spiceemman:
Even for an African man than I am , this is utterly ridiculous and way too much a set of rules to keep a man happy. Like she got to have/do all these? keep it simple, respect a man and he'd love you!

Missy89:


You really think u have all the answers don't you? I will just repeat your quote

If you know you know, if you don't, keep living.

GuyFawkes:
Nice one by the OP, reading through the comments can't help but SMH @ the vitriol been spewed by our resident NL feminists
Its not even laying down rules, dude was just giving a well meaning advice. Its left for you to take it or leave it.

And enough of all this Black/African feminist crap, y'all don't even believe in it other than to put it up as some sort of self defence. Go have a chat with your mums or grandmas to learn how to be an african woman that's if they haven't been fed the same dogma in their adulthood.

Peace

EnlightenedSoul:


Lollll @ you. Ok, Guy. Ok.

50calibre:


[size=18pt]I tell ya!! The shi*t being spewed here by some of these chics doesn't reflect the reality in the real world.

African women are desperately searching for husbands, once they start approaching 30, they go into crises mode, jumping from one spiritual house to the other, fasting & praying for weeks un-ending

I've been invited to a singles night before in Redeem church, damn!! I can authoritatively say that is the only social gathering I see females outnumber males.[/size]

Sophyrocks:


Why are you sooooo concerned about their praying to God for husbands? you think God doesnt answer prayers while you are here mocking them? what are you waiting for? can't you marry them? why are you drinking panadol over another man's headache? you yourself be better husband? do you also deserve a good wife?? this your list will even chase a good wife away because it reeks of low self esteem and she will be sooooo scared to near you. The list is too mechanical and rigid. No fun, no understanding. Is this what u have in store for ur wife? any man who depends on a woman to feel good about himself has a lot of work to do on himself. So guy, go and look at that mirror near you and check yourself veeeeery welll. You have a huuuuuge problem. dnt carry this your problem give your poor wife oooooo. See List!! Haba!. you wan kill person daughter because say you get blockos? sofri sofri o. Life aint that serious oooo. I am soooo glad other men do not reason like you.

EnlightenedSoul:


Lollll @ you. Ok, Guy. Ok.

SirShymex:

Who told you African men don't leave their rich abusive spouses? You mean the same African men with all kinds of mistresses everywhere, induced by their wives' wealth? Keep fooling yaself - they suck the peeps and leave her and dry, in her expired state. Don't mess with an African man!
Nah, when women start inviting you to singles' nights, almost seducing you on the road and telling you about their single status. Then it evidently shows it's more than the ministry. And they're desperate to mingle. Even when you go to those singles' nights, the overwhelming majority of people there are always women. Why so? Yet a lot of these folks come on here to preach feminism, and how women should be belligerent, while they suffer in silence. Heck, some even lie about being happily married, when they're desperately searching for a partner. Then you have got the ones who are more or less slaves to their husbands, but are always the loudest ones on here.
I don't have a problem with a partner doing wifely duties. However, if that's not ya status and you're just a fling. You need to maintain that status and stop forcing yourself on the guy. Give him space to breathe, and be patient. With time, he might consider you. But when you start acting like the wife, when you're not even his official partner - then that's problematic.

SirShymex:


I think you acted out of character on this thread. And you are one of the few posters I admire from afar.

The OP just got me going this morning with his '9001 ways to please an African man'

I just kept scrolling down,

and down,



and down thought my mouse was broken





Personally, I think the Emeritus Prof is basically trying to save black family, but talking about that missing link that has destroyed black families - esp with single mums everywhere. Yes, it is difficult to adhere to everything but there a few things in that post every black woman needs in her life.

See my thoughts below :-

Black people are the same as other folks, just cultural differences. Black women have always worked outside the home and earned money, my illiterate grandmother had her own shop and was involved in the shea butter trade. But black people keep making the same socio-economic mistakes everywhere we go. If we had more black owned businesses employing our own people there would be less underemployment amongst the menfolk. We keep making the mistake of figting for equality with white folk instead of building up our communities. Hope I'm making sense. Look at the Asian community, they tend to run family businesses no matter how small (we even by our foodstuff from them)which give them family flexibility instead of running round trying to do 9-5 or shift work.



I saw ya post one time and you alluded to being from Ibadan. I'd wager that Ibadan women are the most cultured and traditional Yoruba women out there. My mum was born and raised there and, Egbagirl, MsNas, and Missy89 (though she is acting belligerent now lol) are three other ones I know on this forum who are decent.

I'm not from Ibadan, ara-oko ni mi o, village person from Iseyin area so I've experinced old skool lifestyle of fetching water, grinding tomatoes on stone, cooking with firewood, sleeping in mud house ati be be lo.

Please, apologise to the Prof., he means well.

Eh, no

Mondisweets:
This are tips to remaining single, and you can agree that the number of men remaining single even in their 40s in Africa is increasing at an alarming rate. No one wants to be in a relationship with someone who makes it seem like loving them is a full time job. The only rule there is to love is, "treat others the way you would want to be treated in return" simple!

if u need someone else to keep u happy then u clearly have insecurity problems. Happiness and satisfaction are things that come from within, if u cannot find them in yourself best believe me you will not find them in someone else.

Sophyrocks:


Hahahahahahahahha.

The Op described the african man as a Baby with diapers whose sh1t must be cleaned 24/7. And yet he is the head of the home. Automatically, a woman should be a baby doll to keep this sort of man. When we say nairaland has a lot of funny creatures, they think we are just talking for nothing. Where is that guy that was doubting me in the African woman〓 suffering thread?

Godmystrength:
I wanted to read everything, i tried to read everything, but i had to stop reading at a point. The post is just too long and refusing to finish......and with the different colors.....

And @Ilekokonit, why are you abusing everybody in your language? Is that African Manly?? and how are you any better than the people you are accusing of ''running motor mouth like meter''?? Shey jeje o.... Pelepele dowo e o...

GuyFawkes:


What say you?

5minsmadness:
But I'm curious...what is it that the first ladies saw in the article that made them attack the Op? Is there anything 'bad' in what he said?

SirShymex:


Bruv, I met them all the time especially on Saturdays, at the town centre. There was actually one that's attractive as fvck getting too close one time, and was rubbing all her big t.its on my body lol. I actually did talk to her a few times but I had to fall back cos she is like 33. Too old for me. And you don't wanna fall in their trap lool.

You need to hear barber shop stories, fam. There was one time two of them were fighting over a married guy at a naij restaurant. And they both know this uncle is married lol. The guy just left them there lol.

5minsmadness:

I can bet NONE of them even read what ilekokonit wrote before proceeding with the bashing and insults! It was a well composed and complete article!

The article was COMPLETELY devoid of any malice but in true 21st century women fashion, speak at 1000 miles an hour at a man and disregard any thing he says as men have no sense. Innit

Who the hell do these UK Nigerian women think they are that they expect their men to come running at their beck and call Lord have mercy !!!

What happened to In Sickness and in Health or she wasn't listening to that part on her wedding day

And before you start saying marital strife is not my portion, think of Pastor Chris 1 and Pastor Chris 2, Benny hinn, Eddy Long and even Alvin Slaughter, do you think these people planned for their marriages to fail or flounder ??

SAMBARRY:
For them op fans

SAMBARRY:
Then other wise people said

SAMBARRY:
So as I was saying.