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Oftentimes, some men find it difficult to draw a clear line between lack of interest and poor communication in a woman. There are scenarios that should clearly show you that someone does not have any interest in you, and not that they possess poor communication skills.

Look at these:

SCENE 1

Me: Hello, how are you doing today?
Lady: Oh, I am doing great, and you?
Me: I am fine. I would have called you
last night, but I felt it was already
late.
Lady: I see. Anyway, I went to bed late
so I would have picked the call if
you had done that.
Me: It appears you sleep late. Why?
Lady: I am taking professional online
courses, and I usually take
classes before going to bed.
Me: What is your schedule like this
Saturday? Maybe we can hang out
at Grillz Gardens and talk.
Lady: That will be nice. I will check my
schedule and let you know by
tomorrow

SCENE 2

Me: Hello, how are you doing today?
Lady: Fine
Me: I would have called you last night,
but I felt it was already late.
Lady: K
Me: What is your schedule like this
Saturday? Maybe we can hang out
at Grillz Gardens and talk.
Lady: Busy
Me: Can we find another time for that?
Lady: Dunno

Now, Scene 1 shows a lady who might not be necessarily skilled in conversation, but has some level of interest in me. Scene 2 shows a lady who might not necessarily lack communication skills, but has little or no interest in me.

These things cannot be forced. The signs are already there in the chats. You do not need a babalawo or prophet to tell you that the lady in Scene 2 does not have interest in you.

Sometimes, some men waste their time trying to make her communicate better by sending more and more messages, or calling her phone countless times. My brother, life is already hard for you, so why punish yourself further?

That lady you think lack communication skills is actually bombarding the DM of another man. She replies his chats with both compound and complex sentences that carry all the punctuation marks you can think of. Na your turn she for dey do that one-word response. That na because SHE IS NOT INTERESTED. Read the handwriting! Someone who has interest in you cannot be too tired, lazy, or busy to reply your chats in a mutual way.

Another one is sending WhatsApp messages to a lady you are trying to befriend, she reads your messages and does not respond. Then you begin to see her WhatsApp status updates, with memes, trivial stuffs, and birthday photos of friends. And my brother still dey shook head inside?

What You Should Do In Such Cases:

Go to your phone contacts. Check for her name, highlight it, and tap 'DELETE'. That solves it all. If she contacts you after some time, don't respond. It is not interest or attraction. It is a Plan B technique for survival

A goat does not climb the roof of a standing house.

Me: Hello
Her: Hi
Me: How are you doing?
Her: fn

I don block and delete her. No time for nonsense

Na hungry girls day communicate fine these days cos money day. If bar no day no interest o. Naija babies are witches.

Che Che kule
From your response sef I just cut call I don't have time for nonsense

Nigerian girls are horrible to chat with, can't keep a conversation to save their lives... Unless they want to nurse you for billing of course

Wonderful write-up. A lot of men need to read and understand this.

ReacherSaidNoth:
Nigerian girls are horrible to chat with, can't keep a conversation to save their lives... Unless they want to nurse you for billing of course

Honestly, very horrible especially this so called Gen Z girls... Terrible at conversations online, even offline only few converse well

Biodun1929:
Wonderful write-up. A lot of men need to read and understand this.

As for me

Me: Hello
Her : hi
Me: can we fok
Her: excuse me
Me: how much, can we fok ? Talk quick
Her: hmmm
Me: no profile

Blocked

christejames:
Honestly, very horrible especially this so called Gen Z girls... Terrible at conversations online, even offline only few converse well

Gen Z no dey like chats na or too much talk . just go straight to the point... can I fok u .

Simple

Sphinx419:
Gen Z no dey chats o talk much... just go straight to the point... can I fok u .

Simple

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😂 😂 😂 😂



No be small wahala we enter with this set

Rapmoney:
Oftentimes, some men find it difficult to draw a clear line between lack of interest and poor communication in a woman. There are scenarios that should clearly show you that someone does not have any interest in you, and not that they possess poor communication skills.

Look at these:

SCENE 1

Me: Hello, how are you doing today?
Lady: Oh, I am doing great, and you?
Me: I am fine. I would have called you
last night, but I felt it was already
late.
Lady: I see. Anyway, I went to bed late
so I would have picked the call if
you had done that.
Me: It appears you sleep late. Why?
Lady: I am taking professional online
courses, and I usually take
classes before going to bed.
Me: What is your schedule like this
Saturday? Maybe we can hang out
at Grillz Gardens and talk.
Lady: That will be nice. I will check my
schedule and let you know by
tomorrow

SCENE 2

Me: Hello, how are you doing today?
Lady: Fine
Me: I would have called you last night,
but I felt it was already late.
Lady: K
Me: What is your schedule like this
Saturday? Maybe we can hang out
at Grillz Gardens and talk.
Lady: Busy
Me: Can we find another time for that?
Lady: Dunno

Now, Scene 1 shows a lady who might not be necessarily skilled in conversation, but has some level of interest in me. Scene 2 shows a lady who might not necessarily lack communication skills, but has little or no interest in me.

These things cannot be forced. The signs are already there in the chats. You do not need a babalawo or prophet to tell you that the lady in Scene 2 does not have interest in you.

Sometimes, some men waste their time trying to make her communicate better by sending more and more messages, or calling her phone countless times. My brother, life is already hard for you, so why punish yourself further?

That lady you think lack communication skills is actually bombarding the DM of another man. She replies his chats with both compound and complex sentences that carry all the punctuation marks you can think of. Na your turn she for dey do that one-word response. That na because SHE IS NOT INTERESTED. Read the handwriting! Someone who has interest in you cannot be too tired, lazy, or busy to reply your chats in a mutual way.

Another one is sending WhatsApp messages to a lady you are trying to befriend, she reads your messages and does not respond. Then you begin to see her WhatsApp status updates, with memes, trivial stuffs, and birthday photos of friends. And my brother still dey shook head inside?

What You Should Do In Such Cases:

Go to your phone contacts. Check for her name, highlight it, and tap 'DELETE'. That solves it all. If she contacts you after some time, don't respond. It is not interest or attraction. It is a Plan B technique for survival

A goat does not climb the roof of a standing house.

scene 1 other countries women

Scene 2. Naija women

Nairalanders Come And Show Your Communication Skill


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ReacherSaidNoth:
Nigerian girls are horrible to chat with, can't keep a conversation to save their lives... Unless they want to nurse you for billing of course

He said "nurse you for billing"

Betgold84:
Na hungry girls day communicate fine these days cos money day. If bar no day no interest o. Naija babies are witches.

Ok wetin u get wey she suppose dey interested in you, u mean to say you want make girl just love you for nothing

Why do children dislike any mother and father that are irresponsible to them?

Reflect and answer the question na...

Think I am going to be deleting some contacts tonight.

But on a second thought, one banny don do me like this o, a year later she came back, I swipe her card and ghosted her o.

Be like make person continue to dey keep them, one dey, dem fit fall and guy man go swipe and move on

As it should be.

As a man do this
1. Don't always be available
2. Match her energy
3. Never tolerate disrespect
4. Nothing kills attraction faster than desperation.
5. Don't ever double text a girl. Don't double call her or blown up her phone with calls if she doesn't respond if she ghost you.
6. If she's not interested, delete her number and move on.
7. Low energy isn't mistake. It's clarity.
8. If she's giving you one word reply, delete her number and move on. She's not interested

Tolulope, I'm sure she'd also be having no time for your nonsense... Next thing you'll be asking her if she's eaten...😒😒😒

tolu4you:
Me: Hello
Her: Hi
Me: How are you doing?
Her: fn

I don block and delete her. No time for nonsense

Sometimes it could be low intellect. For some many it is low intellect.

Whether it’s lack of interest or low intellect, it’s always best you do away with her

No strength for bad energy here
Small late response like this adon move

Quite understandable op. But you see that scenario 1, many Nigerian girls are not that good to hold such high level of conversation.

They can hardly express themselves freely in writing. It takes a well learned lady who possesses high level of courtesy to hold such high level of free flow conversation. They are not many, especially among our Nigerian ladies.

A Nigerian girl doesn't understand that when someone asks you how are you today, courtesy deserves you ask the person in return how his or her day is going.

80% of Nigerian girls don't possess that level of wisdom because a handful of randy men are always littering their DMs with messages on social media.

It takes a well learned girl with wisdom and some levels of courtesies to hold that kind of free spirited conversation with a guy.

See as all of una just Dey here dey Analyse Woman matter?..
Una no get work?
Abi work don finish for this country?..🙄

The one wey Dey pain me sef na the Lazy-ass men..wey no wan do any better for their life..But yet will be admiring ladies, esp the so-called GenZ baddies wey una no fit even pay for her nails/hair treatment🤌🏻🤌🏻
Even the freelance Baddies wey Dey even knack for money,, una no fit even drop shishi but your Burgos eye Dey chuuk to reap Weytin you no sow😏

Make una dey Dream Big o.
Most times from Some times, Y’all deserve the treatment you get sef.💁🏻‍♀️.

Harddiskng:
Sometimes it could be low intellect. For some many it is low intellect.

Whether it’s lack of interest or low intellect, it’s always best you do away with her

I agree with you on the bolded. I still believe many of them lack intellect or good communication skills. It might not really be lack of interest. But the low libido reply of some girls always kill vibe.

I met one recently that surprised me though. The girl vibe was topnotch. She was just flowing with me like we've known each other for long. I wasn't surprised though cuz she is a Libra. They are always very lively.

When she kept my message waiting, immediately she came online, the first thing she did was apologised and explained how she had been so busy with work.

That's very rare of a Nigerian girl. The difference is always clear. Career ladies are in a way different due to their exposures to work place interpersonal relationships with other workers.

Straight up LOW IQ and unavailable intellect

and it goes both ways especially with guys that keep using LOL and BRO. it irks me.

Samantha125:
Tolulope, I'm sure she'd also be having no time for your nonsense... Next thing you'll be asking her if she's eaten...😒😒😒

Okay ma. I won't forget this ma

You nailed it. Scene 1 vs Scene 2 is the perfect filter.

Scene 1 - she’s not Shakespeare, but she’s engaging:
- Explains why she was up late
- Gives context about her courses
- Says “that will be nice” + gives a timeline to check schedule
That’s interest + effort, even if her chat game isn’t strong.

Scene 2 - that’s not “poor communication”, that’s disinterest in a trench coat:
- “K”, “Busy”, “Dunno” = conversation killers
- No question back, no alternative, no curiosity
- If she wanted to meet, she’d offer another day. “Dunno” is a soft no.

Your point hits hardest: the same woman typing one-word answers to you is writing full essays with emojis to someone else. It’s not that she can’t communicate. It’s that she won’t, for you.

And the WhatsApp status thing… brutal. She’s active, posting memes, but your message sits on “read”. That’s data. Believe it.

“Delete the contact” advice is cold but correct. Chasing someone who’s giving you crumbs just drains you. If she comes back later, it’s rarely interest - it’s boredom, or you became a backup plan.

Simple rule: Interest shows up as effort. Reciprocity. Questions. Alternatives when busy. If you’re the only one carrying the conversation, you’re not in one.

That last line: “A goat does not climb the roof of a standing house” - perfect. Don’t force it.

If you press the other lady in chat more
Lady -: can you do me a favor? I need data or send me 2k I want to eat

Guy-: Blocked

essentialone:
[s]You nailed it. Scene 1 vs Scene 2 is the perfect filter.

Scene 1 - she’s not Shakespeare, but she’s engaging:
- Explains why she was up late
- Gives context about her courses
- Says “that will be nice” + gives a timeline to check schedule
That’s interest + effort, even if her chat game isn’t strong.

Scene 2 - that’s not “poor communication”, that’s disinterest in a trench coat:
- “K”, “Busy”, “Dunno” = conversation killers
- No question back, no alternative, no curiosity
- If she wanted to meet, she’d offer another day. “Dunno” is a soft no.

Your point hits hardest: the same woman typing one-word answers to you is writing full essays with emojis to someone else. It’s not that she can’t communicate. It’s that she won’t, for you.

And the WhatsApp status thing… brutal. She’s active, posting memes, but your message sits on “read”. That’s data. Believe it.

“Delete the contact” advice is cold but correct. Chasing someone who’s giving you crumbs just drains you. If she comes back later, it’s rarely interest - it’s boredom, or you became a backup plan.

Simple rule: Interest shows up as effort. Reciprocity. Questions. Alternatives when busy. If you’re the only one carrying the conversation, you’re not in one.

That last line: “A goat does not climb the roof of a standing house” - perfect. Don’t force it[/s].

Captain spam is here to drop his AI trash

ReacherSaidNoth:
Captain spam is here to drop his AI trash

Thanks for responding to it. Keep looking out for more. Please don't get tired. Because I won't.

It's better you put all your energy in building yourself to become a better person and the right person will be attracted by your aura.