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What Is Wrong With This Chat? by july21st(op):
So I chatted this person I met here in nl. She posted on a thread about relationship and marriage. This is someone that says she ready for marriage.
I blurred her name and contact to protect her privacy. I don't want to pre EMT what I feel that made me reply that way. But what do you think about this response?

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Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by Amotolongbo(f):
If someone knocks on your door and called himself thief, would you open your door for him?

But bro, that is not a good approach from you. Even if the lady appears desperate for relationship.
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by RealityKings1: 6:17pm On Aug 23, 2025
shes actually not interested in you but what you do.
this is a pure economic centered person. not a love oriented person
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by Ibkay32(m): 6:22pm On Aug 23, 2025
july21st:
So I chatted this person I met here in nl. She posted on a thread about relationship and marriage. This is someone that says she ready for marriage.
I blurred her name and contact to protect her privacy. I don't want to pre EMT what I feel that made me reply that way. But what do you think about this response?
I don’t think she’s really open to any relationship. She’s just looking for someone she can put her problem on to sponsor her business center and cover her bills, lol 😆
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by Julia25(f): 6:23pm On Aug 23, 2025
His presentation was wrong, although childish undecided. He shouldn't have done that, and to the 'economy-centric' dude above—How does asking for his occupation negate her "love orientation"? huh
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by july21st(op): 6:30pm On Aug 23, 2025
Julia25:
His presentation was wrong, although childish undecided. He shouldn't have done that, and to the 'economy-centric' dude above—How does asking for his occupation negate her "love orientation"? huh
Pls wrong presentation how? I already lost interest because I felt it's proper to make introductions first before delving into such.
I introduced myself. She didn't say her name. She is asking what I do.
Of all the things to ask someone in the world of. Is my occupation she is interested in.
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by Ibkay32(m): 6:30pm On Aug 23, 2025
Julia25:
His presentation was wrong, although childish undecided. He shouldn't have done that, and to the 'economy-centric' dude above—How does asking for his occupation negate her "love orientation"? huh
It seems you just join this forum?
Or you created a new account?
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by july21st(op): 6:31pm On Aug 23, 2025
Ibkay32:
I don’t think she’s really open to any relationship. She’s just looking for someone she can put her problem on to sponsor her business center and cover her bills, lol 😆
That's why I told her am a theif.
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by Julia25(f): 6:34pm On Aug 23, 2025
Ibkay32:
It seems you just join this forum?
Or you created a new account?
Just moved myself to join of recent, any problem?
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by JAOS(m): 6:34pm On Aug 23, 2025
Unbelievable 🤣🤣
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by Ibkay32(m): 6:38pm On Aug 23, 2025
july21st:
Pls wrong presentation how? I already lost interest because I felt it's proper to make introductions first before delving into such.
I introduced myself. She didn't say her name. She is asking what I do.
Of all the things to ask someone in the world of. Is my occupation she is interested in.
😂
Most girls nowadays believe relationships should be more of a transaction than a genuine connection. They don’t want to go through the process of building from scratch anymore; instead, they’re only interested in men who are already made. Sometimes you’d wonder if they think their parents had everything figured out and settled before they even came into existence.

The irony is that true growth and bonding often come from starting small together and watching things blossom. But many don’t want that patience, sacrifice, or shared journey anymore, they want the finished product without the process.
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by JAOS(m): 6:38pm On Aug 23, 2025
You even mentioned her account lol let wait for her response
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by Julia25(f): 6:38pm On Aug 23, 2025
july21st:
Pls wrong presentation how? I already lost interest because I felt it's proper to make introductions first before delving into such.
I introduced myself. She didn't say her name. She is asking what I do.
Of all the things to ask someone in the world of. Is my occupation she is interested in.
Well, she doesn't want to waste her time undecided.Although, her approach hinted "monetary desperation" but courtesy demands she should have at least told you her name. You were right there but there are other ways of reflecting this to her later on undecided
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by Ibkay32(m): 6:41pm On Aug 23, 2025
Julia25:
Just moved myself to join of recent, any problem?
Oh I see! No problem you still look fresh anyway
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by Samantha125(f): 6:42pm On Aug 23, 2025
Childish thread for childish people... Please, only tag me on serious issues.
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by Julia25(f): 6:42pm On Aug 23, 2025
Ibkay32:
😂
Most girls nowadays believe relationships should be more of a transaction than a genuine connection. They don’t want to go through the process of building from scratch anymore; instead, they’re only interested in men who are already made. Sometimes you’d wonder if they think their parents had everything figured out and settled before they even came into existence.

The irony is that true growth and bonding often come from starting small together and watching things blossom. But many don’t want that patience, sacrifice, or shared journey anymore, they want the finished product without the process.
The world’s integrity seems to have gone on vacation, so the idea of ‘building together’ is a bit of a fantasy these days. 😔 Many have tried, worked hard for their ‘beaus,’ undecided only to be tossed aside when a shiny new, younger ‘catch’ comes along. Classic! 💔 So, we’ve all kinda adapted to the game. If you’re trustworthy, great—we can build something solid. If not, well, maybe it’s time to already be ‘made.’ 🤷🏾‍♂️
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by july21st(op): 6:48pm On Aug 23, 2025
JAOS:
You even mentioned her account lol let wait for her response

Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by Ibkay32(m): 6:48pm On Aug 23, 2025
Julia25:
The world’s integrity seems to have gone on vacation, so the idea of ‘building together’ is a bit of a fantasy these days. 😔 Many have tried, worked hard for their ‘beaus,’ undecided only to be tossed aside when a shiny new, younger ‘catch’ comes along. Classic! 💔 So, we’ve all kinda adapted to the game. If you’re trustworthy, great—we can build something solid. If not, well, maybe it’s time to already be ‘made.’ 🤷🏾‍♂️
True, the world feels like it’s lost a bit of its integrity, but building from scratch still has its unique beauty. When two people start small and grow together, the bond is usually deeper because every success carries both their fingerprints. You don’t just share the rewards, you share the sacrifices, lessons, and memories that shaped them.

A ready-made relationship might look attractive, but it often misses that foundation of loyalty, patience, and resilience. What you build together is harder to destroy, because both parties know the value of the journey. That’s why starting from scratch, though not easy, can create something more genuine and lasting.
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by Suicideboy: 7:41pm On Aug 23, 2025
So you are gei mehnnnn grin
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by Saybal(m): 7:55pm On Aug 23, 2025
Your fellow men have been opening threads for the past 2 days on why they have to continue to spend money on all these ladies , they call the one that refused to spend broke men,it is too early to cry ,you shall all receive sense by fire by force ,the women are here for business no emotion attach,you will all continue to open more threads
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by franugo(m): 8:16pm On Aug 23, 2025
july21st:
So I chatted this person I met here in nl. She posted on a thread about relationship and marriage. This is someone that says she ready for marriage.
I blurred her name and contact to protect her privacy. I don't want to pre EMT what I feel that made me reply that way. But what do you think about this response?

Obembet
Mydd44
Seun
Cuteeme
Netwalkers
Samantha125
Npfl
She's obviously not one to waste time and you seem like a time waster from the chat, I find nothing wrong with her response, you goofed.

If you're still interested, you can chat her back and tell her you were only joking, make she no vex.

I see some people already saying she's materialistic like ibkay32, a woman looking to settle down will not be satisfied with someone who cannot take care of her or at least bring in something financially to the family. You guys like shaming people for their common_sense requests, I don't know why. Would you allow your sister marry a jobless man that will bring nothing to the home?
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by july21st(op): 8:25pm On Aug 23, 2025
franugo:
She's obviously not one to waste time and you seem like a time waster from the chat, I find nothing wrong with her response, you goofed.

If you're still interested, you can chat her back and tell her you were only joking, make she no vex.

I see some people already saying she's materialistic like ibkay32, a woman looking to settle down will not be satisfied with someone who cannot take care of her or at least bring in something financially to the family. You guys like shaming people for their common_sense requests, I don't know why. Would you allow your sister marry a jobless man that will bring nothing to the home?
Interested in what. I lost interest. She has no time to waste by even simply introducing herself or her name. I asked her if she is still open for relationship and she rudely jumped to my occupation. She don't have time to waste is my that have time to waste ba. I have a job and am comfortable
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by Ibkay32(m): 8:31pm On Aug 23, 2025
franugo:
She's obviously not one to waste time and you seem like a time waster from the chat, I find nothing wrong with her response, you goofed.

If you're still interested, you can chat her back and tell her you were only joking, make she no vex.

I see some people already saying she's materialistic like ibkay32, a woman looking to settle down will not be satisfied with someone who cannot take care of her or at least bring in something financially to the family. You guys like shaming people for their common_sense requests, I don't know why. Would you allow your sister marry a jobless man that will bring nothing to the home?
What's this one saying??
It seems you don't understand what the OP is trying to derive from the chat?
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by ExudeLoveToAll: 8:33pm On Aug 23, 2025
Amotolongbo:
If someone knock on your door and called himself thief, would you open your door for him?

But bro, that is not a good approach from you. Even if the lady appears desperate for relationship.
Did u read where he asked if she was open for a relationship? She didn't answer next is to size his pocket grin what do u do for a living grin. That answer is good for her, na thief him be abi thief no dey do d do?
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by Millitaryregime: 8:34pm On Aug 23, 2025
No long cap my bro,they just dey find engagement,no go take them too serious
I’m cute
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by franugo(m): 8:34pm On Aug 23, 2025
Ibkay32:
What's this one saying??
It seems you don't understand what the OP is trying to derive from the chat?
Ok, that's possible I guess, even though I think his point was pretty clear
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by franugo(m): 8:35pm On Aug 23, 2025
july21st:
Interested in what. I lost interest. She has no time to waste by even simply introducing herself or her name. I asked her if she is still open for relationship and she rudely jumped to my occupation. She don't have time to waste is my that have time to waste ba. I have a job and am comfortable
You did not ask for her name tho. Anyway, since you're not longer interested, it's a moot point... good night bro smiley
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by Peacecore: 8:37pm On Aug 23, 2025
july21st:
So I chatted this person I met here in nl. She posted on a thread about relationship and marriage. This is someone that says she ready for marriage.
I blurred her name and contact to protect her privacy. I don't want to pre EMT what I feel that made me reply that way. But what do you think about this response?

Obembet
Mydd44
Seun
Cuteeme
Netwalkers
Samantha125
Npfl
laff wan kee me for this your answer guy grin grin buh you answered well na financial woman e be grin
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by july21st(op): 8:38pm On Aug 23, 2025
franugo:
You did not ask for her name tho. Anyway, since you're not longer interested, it's a moot point... good night bro smiley
The one I asked her did she answer? Or am soppose to ask everything in one sentence. Good night you too
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by Amotolongbo(f): 8:43pm On Aug 23, 2025
ExudeLoveToAll:
Did u read where he asked if she was open for a relationship? She didn't answer next is to size his pocket grin what do u do for a living grin. That answer is good for her, na thief him be abi thief no dey do d do?
Was he meant to ask her that question?
That kinda question warrants that kinda response
Re: What Is Wrong With This Chat? by thomas2024: 9:15pm On Aug 23, 2025
Julia25:
His presentation was wrong, although childish undecided. He shouldn't have done that, and to the 'economy-centric' dude above—How does asking for his occupation negate her "love orientation"? huh
It does, it negates her love orientation. Why asking that as her first question? It really shows the kind of person she is.
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