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Re: Confronting The Mistress by bukatyne(f): 2:55pm On Oct 30, 2014
aisha2:


There are stalkers ohhhhh. Please lets not make the assumption that its only when you give them attention they stay. Stalkers have a sickness they twist reality. I had one, it was bad, never showed him the slightest interest but he had already made me his wife in his mind and had named our kids. Will call me 20 times first thing in the morning followed by a barrage of text messages, threaten to come to my hosue, my office send me pictures of myself, my family etc. It was bad. People laughed it off and said the guy was in "Love".I however reported to the Security agencies and he was invited after sending some threats asked to write never to contact me again.

Watch channel 171 there is a special program on stalking and stalkers. A man stalked a couple claiming to be their son infact almost killed them. Stalking is bad and dangerous, has nothing to do with the victim giving attention or lack of it

You took actions because you were not interested and told people about it.

If a stalked man reports to his wife, family, friends and necessary authorities, a solution will be found
Re: Confronting The Mistress by edwife(f): 2:56pm On Oct 30, 2014
pickabeau1:
Cool....


So all this hard women things na just online formings.....


grin...

Picka say the truth,have I ever appear or sound hard online before? I don't even fight....I don't know how to start with cheesy,not because i am righteous or saint,but because i chose to live this way....and i am wired like that.
Re: Confronting The Mistress by tpia6: 2:56pm On Oct 30, 2014
it almost makes them competitors.

are they not competing?
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 2:57pm On Oct 30, 2014
bukatyne:

You took actions because you were not interested and told people about it.
If a stalked man reports to his wife, family, friends and necessary authorities, a solution will be found

You earlier said people will only keep disturbing if you give attention. Sometimes men feel they can handle it or feel ashamed to say a woman is harrassing them same way they feel ashamed to say they are being abused physically or emotionally.

It doesnt mean they love or condole the attention. Men with mistresses are different from men being stalked. Who wants 50 missed calls a day?
Re: Confronting The Mistress by tpia6: 2:57pm On Oct 30, 2014
pickabeau1:

what if he gets tired and calls your bluff and runs to the arms of the other woman





then wish them good luck and godspeed.

he who fights and runs away will live to fight another day.
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Kimoni: 2:58pm On Oct 30, 2014
edwife:


I kid you not....

Not everyone was born with an iron arm or fighting skills... cheesy

We do have differents ways of fighting....

I love my life so much as to involve myself in something that will probably affect my vision or leave me with a scar..... cheesy

Does ain't the husband coming back home? cheesy

grin grin grin grin

Edwife, I can't stop laughing. You need to get some karate skills o, why you go see fight dey run now??
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 2:59pm On Oct 30, 2014
Nashville:


So the mistress is not doing any wrong. It seems we are giving these daughters of jezebel a free pass aint we.

The men no doubt are dogs, but shouldnt these girls be called biatches too? When they know nothing happens, they are even encouraged to break more homes. And then they get married hoping to have living husbands?


Let me ask you, who gave these ladies the power to be biatches? who gave them the power to break homes? For you to be bold enough to do something,l you must have a backing, isnt it? You must have people to encourage to forge ahead and do it. who are they? Can fire burn a house when it isnt introduced or started in that house? even if fire starts, who is to quench that fire?

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Re: Confronting The Mistress by Kimoni: 3:00pm On Oct 30, 2014
Sophyrocks:


Sincerely, a stalker cannot continue to stalk for long especially when you have shown to be steadfast, unmovable, disciplined and consistent in your stance!! How jobless can one be to keep stalking another? Once a man lets his wife know and they botth come together to ward off temptations, they will come out victorious! if a man is that weak like a puppet, let him let his wife know o. However they choose to handle it is up to them.


Exactly, and I am 99% sure of how the woman will choose to handle it.
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 3:07pm On Oct 30, 2014
Sophyrocks:

Let me ask you, who gave these ladies the power to be biatches? who gave them the power to break homes? For you to be bold enough to do something,l you must have a backing, isnt it? You must have people to encourage to forge ahead and do it. who are they? Can fire burn a house when it isnt introduced or started in that house? even if fire starts, who is to quench that fire?

I remember when the chat history of a certain married actress leaked to the press. She was sending seductive solicitious text messages to some Governors and Guber aspirants. Of the 4 she sent 3 responded, one went to have an affair with her and later stopped talking to him you could see it from the way she kept begging and throwing herself while he answered in monoslyabus meanwhile weeks earlier he was declaring love for her.

One a highly disciplined south west popular governor who despite being very handsome and should be expected to give in to this desperate woman was the one who never responded. She sent several messages even pretended to be crying and heartbroken, in love with him and all sorts he never responded.

People can only ask na you go choose how to answer
Re: Confronting The Mistress by edwife(f): 3:10pm On Oct 30, 2014
Kimoni:


grin grin grin grin

Edwife, I can't stop laughing. You need to get some karate skills o, why you go see fight dey run now??

Leave me o,karate skills kwa? cheesy cheesy

What i do in the gym is enough for me.... cheesy

I beg,there are differents ways to kill a rat... cheesy
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 3:16pm On Oct 30, 2014
aisha2:


I remember when the chat history of a certain married actress leaked to the press. She was sending seductive solicitious text messages to some Governors and Guber aspirants. Of the 4 she sent 3 responded, one went to have an affair with her and later stopped talking to him you could see it from the way she kept begging and throwing herself while he answered in monoslyabus meanwhile weeks earlier he was declaring love for her.

One a highly disciplined south west popular governor who despite being very handsome and should be expected to give in to this desperate woman was the one who never responded. She sent several messages even pretended to be crying and heartbroken, in love with him and all sorts he never responded.

People can only ask na you go choose how to answer

Thank you for bringing up such instances. Now you see what i am talking about.
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 3:17pm On Oct 30, 2014
Kimoni:



Exactly, and I am 99% sure of how the woman will choose to handle it.

grin grin

How will she handle it? Remember, both she and her husband are involved. Not every woman is the same.
Re: Confronting The Mistress by tpia6: 3:18pm On Oct 30, 2014
one went to have an affair with her and later stopped talking to him you could see it from the way she kept begging and throwing herself while he answered in monoslyabus


maybe he was wondering wetin remain to discuss.

possibly he didnt enjoy the sex as well, who knows.

or he'd already had another affair immediately after her own.
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 3:18pm On Oct 30, 2014
aisha2:


People can only ask na you go choose how to answer

So when it is the woman asking - nothing wrong abi. Meanwhile, these ladies know the men are married o.

But when it is the man asking, then all hell is lose because he is married. I know this is wrong, but I do not think these useless girls that date married men are any better than the men.

When these same girls marry, they now start crying that their husbands are cheating.
Re: Confronting The Mistress by pickabeau1: 3:21pm On Oct 30, 2014
edwife:


Picka say the truth,have I ever appear or sound hard online before? I don't even fight....I don't know how to start with cheesy,not because i am righteous or saint,but because i chose to live this way....and i am wired like that.

Not you oooo...

I meant in.a general sense

Apologies if it sounded like it was u

tpia6:

then wish them good luck and godspeed.
he who fights and runs away will live to fight another day.

True
Re: Confronting The Mistress by edwife(f): 3:28pm On Oct 30, 2014
pickabeau1:


Not you oooo...

I meant in.a general sense

Apologies if it sounded like it was u


None taken.....

I know you did not mean it that way....
Re: Confronting The Mistress by edwife(f): 3:29pm On Oct 30, 2014
Nashville:


So when it is the woman asking - nothing wrong abi. Meanwhile, these ladies know the men are married o.

But when it is the man asking, then all hell is lose because he is married. I know this is wrong, but I do not think these useless girls that date married men are any better than the men.

When these same girls marry, they now start crying that their husbands are cheating.

Re: Confronting The Mistress by pickabeau1: 3:31pm On Oct 30, 2014
edwife:


None taken.....

I know you did not mean it that way....

Cool

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Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 3:32pm On Oct 30, 2014
Nashville:

So when it is the woman asking - nothing wrong abi. Meanwhile, these ladies know the men are married o.
But when it is the man asking, then all hell is lose because he is married. I know this is wrong, but I do not think these useless girls that date married men are any better than the men.
When these same girls marry, they now start crying that their husbands are cheating.

The man has a legal and moral obligation, he signed and swore too. Its his job to keep the obligation not the job of some easy virtue stranger. When they come say NO because its the man who will risk his marriage, family and health.

The girls are wrong but legally you cant hold them for any wrong

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Re: Confronting The Mistress by Kimoni: 3:49pm On Oct 30, 2014
Sophyrocks:


grin grin

How will she handle it? Remember, both she and her husband are involved. Not every woman is the same.


grin grin grin Not everybody be edwife ooo

Some women can fight for africa esp when they don't believe in divorce or separation.
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Kimoni: 3:51pm On Oct 30, 2014
edwife:


Leave me o,karate skills kwa? cheesy cheesy

What i do in the gym is enough for me.... cheesy

I beg,there are differents ways to kill a rat... cheesy


As long as the rat is dead ba? wink grin
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 3:59pm On Oct 30, 2014
Kimoni:



grin grin grin Not everybody be edwife ooo

Some women can fight for africa esp when they don't believe in divorce or separation.

Well, lets be very very very honest. Has the fighting with mistresses ever stopped wandering D1cks from wandering? Nowadays, such men seem to enjoy the view of the fighting between women over them and take women to be fools. The fighting seems to be boosting their Ego. Dnt you think? everyone will inwardly feel soooooooo flattered when a partner fights with a Rival. I think women need a different approach to cheating in men since their conventional nolly wood methods have never worked.
Re: Confronting The Mistress by EfemenaXY: 4:05pm On Oct 30, 2014
naijaboiy:
Some of these girls won't leave we men embarassed

No matter how hard we try,,you know say konji no dey respect man lipsrsealedgrin

I don't blame some women that confront the mistresses smiley

Only a f00lish woman would leave her home, kids, business, etc to go confront a mistress. Why should she fight the man's battles for him while he sits there watching wifey embarrass herself over his shyte?

A woman can't force a man to sleep with her. The man must be a willing party for it to happen in the first place - and such a man deserves to lose his home.

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Re: Confronting The Mistress by naijaboiy: 4:17pm On Oct 30, 2014
EfemenaXY:


Only a f00lish woman would leave her home, kids, business, etc to go confront a mistress. Why should she fight the man's battles for him while he sits there watching wifey embarrass herself over his shyte?

A woman can't force a man to sleep with her. The man must be a willing party for it to happen in the first place - and such a man deserves to lose his home.
foolish or no foolish....it won't stop.

Some women can't stand a small girl whom they can give birth to trying to snatch their husbands...

As for the willing partnership,,konji na bastard grin
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Stillfire: 4:31pm On Oct 30, 2014
How many mistresses would you confront especially in Nigeria where it's like the norm for married men to have girlfriends? Many wives have lost it in the head pursuing one mistress from the other. It's really not healthy. Those women are never happy. Gone are the days you fight another woman for a man aka 'fight for my marriage'. It has never been worth it for the female sanity. It ended up breeding wives that lose themselves. Is that what you want from your wife? A husband can tell his wife off and shout like a gramophone that he's the head but can't ward off female advances, hehehe?

Unless the mistress invades my space, or he brings her to the house.

Nashville, what you should be proposing is a manual dictating to your fellow boys how to ward off unwanted female advances. Nobody is going to fight for you people ever again. It has been proven it ain't worth it.

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Re: Confronting The Mistress by Stillfire: 4:37pm On Oct 30, 2014
EfemenaXY:


Only a f00lish woman would leave her home, kids, business, etc to go confront a mistress. Why should she fight the man's battles for him while he sits there watching wifey embarrass herself over his shyte?
A woman can't force a man to sleep with her. The man must be a willing party for it to happen in the first place - and such a man deserves to lose his home.

I think there's an orgas..mic sensation men feel having women fight over them.
A classy woman would never embarrass herself. Even if I were this stupid to attack a mistress, I would hire people to do the dirty work for me rather than soil my fingernails in a bid to 'confront'.

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Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 5:02pm On Oct 30, 2014
Stillfire:


I think there's an orgas..mic sensation men feel having women fight over them.
A classy woman would never embarrass herself. Even if I were this stupid to attack a mistress, I would hire people to do the dirty work for me rather than soil my fingernails in a bid to 'confront'.



Confronting the girl does not mean going out to fight her. It could mean calling her and giving her a warning. It could mean calling her parents. It could mean calling someone that knows her or even in her office or church or finding a way to get back at her.

It is about passing a message that - young girl you are doing wrong and you this may bite you someday. I am not sure why you women are ignoring these young girls as if what they are doing is ok. This whole thing is about demand and supply. Wandering d1cks as you call them know that there are itchy puussies out there. If there were no itchy puussies, there wouldnt be wondering d1cks. I think both sides of the equation need to be addressed and not just wondering d1cks.


[quote author=aisha2 post=27583560]
The man has a legal and moral obligation, he signed and swore too. Its his job to keep the obligation not the job of some easy virtue stranger. When they come say NO because its the man who will risk his marriage, family and health.
The girls are wrong but legally you cant hold them for any wrong[/quote}

Confronting the girl does not mean going out to fight her. It could mean calling her and giving her a warning. It could mean calling her parents. It could mean calling someone that knows her or even in her office
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Godmystrength: 5:09pm On Oct 30, 2014
If the man is a chronic and baptized cheater, how many mistress do you want to confront??

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Re: Confronting The Mistress by beeevan: 5:15pm On Oct 30, 2014
Don't confront a mistress, agreed! Edwife did you say meeting them in an eatery? I may not resist the urge to run them over shocked. Reaction depends on my stage in life, too young to fight over a man....After one have built ,invested and old, a cockroach comes from no where to partake? Never confront a mistress if you have no tight game and the guts to see it through. Never fight a mistress if you intend leaving the man unscathed to continue dis respecting you, he can't cheat when he is bedridden.


If you are tired of marriage, get a divorce and let your partner take the blame for your cheating if they refused you freedom.

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Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 5:15pm On Oct 30, 2014
Nashville:

Confronting the girl does not mean going out to fight her. It could mean calling her and giving her a warning. It could mean calling her parents. It could mean calling someone that knows her or even in her office or church or finding a way to get back at her.
It is about passing a message that - young girl you are doing wrong and you this may bite you someday. I am not sure why you women are ignoring these young girls as if what they are doing is ok. This whole thing is about demand and supply. Wandering d1cks as you call them know that there are itchy puussies out there. If there were no itchy puussies, there wouldnt be wondering d1cks. I think both sides of the equation need to be addressed and not just wondering d1cks.

I will stick to confronting my husband should he ever cheat, thank You. I have had a woman come scream and insult me in the office, embarass me in front of colleagues and superiors, when my boss came and took me and her to his office turns out it was a different person, we just had the same first name.

I have also had a woman call me: reason her husband dialed my number 3 times and 10pm so since she had caught her husband cheating severally she had called to warn me. Maybe the calm way I spoke with her made her open up and start lamenting her marital role. I asked how many numbers she had called that day she said 4 and none were nice to her, they all told her off. The reason her husband had called me was because we were working on a project together and had a joint presentation he had sent some emails and wanted to alert me, I didnt pick as I was asleep.
Anyway, the man was a known womaniser in our work field, whenever we travel he always had some girl with him so I wonder how many girls a wife like that will call and report.

The wife herself told me she had fought, called and threatened so many women yet if she gets through to one he moves on to another, why she stays na she sabi.

You can call, you can fight you can threaten but at the end of the day its the husband who you married who is responsible for his actions as a husband. Its him I have unprotected se-x with

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Re: Confronting The Mistress by pickabeau1: 5:16pm On Oct 30, 2014
beeevan:
Don't confront a mistress, agreed! Edwife did you say meeting them in an eatery? I may not resist the urge to run them over shocked. Reaction depends on my stage in life, too young to fight over a man....After one have built ,invested and old, a cockroach comes from no where to partake? Never confront a mistress if you have no tight game and the guts to see it through. Never fight a mistress if you intend leaving the man unscathed to continue dis respecting you, he can't cheat when he is bedridden.


If you are tired of marriage, get a divorce and let your partner take the blame for your cheating if they refused you freedom.


hmmmm..................................
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 5:17pm On Oct 30, 2014
aisha2:
About fighting for what we believe in, If the man believed in us he will fight whatever temptation. That he cheated means he doesnt believe in us in the first place, so there is nothing to fight for
The earlier you female folks realise that men are polygamous the better for you. A man doesnt have to give a reason to keep a mistress.
During marriage rite,a man pays a dowry to the lady signifying that he has exclusive right over her,a sign of her fidelity,aside from other gifts that will be given to her family.
Talk from now to eternity,if a man decided to keep a mistress,nothing the woman fit do,as worst,she will leave the marriage,while the son of man,brings another woman in.

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