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Re: Confronting The Mistress by freecocoa(f): 7:31pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
coogar:According to your theory, any woman that sleeps with a man must be in love with him, right? 3 Likes |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by coogar: 7:32pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
moca: i'm the hottest ituku citizen. Stillfire: some wives have gotten their hubbies in trouble with the whole jackie chan moves. i once heard of a wife that beat up her hubby's business partner at a restaurant. wifey thought she was his girlfriend. freecocoa: nah.... she has stopped loving her boyfriend - that's the only reason she would sleep with another man. with men, it's different. he can love his wife & sleep with another woman. he won't even remember the name of his mistress or the colour of her hair. it's like a handshake to him. he's done it & he's moved on. |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by tpia6: 7:32pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
carefreewannabe: you are not fighting to restore your dignity dear. you are refusing to pretend people's actions do not have consequences. many of you sound like mistress is your career goal. you wan chop wipe mouth. |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 7:35pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
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Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 7:36pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
tpia6: I am the last to pretend that people's actions or even words have no consequences. I just think that the mistress owes me absolutely nothing. She never made a promise to me. We don't know each other. I can consider her morally flawed but I can't expect her to act with my best interest at heart and I have to accept that humans do whatever suits their needs in the first place. Besides, I am not the type of woman to go physical on other ladies unless it is in self-defense. I would die of shame. 2 Likes |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by freecocoa(f): 7:40pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
coogar:Nna eh, where do you get your facts? Sometimes when men talk, I just laugh. Coogar what does it take to sleep with someone? You only need be attracted to someone ni o, in most relationships, the $ex happens even before the love comes. Attraction can come and go, if you feed it, it grows, I can understand you saying, a woman is almost always certain she's done with a man before leaving him for another but saying, a woman can only sleep with a man because she loves him is highly ridiculous. 2 Likes |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 7:41pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Nonso23: Why would I call a meeting with a mistress? We sign agreement before? When we went to swear before God was the mistress there? Did the mistress follow us to sign certificate? The meeting is between me and Oga. I no get business legally or otherwise with madam mistress |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 7:44pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
freecocoa: Dnt mind such ladies. I only make friends with ladies who reason like me. I have no biz with ladies who have low self esteem. My dear, every woman on the surface of this earth will get married except for some who have resolved not to based on choice. Dirty woman o, nagging woman o, even women with the worst character still get married. So please dnt listen to them o. See, men wey ready to massage your ego dey o. Talking from experience. Lol. I massage his ego, he massages mine. Thats how its supposed to be. |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by coogar: 7:45pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
freecocoa: i am telling you of what generally obtains from both genders. obviously, there are few exceptions to the general rule.
we are talking marriage here, not relationships. what would make a married woman fly the coop & sleep with another man outside must be a cogent reason. if you ask any cheating married woman out there, she has 101 reasons she's doing it. if you ask any cheating married man, most of them don't have a tangible reason for sleeping around. a woman can be 100% perfect & her husband will sleep around. if a husband is 100% perfect, it's hard to see his wife philandering, attraction or no attraction. that is the general rule.
that bit is your own interpretation - i never said that. all i said was a woman needs a reason to cheat, all a man needs to cheat is a room. |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 7:47pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: Hahaha. I just came to laugh at the bolded. Over to you Nigerian women. Do you have ego? Chai . Nigerian women don suffer. Thank God for my Japanese lineage |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 7:48pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
tpia6: Anyways, to each his own o. My dignity can never taken or dragged in the mud unless i allow it. I have absolutely Zero tolerance for cheating as i have a hot temper and I will deal with my husband accordingly!! all i know is i can't go about confronting mistresses and wasting my energy over a man made of dust. Divorce na option for me o. |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 7:49pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Somebody said call a meeting with d mistress . Osanubua! Nairaland wont kill me abeg o! 3 Likes |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by edwife(f): 7:49pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Chillisauce: Japanese lineage kwa? comment ca va mon amie? |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 7:50pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by coogar: 7:50pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Chillisauce: chillipepper....long time no see. beeevan told me you were contesting in a beauty pageant show in your village. how did it go? |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by edwife(f): 7:51pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
moca: Moca you better call her to jevinick to talk about how she will have to leave your hubby.... Don't forget to pay for the bill,na you call for meeting after all... |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 7:52pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
edwife: Yes o. So you didn't know? Cava! Jai besoin l'argent |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 7:53pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Chillisauce:japanese aka chinco dey fight too. No be here i saw where a wifey fought d mistress over d hubby So my dear, u r not entirely safe |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by EfemenaXY: 7:55pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Pennywise: This is a very dangerous thing to say, you know. You say love is enduring - but enduring of what? Infidelity? Risking your sanity, health, and even life all for the sake of a cheating spouse who sleeps well at night, at your expense? Shouldn't this "enduring love" work both ways? This mindset is what we've seen from many young women here on this forum who enter marriage with the set belief that "all men cheat". You go in there expecting the worse to happen and when it does, you continue to live a pretentious life that all's well on the outside, whilst slowing shriveling up and dying on the inside. To go on further to say that women "storming out" of their matrimonial home only end up regretting it because they find out that the next man they're with with cheats also....is just another classical example of the low self-esteem issues these women have, of themselves. Gosh! I don't even know where to start from! Okay: ~ First of all, women must - and I can't emphasis this enough - keep their eyes wide open when dating. Study your man like a hawk. Make the frigging effort to understand what makes him tick. If necessary, find out how he'll react to given situations. A man with a wandering eye for anything in skirts can't keep up the pretense forever. If you know your man is the womanizing type, and does it even whilst dating you, chances are he'll keep on at it when you do get married. You need to ask yourself at this point if this is something you're prepared to put up with for the next 30, 40, 50, 60 years. i.e: the rest of your married life. If you can't take it while dating, then walk out of the relationship without a backward glance. It's foolhardy for a woman to go into marriage thinking "I can change him". You cannot change an adult. He'll change only when he sees the need to, and is prepared to, not because you say so. Please, please, please, ladies out there - use your dating time to study your man. It's when you're meant to do your homework on him, and not get carried away with the latest smart phone, horse weave, expensive gifts, and whatever else he throws your way. ~ This bit of your sentence left me awe-struck: It is a lot easier for women in the west to make this decision because of financial independence. Pennywise, not only do you do women a great disservice with that utterance, you're effectively undermining the effort of your parents in educating you. Are there no female doctors, lawyers, engineers, businesswomen, infact, professionals out there in Nigeria? Are you telling me that there are no women back home who hold their own ground with respect to attaining financial independence for themselves? How can you make such a statement? And for you to equate financial independence to higher divorce rates is just mind boggling. I really don't know how to respond to this. Seriously. You think women who aren't "financially independent" in the west don't get divorced too? And finally, love and sex go hand-in-hand. How else do you express / show your spouse you love them if not through sex? Yes, I know there are a million other ways you can do that, but sex is an important ingredient to a happy marriage. You can't be happy without it. Unless ofcourse, you're both frigid. 1 Like |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by edwife(f): 7:55pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Chillisauce: Vraiment,mais tu es la femme d'un millionnaire.... |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 7:55pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
edwife:And if she put pepper spray inside bag eh kwa? U know these ladies mean biz now And pray paparazzi dey around. My own don finish be that o! Chei! 1 Like |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 7:55pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
coogar: Yeah, I was 1st runner up . Racism is still active , so I consoled myself with some candies . Now I need to burn 2kg again . How's sister Sarah Abi na sister caro |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 7:55pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Chillisauce: Hahahahahaha. |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 7:57pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Nonso23: Our agreement was "Forsaking all others" na so we gree so if he feels the need to wander to another vagi-na make he stay there. Agreement is agreement. Our mistress fire, why he no bring her make we do party? 1 Like |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by coogar: 7:57pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Chillisauce: she's in the kitchen making jollof rice. she sends her regards. |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 7:57pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Efe is typing epistle Madam, well done o |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 7:58pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by damiso(f): 7:58pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
coogar: @bolded coogar I thought nigerian women put on 25kg and then turn frigid or have attitude problems. is why their husbands cheat . So you agree some men cheat for absolutely no reason but just because they feel they can. 1 Like |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 7:58pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
So all I hear are the following: 1. Ignore the mistress - I have my dignity 2. Deal with my husband when he comes home Honestly speaking, if you are scared of the mistress and you think the husband will side with her, then you cannot deal with the husband. He is gone and best thing is to just leave the marriage. But that is for marriages that have completely broken down. Some marriages can still be salvaged and that was why I brought up the topic. But the "young mistresses" of today are the wives of tomorrow. So this mistress gets married to some guy eventually and the guy later starts cheating. Please tell me the moral right she would have to challenge her husband. Forget the paper they signed in court, I do not think such ladies have any justification to challenge their husbands or their husband's mistresses since they do not see anything wrong dating a married man. As they say, what goes around comes around. You date a married man when you are 24, your husband cheats on you when you are 34. Doesn't always happens that way though but it's all good. |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by freecocoa(f): 7:58pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
coogar:Stay there and keep telling yourself stories. Now e don change to "married women" woman na woman, married or not, why is it not different for unmarried men or it it? The fact that women(especially married)ones decide to respect/discipline themselves, doesn't mean they can't sleep with any fine man they see like cheating men do, you say these men have no reason to cheat, that can't be right mister, they have reasons which is usually ranging from, she's sexy, tired of sleeping with one woman blah blah blah. Cheating has nothing to do with perfection, it's a choice and anyone can make that choice, it's you men that made that your yeye rule which you say is generally accepted only by you, know this today coogar, women can cheat just like men, the reason we often don't is because, we have self control not because you think we are wired that way. 2 Likes |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by edwife(f): 7:59pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
moca: But you need to be ready,put pepper spray inside your own bag too..... eh eh,talk about fighting the other woman,i laugh in french.... 1 Like |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 8:00pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Nonso23:Official distangling eh kwa? This nonso will kill me today! |
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