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“Good day everyone.
I’m a 30-year-old guy, currently unmarried but finally ready to settle down and build something stable. I recently got into a serious relationship with a woman I truly like and respect. My intention is to make this relationship work.

However, I’ve been facing a problem that’s really bothering me.
The last time I had intimacy with a partner was in 2021. Since then, I haven’t been involved with anyone, although I masturbated a lot during that period. Now that I’m back in a real relationship, I’ve noticed that whenever we try to be intimate, I don’t feel the usual excitement or sensation. It’s like my body isn’t responding the way it should.

My girlfriend has started asking if she’s the problem, and it hurts me because she’s not. I honestly don’t know how to explain what’s happening. I’m not someone who is overly focused on sex, but I’m trying to build a family, and it’s painful knowing I’m not able to perform as expected.

This whole situation makes me feel sad and worried.
Please, I’d appreciate hearing from anyone who has gone through something similar or from people who understand what might be causing this. I’m looking for mature advice—physical, emotional, or medical—that can help me handle this situation before it affects my relationship.”

I am yet to understand your complaint.

Is it that your sexual organ does not get erected?

Start by explaining what you mean by no sensation properly...

brain54:
Start by explaining what you mean by no sensation properly...

Thanks for your response.
What I mean by ‘no sensation’ is that during intimacy, I don’t feel the normal arousal or excitement a man is supposed to feel. My body isn’t reacting the way it should — no strong desire, no buildup, and sometimes I can’t maintain momentum. It’s not that I don’t like my partner; emotionally I’m there, but physically it feels almost numb or unresponsive.

It’s confusing because this wasn’t an issue before 2021. After being inactive for years and relying mostly on self-pleasure, it seems like my body is not adjusting back to real intimacy. That’s the best way I can explain it

Hang on someone will drop advice
At least the first step is you acknowledging that you need help and you are willing to salvage your relationship

Oolalekan001:
Thanks for your response.
What I mean by ‘no sensation’ is that during intimacy, I don’t feel the normal arousal or excitement a man is supposed to feel. My body isn’t reacting the way it should — no strong desire, no buildup, and sometimes I can’t maintain momentum. It’s not that I don’t like my partner; emotionally I’m there, but physically it feels almost numb or unresponsive.

It’s confusing because this wasn’t an issue before 2021. After being inactive for years and relying mostly on self-pleasure, it seems like my body is not adjusting back to real intimacy. That’s the best way I can explain it

I'm not a medical practitioner...

But I think it can be linked to the act of self servicing which you engaged prior.

Since you just recently started having sex again. Give it a bit of time for your body and mind to readjust again. And if it doesn't then you can see a medical practitioner!

I haven't experienced it before but what I have to tell you is that you shouldn't rush things. Your body got used to self pleasure so it would take little time to go back to normal.......Engage in more fōrēplay with your girlfriend and erase the memory of mætû-rbation from your brain.




Don't tell me you wouldn't feel any sensation if she sucks your pipe like lollipop.....You won't even remember you were once a mæst-ūbator.

Guy, what you are experiencing sounds like 'Death Grip.'

This happens when you hold your thing too tight while ‘beating yo’ meat’ . Your organ gets used to that rough friction, so when you are with a real woman, you won't feel much because her body is soft and moist, not hard like your hand. You might not get the result you want.

Try these steps:

— Abstain from self-service for a while. Let your nerves recover. That bros don too suffer for your hand

— High blood sugar can kill bedroom performance, so go for a checkup.

— Stop overthinking your performance. Whether you last long or not, just be present. Anxiety makes it worse.

— Delete those porn on your phone. It messes with your brain. Stop it completely it doesn’t have a good effect on you.

— If you’re to relapse, use lubricant. We have lots of them in the market. No shame since you no wan stop 😂

— If symptoms persist, visit a doctor.

I think you need to find out more about your problem..maybe you think alot.. because even if you masturbate, it's a woman unclothedness and sex action you saw that aroused your organism..so having a woman around is like seeing what you watch on phone..so how and why won't you get erected seeing your woman naked? .. probably you don't love her,or you have other taught or maybe your spirit did not align with hers..

Oolalekan001:
“Good day everyone.
I’m a 30-year-old guy, currently unmarried but finally ready to settle down and build something stable. I recently got into a serious relationship with a woman I truly like and respect. My intention is to make this relationship work.

However, I’ve been facing a problem that’s really bothering me.
The last time I had intimacy with a partner was in 2021. Since then, I haven’t been involved with anyone, although I masturbated a lot during that period. Now that I’m back in a real relationship, I’ve noticed that whenever we try to be intimate, I don’t feel the usual excitement or sensation. It’s like my body isn’t responding the way it should.

My girlfriend has started asking if she’s the problem, and it hurts me because she’s not. I honestly don’t know how to explain what’s happening. I’m not someone who is overly focused on sex, but I’m trying to build a family, and it’s painful knowing I’m not able to perform as expected.

This whole situation makes me feel sad and worried.
Please, I’d appreciate hearing from anyone who has gone through something similar or from people who understand what might be causing this. I’m looking for mature advice—physical, emotional, or medical—that can help me handle this situation before it affects my relationship.”

Dude stop masturbating!

Eat healthy food and exercise

immortalcrown:
I am yet to understand your complaint.

Is it that your sexual organ does not get erected?

Let me explain it better.
My sexual organ does get erected, but the problem is that I don’t feel the normal sensitivity or excitement that should come with it. The erection is there, but the sensation is weak — almost like my body isn’t fully connected to what’s happening.

Because of that, I struggle to maintain the erection for long or stay fully engaged during intimacy. It feels more like a mechanical response, not a natural, enjoyable one.

That’s why I’m worried — physically I can get hard, but mentally and sensation-wise, something feels off

🎶“We say you a wanksta and you need to stop frontin'“🎼

Oolalekan001:
“Good day everyone.
.

My girlfriend has started asking if she’s the problem, and it hurts me because she’s notb.”

Like charges repel unlike charges attract.

I understand, I also masturbate frequently. This has caused me to lose my morning erection. I no longer feel the usual passion that fuels sexual desire. It now feels more like fulfilling a duty rather than experiencing true intimacy. I am still working on stopping and recovering.

Have you tried to play away match to ascertain if you are truly the problem

Oolalekan001:
Let me explain it better.
My sexual organ does get erected, but the problem is that I don’t feel the normal sensitivity or excitement that should come with it. The erection is there, but the sensation is weak — almost like my body isn’t fully connected to what’s happening.

Because of that, I struggle to maintain the erection for long or stay fully engaged during intimacy. It feels more like a mechanical response, not a natural, enjoyable one.

That’s why I’m worried — physically I can get hard, but mentally and sensation-wise, something feels off

Hmmm!

I have no idea what the problem could be.

Oolalekan001:
“Good day everyone.
I’m a 30-year-old guy, currently unmarried but finally ready to settle down and build something stable. I recently got into a serious relationship with a woman I truly like and respect. My intention is to make this relationship work.

However, I’ve been facing a problem that’s really bothering me.
The last time I had intimacy with a partner was in 2021. Since then, I haven’t been involved with anyone, although I masturbated a lot during that period. Now that I’m back in a real relationship, I’ve noticed that whenever we try to be intimate, I don’t feel the usual excitement or sensation. It’s like my body isn’t responding the way it should.

My girlfriend has started asking if she’s the problem, and it hurts me because she’s not. I honestly don’t know how to explain what’s happening. I’m not someone who is overly focused on sex, but I’m trying to build a family, and it’s painful knowing I’m not able to perform as expected.

This whole situation makes me feel sad and worried.
Please, I’d appreciate hearing from anyone who has gone through something similar or from people who understand what might be causing this. I’m looking for mature advice—physical, emotional, or medical—that can help me handle this situation before it affects my relationship.”

Stop it forever.

Eat watermelon, blend watermelon smoothies as water and drink water more.

Drink Horse urine early in the morning
Do this for 3 weeks and you will see wonders in the ozza room

Well you case sounds strange. I masturbate regularly and I sleep with my woman over 4 to 5 times a week and I'm 44 years old. My libido has been like this since I was 17 and I have always masturbated since then. I think you need to watch your diet, do exercises. It helps.

Try sex with your fellow gender

just know ya sphicter has been shifted

I don't understand you

Oolalekan001:
“Good day everyone.
I’m a 30-year-old guy, currently unmarried but finally ready to settle down and build something stable. I recently got into a serious relationship with a woman I truly like and respect. My intention is to make this relationship work.

However, I’ve been facing a problem that’s really bothering me.
The last time I had intimacy with a partner was in 2021. Since then, I haven’t been involved with anyone, although I masturbated a lot during that period. Now that I’m back in a real relationship, I’ve noticed that whenever we try to be intimate, I don’t feel the usual excitement or sensation. It’s like my body isn’t responding the way it should.

My girlfriend has started asking if she’s the problem, and it hurts me because she’s not. I honestly don’t know how to explain what’s happening. I’m not someone who is overly focused on sex, but I’m trying to build a family, and it’s painful knowing I’m not able to perform as expected.

This whole situation makes me feel sad and worried.
Please, I’d appreciate hearing from anyone who has gone through something similar or from people who understand what might be causing this. I’m looking for mature advice—physical, emotional, or medical—that can help me handle this situation before it affects my relationship.”

your body has adapted to years of jerking off.if you can stay away from it and refocus your mind on the lady it will help