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SpencerForbes:
Damn... a million and one things I have to experience. I’m always the one who initiates the breakups. All these good girls keep falling for a broken boy like me, thinking they are my paracetamol—only to realize this boy is beyond redemption. I always fall for the good ones, yet I’m always the villain. Just like sugar: the doctor warned them, but they just couldn’t resist🤦‍♂️

Yes!

And this was another phenomenon we all saw even in secondary school: that girls seem to love bad boys. (And na here God love me for as a bad boy, girls no still come near me, even though dem dey go for my guys who worse pass me).

However, i also remembered that in primary school and in the days when they were good, those same bad boys were the same people they hated and avoided relating with them. Only see them smiling and fornicking with them.

Men, i had to study it and now I know, hence why my post always exposes women and make them very very uncomfortable.

Dtruthspeaker:
Yes!

And this was another phenomenon we all saw even in secondary school: that girls seem to love bad boys. (And na here God love me for as a bad boy, girls no still come near me, even though dem dey go for my guys who worse pass me).

However, i also remembered that in primary school and in the days when they were good, those same bad boys were the same people they hated and avoided relating with them. Only see them smiling and fornicking with them.

Men, i had to study it and now I know, hence why my post always exposes women and make them very very uncomfortable.

Female dynamics are broad, but a "bad boy" with potential will always win over a nice guy. Remember when we were kids? I had a remote-control helicopter and all the best toys—the girls were always around, and being smart was just the cherry on top.

But as we entered our teenage years, "Civic Education" and "Social Studies" taught us to be "nice," and we became boring. As boys, you could be rough with a girl and she’d still come back—that’s the nature of the attraction. In adulthood, only a few men can tap back into those "boyhood feelings." Hypergamy is real, but if you can master "Advanced Boyhood," you won't even care about it. A bad boy (≠toxic) doesn't care if he's handsome; he just triggers a woman’s deep-seated instincts that he needs to be cared for, and she’s in.

Diamond098454:
There are a lot of good girls out there.

If there where threads like this won't be popping up

https://www.nairaland.com/7463478/very-hard-meet-good-girl#118884524

https://www.nairaland.com/6287371/it-hard-find-good-woman#96575017

SpencerForbes:
Female dynamics are broad, but a "bad boy" with potential will always win over a nice guy. Remember when we were kids? I had a remote-control helicopter and all the best toys—the girls were always around, and being smart was just the cherry on top.

But as we entered our teenage years, "Civic Education" and "Social Studies" taught us to be "nice," and we became boring. As boys, you could be rough with a girl and she’d still come back—that’s the nature of the attraction. In adulthood, only a few men can tap back into those "boyhood feelings." Hypergamy is real, but if you can master "Advanced Boyhood," you won't even care about it. A bad boy (≠toxic) doesn't care if he's handsome; he just triggers a woman’s deep-seated instincts that he needs to be cared for, and she’s in.

That is because you define win in terms of fornication and yet, here you are finding it difficult to marry a girl exactly how girls are now desperate to marry even if it is second wifing.

So, both of you still lost as you never married the girls you fornicked with meanwhile both of you are here plotting how to marry.

So, its a case of winning the battle and losing the war.

Dtruthspeaker:
That is because you define win in terms of fornication and yet, here you are finding it difficult to marry a girl exactly how girls are now desperate to marry even if it is second wifing.

So, both of you still lost as you never married the girls you fornicked with meanwhile both of you are here plotting how to marry.

So, it’s a case of winning the battle and losing the war.

From the little I’ve seen, "Happily Ever After" is a myth in modern marriage. Why stress? Thanks, but no thanks. I’m passing on the marriage thing for now. My peace of mind comes first. 🧘‍♂️

Gerrard59:
What about older men (35+) who are struggling financially? We know that such men exist in today's society. What is their fate?

There is a woman for every man that desires to marry or be with a woman

Jman06:
That is how nature made it!
Those girls date/marry older men because those are the men that'll easily provide for them and their offsprings without questions. It is very easy for me to want to provide for a younger girl than for my age mate.
My age mate may be at par with me mentally, academically and financially, so I'll feel like I'm being shortchanged if I'm to provide for her, but if I'm dating/marrying a younger girl, everything flows naturally.

So op, it is hypergamy at work and there's nothing you can do about it other than to wait until you get to that level where you become a spec for younger girls.

First, marriage has proven that there is no provision without questionings.

Secondly, you now prove that it is a lie and wrong to teach that "couples should grow and do/share everything together". For in this arrangement the man has provided everything like Airbnb so the woman is just doing pack and enter. And this is where I laugh at wives when they complain that there husbands do not see them as human beings but as properties. And I say to myself, what did you expect?

And today, men are complaining what is a woman bringing to the table?

So again i ask men, what do you expect after all you say that it is your duty as men to provide for her?

And clearly you ran from your mate because with a younger girl you hold all the aces where you get to do as you like and get away with it meanwhile you are not expecting that she must plot to reduce your advantages over her.

So how do you people expect that your marriages would be good with all the schemings and plannings of power tussle like apc vs pdp vs adc? You 2 elephants are already having a silent fight and both of you are enemies in this your hypergamy arrangement

Meanwhile, it is funny how you have very good relationships with your peers because of the mutual respect you have for each other.

Dtruthspeaker:
First, marriage has proven that there is no provision without questionings.

Secondly, you now prove that it is a lie and wrong to teach that "couples should grow and do/share everything together". For in this arrangement the man has provided everything like Airbnb so the woman is just doing pack and enter. And this is where I laugh at wives when they complain that there husbands do not see them as human beings but as properties. And I say to myself, what did you expect?

And today, men are complaining what is a woman bringing to the table?

So again i ask men, what do you expect after all you say that it is your duty as men to provide for her?

And clearly you ran from your mate because with a younger girl you hold all the aces where you get to do as you like and get away with it meanwhile you are not expecting that she must plot to reduce your advantages over her.

So how do you people expect that your marriages would be good with all the schemings and plannings of power tussle like apc vs pdp vs adc? You 2 elephants are already having a silent fight and both of you are enemies in this your hypergamy arrangement

Meanwhile, it is funny how you have very good relationships with your peers because of the mutual respect you have for each other.

Forget what the woke generation might be saying, in marriage, the man is still expected to provide for his wife and family.

Even the holy books have it recorded that a man is the provider of his home. Women generally don't joke with that part of the scriptures and that is why hypergamy is a thing for all of them. So, just make peace with that arrangement and stop worrying yourself about being with girls who are your age mates. The good thing is that the older you get, the more beautiful girls are born. So, by the time you're ready, you'll definitely find yourself a girl of your choice.

Jman06:
Forget what the woke generation might be saying, in marriage, the man is still expected to provide for his wife and family.

Even the holy books have it recorded that a man is the provider of his home. Women generally don't joke with that part of the scriptures and that is why hypergamy is a thing for all of them. So, just make peace with that arrangement and stop worrying yourself about being with girls who are your age mates. The good thing is that the older you get, the more beautiful girls are born. So, by the time you're ready, you'll definitely find yourself a girl of your choice.

Everyone can see that marriage is a partnership and not a sole providorship.

And the word partnership means that everything is shared.

So as a man is already having a duty to provide for himself, so also does the woman have that same duty too.

Which is why we made the mistake of toasting our mates for by nature we know that things would get better if boy and girl cooperate and of course there would be equality and fairness and original friendship.

So, it is actually wrong to say that a man is expected to provide for his wife (like she is a child and children don't have rights) and that she cannot provide for herself nor provide for the man either.

In this regard, then it is clear that like Muslims you are still practicing child marriage as a wife is supposed to be an adult who can take care of herself and others too just as a man does.

So, no man/husband has that obligation to turn a full grown adult into a child, even the Bible shows that.

And sorry, i am more than 20yrs happily married so I am not missing anything but I'm just wondering and pittying how people completely miss this great thing called marriage.

And now I can clearly say that hypergamy is one of the causes of bad marriages.

Dtruthspeaker:
If there where threads like this won't be popping up

https://www.nairaland.com/7463478/very-hard-meet-good-girl#118884524

https://www.nairaland.com/6287371/it-hard-find-good-woman#96575017

These are old threads o

Imagine the degree of deterioration in 2026

Karlifate:
These are old threads o

Imagine the degree of deterioration in 2026

Bros, we are looking at it oo It is most horrible