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enkay4love:
LMAO! U amuse me.Just continue wallowing in ur grief.Sorry oo.

wot is amusing about being different from odas? Hw doz refusing to stick to customs n tradition translat to grief? even a primary skul pupil going for a debate will be armed wit facts. u n ur cohorts lack facts so u try to get under d skin of d opposition by making baseless n irritating remarks. u can neva win dat way my dear. it wud hv been beta for u to hv said nufin.

1. We're too different to live together: women love people and relationships, men love objects (like cars, houses, gadgets, game consoles etc), a man's lot is his career, a woman's is marriage (according to the curse after the fall of man), women are indirect, men are always direct, men want sex before they develop feelings for women, women can't have sex without emotional attachment first(unless they r who.res, even if they are who.res lolzzz), a man wants to hv sex, a woman wants to make love (I swear she doesn't even mind just cuddling), men see having dinner as a time to quench hunger, women see having dinner as time for bonding, let me continue? A married man without money feels unfulfilled, a wealthy woman without a man feels similarly, I can go on and on! But no time, my point, you need a lot of patience, tolerance, understanding, endurance, compromise etc to survive in marriage. But life is too short, stay single and be free to be urself or get married and spend the rest of your life struggling to be another person. Continue reading, this is just one of seven.

My Answer to 1 - Have you ever wondered why like poles don’t attract and why unlike poles do?? Well that the same reason why men and women go together. Also when you are with the right person, you do not have to spend the rest of your life trying to be someone else, because the person takes you for you.

2. Love doesn't exist: if you intend to stake your future with a woman on an emotion as erratic as love, then you need to have ur head examined. Love is an emotional convulsion which, like other sicknesses, are recovered from with time. Experience has thought me that a woman's love is only skin deep, but you can accentuate it with money. Ohhhh how women react to the smell of cash. Bleep love and go make some muller.

My Answer to 2 - Really?, love doesn’t exist?, if love doesn’t exist why did you point out in 4. That “your mother loves you like die?”. And I would like to point out something very important from your second point. You said and I quote Experience has thought me that a woman’s love is only skin deep.” That note that is your experience. Well for me I will tell you that loving the right person is a whole different ball.

3. You don't need a child: the world will remember you by the kids you left behind. That's a big fat lie!! You don't need a carbon copy of yourself roaming the earth after your demise to ensure your immortality. Instead, the world will remember you by the feats you surmounted! Obama will be remembered not as the father of, I don't even know his child's name and I don't give a fvck bout it! But as the first black US President. Mother Theresa never had a child, Einstein's legacy is not his kids but his discoveries. My point! You are not remembered by the kids you had but the records you set. But if you badly want a kid, adopt one, or get a baby mama and impregnate her but never, never get married just to have kids. marriage is too great a price to pay.

My Answer to 3 - I actually agree with you on this point, but I would like to point out the fact that even you said it “ never, never get married just to have kids, that actually is a dumb reason to get married, cos one day those kids will grow up and leave and you will be left with that person alone. Instead marry a friend, someone who gets your jokes, who understands when you would like to be left alone and who knows when to bug you, marry someone your truly love.

4. There is absolutely nothing new marriage has to offer you: just be honest with yourself. A family? You already belong to one (or do you think you just appeared out of thin air?), love? Your mother loves you like die, trust moi. A woman to manage your home? Get a maid! pay her well and she will manage your home without complications like disrespecting you, PMS, etc. Sex? Gone are the days men marry for sex ooo!!! Sex is damn cheap, you don't need marriage to enjoy it. By the way, what makes you think getting married entitles you to sex when you want it, ie, if at all?? U never jam female Hitler. Continue reading, I'm not even close to the end.

My Answer to 4 - I will just leave you with these two verses (so I don’t bore you with too much info) Proverbs 31:10 – 31 and Proverbs 8:11

5. Marriage is expensive: a woman's problems end when she gets married (at least on financial level), while a man's problems just begin. Most ladies don't have plans of making money(some stop after getting married). for a woman, after graduating from uni, a husband is top on d list above a job ie, if a job is on the list. Guys, stay alone and worry for one. Apart from financially, marriage drains you emotionally. You have to deal with a partner suffering from PMS five days in a month for life (by the time she reaches menopause, you'd be probably dead) and when she ain't suffering PMS, its worse cos she is pregnant!! Don't forget regular mood swings, test games, among other complicated female emotional ailments. Plus wait till you get divorced before you know how much financially and emotionally expensive marriage could be. That brings us to...

My Answer to 5 - Most ladies you’ve met don’t have plans of making money because its either you made yourself out to be what you are not (rich enough to take care of them all by yourself) or because you do not go for ladies who dream big and actually don’t plan their life around a man so you can feel better about yourself. Of course if you go for this type of women you’ll have problems when you can’t provide for them. I am working and so is my husband and we both take care of our family and ourselves. No one has to bear the burden alone, it’s called support (the thing the neck does for the head). Also for your information that 5 days a month PMS she suffers is the only way your mother was able to bring you into this world, so it something you should be thankful for.

6. It may end up in divorce: possible causes of divorce. She gains weight, sex with one person for years gone stale and boring, the love (or whatever dumb Bottom name you call it) fades, you want a new woman, (men are polygamous by nature, hard truth. Deal with it), she is no longer the woman you married, (true, women do change after marriage for many reasons, that is story for another day), you cheat on her, she cheats on you, many many more. Don't scar yourself with a painful divorce. Stay single and happy.

[b]My Answer to 6 - First I appreciate the fact that you said MAY, that means there is the possibility that it won’t take place. When you go through all your causes of Divorce, you’ll see that it just takes a discipline and determined person to avoid all that.
1. She gained weight – most probably after having your kids, why not encourage her to gym and while you are at it join her because I’m probably sure you have gained weight too, although she doesn’t make so much fuss about it.
2. Sex gone stale – spice it up, look up new sex positions, leave the house (take her to a nice hotel or vacation spot and do it), stop laying on your back and expecting her to ride you all day and one more thing have you ever tried pleasuring her, or is it always about you?.
3. The LOVE only fades when you let it, as I said spice things up and try new things, why not take charge of the kitchen for a change and let her wash the car instead, I’m sure whatever you cook up (yes even that meal with too much salt) will be lovely to her.
4. You want a new woman – that’s just an excuse to be promiscuous, I heard a saying once “ cheating is easy, why not try something challenging and stay faithful (I doubt someone like you can do that , from your write up you like the easy way out of things).
5. She is no longer the woman you married – how can she be when all you do is oppress her, and make her feel unloved. When dating a girl, you call her every day, send her loving text, take her out for dates and buy her surprise gifts, just because you love her, but when you get married, she just becomes another house furniture, tell me how she won’t change. Tell me when last you sent a surprise to your wife for no reason, just to show her how much you love her.[/b]


7. You get to focus on your dreams without distractions. Like I said earlier, a man's career is his lot (or curse). As s man if you haven't got a successful career, you will probably die unhappy and unproductive. The compromise you have to make to keep her happy will slowpoke you from achieving your dreams to the fullest. Pleasing a woman and pursuing your dreams are mutually exclusive. don't get married.

My Answer to 7 - Behind every successful man is a strong and intelligent woman. I’ll leave you with this article, written by a successful man Carmine Gallo http://www.askmen.com/money/successful_100/147_success.html
I know sometime it seem less stressful to take the easy way out, and yes everything has it’s good side and bad side (like you do) but let me tell you this God did not make a mistake in instituting marriage, when you meet the right person, marriage is actually the best gift you’ll ever get.

eminentme:
goat on heat..go after a doe and get the hell outta here. you swine!

Says the fat pig

i was actually looking forward to reading your reply to my message Mr. killjoy

dis is d dumbest thing anybody has eva posted on nairaland...the writer keeps contradictin himself

@ emfun
waw! u actually spent tym typing all diz. I just had to reply ur reply

1. u missed my point here. lime giv u an illustration. wen women complain, most tyms dey don't want any solutn to d problem, insted dey want u to just listen lyk mumu n kip saying, eya, sory, sorry. Bt a man listening to a woman's ish doznt hv tym for dat, instead he wants to quickly solve her problem so we can hear word, r u getting d differences I mean, so to hv peace in DAT scenario d man has to be someone he naturally isn't n start forcing himself to listen n its a borin lyf. dis is just one difference I mentioned. dey r numerous. take tym to read bout men n women psychology, u wil see a yawning rift of differences.

2. leme make dis simple. d love from moda to child, broda to sister, fada to son is naturally genuine. Bt any love outside ur immediate family. ur on ur own. don't deceive urself about d love one mans daughter hv for u. no money no honey. don't say I didn't warn u

3. yea I'm happy u wer honest inof to agree with me on dis one. Bt marrying a friend , someone who laffs to ur jokes , d ryt person bla bla bla, for me, ladies will only respond to a mans money. u may be shocked y I kip saying dis, no vex na wetin eye dey see, na im mouth fit tok

4. I didn't boda to read d scriptures. experience has taught me dat pipl will always quote d Bible to support der argument.

5. on dis one ur bias. for a lady lookin for work after skul, der r ten lukin for husband. my dear abeg took tru. n women r always playing emotional games. women will DELIBERATELY create tension in d family wen tins go on fyn for long tym. abeg be honest. even if u hv a perfect husband u will make sure u guys fyt n settle regularly. wot it adds to women, I still don't knw

6. on dis one, I can't took too much, divorce rate is high n many of d couples still togeda r dying in silence. shame of wot pipl will say won't allow dem split.

7. plz tok true, Hw many gals r ready to start wit a man from scratch women of nowadays want ready made house abeg tok tru!! which 21st century woman wan suffer wit man wen her classmate marry man wer get range rover?? leme tell u d two tins behind a successful man, one a pack of haters, two a woman pushing him to his first heart attack!!

leme repeat dis again, der is no ryt person if u don't hv money. n every gal bcoms d ryt person wen u hammer. dats d bitter truth

emFUN:
i was actually looking forward to reading your reply to my message Mr. killjoy

well I hv

@Linearity
Well, these scriptures u quoted does not buttress the Op's idea of not getting married. Rather, it's encouraging being a eunuch for Christ. A eunuch doesn't marry or have sex. He's castrated either spiritually or biologically.
But the Op's idea of not getting married, is to remain single and having sex whenever he likes and to whoever he pleases thereby committing fornication. Will the scripture encourage fornication?

killjoy:
wot is dis one saying? who asked a gal to cum cook for a guy? go n practice ur good African wife crap in ur fadas house y do u seem distobed DAT men r nt as interested in marriage as u tot? don't worry about d people who apply d crap I wrote Bt worry about urself my friend.

sorry oga killjoy cos no be me kill ur joy.pls take out ur e-frustration on someone else.besides am entitled to my own opinion just like u are to urs.besides weather u marry or not will not improve my life in anyway.

killjoy:
wot is amusing about being different from odas? Hw doz refusing to stick to customs n tradition translat to grief? even a primary skul pupil going for a debate will be armed wit facts. u n ur cohorts lack facts so u try to get under d skin of d opposition by making baseless n irritating remarks. u can neva win dat way my dear. it wud hv been beta for u to hv said nufin.

u wuld've bn better of as a politician,rather dan a pocket lawyer.Hehehe,still laughing.

killjoy:
wot is amusing about being different from odas? Hw doz refusing to stick to customs n tradition translat to grief? even a primary skul pupil going for a debate will be armed wit facts. u n ur cohorts lack facts so u try to get under d skin of d opposition by making baseless n irritating remarks. u can neva win dat way my dear. it wud hv been beta for u to hv said nufin.

u wuld've bn better off as a politician,rather dan a pocket lawyer.Hehehe,still laughing.

enkay4love:
u wuld've bn better of as a politician,rather dan a pocket lawyer.Hehehe,still laughing.

woteva rocks ur boat baby. its beta to laff dan to cry. keep laffin jare

Then hw can a man live witout a child

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Make money. Fvck prussy. Born Pikin. Die happy. That's legacy

DaBullIT:
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Make money. Fvck prussy. Born Pikin. Die happy. That's legacy

lolZzzz

Marriage is overrated really,why get married when you can do everything a married person does. Just make your money,have one or two kids and enjoy your life till you die.

skelefish:
Which God's command? Is it go into the world and multiply the only command in the bible? How come pple are saying God's command, it's not even among the ten commandment, it's not obligatory.(He who finds a wife, not he must). Marriage is distraction, that was why some great men in the bible didn't get married, so as to enable them fulfil their assignment, if marriage was compulsory as being speculated, the likes of jesus, paul, elijah, stephen, including rev fathers....wouldn't have remain single. Killjoy is the man of the year, God bless the OP for this...

Jesus Christ, Paul, Elijah and Stephen made themselves eunuchs for God's work. They did not marry neither did they go about fornicating. This is far different from what the Op is preaching. If the Op had said he wanted to be a revrend father, i don't think anyone would criticise him.

Tabh:
Marriage is overrated really,why get married when you can do everything a married person does. Just make your money,have one or two kids and enjoy your life till you die.

first tym a gal has said d truth on dis thread

One of the greatest source of stress among human is 'relationship'. Call it marriage or any name. God didn't institute marriage to take man away from fulfilling his purpose or divine plan. I tell young folks in my seminars and conferences "Find your purpose before finding a wife" it is dangerous for both of you to be driving to a destination you don't know. ...

Back to the topic

One bad marriage doesn't make all marriages a bad one. Our problem sometimes is that we always want to eat our cake and have it. We are solely responsible for consequences of our actions in the context of marriage, either good or bad.

What does the bible says about marriage?

Nowhere in the bible does it appear we "must" marry. Please note the word "must"
Jesus, Paul, Elijah... We don't have their biblical records of marriage. Apostle Paul says: 'if a man cannot hold the urge let him get a wife... Marriage is a good thing but we should also be conscious that marriage also can derail you of becoming who God want you to be. Your purpose and divine assignment is not tied up to finding Mr or Mrs compatible...

To be contd...

killjoy:
first tym a gal has said d truth on dis thread

No, you're wrong

Society is a mix. Don't marry if you like. Chase ur dream as such if it makes u happy but I can bet u will eventually be lonely at old age. Try and see.

Poster makes sense. But you don't have to be a soothsayer to see the lonely life ahead with this kind of philosophy. Very lonely.
Marriage is not for everyone sha..I wish you the best.

enkay4love:
LMAO! U amuse me.Just continue wallowing in ur grief.Sorry oo.

You can't be better than this in real life...take marriage away...u dead.

namdo:
Society is a mix. Don't marry if you like. Chase ur dream as such if it makes u happy but I can bet u will eventually be lonely at old age. Try and see.

U don't lack audience when u are cool with ur career and cash.

Na lie u talk. Sounds to me i cant afford a wife or a home... No be my hand my lineage go end. Tell the person wei send i say u no find me on NL.... I go marry. Comb d webs outta my wifes legs (no matter the cost) . Love my wife no matter what and make my marriage work by God's grace

modele2:
Poster makes sense. But you don't have to be a soothsayer to see the lonely life ahead with this kind of philosophy. Very lonely.
Marriage is not for everyone sha..I wish you the best.

My mum had 5 of us... none is with her now. The lastborn she gave birth claiming loneliness left her 10yrs ago...she doesn't feel lonely. She calls us and enjoys her water supply and gen set. Just make money first... everybody will be ur pal...coming to ur huz like mad.

4dbeta:
Jesus Christ, Paul, Elijah and Stephen made themselves eunuchs for God's work. They did not marry neither did they go about fornicating. This is far different from what the Op is preaching. If the Op had said he wanted to be a revrend father, i don't think anyone would criticise him.

A lot of married pple fuc.ck outside oh.

dajoaneke:
Na lie u talk. Sounds to me i cant afford a wife or a home... No be my hand my lineage go end. Tell the person wei send i say u no find me on NL.... I go marry. Comb d webs outta my wifes legs (no matter the cost) . Love my wife no matter what and make my marriage work by God's grace

Wetin u dey delay am for?

Elinob:
Then hw can a man live witout a child

Say that to catholic reverend fathers and Pope.

ferdiii:
U don't lack audience when u are cool with ur career and cash.

its lyk ur taking dis words directly from my mind! dis guys kip saying one will b lonely wit tym. wrong! money attract pips. both boys n gals. money answereth all tins! do dey undastnd wot it means guys will die to hang out wit u, for women, forget it

killjoy:
finally I find another man who sees the world with dsame pair of. glasses as me. I will find d book at all cost n read it . God bless u

Read this book a whiles back via recommendation. Funny thing is its writen by a woman.

Btw have you seen the "House of Cards" original netflix series? I'm refering to the two main characters whom said series its focused on. I think its the kind of Understanding this couple share, if at all, between man and wife that can lead to longevity of a marriage in the age we live in.
Or maybe a Dominant Alpha male by all regards and a naturally submissive woman- hence the appeal of "50 shades" to the feminines of this world, *who knows*.

traware:
It depends on the format.As long as its complete,no problem.The other books' name is 'Sperm wars' by Robin Baker.Its also a fascinating read

Read that one also. There's one by another Nigerian written in the 80's I think at the earlier stages of Feminism- the writer, Chiwenzu..I forget the name of the book now. Strong stuff. Btw traware, are u perchance familiar with the Manosphere?