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Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by Didi2d(m): 5:44pm On Aug 08, 2025

I don't know why our girls like doing videos inside hotel rooms and hotel passage. Yea, I always use that to judge who she really is.
Yes I understand, they want to do videos in nicer background, but doing it in hotel speaks volume

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Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by buzmanjohn(m): 5:49pm On Aug 08, 2025

Hespee93:
Let’s start with the fact you met her on FaceBook, that’s red flag number one.

She maid over 11TikTok videos with different backgrounds, red flag number two.

Nobody should advise you before making decisions.

The trust I had on my ex dropped to 0% when I learned that she dated someone she met on FaceBook even without them meeting just because he lives in Canada.

Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by spencekat(m): 5:50pm On Aug 08, 2025

sylve11:
Leave am, just leave am.

😀😀😀

Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by Didi2d(m): 5:51pm On Aug 08, 2025

Hespee93:
Let’s start with the fact you met her on FaceBook, that’s red flag number one.

She maid over 11TikTok videos with different backgrounds, red flag number two.

Nobody should advise you before making decisions.

The trust I had on my ex dropped to 0% when I learned that she dated someone she met on FaceBook even without them meeting just because he lives in Canada.

And guess what? Our Canadian guys or even abroad guys have nudes videos and pictures of our girls and women we cherish and respect down here.
My guy wey dey canada say him phone don full with nudes of our Nigerian ladies, just because him dey abroad, anything he tells them to do they will do.
Some are married women o

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Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by neonly: 5:51pm On Aug 08, 2025

The moment u mention hotel rooms tiktok
Guy don't go Der oooooooooooooooooo

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Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by Bahamas95(m): 5:52pm On Aug 08, 2025

tgmservice:
Not twerking just normal dance

Are you sure you're ok?

Do you still need a babalawo or prophet to tell you she's an ashi? Which responsible girl would be jumping from one hotel room to another making videos?

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Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by spencekat(m): 5:53pm On Aug 08, 2025

Didi2d:
[/b]I don't know why our girls like doing videos inside hotel rooms and hotel passage.[b] Yea, I always use that to judge who she really is.
Yes I understand, they want to do videos in nicer background, but doing it in hotel speaks volume

Some of them copy any nonsense they see online.

Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by Amsickindahead: 6:00pm On Aug 08, 2025

Hespee93:
Let’s start with the fact you met her on FaceBook, that’s red flag number one.

She maid over 11TikTok videos with different backgrounds, red flag number two.

Nobody should advise you before making decisions.

The trust I had on my ex dropped to 0% when I learned that she dated someone she met on FaceBook even without them meeting just because he lives in Canada.

You are a special and a real nigga 👍

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Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by PlushyRealtor: 6:00pm On Aug 08, 2025

Guy, which other evidence do you need again before you know she's into hook-up?

Run for your life biko

Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by Lexusgs430: 6:08pm On Aug 08, 2025

tgmservice:
I recently started dating a cute lady which I really liked.

We started chatting in FB and shared contacts, after a while getting to talk and know each other we went on couple of dates to just see n talk.

Everything was fine and good, one day while browsing on my phone I stumbled upon her tiktok account.

She has lots of all these normal funny and dance tiktok videos, nothing suspicious until I noticed a good number of her videos are taken inside hotel rooms.

I was able to spot like 11 different hotels rooms she took videos. I know its an hotel room due to the arrangement, the telecom line and customized towels.

Though I didn’t see a guy in any of the videos, is this a reason to be worried as she is a fashion designer.

Please advise.

Can't a lady stay in a hotel, by herself..... 🤣😂🏩😉

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Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by Adaumunocha(f): 6:11pm On Aug 08, 2025

tgmservice:
Not twerking just normal dance

Many content creators use different locations for their content. Some even rent beautiful apartments to shoot

Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by Adaumunocha(f): 6:15pm On Aug 08, 2025

Didi2d:
And guess what? Our Canadian guys or even abroad guys have nudes videos and pictures of our girls and women we cherish and respect down here.
My guy wey dey canada say him phone don full with nudes of our Nigerian ladies, just because him dey abroad, anything he tells them to do they will do.
Some are married women o

Him prick pictures no dey with them too?

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Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by AngelSlay: 6:18pm On Aug 08, 2025

Bro, I get it. You’ve met someone you really like she’s cool, cute, and things have been flowing well. Then boom you come across her TikTok and start noticing she’s filmed a bunch of videos in hotel rooms. That would make anyone pause and wonder what’s up.

But here’s the thing…

It’s okay to feel uneasy, but don’t assume the worst yet.

There could be plenty of reasons for those videos:

1. Maybe she travels a lot for work or meets clients in different places.
2. Maybe she likes the clean vibe of hotels for making videos. Or maybe those videos are just old stuff from a phase in her life before you came into the picture.

You didn’t see anything wild or compromising in the videos — just hotel rooms. That alone isn't proof of anything shady.

What I’d suggest
Talk to her. Not in a suspicious or “caught you” type of way. Just bring it up casually: “I saw some of your TikToks — some of them looked like they were in hotels. You travel a lot for work or just like the hotel vibe?”

Let her explain. Pay attention more to how she reacts than what she says — is she cool and honest about it? Or does she get weird and defensive?

Watch, don’t rush

You’re still getting to know her. There’s no need to make any big decisions now. Just keep your eyes open and let time reveal more. People can surprise you, in both good and bad ways, so don’t rush to judge, but don’t ignore red flags either.

Don’t do this though:

- Don’t start stalking her socials like you're building a case.
- Don’t bring it up in an accusatory way — it’ll put her on defense fast.

Don’t bottle it up either — that leads to overthinking and resentment.

Trust your gut, but give her a fair chance. You're not wrong to notice what you saw — just be smart about how you handle it. If she’s solid, she’ll respect the question. If she’s shady, you’ll sense it soon enough.

tgmservice:
I recently started dating a cute lady which I really liked.

We started chatting in FB and shared contacts, after a while getting to talk and know each other we went on couple of dates to just see n talk.

Everything was fine and good, one day while browsing on my phone I stumbled upon her tiktok account.

She has lots of all these normal funny and dance tiktok videos, nothing suspicious until I noticed a good number of her videos are taken inside hotel rooms.

I was able to spot like 11 different hotels rooms she took videos. I know its an hotel room due to the arrangement, the telecom line and customized towels.

Though I didn’t see a guy in any of the videos, is this a reason to be worried as she is a fashion designer.

Please advise.

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Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by AngelSlay: 6:19pm On Aug 08, 2025

cyberbro:
What about your wife? One of your former posts said you were a married man, so why are you talking about a girlfriend? 🤔

According to Nigeria men constitution, they cannot always eat Egusi, they have to try draw soup.

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Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by AngelSlay: 6:21pm On Aug 08, 2025

Hespee93:
Let’s start with the fact you met her on FaceBook, that’s red flag number one.

She maid over 11TikTok videos with different backgrounds, red flag number two.

Nobody should advise you before making decisions.

The trust I had on my ex dropped to 0% when I learned that she dated someone she met on FaceBook even without them meeting just because he lives in Canada.

Yes, meeting someone on Facebook might seem like a red flag—but only if the connection lacks depth or transparency. In today’s world, many people meet online, especially across cultures and borders. What really matters is how they interact: Is there consistency? Honesty? Do they share values? If the relationship stays superficial or secretive, that’s when concern is truly warranted.

Regarding the TikTok videos in different backgrounds—that could look suspicious, or it could just be someone who enjoys creating content, travels a lot, or lives in a dynamic environment. It becomes a red flag only if there's deception, like pretending to be someone they’re not. Otherwise, it might just be how they express themselves.

Saying "nobody should advise you before making decisions" is powerful, and I hear that. But at the same time, input from people you trust can offer perspective. It's not about letting others decide for you—it’s about gathering insight and still choosing for yourself.

As for your ex dating someone from Facebook just because he lived in Canada—that sounds deeply hurtful, and it's okay that it broke your trust. But it might not have been just about location. Sometimes people chase an idea, a lifestyle, or an escape. That doesn’t excuse betrayal, but it shows how complex human behavior can be.

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Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by AngelSlay: 6:26pm On Aug 08, 2025

Bro, I hear your frustration. It’s painful to see our sisters, wives, and women people we hold in high esteem being exposed or disrespected like that. But let's step back a bit and really unpack this.

First, this isn’t just a "women" issue or a "Nigerian" thing. It’s a deeper issue of power, manipulation, and broken values on both sides. When someone abroad misuses their status or influence to get intimate photos or videos from women back home, especially by pressure or false promises, that's not a flex — it’s exploitation. Let’s call it what it is.

Second, those women are not just images on a phone — they’re real people with emotions, families, and stories. Some might have been manipulated, desperate, lonely, or simply trusting the wrong person. Some may have made poor decisions yes but that doesn't mean they deserve public shame or to have their dignity erased.

Also, marriage doesn’t magically protect someone from being vulnerable. Emotional needs, lack of support, or trauma can make anyone man or woman take risks they wouldn’t normally take. It's not right, but it's human.

As men, especially if we claim to cherish and respect women, we need to ask ourselves: what kind of men are we becoming when we boast about violating their privacy or dignity? If someone’s phone is “full of nudes” and he’s bragging, what does that say about him — not just them?

The real flex should be protecting the dignity of our women, not exploiting it. Because tomorrow, it could be your sister, cousin, or even daughter caught in the same trap. Would you laugh or brag then?

Let’s stop applauding brokenness. Let’s build respect, boundaries, and accountability on all sides both for the men and the women involved.

Didi2d:
And guess what? Our Canadian guys or even abroad guys have nudes videos and pictures of our girls and women we cherish and respect down here.
My guy wey dey canada say him phone don full with nudes of our Nigerian ladies, just because him dey abroad, anything he tells them to do they will do.
Some are married women o

Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by AngelSlay: 6:31pm On Aug 08, 2025

abbey621:
Even hookup girls go tell you please no hookup o, na format.....95% of 9ja girls will do it or have done it..........Some just don't like the word, so you fit call them talking stage, friends with benefit, bestie and so on. As for your particular problem.....Try call Igwe since you no wan believe say rice no be beans

Saying "95% of Naija girls will do it or have done it" is a sweeping generalization that isn’t backed by any reliable data. Sexual behavior, like every other human behavior, varies based on values, upbringing, personal boundaries, religion, and life experiences. Nigeria is incredibly diverse, what’s common in Lagos nightlife might be unheard of in a conservative town in Bauchi or Enugu.

According to a 2018 National Demographic and Health Survey (NDHS) conducted in Nigeria:

1. Only 15.1% of women aged 15–49 reported having more than one sexual partner in the last 12 months.
2. Over 60% of Nigerian women still view premarital sex as socially or religiously unacceptable.

In many areas, abstinence and chastity are still widely promoted, especially in rural and religious communities.

So the idea that "most girls are down" and just dislike the label is a myth pushed by social media echo chambers, not real-life data.

Also, dismissing a girl’s “no hookup” as just a format undermines her agency. Some people genuinely don’t want casual sex, and others change their stance over time — not because it was “format”, but because people are allowed to evolve emotionally, sexually, or romantically.

As for the “talking stage,” “bestie,” or “friends with benefits” — yes, labels can vary, but consent and clarity matter in every situation. Trying to manipulate terms to get around boundaries is deceptive.

Lastly "Try call Igwe since you no wan believe say rice no be beans" — I get the frustration or sarcasm here, but real talk: just because someone doesn’t share your experience doesn’t make them naïve. Rice no be beans, true. But not every girl na party jollof some still dey do home training and personal discipline.

Let's stop projecting personal experiences as universal truths. Not every woman is pretending. Not every "no" is a tease. And not everyone defines freedom the same way. Live and let live with respect and facts.

Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by Nobody: 6:48pm On Aug 08, 2025

Gerrard59:
These girls make it too easy for discerning men to unravel their covert activities. Maybe it's because I'm too knowledgeable about it or just mere assumptions. But with the rate of alpha male ideology being preached on social media, our young women should be prepared for men who won't be like their fathers. After all, these lasses boast of not being like their mothers.

Ogbono for Ogbono...

Seriously bro, it's very easy to spot a girl that belong to the street.

The easier way is to approach a girl casually, you'll get to know her true self if you approach her casually but once you bring in relationship, she mount her guard especially the 30+ ladies but still a good guy man will spot a street girl within days

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Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by cyberbro: 6:52pm On Aug 08, 2025

AngelSlay:
According to Nigeria men constitution, they cannot always eat Egusi, they have to try draw soup.

I am also a Nigerian man and I don't support such, so don't generalize. ✌🏽

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Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by SisterAnn(f): 6:53pm On Aug 08, 2025

tgmservice:
Not twerking just normal dance

Why not ask her?

Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by Nobody: 7:03pm On Aug 08, 2025

TribalChair:
This ur chochocho.....na God go save u one day....

As u don cast how we take dey spot Dem now, hope u are happy.....

😂 😂

Na old format o
Mature HK mamas don know this one since o. That's why Na religion posts full their profile to take deceive innocent men wey dey fall for religion stunt

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Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by tgmservice(op): 7:15pm On Aug 08, 2025

AngelSlay:
Bro, I get it. You’ve met someone you really like she’s cool, cute, and things have been flowing well. Then boom you come across her TikTok and start noticing she’s filmed a bunch of videos in hotel rooms. That would make anyone pause and wonder what’s up.

But here’s the thing…

It’s okay to feel uneasy, but don’t assume the worst yet.

There could be plenty of reasons for those videos:

1. Maybe she travels a lot for work or meets clients in different places.
2. Maybe she likes the clean vibe of hotels for making videos. Or maybe those videos are just old stuff from a phase in her life before you came into the picture.

You didn’t see anything wild or compromising in the videos — just hotel rooms. That alone isn't proof of anything shady.

What I’d suggest
Talk to her. Not in a suspicious or “caught you” type of way. Just bring it up casually: “I saw some of your TikToks — some of them looked like they were in hotels. You travel a lot for work or just like the hotel vibe?”

Let her explain. Pay attention more to how she reacts than what she says — is she cool and honest about it? Or does she get weird and defensive?

Watch, don’t rush

You’re still getting to know her. There’s no need to make any big decisions now. Just keep your eyes open and let time reveal more. People can surprise you, in both good and bad ways, so don’t rush to judge, but don’t ignore red flags either.

Don’t do this though:

- Don’t start stalking her socials like you're building a case.
- Don’t bring it up in an accusatory way — it’ll put her on defense fast.

Don’t bottle it up either — that leads to overthinking and resentment.

Trust your gut, but give her a fair chance. You're not wrong to notice what you saw — just be smart about how you handle it. If she’s solid, she’ll respect the question. If she’s shady, you’ll sense it soon enough.

Thanks bro

Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by armadeo(m): 7:19pm On Aug 08, 2025

TribalChair:
This ur chochocho.....na God go save u one day....

As u don cast how we take dey spot Dem now, hope u are happy.....

What make you think they even care if you find out ?

Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by IamAtAnger: 7:34pm On Aug 08, 2025

See this one...🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 omo mehn smh

AngelSlay:
Bro, I get it. You’ve met someone you really like she’s cool, cute, and things have been flowing well. Then boom you come across her TikTok and start noticing she’s filmed a bunch of videos in hotel rooms. That would make anyone pause and wonder what’s up.

But here’s the thing…

It’s okay to feel uneasy, but don’t assume the worst yet.

There could be plenty of reasons for those videos:

1. Maybe she travels a lot for work or meets clients in different places.
2. Maybe she likes the clean vibe of hotels for making videos. Or maybe those videos are just old stuff from a phase in her life before you came into the picture.

You didn’t see anything wild or compromising in the videos — just hotel rooms. That alone isn't proof of anything shady.

What I’d suggest
Talk to her. Not in a suspicious or “caught you” type of way. Just bring it up casually: “I saw some of your TikToks — some of them looked like they were in hotels. You travel a lot for work or just like the hotel vibe?”

Let her explain. Pay attention more to how she reacts than what she says — is she cool and honest about it? Or does she get weird and defensive?

Watch, don’t rush

You’re still getting to know her. There’s no need to make any big decisions now. Just keep your eyes open and let time reveal more. People can surprise you, in both good and bad ways, so don’t rush to judge, but don’t ignore red flags either.

Don’t do this though:

- Don’t start stalking her socials like you're building a case.
- Don’t bring it up in an accusatory way — it’ll put her on defense fast.

Don’t bottle it up either — that leads to overthinking and resentment.

Trust your gut, but give her a fair chance. You're not wrong to notice what you saw — just be smart about how you handle it. If she’s solid, she’ll respect the question. If she’s shady, you’ll sense it soon enough.

Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by TOPCRUISE(m): 7:40pm On Aug 08, 2025

tgmservice:
I recently started dating a cute lady which I really liked.

We started chatting in FB and shared contacts, after a while getting to talk and know each other we went on couple of dates to just see n talk.

Everything was fine and good, one day while browsing on my phone I stumbled upon her tiktok account.

She has lots of all these normal funny and dance tiktok videos, nothing suspicious until I noticed a good number of her videos are taken inside hotel rooms.

I was able to spot like 11 different hotels rooms she took videos. I know its an hotel room due to the arrangement, the telecom line and customized towels.

Though I didn’t see a guy in any of the videos, is this a reason to be worried as she is a fashion designer.

Please advise.

You should think of where you fit in among this queue

Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by JustcallmeFavou(f): 7:52pm On Aug 08, 2025

tgmservice:
I recently started dating a cute lady which I really liked.

We started chatting in FB and shared contacts, after a while getting to talk and know each other we went on couple of dates to just see n talk.

Everything was fine and good, one day while browsing on my phone I stumbled upon her tiktok account.

She has lots of all these normal funny and dance tiktok videos, nothing suspicious until I noticed a good number of her videos are taken inside hotel rooms.

I was able to spot like 11 different hotels rooms she took videos. I know its an hotel room due to the arrangement, the telecom line and customized towels.

Though I didn’t see a guy in any of the videos, is this a reason to be worried as she is a fashion designer.

Please advise.

Since you really like her, why not ask her about those videos? Some ladies who ain't proud of where they stay, pay to use hotel rooms to shoot some of their contents.

But her being on towels or hotel robes dancing seductively makes it a bit complicated to go with the above.

On the other hand, to know the truth, if you were able to get the names of the hotels. From the customized hotel robes, or towels, you can twist the question by saying; you have a close friend, who now works at the hotel she was at.

All you need do is send her pic, and name to him/her to help you check their records, and to know if she was alone or with a man at the time. Then watch the truth unveil itself effortlessly!

Re: Is She Into Hook-up? by Teymanhenry(f): 8:03pm On Aug 08, 2025

tgmservice:
Not twerking just normal dance

Is she an hotel ambassador? Why are you asking obvious questions? You've seen. Her taking pictures in several hotels. You don't need to come and ask questions cos it's clear she's hustling. Guys that see her in hotels will definitely ask for her contact and ride her. O guess she's beautiful that's why you want to doubt the obvious.... I want to guess you are a kid

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