bukatyne:

There are good ones out there, you will find them by God's grace. and when you find her, don't chase her with your control tactics; a girl with healthy self esteem will not stay.

A woman does not bring s.ex to the table; it is a mutual thing except if the man is paying her for it then she is a wh.ore

In my earlier post I stated it categorically that there are good ones even though they are relatively few. Its good you know sex is a mutual thing, unlike the vast majority of ladies that think they are doing men a favour by having sex with em. Also, a very good number won't offer sex for nothing (by nothing of course you know I mean money), they would want some sought of financial gain for them to put their backs to the ground irrespective of whether they are in a relationship with the guy or not...

As for chasing a woman with some control tactics, if you relate with the topic with an open mind you would discover that these tactics ain't bad afterall. They are there to keep the ladies on their toes owing to the fact that women are hardwired to be controlled in a certain way. When I say control, I mean in a certain way, to keep their awkward attitudes at bay while also showing them the love and care they deserve.

A very good friend(married) told me an honest truth sometime ago. She said on no account should I allow a woman to have her ways as much as she needs. Else, no matter how good that woman is or was before then, she would more often than not take advantage of me and start misbehaving whether intentionally or not. This lady is a very good wife for the records. She told me this because she felt I was kinda soft in handling issues with her and letting her have her way (although I cleared her doubts pronto cause as much as I am very linient and kind in treating people, I am very principled to the core and don't tolerate trash from anyone).

In a nutshell, every woman (good or bad) needs to be guided with true control. True control in this case has a lot of positives when looked via a broad spectrum. If you look at it from a selfish or a bias standpoint, then negativity will be written all over it. True control is good as it helps the man to remain the dominant force between the two (which is normal by nature), buh doing some of the aforementioned of true control to the extreem is where the probelm lies as it will have a negative effect on the union.

Therefore, there should be a fine line between attaining true control in a sensible and reasonable state as opposed to taking it to the extreme and doing it awkwardly and unreasonably.

bukatyne:
A woman loves a man that loves her.

You must have feelings (which would later mature to love) before you approach a girl, not so?

errrmmmm... Who should love first? The man or the woman?

dmcdad:
In my earlier post I stated it categorically that there are good ones even though they are relatively few. Its good you know sex is a mutual thing, unlike the vast majority of ladies that think they are doing men a favour by having sex with em. Also, a very good number won't offer sex for nothing (by nothing of course you know I mean money), they would want some sought of financial gain for them to put their backs to the ground irrespective of whether they are in a relationship with the guy or not...

As for chasing a woman with some control tactics, if you relate with the topic with an open mind you would discover that these tactics ain't bad afterall. They are there to keep the ladies on their toes owing to the fact that women are hardwired to be controlled in a certain way. When I say control, I mean in a certain way, to keep their awkward attitudes at bay while also showing them the love and care they deserve.

A very good friend(married) told me an honest truth sometime ago. She said on no account should I allow a woman to have her ways as much as she needs. Else, no matter how good that woman is or was before then, she would more often than not take advantage of me and start misbehaving whether intentionally or not. This lady is a very good wife for the records. She told me this because she felt I was kinda soft in handling issues with her and letting her have her way (although I cleared her doubts pronto cause as much as I am very linient and kind in treating people, I am very principled to the core and don't tolerate trash from anyone).

In a nutshell, every woman (good or bad) needs to be guided with true control. True control in this case has a lot of positives when looked via a broad spectrum. If you look at it from a selfish or a bias standpoint, then negativity will be written all over it. True control is good as it helps the man to remain the dominant force between the two (which is normal by nature), buh doing some of the aforementioned of true control to the extreem is where the probelm lies as it will have a negative effect on the union.

Therefore, there should be a fine line between attaining true control in a sensible and reasonable state as opposed to taking it to the extreme and doing it awkwardly and unreasonably.

Beautifully said ..

dmcdad:
My dear, the problem is that; both the men that instigate the approach and the ladies they approach know nothing about some pre-conceived feelings nowadays. A guy approaches a lady because he wants to sleep with her and a lady says yes to whatever proposals the guy brings to the fore because she knows she would be well rewarded financially. So, you can see that both sexes are guilty of going into relationships without the original or actual feeling or attraction so-to-say that should be there as a pre-requisite.

Nevertheless, there are still those that still do it the right way. The disturbing fact is; how many of these compared to the vast majority?

Nowadays?

That is how it has been from time immemorial.

At least on this living Earth o, not on the pages of fantasy novels like Mills & Boons.

bukatyne:

There are good ones out there, you will find them by God's grace. and when you find her, don't chase her with your control tactics; a girl with healthy self esteem will not stay.

A woman does not bring s.ex to the table; it is a mutual thing except if the man is paying her for it then she is a wh.ore

Find her?

Why not she come and find me?

Why not women take responsibility for once?

dmcdad:
In my earlier post I stated it categorically that there are good ones even though they are relatively few. Its good you know sex is a mutual thing, unlike the vast majority of ladies that think they are doing men a favour by having sex with em. Also, a very good number won't offer sex for nothing (by nothing of course you know I mean money), they would want some sought of financial gain for them to put their backs to the ground irrespective of whether they are in a relationship with the guy or not...

As for chasing a woman with some control tactics, if you relate with the topic with an open mind you would discover that these tactics ain't bad afterall. They are there to keep the ladies on their toes owing to the fact that women are hardwired to be controlled in a certain way. When I say control, I mean in a certain way, to keep their awkward attitudes at bay while also showing them the love and care they deserve.

A very good friend(married) told me an honest truth sometime ago. She said on no account should I allow a woman to have her ways as much as she needs. Else, no matter how good that woman is or was before then, she would more often than not take advantage of me and start misbehaving whether intentionally or not. This lady is a very good wife for the records. She told me this because she felt I was kinda soft in handling issues with her and letting her have her way (although I cleared her doubts pronto cause as much as I am very linient and kind in treating people, I am very principled to the core and don't tolerate trash from anyone).

In a nutshell, every woman (good or bad) needs to be guided with true control. True control in this case has a lot of positives when looked via a broad spectrum. If you look at it from a selfish or a bias standpoint, then negativity will be written all over it. True control is good as it helps the man to remain the dominant force between the two (which is normal by nature), but doing some of the aforementioned of true control to the extreme is where the problem lies as it will have a negative effect on the union.

Therefore, there should be a fine line between attaining true control in a sensible and reasonable state as opposed to taking it to the extreme and doing it awkwardly and unreasonably.

GBAM!

Any man that does not realise this has not reached a mental age that qualifies him for a coming-of-age ritual.

As I have always said, for an attractive girl you are not married to, if you let her feel/know she is unsackable, then you are basically on notice because you have lost her.

Some would "No, that is just rubbish. How can that even make sense" because it sounds so illogical. When you come of age, you will know the illogical is what actually works logically with women with a high number & variety of choices. Most men don't know this, that is why most men never date hot girls and some select few men have them in abundance.

2sexy.us:


errrmmmm... Who should love first? The man or the woman?

Obviously responsibility should always be the man's.

ShymmexLion:

Hey you, where have you been hiding?

Hope you won't do another flightflytefalls and end up like a disappearing act.

Mi deyah ah cry after mi sistren Kails who leff just mi one Jamo inna disyah nl yard.

Look how mi haffa fren up fake rastaman now! Ah whaaaa

Flytefalls:
Mi deyah ah cry after mi sistren Kails who leff just mi one Jamo inna disyah nl yard.

Look how mi haffa fren up fake rastaman now! Ah whaaaa

me wan learn patua(hope I spelt that right?) u teach?....in exchange u get;

Flytefalls:
Mi deyah ah cry after mi sistren Kails who leff just mi one Jamo inna disyah nl yard.

Look how mi haffa fren up fake rastaman now! Ah whaaaa

me wan learn patua(hope I spelt that right?) u teach?....in exchange u get pidgin English FREE...DEAL

dmcdad:
In my earlier post I stated it categorically that there are good ones even though they are relatively few. Its good you know sex is a mutual thing, unlike the vast majority of ladies that think they are doing men a favour by having sex with em. Also, a very good number won't offer sex for nothing (by nothing of course you know I mean money), they would want some sought of financial gain for them to put their backs to the ground irrespective of whether they are in a relationship with the guy or not...

As for chasing a woman with some control tactics, if you relate with the topic with an open mind you would discover that these tactics ain't bad afterall. They are there to keep the ladies on their toes owing to the fact that women are hardwired to be controlled in a certain way. When I say control, I mean in a certain way, to keep their awkward attitudes at bay while also showing them the love and care they deserve.

A very good friend(married) told me an honest truth sometime ago. She said on no account should I allow a woman to have her ways as much as she needs. Else, no matter how good that woman is or was before then, she would more often than not take advantage of me and start misbehaving whether intentionally or not. This lady is a very good wife for the records. She told me this because she felt I was kinda soft in handling issues with her and letting her have her way (although I cleared her doubts pronto cause as much as I am very linient and kind in treating people, I am very principled to the core and don't tolerate trash from anyone).

In a nutshell, every woman (good or bad) needs to be guided with true control. True control in this case has a lot of positives when looked via a broad spectrum. If you look at it from a selfish or a bias standpoint, then negativity will be written all over it. True control is good as it helps the man to remain the dominant force between the two (which is normal by nature), buh doing some of the aforementioned of true control to the extreem is where the probelm lies as it will have a negative effect on the union.

Therefore, there should be a fine line between attaining true control in a sensible and reasonable state as opposed to taking it to the extreme and doing it awkwardly and unreasonably.

Everyone is different

Some people like to be controlled; some take advantage of others when they are soft etc.

Study who you are with. The funny thing is that ladies will also come out and have their own theory on how to 'control' men.

It is basically all relationships: some younger ones will treat you with respect when you pamper them; some will treat you with disrespect until you bark at them and handle them with iron hand.

I am a very open/innocent person that wears my heart on my sleeves (so to say), God gave me a man that is same.

If I was in a relationship with one yeye control guy, I would have ended the relationship long time ago.

I treat people the way they deserve to be treated apart from the default 'love your neighbor' as a Christian.

2sexy.us:


errrmmmm... Who should love first? The man or the woman?

Who goes to meet the other?

A man loves a woman (his wife) and she reciprocates with submission

That is a topic for another day

Sagamite:

Find her?

Why not she come and find me?

Why not women take responsibility for once?

He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord...

P.S. I know you are not a Christian

bukatyne:
He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord...

P.S. I know you are not a Christian

Thank God you know that.

Sagamite:

GBAM!

Any man that does not realise this has not reached a mental age that qualifies him for a coming-of-age ritual.

As I have always said, for an attractive girl you are not married to, if you let her feel/know she is unsackable, then you are basically on notice because you have lost her.

Some would "No, that is just rubbish. How can that even make sense" because it sounds so illogical. When you come of age, you will know the illogical is what actually works logically with women with a high number & variety of choices. Most men don't know this, that is why most men never date hot girls and some select few men have them in abundance.

Lol! I don't agree

However, you must have deal breakers.

My guy and I love each other so much but we both know that cheating and abuse is the deal breakers. No need for begging or stories that touch . We also have review meetings where we discuss how we have behaved and areas of improvement.

WE BOTH KNOW THAT WE ARE UNSACKABLE AND NO BACKUP THAT'S WHY WE BOTH PUT OUR BEST INTO IT

People often times miscontrue bible versions without the discerning of the holy spirit for concise comprehension.

"He that findeth the wife will obtain favors of the Lord" simply means a man who decide to marry a wife instead of fornicating will not burn.

In the book of Matthews, there is a chapter that speaks about virginity and abstaining from sex however it encourages those to marry if they can't withhold from sex altogether or burn.

"He" includes the woman who enter the marriage by her own volition to avoid fornicating and both will receive mercy.

What many people seems to interpret from the verse is the man that seeks the wife will get a good thing and be blessed. It's illogical simply because many men have sought wives and ended up killing them out of foolishness.

Even if two people who met in a club and wants to have sex....but gets married without even knowing each other will obtain favor of the Lord!


Okay....let me grab some tea!

Sagamite:

Obviously responsibility should always be the man's.

Well...many have loved those who have never loved them.

Mrs.Chima:
People often times miscontrue bible versions without the discerning of the holy spirit for concise comprehension.

"He that findeth the wife will obtain favors of the Lord" simply means a man who decide to marry a wife instead of fornicating will not burn.

In the book of Matthews, there is a chapter that speaks about virginity and abstaining from sex however it encourages those to marry if they can't withhold from sex altogether or burn.

"He" includes the woman who enter the marriage by her own volition to avoid fornicating and both will receive mercy.

What many people seems to interpret from the verse is the man that seeks the wife will get a good thing and be blessed. It's illogical simply because many men have sought wives and ended up killing them out of foolishness.

Even if two people who met in a club and wants to have sex....but gets married without even knowing each other will obtain favor of the Lord!


Okay....let me grab some tea!

Make for two!

You know that God can use a verse to minister to various people in various ways

A wife is not just a married woman just how a Christian is not just a church goer

I learnt from you POV anyways

Mrs.Chima:


Well...many have loved those who have never loved them.

Well, many have strong enemies without any protection. Enemies who have cursed them and the curse is working.

I have strong juju from Sagamu that protects me to the point such would never be my case.

bukatyne:

Lol! I don't agree

However, you must have deal breakers.

My guy and I love each other so much but we both know that cheating and abuse is the deal breakers. No need for begging or stories that touch . We also have review meetings where we discuss how we have behaved and areas of improvement.

WE BOTH KNOW THAT WE ARE UNSACKABLE AND NO BACKUP THAT'S WHY WE BOTH PUT OUR BEST INTO IT

For now na!

I know all these things, buka, buka.

That is the rule for now when you seem very happy.

He will most likely adhere to the rules and think it is set in stone, while you can change it anytime you want because "women are complex".

What you are practising now is number 11. When you are not happy anymore, then we will most likely see you engage in number 5, number 10 and number 11.

https://www.nairaland.com/962850/ladies-which-these-dating-evils

And if you are a very bad girl, maybe even number 6.

I have said it all before about what women will do tomorrow and what they will do when they stop loving you.

https://www.nairaland.com/13568/prenuptial-agreements/5#6974151

Only a man that has not come of age will judge a woman by what she is doing today or what she is doing while she loves him.

I am Sagamite. I am old when it comes to those terms. My coming of age is almost 50 years old now.

Simple as ABC.....

Make them love you then see them "do everything for love"

dmcdad:
In my earlier post I stated it categorically that there are good ones even though they are relatively few. Its good you know sex is a mutual thing, unlike the vast majority of ladies that think they are doing men a favour by having sex with em. Also, a very good number won't offer sex for nothing (by nothing of course you know I mean money), they would want some sought of financial gain for them to put their backs to the ground irrespective of whether they are in a relationship with the guy or not...

As for chasing a woman with some control tactics, if you relate with the topic with an open mind you would discover that these tactics ain't bad afterall. They are there to keep the ladies on their toes owing to the fact that women are hardwired to be controlled in a certain way. When I say control, I mean in a certain way, to keep their awkward attitudes at bay while also showing them the love and care they deserve.

A very good friend(married) told me an honest truth sometime ago. She said on no account should I allow a woman to have her ways as much as she needs. Else, no matter how good that woman is or was before then, she would more often than not take advantage of me and start misbehaving whether intentionally or not. This lady is a very good wife for the records. She told me this because she felt I was kinda soft in handling issues with her and letting her have her way (although I cleared her doubts pronto cause as much as I am very linient and kind in treating people, I am very principled to the core and don't tolerate trash from anyone).

In a nutshell, every woman (good or bad) needs to be guided with true control. True control in this case has a lot of positives when looked via a broad spectrum. If you look at it from a selfish or a bias standpoint, then negativity will be written all over it. True control is good as it helps the man to remain the dominant force between the two (which is normal by nature), buh doing some of the aforementioned of true control to the extreem is where the probelm lies as it will have a negative effect on the union.

Therefore, there should be a fine line between attaining true control in a sensible and reasonable state as opposed to taking it to the extreme and doing it awkwardly and unreasonably.

You already know what I am about to say!

First of all.....a woman that is not girthed in good character will use you regardless if you exercise control or not.

Secondly, women have fathers and grandfathers to guide them in goodwill....not to mold the woman in what she need to be or look like. They do not need daddy husbands but rather a partner going in the same direction.

How can a man attempt to control a woman if he is not complete and lacks the understanding of leadership?

There is absolutely nothing attractive about a man who treats his wife or woman like a child. If she can't respect you as a person and you can't do the same....no need wasting time!

Rough handling a woman or loud talking does not make you a man nor being lenient makes you a punk or sissy.

You need to screen your chicks better before selection because a ratchet bish is ratchet regardless if you control her or not.

I guess President Obama is a softy since he doesn't control what ignorant people say or do to him.

There is a hugggge difference between a fool and a softy.

Real talk!

bukatyne:

Make for two!

You know that God can use a verse to minister to various people in various ways

A wife is not just a married woman just how a Christian is not just a church goer

I learnt from you POV anyways

A wife is a wife but if a man marries a woman then she is a married woman.

A Christian can't be a Christian if they are not believers of Christianity. However I am not religious for many reasons!

Milk or honey?

jay bee: Simple as ABC.....

Make them love you then see them "do everything for love"

This oloshi.

Sagamite:

For now na!

I know all these things, buka, buka.

That is the rule for now when you seem very happy.

He will most likely adhere to the rules and think it is set in stone, while you can change it anytime you want because "women are complex".

What you are practising now is number 11. When you are not happy anymore, then we will most likely see you engage in number 5, number 10 and number 11.

https://www.nairaland.com/962850/ladies-which-these-dating-evils

And if you are a very bad girl, maybe even number 6.

I have said it all before about what women will do tomorrow and what they will do when they stop loving you.

https://www.nairaland.com/13568/prenuptial-agreements/5#6974151

Only a man that has not come of age will judge a woman by what she is doing today or what she is doing while she loves him.

I am Sagamite. I am old when it comes to those terms. My coming of age is almost 50 years old now.

March next year will make it 8yrs together .

Funny enough, I have never done any of those stuffs on your list

I learnt quite early not to be rude to guys because they ask me out. It's only guys who know I have someone that pisses me off.

I even have a 'I appreciate your interest in me because you saw something in me but I am I have someone/ engaged' line I use for guys.

A lot of people have called me mumu because I do not collect gifts from men I have nothing in common with.

Not everyone is the same

Sagamite:

Well, many have strong enemies without any protection. Enemies who have cursed them and the curse is working.

I have strong juju from Sagamu that protects me to the point such would never be my case.

You this mugu.

Well I wub you! Don't tell Jaybee!

Mrs.Chima:


A wife is a wife but if a man marries a woman then she is a married woman.

A Christian can't be a Christian if they are not believers of Christianity. However I am not religious for many reasons!

Milk or honey?

Always Milk!

Mrs.Chima:


You already know what I am about to say!

First of all.....a woman that is not girthed in good character will use you regardless if you exercise control or not.

Secondly, women have fathers and grandfathers to guide them in goodwill....not to mold the woman in what she need to be or look like. They do not need daddy husbands but rather a partner going in the same direction.

How can a man attempt to control a woman if he is not complete and lacks the understanding of leadership?

There is absolutely nothing attractive about a man who treats his wife or woman like a child. If she can't respect you as a person and you can't do the same....no need wasting time!

Rough handling a woman or loud talking does not make you a man nor being lenient makes you a punk or sissy.

You need to screen your chicks better before selection because a ratchet bish is ratchet regardless if you control her or not.

I guess President Obama is a softy since he doesn't control what ignorant people say or do to him.

There is a hugggge difference between a fool and a softy.

Real talk!

Well said!

@ bolded, classic!

bukatyne:

A lot of people have called me mumu because I do not collect gifts from men I have nothing in common with.

Not everyone is the same

I am the same way! I have this complex with accepting gifts because It can be used against me!

I had a hard time accepting my ring from my husband!

Mrs.Chima:

You this mugu.

Well I wub you! Don't tell Jaybee!

bukatyne:

March next year will make it 8yrs together .

Funny enough, I have never done any of those stuffs on your list

I learnt quite early not to be rude to guys because they ask me out. It's only guys who know I have someone that pisses me off.

I even have a 'I appreciate your interest in me because you saw something in me but I am I have someone/ engaged' line I use for guys.

A lot of people have called me mumu because I do not collect gifts from men I have nothing in common with.

Not everyone is the same

Okay, don't talk anymore and be giving young boys wrong advise.

99% of women are not like you. They do the opposite of everything you stand for and don't compare to you.

Now, the highlighted red is what is called "classy".

Sagamite:







Okay, don't talk anymore and be giving young boys wrong advise.

99% of women are not like you. They do the opposite of everything you stand for and don't compare to you.

Now, the highlighted red is what is called "classy".

Thanks, I am blushing

We have had our issues but we thank God

I am not giving 'young guys' wrong advise

There are good girls out there; they might some issues (cheating, lying, etc. are not issues) but they might just be rough diamonds that need a little polishing, same with the guys too.

Sincerity, honesty, openness and love helps a lot in a relationship/marriage.

When a man is in love, he gives his all...

P.S.: What is shocking?

bukatyne:

March next year will make it 8yrs together .

Funny enough, I have never done any of those stuffs on your list

I learnt quite early not to be rude to guys because they ask me out. It's only guys who know I have someone that pisses me off.

I even have a 'I appreciate your interest in me because you saw something in me but I am I have someone/ engaged' line I use for guys.

A lot of people have called me mumu because I do not collect gifts from men I have nothing in common with.

Not everyone is the same

You are feeling cool with yourself abi. I am going to find some very rich and handsome (married) man to start disturbing you from now on. I will ask him to spoil you with gifts and exortic vacations, lets see if you wouldnt yield!

Smh.