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Eberex: I thought you were taking his posts literally....I guess he also thought so. That was a bombshell you dropped you know

Aawwwwww. I'm a playful person but he took me seriously.

I'm the sort of person who takes words/advances coming from nairaland males with a pinch of salt.

I lectured in a Polytechnic located in South West Nigeria for four years. I went there as a Corper, and was retained. I'll share how I was able to stay unscathed all the while, keeping the 'pressure' from female students (and female Staff) at bay:

* As soon as I set foot in the community, I identified with the Christian groups and Churches. This kept me from any wilful compromise, even when I wanted to, or had the opportunity (there were lots of them!);

* I did not trust my natural instincts, so I kept my distance - especially from girls I found personally attractive (and there were in abundance);

* I tried not to stare too much - especially the ones that will come to class looking really seductive. Straight-facedness!!!! (no second look was my (still remains) my policy - no matter how fine a girl is)

* I performed my duty with diligence and strictness - meanwhile, I maintained cordiality and reasonableness;

* I always reminded myself that nothing remained a secret for long, especially among female students who would one day brag about how they 'conquered' yet another Staff, or about your prowess in bed - or otherwise;

* I also reminded myself daily that compromising with any of my students was like 'descending' to their level and that I should be prepared to eat the crumb of disrespect that it may occasion;

* I tried not to entertain female students who always want to come visit on any reason, except they are in the company of others;

* When they call, or sent text messages (they always have ways of getting your phone number) I replied as cordially as I can, maintaining a mental and emotional boundary that must not be crossed;

* (Don't laugh, please): I conspicuously kept a copy of the Bible on my desk;

* I flaunted pictures of my fiancée in my office and used it as my phone and computer screen saver (we were hundreds of miles apart);

* If I sensed that a girl was 'coming on' too strongly, I would politely ask her "HAVE YOU GIVEN YOUR LIFE TO JESUS?" (It works EVERY SINGLE TIME. They get embarrassed and never come back, and I guess, they go and tell the others)

* I maintained godly principles of transparency, integrity, purity, obedience to God, respect for constituted authority, diligence to duty, etc

* I treated every encounter with my students (in or out of class) as an avenue to influence them for good, not evil

* Can't think of the rest . . . (Its all about having personal godly values and principles!)

>>With time I gained a (not too good) 'reputation' for myself (they called me a monk, Jew guy, Holy-holy, Pastor etc). After a while, they all just IGNORED me, I think . . .
- Today, almost nine years latter, happily married with two daughters of my own, I recall those formative years WITHOUT REGRET AND NOTHING TO HIDE!

Sophyrocks: Aawwwwww. I'm a playful person but he took me seriously.

I'm the sort of person who takes words/advances coming from nairaland males with a pinch of salt.

Word

Eberex: Word

Sophyrocks:

You should have at least be a little diplomatic na! #whispering:you know this is a public room

Abee79: I lectured in a Polytechnic located in South West Nigeria for four years. I went there as a Corper, and was retained. I'll share how I was able to stay unscathed all the while, keeping the 'pressure' from female students (and female Staff) at bay:

* As soon as I set foot in the community, I identified with the Christian groups and Churches. This kept me from any wilful compromise, even when I wanted to, or had the opportunity (there were lots of them!);

* I did not trust my natural instincts, so I kept my distance - especially from girls I found personally attractive (and there were in abundance);

* I tried not to stare too much - especially the ones that will come to class looking really seductive. Straight-facedness!!!! (no second look was my (still remains) my policy - no matter how fine a girl is)

* I performed my duty with diligence and strictness - meanwhile, I maintained cordiality and reasonableness;

* I always reminded myself that nothing remained a secret for long, especially among female students who would one day brag about how they 'conquered' yet another Staff, or about your prowess in bed - or otherwise;

* I also reminded myself daily that compromising with any of my students was like 'descending' to their level and that I should be prepared to eat the crumb of disrespect that it may occasion;

* I tried not to entertain female students who always want to come visit on any reason, except they are in the company of others;

* When they call, or sent text messages (they always have ways of getting your phone number) I replied as cordially as I can, maintaining a mental and emotional boundary that must not be crossed;

* (Don't laugh, please): I conspicuously kept a copy of the Bible on my desk;

* I flaunted pictures of my fiancée in my office and used it as my phone and computer screen saver (we were hundreds of miles apart);

* If I sensed that a girl was 'coming on' too strongly, I would politely ask her "HAVE YOU GIVEN YOUR LIFE TO JESUS?" (It works EVERY SINGLE TIME. They get embarrassed and never come back, and I guess, they go and tell the others)

* I maintained godly principles of transparency, integrity, purity, obedience to God, respect for constituted authority, diligence to duty, etc

* I treated every encounter with my students (in or out of class) as an avenue to influence them for good, not evil

* Can't think of the rest . . . (Its all about having personal godly values and principles!)

>>With time I gained a (not too good) 'reputation' for myself (they called me a monk, Jew guy, Holy-holy, Pastor etc). After a while, they all just IGNORED me, I think . . .
- Today, almost five years latter, happily married with two daughters of my own, I recall those formative years WITHOUT REGRET AND NOTHING TO HIDE!

The bible and preaching part got me laughing still. Nice one. i hope other men will emulate your stance. Oya o. people should start taking notes down o.

Eberex: You should have at least be a little diplomatic na! #whispering:you know this is a public room

Diplomatic in what way? Who am i trying to impress?

Sophyrocks: Diplomatic in what way? Who am i trying to impress?

No one ofcourse, just that .........you must have heard about a man's pride?

Sophyrocks: Really? we do? i dnt know abt that. you seem to be the only one who has noticed that. Is it a bad thing?

i know ur kind, very friendly and open. I wont reply ur next quote walahi.

DSuperWoman: hmmm guy u dey form romantic abi?

Dsuperwoman face ur work ooh.

OnyeEgo1: i know ur kind, very friendly and open. I wont reply ur next quote walahi.

Are you afraid of my kind? You sound like you ae running away from something.

Its all good. EOD.

Kachisbarbie: Lol...maybe. It pained me small sha.

so the moral of d story...if u had a strong feelin for ur student, so far the age difference z nt alarmin and the gal z nt a minor (18 yr old or close) n she is in mayb ss3, go for her. Lets nt blow things outta proportion, who say a young corper/teacher cant fall in love wit his female student...the only valid pt here is he should nt take advantage of her.

Eberex: No one ofcourse, just that .........you must have heard about a man's pride?

Everyone has got pride and everyone gets disappointed every now and then still. Nothing new.

Kachisbarbie: Lol...maybe. It pained me small sha.

so the moral of d story...if u had a strong feelin for ur student, so far the age difference z nt alarmin and the gal z nt a minor (18 yr old or close) n she is in mayb ss3, go for her. Lets nt blow things outta proportion, who say a young corper/teacher cant fall in love wit his female student...the only valid pt here is he should nt take advantage of her.

Sophyrocks: Are you afraid of my kind? You sound like you ae running away from something.

Its all good. EOD.

running 4rm ur charisma..... Ofcus EOD

OnyeEgo1: running 4rm ur charisma..... Ofcus EOD

Oh o.k. Charisma. Cool.

Abee79: I lectured in a Polytechnic located in South West Nigeria for four years. I went there as a Corper, and was retained. I'll share how I was able to stay unscathed all the while, keeping the 'pressure' from female students (and female Staff) at bay:

* As soon as I set foot in the community, I identified with the Christian groups and Churches. This kept me from any wilful compromise, even when I wanted to, or had the opportunity (there were lots of them!);

* I did not trust my natural instincts, so I kept my distance - especially from girls I found personally attractive (and there were in abundance);

* I tried not to stare too much - especially the ones that will come to class looking really seductive. Straight-facedness!!!! (no second look was my (still remains) my policy - no matter how fine a girl is)

* I performed my duty with diligence and strictness - meanwhile, I maintained cordiality and reasonableness;

* I always reminded myself that nothing remained a secret for long, especially among female students who would one day brag about how they 'conquered' yet another Staff, or about your prowess in bed - or otherwise;

* I also reminded myself daily that compromising with any of my students was like 'descending' to their level and that I should be prepared to eat the crumb of disrespect that it may occasion;

* I tried not to entertain female students who always want to come visit on any reason, except they are in the company of others;

* When they call, or sent text messages (they always have ways of getting your phone number) I replied as cordially as I can, maintaining a mental and emotional boundary that must not be crossed;

* (Don't laugh, please): I conspicuously kept a copy of the Bible on my desk;

* I flaunted pictures of my fiancée in my office and used it as my phone and computer screen saver (we were hundreds of miles apart);

* If I sensed that a girl was 'coming on' too strongly, I would politely ask her "HAVE YOU GIVEN YOUR LIFE TO JESUS?" (It works EVERY SINGLE TIME. They get embarrassed and never come back, and I guess, they go and tell the others)

* I maintained godly principles of transparency, integrity, purity, obedience to God, respect for constituted authority, diligence to duty, etc

* I treated every encounter with my students (in or out of class) as an avenue to influence them for good, not evil

* Can't think of the rest . . . (Its all about having personal godly values and principles!)

>>With time I gained a (not too good) 'reputation' for myself (they called me a monk, Jew guy, Holy-holy, Pastor etc). After a while, they all just IGNORED me, I think . . .
- Today, almost five years latter, happily married with two daughters of my own, I recall those formative years WITHOUT REGRET AND NOTHING TO HIDE!

Sir, you are a man of integrity. Well done.

Sophyrocks: Oh o.k. Charisma. Cool.

i find it attractive, d way u reply on nl, u av a friendly personelity, can i PM u ma'am?

Its obvious that this happens in our society!.. This is known in the European countries... A school mate of mine got pregnant for a NYSC teacher.. in some cases the teacher is at fault while in others,the student.

Mine was when i was taeching in a govt secondary school menn come see greenlight....i never believed i will toast a secondarian...but all things being equal i let one babe in the school that i cannot avoid her how much i loved her but that was after her waec and neco i try sha.....curently she is my no 1 no other

Sophyrocks:

Its not what you think.

Sophyrocks sey you and Onyego has turned me into a laughing stock cos I'm appreciating nature's work on you,and as such throwing advances?lolzzz.Abeg,don't fall my hand here ooo! Everybody's reading our posts and waiting to see how it will end...counting on you...I'm still and ferverently serious.

Chillisauce: You too! funny enough no one has my time then, I was the smallie of the class. The "things" were still developing. Unlike some my classmates that could pass as some peoples wives. And I always mingle with the big girls. They tend to overshadow me with the heavy accessories

. Lolz

2kris: Mine was when i was taeching in a govt secondary school menn come see greenlight....i never believed i will toast a secondarian...but all things being equal i let one babe in the school that i cannot avoid her how much i loved her but that was after her waec and neco i try sha.....curently she is my no 1 no other

pls stop mockery of yourself...No b only love!!!

frank043: Sophyrocks sey you and Onyego has turned me into a laughing stock cos I'm appreciating nature's work on you,and as such throwing advances?lolzzz.Abeg,don't fall my hand here ooo! Everybody's reading our posts and waiting to see how it will end...counting on you...I'm still and ferverently serious.

LoL
I've been chilling since yesterday to see how it will end...but of course, I hope to see a thread next year WE MET ON NAIRALAND, I APPRECIATED HER HAIR, NOW WE'RE MARRIED
LoL

frank043: pls stop mockery of yourself...No b only love!!!

hy mr man i am a teacher and i can proudly say all my lecturers got their wives were they teach......sorry sha not everybody is lik u that lie in public.................sumary i loved her so much that i hv to let her write her waec and neco and since then i hav never taken advantage of her...if u vex put ur head for chicken yansh

NifemiOlu: LoL
I've been chilling since yesterday to see how it will end...but of course, I hope to see a thread next year WE MET ON NAIRALAND, I APPRECIATED HER HAIR, NOW WE'RE MARRIED
LoL

u hav fallen for him already na nice one babe ...i hv been followin u guys since yestaday....u guys should just exchange numbers....i will not regret it i sense seriosness in him by sha said enough already...thank me later

2kris: Mine was when i was taeching in a govt secondary school menn come see greenlight....i never believed i will toast a secondarian...but all things being equal i let one babe in the school that i cannot avoid her how much i loved her but that was after her waec and neco i try sha.....curently she is my no 1 no other

pls stop mockery of yourself...No b only love!!!

NifemiOlu: LoL
I've been chilling since yesterday to see how it will end...but of course, I hope to see a thread next year WE MET ON NAIRALAND, I APPRECIATED HER HAIR, NOW WE'RE MARRIED
LoL

So we have turned to a movie that you can sit down and watch ba?

Issorait. Dnt bother getting any funny ideas about this o. Its not what you think.

frank043: Sophyrocks sey you and Onyego has turned me into a laughing stock cos I'm appreciating nature's work on you,and as such throwing advances?lolzzz.Abeg,don't fall my hand here ooo! Everybody's reading our posts and waiting to see how it will end...counting on you...I'm still and ferverently serious.

Hahahahahahaha. I never knew you were that serious and it would get to this.

You can only send me a Pm unless its really important and based on neutral/friendly grounds. You feel me?

Grand hustle for sophy

NifemiOlu: LoL
I've been chilling since yesterday to see how it will end...but of course, I hope to see a thread next year WE MET ON NAIRALAND, I APPRECIATED HER HAIR, NOW WE'RE MARRIED
LoL

story for Jesus....

Computer Education back then later crossed over to Humber college in Toronto for my computer Science

OnyeEgo1: bro abeg which course u read no vex? As i hear T.P na e make me ask