ymb6374: bros d simple truth is ''she can never stop'' what kind of a daughter would rather allow her parents suffer while she enjoy's. my advice is for you to try and make an investment for her family. that way, they will have something to fall back on and the stress on your wife will be reduce drastically .. there is a saying that say's ''don't give me fish, rather teach my how to fish'' may God bless you more and more and you will never complain again

sorry to ask, have u read through the op's story very well. How can your family members be selling ur properties? He has tried to teach them how to fish but they only want him to be giving them fish. Am a woman and its not fair on the man. So until the man is ruined completely before u will realise marriage is btw u and ur man, u can help but not at the expense of ur primary family.i can almost guess u are ibo

Okpuzu01: For women dat r supporting my wife here. Listen to wot I v to say n tell me if cn do same tin my wife did. I am a retired soldier with a monthly pension of 46k. I waz working wit for Intercontinental bank as a security officer. Den I waz earning 35k per month wit overtime allowance of 11k. Den I waz dating my wife. I knew dat der is no job security in d banking sector, I opened up a shop for renting of nigerian movies n selling of foreign movies. After we got married, I left her to be managing d shop while I concentrated on my job. I waz providing everytin in d house including house rent n my daughter sch fees. Months later, my business waz going down. A reliable source informed me dat wen I am nt arnd, my wife's younger brother usually come to collect money from her. Sometyms her dad wuld come by himself. D business finally went down. I talked to my wife to be very careful d way she carries her family burdens. I den open a bar, I bought two deep freezers at d rate of 53k each, bought plastic chairs n table, big gen n everytin needed in a bar business. I then bought all assorted drinks n loaded d freezer. She started d business, at first, tins were moving fine. Wen I came bk from work, I wuld branch to c hw d business waz fairing. Wen Access bank bought Intercontinental bank, majority of us were relieve of our duty. I waz nw depending on my pension, gain from my business n d little money I saved. I discussed wit my wife to take care of d business while I go bk to Lagos cos I waz invited for an interview den in aviation company. Before I got d job, I waz sending 20k monthly to my wife for der upkeep. I had expected her to v some savings from our business since I dnt ask her for money from d business. Wen our house waz due, I told her to pay for six months from d money she must v saved from d business, I got d greatest shock of my life wen she told me der waz no money. I den instructed her to park out to her parents place n wait for my arrival cos I made up my mind den to relocate dem to Lagos. My business waz going down n I equally instructed her too to close d business. She did as I said n I continued to send 20k to her monthly. U know wot happened, she waz using d money to feed her family. A friend called me dat he does nt lyk d way my daughter waz looking. Looking hagard, her hair unkept. He accused me dat I dnt send money for der upkeep. I travelled bk to Awka unannounced. On getting to my in law's house, I met my daughter at home. She waz supposed to be in sch. Wen I asked, my in law told me dat she waz sent home a week ago for nt paying her sch fees. I asked abt my wife, I waz told dat she travelled to Asaba. I took my daughter n left for my aunty's house. I called my wife to come bk home. It waz den ppl told me dat sometyms she do leave my for a month. Once I send d money, she wuld give her parents some n travel wit d rest to Asaba. Wen she came back, I enquired from her y she could nt pay 5k sch fees from d money I v been sending, she could nt give me any reason. I got anoda house n we went to her parents house to park our properties. I discovered dat my 21inch television waz missing. Myu wife said she used d tele to borrow money. I asked her, borrow money for wot? She said for her parents. I asked wot happened to d shop, she said she gave her parents money for house rent. I threatened to abandon her n go bk to Lagos before she could tell me d truth. 20 of my plastic chairs were missing, wen I asked, I waz told dat her brother sold dem. Oi had to pay 25k borrowed before I got my Tv bk. For u women dat r supporting my wife here, tell me were I v done bad?

Your wife is very irresponsible and you are enabling her bad behavior. Marrying a second wife is still not the solution but in not reining this nonsense in from day one you have helped her whole family almost ruin your family. Your child not going to school and her brother selling your property tells you that this woman needs to be totally re educated about the realities of a woman's function in today's world. She's so clueless. Move your family away from her family. That is the first step. They will bleed you dry. They are not your responsibility. Don't be ashamed to tell people no when they come cap in hand. The useless brother (if the whole family had any sense) could have helped his sister run the business you set up rather than coming to beg for money and she handing it out. Please do not start another business. She will just waste the money. She is better off seeking employment outside of the home were she will learn very quickly that nobody will put up with her crap.
I don't know the way your household runs. I don't know if the agreement was that she will stay home and you will provide everything. In which case her hands are probably full especially if you're the type that does not help in other areas besides provide money. The two of you need to go back to the drawing board and start over. She needs to grow up and you need to be more interested in the running of your household besides being a provider. Her extended family is not your primary concern.

Okpuzu01: I thank all of for your contributions. For your information, before I got married, I have sisters that were married. Its not we are rich but we tried to provide for our parents so as to allow our sisters enjoy their marriages without putting burdens on them. My wife has grown up brothers who can work and support her parents. I never said I am poor. Igbo ppl said Ejiro akpata etufuo aba ogaranya. U dnt get rich by making money n throwing dem away. I personally do give my wife's parents money n gift from time to time. I know wot I have prepared to give dem dis xmas. I am nt against giving dem money bt I must discuss it with my wife. Does she know If I have enough before giving to her parents? Her father is addicted pool. All his money goes into pool. He can't take care of his responsibility a the head of the family. Wen he bought his bus, I know hw much I put into it, he sold desame bus witout informing me. I did it so that they can take the burden off my wife. I v supported her mum severally finacially in her provision shop, they will keep taking items from the shop until it became empty n they will turn again to my wife n continue to mount pressure on her for money.

This is just ridiculous. You like to throw away money. All this and at the end of the day your child was kicked out of school. I don't want to read anymore.

Hahahahahaha men! Aren't you supposed to be paying ur in-laws rents? Oriegwu o

uzozzi:
Hahahahahaha men! Aren't you supposed to be paying ur in-laws rents? Oriegwu o

If that is what marriage is about, then the inlaw should come and carry the wife so she will live with them.
Arrant nonsense!

uzozzi:
Hahahahahaha men! Aren't you supposed to be paying ur in-laws rents? Oriegwu o

its not his duty to pay their rent, if he does, its only out of an act of goodness to them.
do you marry and put all your burdens on the man? he also has his family. before she got married, who was paying their rent? what changed. is she the only child?
we need to be reasonable, the way some families task their first born child is very unfair, makes the other children irresponsible and by the time the first spends all his/her money on them and they become successful, they all forget about him/her.