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I by barbiee: 7:51pm On Dec 06, 2014
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Re: I by barbiee: 7:56pm On Dec 06, 2014
No insults or rude comments pls
Re: I by THEHEROINMEE: 8:01pm On Dec 06, 2014
Give him a blow.. Job
Re: I by Nobody: 8:07pm On Dec 06, 2014
The way you speak of him, you make it sound like he's much of a burden than your lover. And it makes me wonder, are you still in-love with him or are you trying so hard to cope?...
Re: I by barbiee: 8:08pm On Dec 06, 2014
He wnt let me do dat..He is the son of a pastor so we are in a no sex kind of relationship.
Re: I by xynerise: 8:09pm On Dec 06, 2014
Pls, give spaces in your write-up next time.

If he often complains about your attitude then you need to amend them. Sometimes you ladies think we guys don't feel emotionally hurt. We are not robot, biko. If the only way you two express love is through text messages then make that active and consistent, unless of course you are in a trauma or undergoing psychological imbalance.

It seems you have this believe that all men are the same? Stereotypical bullshit undecided

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Re: I by naijaboiy: 8:11pm On Dec 06, 2014
I can so relate with this your story. I don't know why it is so but some ladies find it difficult to express their love for a guy that they know deep down they love him so much.

How can you claim you love somebody and you can't take the pains to even give him a flash or text message. Some of them will never text first,,they will be waiting for the guy to do that...meanwhile,,they are dying in silence.

It will not take anything out of your body if you return the love your boy friend shows to you. You people are dating,,the stage of claiming hard to get has passed. Call him,,send him text,,check up on him. It is not a hard thing to do. Tell him once in a while how much you love him. You must not wait for him to do it first. It doesn't make you cheap in any way.

I understand that you are probably scared due to the cheating mentality you have come to develop. But there is no harm in giving things a trial. If you're really scared,,then you shouldn't have agreed to date him in the first place. For the fact that you have agreed to date him,,then you have to show commitment.

Some girls are proud in their relationships but they won't accept it. Pride has really destroyed many relationships today,,even marriages.

You should learn to cut it down without losing your self worth.

#MyTwoCedis

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Re: I by barbiee: 8:13pm On Dec 06, 2014
Aprime:
The way you speak of him, you make it sound like he's much of a burden than your lover. And it makes me wonder, are you still in-love with him or are you trying so hard to cope?...
tough question but I think I'm still in love with him. I don't know what I'm so scared of, I know he wnt cheat on me and he luvs me very much why am I stil holding bck?
Re: I by Oluwatosean(m): 8:16pm On Dec 06, 2014
Lol, i'd advice u meet gu jun pyo for lecture or go watch personal taste
Re: I by criuze(m): 8:33pm On Dec 06, 2014
This is just what I called the ''cupid's complex,''

Making a generalisation from a string of experiences is just to help you disguise the fact that -

"You cannot love someone who have genuinely loved you "

Please give love a chance

First of all, forgive yourself, take a deep breath,loosen up your defences and fall inside the arms that can safely hold you.

THERE'S NOTHING LIKE LOVE

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Re: I by thiefnubu(m): 8:44pm On Dec 06, 2014
naijaboiy:
I can so relate with this your story. I don't know why it is so but some ladies find it difficult to express their love for a guy that they know deep down they love him so much.

How can you claim you love somebody and you can't take the pains to even give him a flash or text message. Some of them will never text first,,they will be waiting for the guy to do that...meanwhile,,they are dying in silence.

It will not take anything out of your body if you return the love your boy friend shows to you. You people are dating,,the stage of claiming hard to get has passed. Call him,,send him text,,check up on him. It is not a hard thing to do. Tell him once in a while how much you love him. You must not wait for him to do it first.

I understand that you are probably scared due to the cheating mentality you have come to develop. But there is no harm in giving things a trial. If you're really scared,,then you shouldn't have agreed to date him in the first place. For the fact that you have agreed to date him,,then you have to show commitment.

Some girls are proud in their relationships but they won't accept it. Pride has really destroyed many relationships today,,even marriages.

You should learn to cut it down without loosing your self worth.

#MyTwoCedis
Marieolae... All these stories you are sharing in Lagos, DIARIS GOD O... hope say you go remember me when you get money wey you wan share..

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Re: I by Nobody: 8:51pm On Dec 06, 2014
barbiee:
Tough question but I think I'm still in love with him. I don't know what I'm so scared of, I know he wnt cheat on me and he luvs me very much. Why am I stil holding bck?

Why are you holding back?

Well, I think it's because you're sacred.

Honestly, the way I see it, seems like you're outta love.
Sure. People do crazy things while in love, but setting an alarm to ‘remind’ you of your only love isn't one.

I might be wrong though.
Re: I by dunkem21(m): 8:51pm On Dec 06, 2014
Surprise him with something you have never done before.
Re: I by Vikkie14: 9:12pm On Dec 06, 2014
Aprime:


Why are you holding back?

Well, I think it's because you're sacred.

Honestly, the way I see it, seems like you're outta love.
Sure. People do crazy things while in love, but setting an alarm to ‘remind’ you of your only love isn't one.

I might be wrong though.
Exactly bro, how can you be setting alarm to remind you of texting him. The only explanation is that your love for him has diminished and dwindling.
Re: I by Nobody: 9:15pm On Dec 06, 2014
then y'all aint compactible and both of u are learners. Permit me 2 say. Move on with anoda guy and try this love many guys and tease them 2 luv. It boost ur luv skills nd xperience 4 dat special som1
Re: I by abisolawtu: 10:19pm On Dec 06, 2014
4rm wah u said u dnt luv him u Jst tink u luv him or maybe u r attracted 2 him cos of certain tins.cos if u truly luv him hes goin 2 b on ur mind 24/7 no nid of setting alarm 2 remind u dat u wnt 2 kal him.buh if u wnt 2 ajust its a matter of determination u might b scared or shy. Buh dere r many ways 2 overcoming it study him very well.no tinz he likes nd wah he dislikes. U start improving on wah he lyks 2 mak him hapi. Surprising him telling him aw often u luv him nd also kalin him by petnames.
Re: I by mesoade(m): 10:19pm On Dec 06, 2014
Luedave:
then y'all aint compactible and both of u are learners. Permit me 2 say. Move on with anoda guy and try this love many guys and tease them 2 luv. It boost ur luv skills nd xperience 4 dat special som1
it's like you didn't read the post@emboldened . . The thing is That OP has a false perception that all men are cheaters which is a stereotype,an enormous blatant misconception . . The problem is not compatibility,the problem is that if OP finds another guy she will stil behave thesame towards him . . The OP is a feminist . . Now the problem is the OP has found a good guy who she claims she loves and but doesn't know how to show the love.
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You can still show love without sex but since you just wanna learn it'll be somehow hard.
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If your relationship involves light kisses,never underestimate the power,esp. When it's a surprise kiss, . . While having an argument with him and he's getting infuriated,you can just look in2 his eyes deeply and kiss him(instead of continuing argueing with him) that will calm his nerves and the next thing,he'll speak softly to you rather than a raised voice arguing . .that could go a long way in improving your romance life . . If you love someone so much,you'll always be thinking of that person,when thinking of him why don't you try and send him a message(most times i don't know something romantic to text her,i use google) . . From here,things can get better

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Re: I by Nobody: 10:19pm On Dec 06, 2014
Oluwatosean:
Lol, i'd advice u meet gu jun pyo for lecture or go watch personal taste
The movie was about moulding a classy independent girl, a girl that doesn't swallow all trash thrown her way by the silly boyfriend.
Op, the problem is in you, your fear and misconception that all men are cheats. Sure majority of them are, but there are still good ones and from what I read here, it is safe to say you found one already. Fight your fears and win. Once you erase that belief and embrace love, the true woman in you will come out; a woman who loves her man.
Re: I by lilmax(m): 11:03pm On Dec 06, 2014
You are already in a relationship and you are still playing hard to get, and you have to change your attitude towards men
Re: I by bedfordng(m): 11:52pm On Dec 06, 2014
barbiee:
tough question but I think I'm still in love with him. I don't know what I'm so scared of, I know he wnt cheat on me and he luvs me very much why am I stil holding bck?
you are still holding back because you are not ready to face reality.there is no perfect human being on earth.in a relationship, things like break up, cheating is bound to happen.if you are ready to accept that it is bound to happen, then you aree ready for the reality except you want to remain single all your life.no human being is a scent.don't let what you see be a reason for not accepting reality.the way guys think of women to be a cheat, same way women thinks of guys to be a cheat too.it all boils down to dating and believing you guys will get to where the relationship leads.do you want to know the truth, no one even knows where their relationship would end, we all believe it will last long due to the way both express their love.even when you are married, you still don't know what could happen next because we are not suite sayer, a relationship of 20years does end up in break up.so accept reality and show him the love.you can't claim to love some one and not show it.every human being don't think alike, some need to feel the love to stay glue to it while some don't care.so since he cares about showing it, then show it, after all, it won't take anything from your body to send lovely text for the bobo to smile.just answer the question.why are we in a love relationship?

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Re: I by naijaboiy: 1:51am On Dec 07, 2014
Tinubu:

Marieolae... All these stories you are sharing in Lagos, DIARIS GOD O... hope say you go remember me when you get money wey you wan share..
Bros I no understand
Re: I by thiefnubu(m): 4:03am On Dec 07, 2014
naijaboiy:

Bros I no understand
u share whatever it is you read on nairaland.... Start from there
Re: I by kilokeys(m): 4:07am On Dec 07, 2014
Love is the most difficult thing to accept.


u r disappointed he isnt effing up
cos u have a mind set that guys must cheat.

so think deep. i know its going make u all mushy inside and maybe vunerable. but thats love for you.

take d plunge.. u would survive.
Re: I by naijaboiy: 4:07am On Dec 07, 2014
Tinubu:
u share whatever it is you read on nairaland.... Start from there
Oh I get grin
Re: I by kilokeys(m): 4:09am On Dec 07, 2014
naijaboiy:

Oh I get grin

pentium 1 thingZ grin
when a man is in love a new mumu is born.

mr NL. chai. .. iwe factorial wey turn ewe shoko cos of marieolae

i go love oooohhhh
Re: I by Nobody: 4:14am On Dec 07, 2014
naijaboiy:
I can so relate with this your story. I don't know why it is so but some ladies find it difficult to express their love for a guy that they know deep down they love him so much.

How can you claim you love somebody and you can't take the pains to even give him a flash or text message. Some of them will never text first,,they will be waiting for the guy to do that...meanwhile,,they are dying in silence.

It will not take anything out of your body if you return the love your boy friend shows to you. You people are dating,,the stage of claiming hard to get has passed. Call him,,send him text,,check up on him. It is not a hard thing to do. Tell him once in a while how much you love him. You must not wait for him to do it first.

I understand that you are probably scared due to the cheating mentality you have come to develop. But there is no harm in giving things a trial. If you're really scared,,then you shouldn't have agreed to date him in the first place. For the fact that you have agreed to date him,,then you have to show commitment.

Some girls are proud in their relationships but they won't accept it. Pride has really destroyed many relationships today,,even marriages.

You should learn to cut it down without loosing your self worth.

#MyTwoCedis
you have said it all.

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Re: I by naijaboiy: 4:15am On Dec 07, 2014
kilokeys:


pentium 1 thingZ grin
when a man is in love a new mumu is born.

mr NL. chai. .. iwe factorial wey turn ewe shoko cos of marieolae

i go love oooohhhh
Bros I no understand the bolded o grin
Re: I by Nobody: 4:23am On Dec 07, 2014
A relationship is like an empty box,the more you put,the more you get..

Have same issue with my fiancee then,she doesn't know how to express love. Am always the first to call her in a day,she hardly call,ping,or send sms. she doesn't even use my picture as DP,whereas I permanently use hers as DP then...

Immediately I stopped doing all that,she came back to her senses. She called me one morning that I have changed seriously, I was like so you noticed that,that she caused it. Now,she's killing me with a special kind of love,and affection..

A relationship shouldn't be one-sided,else the person would feel cheated,and the relationship might become a burden on him emotionally..

Reciprocate all he's doing,or done for you.. Create time to call him,or send sms.etc.. It doesn't take anything from you..except you don't love him..

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Re: I by kilokeys(m): 4:30am On Dec 07, 2014
naijaboiy:

Bros I no understand the bolded o grin

ever since ds mary geh enter.. u no dey understand anything again.. i go tell ur mummy o

i like ur posts on this matter sha.
Re: I by Nobody: 4:33am On Dec 07, 2014
mesoade:
it's like you didn't read the post@emboldened . . The thing is That OP has a false perception that all men are cheaters which is a stereotype,an enormous blatant misconception . . The problem is not compatibility,the problem is that if OP finds another guy she will stil behave thesame towards him . . The OP is a feminist . . Now the problem is the OP has found a good guy who she claims she loves and but doesn't know how to show the love.

Wtf...I lol'd.
Re: I by Abbey2sam(m): 5:33am On Dec 07, 2014
barbiee:
No insults or rude comments pls

Why do you have your BB pin on nairaland
Re: I by naijaboiy: 8:16am On Dec 07, 2014
kilokeys:


ever since ds mary geh enter.. u no dey understand anything again.. i go tell ur mummy o

i like ur posts on this matter sha.
You mean say since she enter I no dey make correct posts again? grin

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