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Bahamas95:
I don't agree with you at all!

Society also label and call men all sort of names when they get to certain age and still unmarried.


* If he's struggling they would mock him that he isn't capable of taking care of himself and he's talking about marriage.


* If he's doing well financially and decides to stay unmarried they'll say he's a ritualist.




Etc

Bahamas95:
I don't agree with you at all!

Society also label and call men all sort of names when they get to certain age and still unmarried.


* If he's struggling they would mock him that he isn't capable of taking care of himself and he's talking about marriage.


* If he's doing well financially and decides to stay unmarried they'll say he's a ritualist.




Etc

SyrusdeHansome:
We struggle with accountability.

When a marriage ends in divorce, many of us are quick to blame the woman without even knowing the full story. We often assume it’s due to her bad character, love for money, or other flaws—even when the man may be the one at fault.

When a woman is between 30–50+ and unmarried, we judge and label her. We assume it’s because of her past, her character, or her choices. Yet when a man is 49–60+ and unmarried, we make excuses for him, downplaying the same factors we criticize in women. The double standard is obvious.

We shame and reject single mothers without understanding their stories—whether their situation came from hardship, abuse, or mistakes. Meanwhile, we praise single fathers and say they can still marry anyone they want.

When a woman rejects a man’s romantic approach, instead of respecting her decision, we jump to conclusions—calling her materialistic or claiming she “doesn’t like nice guys,” without knowing her reasons.
Let’s be honest with ourselves: many of us lack character. We avoid self-reflection and accountability.
Yes, some women have their faults too—but as men, we must start looking inward and doing better. Growth begins when we stop pointing fingers and start taking responsibility.

Goo0dHardDick:
This is the dumbest post I have ever come across to.

Do you think a man and a woman is the same? Women gets mature early far more than men. A girl of 16 already knows what she is doing should a guy approach her. A woman's prime starts at 18-23 and it expected of her to get husband at such age and settle down. A man's prime starts at 30 and above.

Please enough of this discussion

tanigororo:
Simple Question for You:
Who Tends to Loose More in every relationship?
Who Tends to Loose more in every relationship?

SyrusdeHansome:
Let's not deceive ourselves bro. I'm a guy and you're a guy and we both know that most times we only woe girls just to sleep with them and not necessarily because we're ready for marriage. Tell me the truth, why haven't you married any of those girls u slept with? Is it because they were all bad or simply because you weren't ready for commitment? Some of you will most times come to nairaland and form what you're not in reality. What's that thing that first come to your mind when you see a new girl? Is it commitment or sex? Is it marriage or sex thoughts?

ExudeLoveToAll:
Mr man when a man at 40 is broke what do they call him? When a woman is broke what does the society call her? A broke woman gets married and still blames the man for her financial woes but a broke man who gets married can't blame the woman for his financial woes without consequences. Women win some and men and in some such is life don't break your heads but if you want to do that in both scenarios.

SyrusdeHansome:
Let's not deceive ourselves bro. I'm a guy and you're a guy and we both know that most times we only woo girls just to sleep with them and not necessarily because we're ready for marriage. Tell me the truth, why haven't you married any of those girls u slept with? Is it because they were all bad or simply because you weren't ready for commitment? Some of you will most times come to nairaland and form what you're not in reality. What's that thing that first come to your mind when you see a new girl? Is it commitment or sex? Is it marriage or sex thoughts?

SyrusdeHansome:
We struggle with accountability.

When a marriage ends in divorce, many of us are quick to blame the woman without even knowing the full story. We often assume it’s due to her bad character, love for money, or other flaws—even when the man may be the one at fault.

When a woman is between 30–50+ and unmarried, we judge and label her. We assume it’s because of her past, her character, or her choices. Yet when a man is 49–60+ and unmarried, we make excuses for him, downplaying the same factors we criticize in women. The double standard is obvious.

We shame and reject single mothers without understanding their stories—whether their situation came from hardship, abuse, or mistakes. Meanwhile, we praise single fathers and say they can still marry anyone they want.

When a woman rejects a man’s romantic approach, instead of respecting her decision, we jump to conclusions—calling her materialistic or claiming she “doesn’t like nice guys,” without knowing her reasons.
Let’s be honest with ourselves: many of us lack character. We avoid self-reflection and accountability.
Yes, some women have their faults too—but as men, we must start looking inward and doing better. Growth begins when we stop pointing fingers and start taking responsibility.

tanigororo:
Simple Question for You:
Who Tends to Loose More in every relationship?
Who Tends to Loose more in every relationship?

Kobojunkie:
In Nigeria, the woman loses out the most because the Law does not recognize her contributions(time, efforts, and maybe even financial investment) as part of the marital property by default. A man is literally able to kick a woman(and her children) out of his life without consequence. That is what is obtainable by default in a place like Nigeria to this day. 😒

tanigororo:
Simple Question for You:
Who Tends to Loose More in every relationship?
Who Tends to Loose more in every relationship?

tanigororo:
✓ That's when the relationship goes south, an average Nigeria man is judged by what he brings to the table first.
✓ Nobody cares much about any woman financial position before she is ever considered for marriage.
✓ The second bitter reality is that: Whenever a Man starts making money the society deem it necessary for him to have a wife.
✓ While whenever a woman has money she is advised to stand on her own and she doesn't need a Man.