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It took me many years to realize that my father is a NICE guy.

The typical romantic that spoils the wife

My dad told me that I should always listen to my mum no matter what.

That my mum is my 2nd God
And I quickly shut him down!!! Nonesense

My mum has been manipulating my dad for many years. And he keeps doing what she says.

After over 20 years
I notice that being nice to a woman is the worst thing you can ever do as a man.

My mother still complains about everything despite how many mountain my dad has to move to make her happy. She still complains

Today he had a mental breakdown and since I'm the only one that calls out my mum bullshit.
Other siblings will side my mother.
So He meet me and explained to me.

I felt so much pity for my dad.
And vowed never to make his mistake.
Never treat your wife like she Is GOLD
Never exalt your wife like she is a goddess
She will finish you recklessly..

I am very brutal with my mumsi
Amd she kinda respect me fir that
I dey call her bull crap on sight. Her manipulation no fit work for me

But na my popsi wey still dey do lover boy
Dey vex me. Mumsi just dey use am do shege.

Do not be like my father

JackDaAlienz:
It took me many years to realize that my father is a NICE guy.

The typical romantic that spoils the wife

My dad told me that I should always listen to my mum no matter what.

That my mum is my 2nd God
And I quickly shut him down!!! Nonesense

My mum has been manipulating my dad for many years. And he keeps doing what she says.

After over 20 years
I notice that being nice to a woman is the worst thing you can ever do as a man.

My mother still complains about everything despite how many mountain my dad has to move to make her happy. She still complains

Today he had a mental breakdown and since I'm the only one that calls out my mum bullshit.
Other siblings will side my mother.
So He meet me and explained to me.

I felt so much pity for my dad.
And vowed never to make his mistake.
Never treat your wife like she Is GOLD
Never exalt your wife like she is a goddess
She will finish you recklessly..

I am very brutal with my mumsi
Amd she kinda respect me fir that
I dey call her bull crap on sight. Her manipulation no fit work for me

But na my popsi wey still dey do lover boy
Dey vex me. Mumsi just dey use am do shege.

Do not be like my father

Lol... You didn't know the mind of things your papa use your mama eyes see during their younger years...
Now he is getting the payback...
Be good with a woman from the onset...
I mean be brutally honest..
And she will be good to you..
But if you were maltreating during your younger years and now because age is no longer in your side you started forming Mr nice guy...
She go use your eyes see shege

JackDaAlienz:
It took me many years to realize that my father is a NICE guy.

The typical romantic that spoils the wife

My dad told me that I should always listen to my mum no matter what.

That my mum is my 2nd God
And I quickly shut him down!!! Nonesense

My mum has been manipulating my dad for many years. And he keeps doing what she says.

After over 20 years
I notice that being nice to a woman is the worst thing you can ever do as a man.

My mother still complains about everything despite how many mountain my dad has to move to make her happy. She still complains

Today he had a mental breakdown and since I'm the only one that calls out my mum bullshit.
Other siblings will side my mother.
So He meet me and explained to me.

I felt so much pity for my dad.
And vowed never to make his mistake.
Never treat your wife like she Is GOLD
Never exalt your wife like she is a goddess
She will finish you recklessly..

I am very brutal with my mumsi
Amd she kinda respect me fir that
I dey call her bull crap on sight. Her manipulation no fit work for me

But na my popsi wey still dey do lover boy
Dey vex me. Mumsi just dey use am do shege.

Do not be like my father

Do not learn the hard way

Not everybody has parent that they can comms with. Someone reading your thread wishes to be you. But it is what it is.

Tell me why is a 70 yr old man disturbing himself using washing machine to wash his wife clothes.
Only for the wife to complain that he is pouring water everywhere.

Walahi I look at my dad and I vow to never be like him. He is too nice.

And mumsi being a woman is milking his niceness to the max. I have never seen this type of lover boy nonesense.

The woman just dey suffer am
And he is still doing love love.
It can meva be me

JackDaAlienz:
And vowed never to make his mistake.
Never treat your wife like she Is GOLD
Never exalt your wife like she is a goddess
She will finish you recklessly..

I am very brutal with my mumsi

It seems to me like you assume every woman is like your "mumsi", so you plan to treat women like you think your dad should have treated your mumsi.

My only hope is you marry a woman who does behave like your mumsi so your conclusion is justified. It would be very sad if you marry a goddess who is gold but treat her like she is dross and a demon, because you'd end up finishing yourself recklessly and your children will suffer.

budaatum:
It seems to me like you assume every woman is like your "mumsi", so you plan to treat women like you think your dad should have treated your mumsi.

My only hope is you marry a woman who does behave like your mumsi so your conclusion is justified. It would be very sad if you marry a goddess who is gold but treat her like she is dross and a demon, because you'd end up finishing yourself recklessly and your children will suffer.

Dey play

I have dated plenty Nigerian babes
I have observed that once you are nice with them they expoilt you and begin to take you for granted.

The way I brutally handle my mum
She gives me respect like mad.
My yes is my yes. My no is my no

No amount of her manipulation dey work on me. It is so bad that my popsi usually side with her

OgaSeun:
Lol... You didn't know the mind of things your papa use your mama eyes see during their younger years...
Now he is getting the payback...
Be good with a woman from the onset...
I mean be brutally honest..
And she will be good to you..
But if you were maltreating during your younger years and now because age is no longer in your side you started forming Mr nice guy...
She go use your eyes see shege

How can a wife insult husband in front of children. Because he is kind and gentle

Omo my mama hit jackpot
Because if na me na uppercut she go chop

I think I got my mum craziness
My sister got the kindness of my dad
And her husband too dey exploit am

Wahala for who kind for this country

Once you are kind gentle and nice
Nigerian Women will squeeze you till last drop comes out.

I don't even know how my p man survives
But I swore to never ever ever be like him

JackDaAlienz:
Dey play

I have dated plenty Nigerian babes
I have observed that once you are nice with them they expoilt you and begin to take you for granted.

The way I brutally handle my mum
She gives me respect like mad.
My yes is my yes. My no is my no

No amount of her manipulation dey work on me. It is so bad that my popsi usually side with her.

And because you "have dated plenty Nigerian babes", all Nigerian babes are all like your mumsi, yet, your argument is based on all Nigerian men not being like your popsi?

Sorry, but your supposed logic is illogical, and I'd be very interested to read what you have to say when you marry a wife of your own.

My advise is, go get some uneducated woman from your village that you'd be more able to brutally handle, but make sure her family don't know you are brutally handling their daughter or they might not appreciate your brutality.

Also know that fear is not respect. You'd learn this as you grow if you don't already.

budaatum:
It seems to me like you assume every woman is like your "mumsi", so you plan to treat women like you think your dad should have treated your mumsi.

My only hope is you marry a woman who does behave like your mumsi so your conclusion is justified. It would be very sad if you marry a goddess who is gold but treat her like she is dross and a demon, because you'd end up finishing yourself recklessly and your children will suffer.

If I marry a goddess I go destroy her mentally first make she knows say she ain't shiiiit. And can't control Me!!!

Let her know say any nonesense
She is replaceable. Make her mind clear

That is the only way she will love you

budaatum:
And because you "have dated plenty Nigerian babes", all Nigerian babes are all like your mumsi, yet, your argument is based on all Nigerian men not being like your popsi?

Sorry, but your supposed logic is illogical, and I'd be very interested to read what you have to say when you marry a wife of your own.

My advise is, go get some uneducated woman from your village that you'd be more able to brutally handle, but make sure her family don't know you are brutally handling their daughter or they might not appreciate your brutality.

Also know that fear is not respect. You'd learn this as you grow if you don't already.

Fear is respect

We fear fire because we respect how deadly and brutal fire can be. That why we fear fire.

As for woman
They love it when you treat them bad
They view kindness as weakness

You mean your old Man issa first grade simp😮 abi nah me nor understand your ranting wella... Alienz🌚

Ki11YurSev:
You mean your old Man issa first grade simp😮 abi nah me nor understand your ranting wella... Alienz🌚

The man dey shame me bro
He get PhD for Simping
He is a successful man but his only problem is he is too nice and worship his wife.
Mumsi come dey drag am like pet chuwawa
Do this, go here. Stop, turn left, turn right

As a guy I go discuss something with popsi
Next thing he go say let me discuss with your mum before I conclude.
Like seriously!!! Must you involve your wife!!
If mumsi come say No
Popsi will come and tell me your mother said it's not good idea. So I won't be part of it.

Like excuse me? Who is the man of the house??
I pray non of my kids inherit my father Simping DNA. It is actually shameful

JackDaAlienz:
Fear is respect

We fear fire because we respect how deadly and brutal fire can be. That why we fear fire.

As for woman
They love it when you treat them bad
They view kindness as weakness

Seun doesn't want you to read my response because he does not fear nor respect me.

https://x.com/BudaAtum/status/2034433227239178494?s=20

Jack wait u til you marry fess before you test if your wife fit manipulate you or not. Wife and mother na two diff titles. You will soon know “fly wey perch for scrotum, na gently dem de pursue am.

"The day the child realizes that all adults are imperfect, he becomes an adolescent; the day he forgives them, he becomes an adult; the day he forgives himself, he becomes wise."

While you are not responsible for the programming you received in childhood, as an adult, you are 100% responsible for fixing it, breaking dysfunctional cycles, and managing your own healing and growth. Though upbringing shapes initial behaviors, adulthood requires taking ownership to rewrite your narrative and consciously choose your actions. Children begin by loving their parents; as they grow older they judge them, sometimes they forgive them." - Oscar Wilde. Don't take this trauma to your future relationships because you will continue to repeat the cycle instead of you learning from it and making your own life work. You will be trying to avenge your site your dad when he has a different personality, different state of mind, different age of love and marriage, different economy, different generation, and so on. You will be doing the work that wasn't given to you. You won't break free because you've made judgement on what you currently see.

"What an adult sees sitting, a child climbing on the tallest tree cannot see" - African Proverb. This means that a son may lack the life experience to see the true strength or wisdom behind his father’s choices.

JackDaAlienz:
The man dey shame me bro
He get PhD for Simping
He is a successful man but his only problem is he is too nice and worship his wife.
Mumsi come dey drag am like pet chuwawa
Do this, go here. Stop, turn left, turn right

As a guy I go discuss something with popsi
Next thing he go say let me discuss with your mum before I conclude.
Like seriously!!! Must you involve your wife!!
If mumsi come say No
Popsi will come and tell me your mother said it's not good idea. So I won't be part of it.

Like excuse me? Who is the man of the house??
I pray non of my kids inherit my father Simping DNA. It is actually shameful

In all of these you haven't said what you all children are doing for your dad. Why would a 70 year old man be washing clothes while you are there watching him?

You are trying to be a better version of your dad yet we didn't see you say how you have supported him.

E fit be juju.
You mama don tie your papa on top one tall tree.

JackDaAlienz:
The man dey shame me bro
He get PhD for Simping
He is a successful man but his only problem is he is too nice and worship his wife.
Mumsi come dey drag am like pet chuwawa
Do this, go here. Stop, turn left, turn right

As a guy I go discuss something with popsi
Next thing he go say let me discuss with your mum before I conclude.
Like seriously!!! Must you involve your wife!!
If mumsi come say No
Popsi will come and tell me your mother said it's not good idea. So I won't be part of it.

Like excuse me? Who is the man of the house??
I pray non of my kids inherit my father Simping DNA. It is actually shameful

Oh boy! Make I nor lie... that kind dirty behavior go dey vex person normal. Walai I happy as you nor be like ham(your simp pman.. omo e dey somehow man. Like very yeye and disgusting behavior for man especially papa of the house... Sheesh 🙄

Nice one Alienz💯 You too much broski!!

JackDaAlienz:
It took me many years to realize that my father is a NICE guy.

The typical romantic that spoils the wife

My dad told me that I should always listen to my mum no matter what.

That my mum is my 2nd God
And I quickly shut him down!!! Nonesense

My mum has been manipulating my dad for many years. And he keeps doing what she says.

After over 20 years
I notice that being nice to a woman is the worst thing you can ever do as a man.

My mother still complains about everything despite how many mountain my dad has to move to make her happy. She still complains

Today he had a mental breakdown and since I'm the only one that calls out my mum bullshit.
Other siblings will side my mother.
So He meet me and explained to me.

I felt so much pity for my dad.
And vowed never to make his mistake.
Never treat your wife like she Is GOLD
Never exalt your wife like she is a goddess
She will finish you recklessly..

I am very brutal with my mumsi
Amd she kinda respect me fir that
I dey call her bull crap on sight. Her manipulation no fit work for me

But na my popsi wey still dey do lover boy
Dey vex me. Mumsi just dey use am do shege.

Do not be like my father

If a woman will try use my eyes do shege at old age, I will marry a new wife at that old age that will take care of me. Men believing that marrying a second wise is a taboo is the reason women have flex over them.
I won't tell a woman to be nice or evil, but trying to eat your cake and have it , with my money o, won't work.
The prayer is for you not to be broke or depend on a woman for sustainance.... A man of means should not allow anything short of respect from a woman.

OgaSeun:
Lol... You didn't know the mind of things your papa use your mama eyes see during their younger years...
Now he is getting the payback...
Be good with a woman from the onset...
I mean be brutally honest..
And she will be good to you..
But if you were maltreating during your younger years and now because age is no longer in your side you started forming Mr nice guy...
She go use your eyes see shege

All these mumu takes indicate you lack comprehension or you are just a simp.

JackDaAlienz:
Dey play

I have dated plenty Nigerian babes
I have observed that once you are nice with them they expoilt you and begin to take you for granted.

The way I brutally handle my mum
She gives me respect like mad.
My yes is my yes. My no is my no

No amount of her manipulation dey work on me. It is so bad that my popsi usually side with her

You are a real nigga.

Being brutally honest and calling out women's bullcrap is the way.

I once heard my mom telling someone that I hate women just cuz I have low tolerance.

My chances of marrying a woman is low.

FreeSpirited:
If a woman will try use my eyes do she gets at old age, I will marry a new wife at that old age that will take care of me. Men believing that marrying a second wise is a taboo is the reason women have flex over them.
I won't tell a woman to be nice or evil, but trying to eat your cake and have it , with my money o, won't work.
The prayer is for you not to be broke or depend on a woman for sustainance.... A man of means should not allow anything short of respect from a woman.

I am happy that men are now voicing out against the manipulation that women have hold on men for the longest of time. Gosh I am happy seeing this and this is not only happening on social media but real life. Omoh e sweet me

Kaido:
You are a real nigga.

Being brutally honest and calling out women's bullcrap is the way.

I once heard my mom telling someone that I hate women just cuz I have low tolerance.

My chances of marrying a woman is low.

Omoh peace of mind and self sufficiency is the goal ooo

Understanding women is the beginning of freedom for every man.

kingthreat:
I met an old friend and all he was doing was hyping his wife. When I visited them together, he kept on adoring her in front of me like he was paid to do it. Financial crisis recently hit them, he now does Uber while his wife via other connections was able to japa alone. I don't know if he's still adoring her or maybe he has hopes that she will connect him to join her.

His usefulness expired and so she left him behind, he wasn't informed 😂

marlow1962:
As a man, the only people I will love unconditionally is my kids and myself.

This is the foundation of FREEDOM.

JackDaAlienz:
It took me many years to realize that my father is a NICE guy.

The typical romantic that spoils the wife

My dad told me that I should always listen to my mum no matter what.

That my mum is my 2nd God
And I quickly shut him down!!! Nonesense

My mum has been manipulating my dad for many years. And he keeps doing what she says.

After over 20 years
I notice that being nice to a woman is the worst thing you can ever do as a man.

My mother still complains about everything despite how many mountain my dad has to move to make her happy. She still complains

Today he had a mental breakdown and since I'm the only one that calls out my mum bullshit.
Other siblings will side my mother.
So He meet me and explained to me.

I felt so much pity for my dad.
And vowed never to make his mistake.
Never treat your wife like she Is GOLD
Never exalt your wife like she is a goddess
She will finish you recklessly..

I am very brutal with my mumsi
Amd she kinda respect me fir that
I dey call her bull crap on sight. Her manipulation no fit work for me

But na my popsi wey still dey do lover boy
Dey vex me. Mumsi just dey use am do shege.

Do not be like my father

I met an old friend and all he was doing was hyping his wife. When I visited them together, he kept on adoring her in front of me like he was paid to do it. Financial crisis recently hit them, he now does Uber while his wife via other connections was able to japa alone. I don't know if he's still adoring her or maybe he has hopes that she will connect him to join her.

As a man, the only people I will love unconditionally is my kids and myself.

But to think about it, I'm kinds getting the feeling that marriage never favours men, like fr fr. Aside the kids (of which some, if not all might not be for him) I see nothing favourable for men in marriage. You suffer to get married and after that you still continuing suffering. This makes me sad as a young man. I don't want to get married and still continuing suffering.

Do you know weather your mom has bottled him for him to be acting like that?

JackDaAlienz:
Tell me why is a 70 yr old man disturbing himself using washing machine to wash his wife clothes.
Only for the wife to complain that he is pouring water everywhere.

Walahi I look at my dad and I vow to never be like him. He is too nice.

And mumsi being a woman is milking his niceness to the max. I have never seen this type of lover boy nonesense.

The woman just dey suffer am
And he is still doing love love.
It can meva be me

that is why a times I opt for second wife.

Your friend was manipulated by the wife and he used his life savings to sponsor her trip abroad, only for him to go down to zero.

kingthreat:
I met an old friend and all he was doing was hyping his wife. When I visited them together, he kept on adoring her in front of me like he was paid to do it. Financial crisis recently hit them, he now does Uber while his wife via other connections was able to japa alone. I don't know if he's still adoring her or maybe he has hopes that she will connect him to join her.

mark my words, she will meet her ex over there or start another relationship.

Your friend was used to get to her destination period.

JackDaAlienz:
It took me many years to realize that my father is a NICE guy.

The typical romantic that spoils the wife

My dad told me that I should always listen to my mum no matter what.

That my mum is my 2nd God
And I quickly shut him down!!! Nonesense

My mum has been manipulating my dad for many years. And he keeps doing what she says.

After over 20 years
I notice that being nice to a woman is the worst thing you can ever do as a man.

My mother still complains about everything despite how many mountain my dad has to move to make her happy. She still complains

Today he had a mental breakdown and since I'm the only one that calls out my mum bullshit.
Other siblings will side my mother.
So He meet me and explained to me.

I felt so much pity for my dad.
And vowed never to make his mistake.
Never treat your wife like she Is GOLD
Never exalt your wife like she is a goddess
She will finish you recklessly..

I am very brutal with my mumsi
Amd she kinda respect me fir that
I dey call her bull crap on sight. Her manipulation no fit work for me

But na my popsi wey still dey do lover boy
Dey vex me. Mumsi just dey use am do shege.

Do not be like my father

FGP Ishilove come and save your gender from this roasting

JackDaAlienz:
Fear is respect

We fear fire because we respect how deadly and brutal fire can be. That why we fear fire.

As for woman
They love it when you treat them bad
They view kindness as weakness

Men should stop chasing love and validation....As a man be rather feared than loved...

budaatum:
And because you "have dated plenty Nigerian babes", all Nigerian babes are all like your mumsi, yet, your argument is based on all Nigerian men not being like your popsi?

Sorry, but your supposed logic is illogical, and I'd be very interested to read what you have to say when you marry a wife of your own.

My advise is, go get some uneducated woman from your village that you'd be more able to brutally handle, but make sure her family don't know you are brutally handling their daughter or they might not appreciate your brutality.

Also know that fear is not respect. You'd learn this as you grow if you don't already.

Preach, aunty.