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killjoy:
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waw! u actually spent tym typing all diz. I just had to reply ur reply

1. u missed my point here. lime giv u an illustration. wen women complain, most tyms dey don't want any solutn to d problem, insted dey want u to just listen lyk mumu n kip saying, eya, sory, sorry. Bt a man listening to a woman's ish doznt hv tym for dat, instead he wants to quickly solve her problem so we can hear word, r u getting d differences I mean, so to hv peace in DAT scenario d man has to be someone he naturally isn't n start forcing himself to listen n its a borin lyf. dis is just one difference I mentioned. dey r numerous. take tym to read bout men n women psychology, u wil see a yawning rift of differences.

2. leme make dis simple. d love from moda to child, broda to sister, fada to son is naturally genuine. Bt any love outside ur immediate family. ur on ur own. don't deceive urself about d love one mans daughter hv for u. no money no honey. don't say I didn't warn u

3. yea I'm happy u wer honest inof to agree with me on dis one. Bt marrying a friend , someone who laffs to ur jokes , d ryt person bla bla bla, for me, ladies will only respond to a mans money. u may be shocked y I kip saying dis, no vex na wetin eye dey see, na im mouth fit tok

4. I didn't boda to read d scriptures. experience has taught me dat pipl will always quote d Bible to support der argument.

5. on dis one ur bias. for a lady lookin for work after skul, der r ten lukin for husband. my dear abeg took tru. n women r always playing emotional games. women will DELIBERATELY create tension in d family wen tins go on fyn for long tym. abeg be honest. even if u hv a perfect husband u will make sure u guys fyt n settle regularly. wot it adds to women, I still don't knw

6. on dis one, I can't took too much, divorce rate is high n many of d couples still togeda r dying in silence. shame of wot pipl will say won't allow dem split.

7. plz tok true, Hw many gals r ready to start wit a man from scratch women of nowadays want ready made house abeg tok tru!! which 21st century woman wan suffer wit man wen her classmate marry man wer get range rover?? leme tell u d two tins behind a successful man, one a pack of haters, two a woman pushing him to his first heart attack!!

leme repeat dis again, der is no ryt person if u don't hv money. n every gal bcoms d ryt person wen u hammer. dats d bitter truth

Bros, trying to make points is of men. Women can't make points but since their lot is marriage... y wld they make any sense or read objectively? Set ur career going...5 will want to marry u and 30 will be hanging as side chicks. Na just money...they say they prefer to cry in a Benz to a keke.

My own is since the institution is based on cash...obviously no love..we shld handle it as such. But they want what they see it as now to be what it should be. Haha. I don't hate them but I know what the game is and cater for my interests. chikina.

The Red Queen

ferdiii:
You can't be better than this in real life...take marriage away...u dead.

. Laff wan kill me! d woman wey put u 4 dis grieving condition don rily buy market.Hehehehe.

enkay4love:
. Laff wan kill me! d woman wey put u 4 dis grieving condition don rily buy market.Hehehehe.

Check my pix...women run after realizing aint saying shiit about M word...I pretend sometimes with gud English speaking ones...but deep down...it is either business or nothing. My elder brother heard nothing and was shocked but contract-based he welcomes. Even on that one...no show sef.
I see marriage as u see it....no love...self-interest. You thought u had a monopoly.

killjoy:
woteva rocks ur boat baby. its beta to laff dan to cry. keep laffin jare

Thanks jare.

ferdiii:
Check my pix...women run after realizing aint saying shiit about M word...I pretend sometimes with gud English speaking ones...but deep down...it is either business or nothing. My elder brother heard nothing and was shocked but contract-based he welcomes. Even on that one...no show sef.
I see marriage as u see it....no love...self-interest. You thought u had a monopoly.

Choi!! Wot u jst laid up there is an expression of ur level of immaturity,all dis while I thot a mature mind was entertaining,little did i realise it was jst a JSS 1 clown.Abeg save ur breath & take a chill pill,cos u need it more dan any1 on dis forum,life is too short,GOT IT!! For d record,I jst realised u're a lil liar cos u hav nuffing lik a pix on ur profile.Hehehehe.

Op, ihe nine inako bu rubbish. Just that u came from a broken home doesn't guarantee a perfect life without a companion. If I may ask, have u been married? I asked because the taste of a food is in the eating. As long as I am concern, marriage is a very sweet thing. I had a great family with my parents and four siblings and we all remains happy and as friends till today. My dad is known by his achievements and we all are known by our individual achievements different from our dads. If u ask a gay, he'll tell you that ba.nging fellow man is the best thing life can offer bt u and I knows it's not . If ur ideology is nice, I wonder why people are still waiting to tow ur foot steps

Dude, this is too lame. Just get married when you feel yooure ready, don't get pressured into it. And remember some women actually helps you stay focused, you know what they say; behind every successful man...

MrsBreezy:
You're a bit pessimistic.

Off point though, why didn't u go 4 miss nairaland?

And was it not the same companion that prompted his eviction from the Garden of eden? Eve brought more sorrow to Adam than Joy...He was driven out of the Garden of Eden by GOD all because of her.

Princecalm:
Now i get what all this is all about,op has not really tasted true love that is why he opted for some so called judicious list,i know it will be a pain to op and his likes who see men marry and also live happily because all the girls they came across were bad eggs as they claim.But does it also occur to you that there are men who enjoys thier marriage till death do them part and why is it that they are and you are not enjoying yours?Certainly you are reaping the seeds you have sown.From op analysis he says the best way to keep yourself happy is to stay single all your life.Even Adam,the first man on earth asked for a companion and God who knows the best offered him a woman,why was Adam not happy when he was single.
Marriage really has a lot to offer,you belong to a family as the op indicated in his write-up,and others are going to be part of your family as well.

killjoy:
as a matter of fact, d good tins marriage has to offer to a man r tins he can enjoy while still single. wot I withheld r more downsides to marriage. my parents r separated n seem happier that way. my friends Dada died of heart attack caused by his wife, look marriage shud be a no go area for a man who intends to live eida happy or long or both.

Thanks for your honesty and God bless you with more wisdom.

Like I read somewhere, To marry once is duty, twice is folly and thrice is madness.

killjoy:
these same words wer on my lips as at January first 2013. pray u don't hv to drink dsame portion I had to drink. all d same, all d best

Allow the guy.

He surely is underestimating how quickly a woman falls out of love. (Thats if she loved you in the first place).

Marriage. Fools rush in where Angels fear to thread.

killjoy:
tnx

Thank God. More Naija men are finally coming to the realisation that no woman is worth giving your heart to.

basille:
One of the best original post i've read on Nairaland. Great job Op, i love the nonconformity of your write-up.
Marriage is over rated, same with love.

Thank God. More Naija men are finally coming to the realisation that no woman is worth giving your heart to.

killjoy:
don't expect happily married men (if der is such a tin) to say all dis... n no, u won't believ even if an angel says all this. asking a woman not to get married is like asking a man to stay jobless, that's y I created this post for guys only!

Why den no go attack you. When you dey spoil their market.

most of them know in their heart of hearts that they are damaged goods anyway and are just looking for some unfortunate guy to take them to the altar and yet they will not be humble.

They fail to realise that smart men are beginning to reject foolish women regardless of their so called education or artificial beauty.

killjoy:
no. abit realistic, maybe. very realistic, yes!

modified!
made front page!

to all those calling me names like gay, percert, deluded etc, its hardly my fault DAT my way of thinking is above n beyond urs. its totally unmainatream n runs counter to all tradition n customs. let me live my lyf

to the intelligent guys who see reason with me, may God bless us! may we live long n happy lives n break records

to those who can't argue with reason n den resort to insults, my skin is mile thick. try again.

peace

killjoy

I dont find u guilty of all u wrote above, bt 4rm little i can tink off, il conclude that its either uve been once heart-broken or surely u havent found one suitable 4 ur taste cos i dont see a reason why men shouldnt get married wen im kinda convinced u'rnt a catholic who would want 2 become a reverend. Il bet ul overcome soon and come to thank me later bro.

killjoy:
no. abit realistic, maybe. very realistic, yes!

modified!
made front page!

to all those calling me names like gay, percert, deluded etc, its hardly my fault DAT my way of thinking is above n beyond urs. its totally unmainatream n runs counter to all tradition n customs. let me live my lyf

to the intelligent guys who see reason with me, may God bless us! may we live long n happy lives n break records

to those who can't argue with reason n den resort to insults, my skin is mile thick. try again.

peace

killjoy

I dont find u guilty of all u wrote above, bt 4rm little i can tink off, il conclude that its either uve been once heart-broken or surely u havent found one suitable 4 ur taste cos i dont see a reason why men shouldnt get married wen im kinda convinced u'rnt a catholic who would want 2 become a reverend. Il bet ul overcome soon and come to thank me later bro. Peace!!!

When a guy marries, he gets less, or none, of what he used to enjoy when single; achievements, freedom, sex etc. What he gets are nagging, high bp, drama etc Furthermore a man usually marries a woman for exclusivity, yet lots of married women cheat on their spouses...so what's the point in getting married. If you want kids, do what Ronaldo(a highly successful alpha male) did.

Freak ni bobo killjoy yi sha. C ehn u cannot kill our joy o. Homebreaker like u. Wo ori e. Coconut head with fish brain.

SWG1:
I am Even more disappointed when I see people that feel like they are full baked Christians trying to exaggerate flaws and showcase themselves as. all knowing.

Like I said , Il highlight more on this issue when I have ample time, But since u have done some justice to it. God bless u.


U don't really have to quote me, in such a manner to make your point. Remain blessed

Sorry...I must have misunderstood you.

Imagine a situation were all the men just refuse to marry omoh women will all comit suiside #who run the world?........................ Lol




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ClareMarie:
The reasons the bible, specifically St Paul gives for saying it's better to remain single is so all your time can be focused on the things of God 1st Cor 7:33. Not the misguided reasons killjoy gives. Come to think of it, I'm not into marriage myself, but not because I hate Men, but because I don't feel it's my calling. Everyone must not marry, but you need to be HAPPY About being single

We all know why Paul made these comments. If you look at it closely, the Bible is full of wisdom, principals for model life, guidance such that if the unbelievers follow it;s guiding principles, they will live a profitable live on earth here albeit without christ.

When I was in the University, one of our favorite Bible passages, was Paul's admonish to Timothyin 2 Tim 2:15..Study to show thyself approved unto God, a workman who needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth."..Though this passage was talking about studying the scripture, we also applied it to our Engineering books, calculus, etc.

I will not be surprised, if Paul in the Bible before he was converted will write exactly what the OP has written. He was a dedicated Bible scholar, a purity jew, who follows the laws of moses and was blameless...he took everything he did to the extreme and was well known and successful...but he was not saved. The same way, unbelievers today can apply Bible principals and be successful.

And it is wrong to preach the law to unbelievers, the Bible say it is alien to them...it is even more wrong to expect unbelievers to live a righteous life, you as a christian will be insulting the Holy Ghost if you have that expectation because, it is the Holy Ghost in you that is helping you to live a righteous live and it will be callous of you to expect the same from the unbeliever when they do not have the benefit and empowerment of the Holy Ghost.

So, it is perfectly normal for the OP to have sex outside marriage and also it is perfectly normal for him not to marry and he will be successful because the Bible have such a blueprint...it is not my position to judge him...all we can do is to preach Jesus and his Love to him and once they are Born Again, they will receive the Holy Spirit, which will empower them to forsake sin...Asking unbelievers to forsake Sin before they accept Christ is not only impossible, it achieves no purpose, because works without faith is dead.

killjoy:
readers discretion adviced: this is a long post. get a bowl of popcorn and your glasses. turn off the TV , you don't want to get distracted. if it took me time to write such a lengthy post, I wonder why you should complain about reading it. below are the reasons.

1. We're too different to live together: women love people and relationships, men love objects (like cars, houses, gadgets, game consoles etc), a man's lot is his career, a woman's is marriage (according to the curse after the fall of man), women are indirect, men are always direct, men want sex before they develop feelings for women, women can't have sex without emotional attachment first(unless they r who.res, even if they are who.res lolzzz), a man wants to hv sex, a woman wants to make love (I swear she doesn't even mind just cuddling), men see having dinner as a time to quench hunger, women see having dinner as time for bonding, let me continue? A married man without money feels unfulfilled, a wealthy woman without a man feels similarly, I can go on and on! But no time, my point, you need a lot of patience, tolerance, understanding, endurance, compromise etc to survive in marriage. But life is too short, stay single and be free to be urself or get married and spend the rest of your life struggling to be another person. Continue reading, this is just one of seven.

2. Love doesn't exist: if you intend to stake your future with a woman on an emotion as erratic as love, then you need to have ur head examined. Love is an emotional convulsion which, like other sicknesses, are recovered from with time. Experience has thought me that a woman's love is only skin deep, but you can accentuate it with money. Ohhhh how women react to the smell of cash. Bleep love and go make some muller.

3. You don't need a child: the world will remember you by the kids you left behind. That's a big fat lie!! You don't need a carbon copy of yourself roaming the earth after your demise to ensure your immortality. Instead, the world will remember you by the feats you surmounted! Obama will be remembered not as the father of, I don't even know his child's name and I don't give a fvck bout it! But as the first black US President. Mother Theresa never had a child, Einstein's legacy is not his kids but his discoveries. My point! You are not remembered by the kids you had but the records you set. But if you badly want a kid, adopt one, or get a baby mama and impregnate her but never, never get married just to have kids. marriage is too great a price to pay.

4. There is absolutely nothing new marriage has to offer you: just be honest with yourself. A family? You already belong to one (or do you think you just appeared out of thin air?), love? Your mother loves you like die, trust moi. A woman to manage your home? Get a maid! pay her well and she will manage your home without complications like disrespecting you, PMS, etc. Sex? Gone are the days men marry for sex ooo!!! Sex is damn cheap, you don't need marriage to enjoy it. By the way, what makes you think getting married entitles you to sex when you want it, ie, if at all?? U never jam female Hitler. Continue reading, I'm not even close to the end.

5. Marriage is expensive: a woman's problems end when she gets married (at least on financial level), while a man's problems just begin. Most ladies don't have plans of making money(some stop after getting married). for a woman, after graduating from uni, a husband is top on d list above a job ie, if a job is on the list. Guys, stay alone and worry for one. Apart from financially, marriage drains you emotionally. You have to deal with a partner suffering from PMS five days in a month for life (by the time she reaches menopause, you'd be probably dead) and when she ain't suffering PMS, its worse cos she is pregnant!! Don't forget regular mood swings, test games, among other complicated female emotional ailments. Plus wait till you get divorced before you know how much financially and emotionally expensive marriage could be. That brings us to...

6. It may end up in divorce: possible causes of divorce. She gains weight, sex with one person for years gone stale and boring, the love (or whatever dumb ass name you call it) fades, you want a new woman, (men are polygamous by nature, hard truth. Deal with it), she is no longer the woman you married, (true, women do change after marriage for many reasons, that is story for another day), you cheat on her, she cheats on you, many many more. Don't scar yourself with a painful divorce. Stay single and happy.

7. You get to focus on your dreams without distractions. Like I said earlier, a man's career is his lot (or curse). As s man if you haven't got a successful career, you will probably die unhappy and unproductive. The compromise you have to make to keep her happy will retard you from achieving your dreams to the fullest. Pleasing a woman and pursuing your dreams are mutually exclusive. don't get married.

disclaimer: its ironic when people say honesty is a virtue yet can't bear to hear (or read) the truth.

nota bene: I am not prejudiced towards women. I hate all equally.

I'm a woman and yet ȋ̝̊̅̄
Feel ur soooooooooo right. Infact no one can be righter. ȋ̝̊̅̄
Think the idea of marriage is crap livin ur whole life with a completely different person in ƮϦȩ name of compatibility, puulease.

Let's be honest, a lot of women are coming into marriage to take more that they can give. I met a young woman- working in finance, she's looking for a husband. She doesn't like cooking, cleaning, paying the bills etc. She wants a husband who's going to cook, work, pay the bills and clean. I told you her that she needs a slave not a husband.
In most cases, marriage is the easiest for a woman to climb out of poverty while it's the easiest way for a man to plunge into poverty.

rockinStrata:
And was it not the same companion that prompted his eviction from the Garden of eden? Eve brought more sorrow to Adam than Joy...He was driven out of the Garden of Eden by GOD all because of her.

man was destined to leave Eden.

enkay4love:
Choi!! Wot u jst laid up there is an expression of ur level of immaturity,all dis while I thot a mature mind was entertaining,little did i realise it was jst a JSS 1 clown.Abeg save ur breath & take a chill pill,cos u need it more dan any1 on dis forum,life is too short,GOT IT!! For d record,I jst realised u're a lil liar cos u hav nuffing lik a pix on ur profile.Hehehehe.

If I tell u my age...u will know u are the liar here...spambot won't allow me rest...so I'm as same as ferdimako. My pix is right there!

marilyn01:
Freak ni bobo killjoy yi sha. C ehn u cannot kill our joy o. Homebreaker like u. Wo ori e. Coconut head with fish brain.

Don't curse...not as if it means a thing...maintain decorum.

Ilekokonit:
Allow the guy.

He surely is underestimating how quickly a woman falls out of love. (Thats if she loved you in the first place).

Marriage. Fools rush in where Angels fear to thread.

Marriage na public toilet...those inside can't breathe and want to get out while those outside are dying to go in.

ferdiii:
A lot of married pple fuc.ck outside oh.

oh my God. guy! abeg just dey ansa dis self deceptive piple. tel dem d truth dey don't want to hear

Ilekokonit:
Thanks for your honesty and God bless you with more wisdom.

Like I read somewhere, To marry once is duty, twice is folly and thrice is madness.

hmmm !! NYC punch line. I will memorize it