immediately they observed that you're weak they will loot the hell out of you. I don't believe in love because love doesn't exist. So I treat ladies as they are hungry girl's love looking for maga to suck dry

SpencerForbes:
Real truth and to add to that, avoid broke girls 💯
Atleast your woman should be hardworking so anytime you don’t have, she’ll understand.

Even as a man, you can’t satisfy anyone’s wants. Human wants are insatiable. So just look for the lesser evil. Mind you, no matter how a lady loves you, you must still spend. Just look for the lesser evil that’s all.

Your last sentence is correct 💯.

But I am scared and worried so I won't be heartbroken again.
Besides I haven't healed!!!

It's you who's trying to impress. There are ladies who date with no financial exchange.Some ladies even spend on their broke boyfriends or empty their mother's provision store for him.

It pays to lay all cards on the table from the start. Don't give room for anything you won't accept.

Also, improve yourself. When you see a beautiful lady looking smart, fit, well dressed, with good diction and a budding career, she became desirable because she took time and effort to improve herself. You should too and see if your story won't change.

The thing about women billing is 2k here..6k there 20k here...before u know it 300k don go per month..if u always turn up the flimsier the billing.

Dear Guys,

If a woman starts "testing" your love with money early in the relationship—run.

Love is not a billing system. It’s not a constant demand for airtime, phones, or laptops—especially when you’re just getting started.

You’re not stingy for protecting your peace and your pocket. You're wise.

Real love supports, not drains. It builds with you, not off you.

You deserve someone who sees your heart, not your wallet.

Choose peace over pressure. Always.

#KnowYourWorth #MenDeserveLoveToo #NotAnATM

Rearealki:
I am really concerned about this.
My last relationship ended like my first.
Billing!
Ok, so this lady called me that we should be in a relationship. I was excited about it and we started dating.
We haven't had sex we are both Christians.
This particular week she started testing me financially. First she said she is hungry, later she said her phone spoilt then she said she needs a new laptop.
What made us breakup was when she said she needed airtime. And as at then I didn't even have any available money except my savings I said I don't have
She then told me she deserves to be taken care of that she hasn't asked me directly of anything than this airtime. It shows I am stingy...and if it's happening like this this early we might have to cutoff. She said is it because we both work in same place and we earn same salary? ,she said I should take care of her
So I thought about her statements and I told her we should break up. That I am not ready.
I

This same scenario happened to me in my first relationship. I really loved my first love. But she pressured me financially. Which led me to all end it.

I'm waiting for Elon Musk to Create
An Artificial vag*** AI robot with cute face

That is when women will sit up and start behaving and thinking straight

Instead of turning relationships into a battleground of “us vs them,” focus on discernment. Know what you want. Set your standards. Communicate openly. Watch patterns, not words.

It’s not about chasing or being chased—it’s about choosing wisely.

mariobalotelli09:
Women will continue to test you, manipulate you and bill you until you meet the one who is genuinely interested in you. The one intrested in you will be the one ready to see you successful and grow in all areas of your life. One in a while she may ask for something but she wouldn't pressure you and if you tell her you don't have it wouldn't be an issue. Stop chasing women and allow them chase you. If you check very well, there is a lady giving you green light just that maybe you don't fancy her.

That means you're 50cents smarter than the wordome calling themselves women. Simple as ABC. Women only love a man they can use his money the Iyabo Ojo's daughter used her husband money to do parties. Once you say no, the relationship must end.

Date working girls. Tell her you are not her parents and ask her if she has a job ?

Don't spend for anyone. Occasional gifts, yes. Lunch dates, yes. Every individual must be able to be self reliant.

Stop going all over the places looking for relationships. Get money and you will get a stable relationship.

Rearealki:
I am really concerned about this.
My last relationship ended like my first.
Billing!
Ok, so this lady called me that we should be in a relationship. I was excited about it and we started dating.
We haven't had sex we are both Christians.
This particular week she started testing me financially. First she said she is hungry, later she said her phone spoilt then she said she needs a new laptop.
What made us breakup was when she said she needed airtime. And as at then I didn't even have any available money except my savings I said I don't have
She then told me she deserves to be taken care of that she hasn't asked me directly of anything than this airtime. It shows I am stingy...and if it's happening like this this early we might have to cutoff. She said is it because we both work in same place and we earn same salary? ,she said I should take care of her
So I thought about her statements and I told her we should break up. That I am not ready.
I

This same scenario happened to me in my first relationship. I really loved my first love. But she pressured me financially. Which led me to all end it.

I read through your post. Focus on yourself. Build up and grow. It is not your duties to spend so much on such ladies. Relationship, situation, talkationship, spendiationship. Stay focus on your goals.

Yes, giving is part of love.
But love is not proven by money—it is proven by sacrifice, respect, consistency, emotional safety, and shared vision.
Give when it’s from the heart, not when it’s demanded as proof.

Spending wisely is not stinginess—it’s stewardship. And stewardship is the foundation of a strong marriage.

Shawarmagirl:
OP, you have issue with commitment. If you don't learn how to spend on your woman while in a relationship, you'll never spend on your wife when you get married. The prove of love is given. For God so loved the world that He GAVE (commitment).

I have come to realize that if you are broke, your relationship won't last no matter how good a lady is.. except she is a long time girlfriend or a desperate one..

Not necessarily you spend lavishly or stupidly on a lady but be financially available at a point.. be discreet on spending.. but if not, just work on your financial stability first before getting into anything serious

Don’t date people who only see you as a provider.

But don’t become cold and transactional in the name of self-protection.

Give to the right person, in the right way, with the right heart.

Healthy relationships require giving. Wise relationships require boundaries. Mature relationships balance both.

armyofone:
Date working girls. Tell her you are not her parents and ask her if she has a job ?

Don't spend for anyone. Occasional gifts, yes. Lunch dates, yes. Every individual must be able to be self reliant.

DMCY:
Mine doesn’t last more than 3 years!

Are you trying to have a PhD in her first?

Don't mind me, it takes a sharp man to understand a woman in 3 years. Even with that, you still need to do post-Doc to really know her.

At the end of the day, u still still find out that u have a lot to learn from her.

Stay away from under23 girls, they are probably not ready for something serious.