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Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by engrdubem(m): 5:33pm On Jan 04, 2015

How can u compare a wife to a sister.........infact am suspecting you op.....

Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Ahmeduana(m): 5:35pm On Jan 04, 2015

sukkot:
Does it ever get to a point of familiarity and companionship in a wedding ( after a long period ) where you are now like best friends and ' family members ', and then trying to summon up a s-e-xual desire is akin to someone trying to sleep with their brother or sister, especially if you now have children.

Apparently Elvis Presley could never ever bring himself to sleep with his wife Priscilla again after she had his baby. and they never had sex after that.

E BE LIKE SAY NA REDEEM YOU THEY GO! ANOTHER SPIRITUAL THEORY! LIKE CHRISTIANS THAT DON'T MARRY WILL HAVE HIGH CHANCES OF MAKING IT TO HEAVEN PROBABLY PARADISE!

Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by claremont(m): 5:35pm On Jan 04, 2015

I think the concept of separate rooms is a good one especially if either party snores, there is nothing as bad as trying to sleep next to someone who sounds like a locomotive engine. This system would only work based on the temperament of the individuals, there are some people who do not enjoy their own company. Different strokes for different folks. undecided

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Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by AreaFada2: 5:36pm On Jan 04, 2015

striktlymi:
No matter how close you guys get, you ain't related by blood.

Not the same!

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Even Sanusi Lamido who married his first cousin must still be doing it.

With kids running around and work pressures and more, sex won't be as spontaneous or be doing it all over the house as before BUT if you now have no desire to make love to your spouse at all, I'm afraid there's a problem.

Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by kilokeys(m): 5:36pm On Jan 04, 2015

how dis crap made fp s still shocking.. ehen..
abeg i get shivers when i see ds dude staring at me on NL..

shey na only me? cry

Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by FOREXMARTS: 5:44pm On Jan 04, 2015

sukkot:
old enough to vote for sai buhari

Now I am beginning to like this guy. But ur psyche is fvcked up tho. U need a female shrink.

Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Nobody: 5:46pm On Jan 04, 2015

Glad you have been taking ur medication sukkot. It's clear to me that you are healed. Praise God. Before you used to say that once you have sex that means thats ur wife and that if a church wedding is not done it doesn't matter.

Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot(op): 5:46pm On Jan 04, 2015

TDstarr:
not so bro, women naturally need space, my mum has her own room, same with my dad and they still tell each other i love you,

Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot(op): 5:51pm On Jan 04, 2015

FOREXMARTS:
Now I am beginning to like this guy. But ur psyche is fvcked up tho. U need a female shrink.

yeah a female shrink. thats exactly what i need

Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by zeezahbee(f): 5:53pm On Jan 04, 2015

OP obviously sounds like an impotent man, his testes needs to be checked undecided

Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Toks2008(m): 5:54pm On Jan 04, 2015

Yes thats true, sex will only be a thing of "lets just have it" as the togetherness will just be enough and more fulfilling than sex with or without children.

Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by FOREXMARTS: 5:56pm On Jan 04, 2015

sukkot:
yeah a female shrink. thats exactly what i need

I just hope ur next thread won't be "What does ur wife's shaitza smell and taste like? "

Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot(op): 5:58pm On Jan 04, 2015

FOREXMARTS:
I just hope ur next thread won't be "What does ur wife's shaitza smell and taste like? "

now you are projecting your reprobate mind onto me.

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Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot(op): 5:59pm On Jan 04, 2015

Toks2008:
Yes thats true, sex will only be a thing of "lets just have it" as the togetherness will just be enough and more fulfilling than sex with or without children.

exactly. another person who sees it. thanks for your insight

Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Xerum(m): 6:00pm On Jan 04, 2015

You know the level of familiarity i am talking about ? you have seen her on the toilet many times and smelt her shyttt, and you may have run into her inappropriately disposed bloody sa-nitary towels a few times etc etc. its like a family member now as opposed to a sex-ual desire driven union. its a companion union and no longer se-xually driven.

Hmm… Sexual desire driven union? Sexual desire is an essential part of package of the union and among other elements: Respect, love, your closest friend, that person you miss when you are not together, that person that makes your heart race, that person with which you laugh, that person that generates feeling of jealousy in you whenever you get the feeling someone else is trying to make advances at him/her, that makes you cry, that makes you project uncontrollable emotions without you knowing or even trying hard to conceal them etc..

But sexuality and sexual intimacy is like the baobab try that covers all of the above in it’s shade / shadow away from the sun and makes the above one whole.

The moment this is absent (except for medical / physical limitations), the relationship tends to lose it’s intimate legitimacy, and being the human that we are and based on our genetic composition / desire (as it were) were this is missing in a relationship and replaced by other elements that does not equate this, we tend to look elsewhere for it which could spell doom.

Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot(op): 6:02pm On Jan 04, 2015

zeezahbee:
OP obviously sounds like an impotent man, his testes needs to be checked

crazy nigerians grin

Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by nissparts(m): 6:07pm On Jan 04, 2015

Op, you've made sense but don't bother trying to convince others of the veracity of your opinion cos those of us who know this are few and far in between. I however guess you have posted this to check if you are normal or if there are others like you, if so, fret not, for people like us, what you've posted is completely normal.

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Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot(op): 6:13pm On Jan 04, 2015

Xerum:
Hmm… Sexual desire driven union? Sexual desire is an essential part of package of the union and among other elements: Respect, love, your closest friend, that person you miss when you are not together, that person that makes your heart race, that person with which you laugh, that person that generates feeling of jealousy in you whenever you get the feeling someone else is trying to make advances at him/her, that makes you cry, that makes you project uncontrollable emotions without you knowing or even trying hard to conceal them etc..

But sexuality and sexual intimacy is like the baobab try that covers all of the above in it’s shade / shadow away from the sun and makes the above one whole.

The moment this is absent (except for medical / physical limitations), the relationship tends to lose it’s intimate legitimacy, and being the human that we are and based on our genetic composition / desire (as it were) were this is missing in a relationship and replaced by other elements that does not equate this, we tend to look elsewhere for it which could spell doom.

[b]not exactly true. there is a general saying amongst men in the west. WHEN THE MARRIAGE PAPER IS SIGNED, S-E-X STOPS. lmao. let me tell you something, its only a mad man who will be satisfied with eating rice for the rest of his life. any sane person will go crazy eating rice everyday, no matter how sweet the stew is. so then the onus is on you to create an environment to where you can try to enjoy rice for the rest of your life. one of those environments is separate rooms. i dont care how much in love someone think they are. you are going to get to a point where you are sick and tired of sleeping with AND COPULATING with the same person. and this is where men who are tactful and sophisticated come in. you try to create an environment that enables and not disable your -s-e-x life. there is no such thing as ' if you dont like sleeping with each other again then there is a problem' . there is no problem in that. it is a natural progression. there are many couples who are together and love each other but are in s-e-xless relationships after many years of being together. but you have to make it work. separate rooms is a start. [/b]

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Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by jauntty: 6:13pm On Jan 04, 2015

@1st...I wanted to ask 'who sold cheap weeds to op', but after reading his comments I think I got the point he's trying to make. However I don't support the idea of creating artificial distance in order to preserve the relationship flavor. Intimacy is a 'bio-pyscho-emotional' need, and whether u get familiar or not, when the need arises, u wuldnt compare ur wife with ur sis in any way.

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Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by pressplay55: 6:18pm On Jan 04, 2015

sukkot:
You know the level of familiarity i am talking about ? you have seen her on the toilet many times and smelt her shyttt, and you may have run into her inappropriately disposed bloody sa-nitary towels a few times etc etc. its like a family member now as opposed to a sex-ual desire driven union. its a companion union and no longer se-xually driven.

have gat your drift, believe me, i use to think of things like this, and i just pray it doesn't piss me off

Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by simdam500(m): 6:22pm On Jan 04, 2015

sukkot: lmao. hey, this is why me personally, i think in a marriage there should be separate rooms for the husband and wife. so she can have her privacy. and then when you guys are feeling romantic you visit each others rooms. i think this is what will make marriages last. you dont want to become too over familiar to where the attraction diminishes. she has her own toilet and bathroom in her room and i have mine in my room. so this way there is mystery conserved in the relationship. you dont want to totally demystify the relationship by sharing the same room 352 days in a year

fully in support!

dunno what wrong.
am hating romance now

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Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by KingBish(f): 6:23pm On Jan 04, 2015

kilokeys:
how dis crap made fp s still shocking.. ehen..
abeg i get shivers when i see ds dude staring at me on NL..

shey na only me?

After blurting your warnings not to be quoted again and unfollowing the thread, shame gree u come back here?

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Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by kilokeys(m): 6:24pm On Jan 04, 2015

KingBish:
After blurting your warnings not to be quoted again and unfollowing the thread, shame gree u come back here?

i actually saw ds crappy post on fp and wanted to derail it for good.. besides pple r still clicking the like button..

Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Ishilove: 6:24pm On Jan 04, 2015

delishpot:
Ha ha. Strong ba? As long as that strong feeling doesnt get weak, all is fine.
Ahhh, Ishi, I did not notice it was you mana! Shon ma, how goes the good?
Wishing you and your people the best of 2015. Wetin you cook for christmas? Wey my share?

I wish you the same Delish.

As for your share, e dey inside soakaway. You no ask on time tongue

Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot(op): 6:25pm On Jan 04, 2015

pressplay55:
have gat your drift, believe me, i use to think of things like this, and i just pray it doesn't piss me off

lol. you have to try to prevent it from the start. establish boundaries that you dont want crossed from the start. hey darling i dont want you farting around me or leaving used sanitary towels where i can see it etc etc lmao. that shhytt is a terrible experience for any sane man. or maybe i am on my own lol. i get grossed out easily though. i dont even want guys farting around me. grin

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Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by coolviv: 6:26pm On Jan 04, 2015

When a man loves a woman, he wants to be a part of everything in her life. He massages her stomach when she has cramps during her period, buys her brand of tampons or pads for her without even asking her, buys her drugs if she has an upset stomach, even knocks on the door to ask if she is ok when she stays too long..... Infact @op, when you eventually (if ever) love a woman, you would have cause to laugh at this topic of yours because you will be so ridiculously into her business you would wonder why you ever thought a wife could end up being as undesirable as a sister. wink

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Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Nobody: 6:27pm On Jan 04, 2015

I really Love Elvis Priesly!!!! You're right my brother though it takes a very strong mind to attain such familiarity that can overcome the sexual drive.

Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by jayedu108: 6:27pm On Jan 04, 2015

sukkot:
lol. you have to try to prevent it from the start. establish boundaries that you dont want crossed from the start. hey darling i dont want you farting around me or leaving used sanitary towels where i can see it etc etc lmao. that shhytt is a terrible experience for any sane man. or maybe i am on my own lol. i get grossed out easily though. i dont even want guys farting around me.

Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by jayedu108: 6:28pm On Jan 04, 2015

sukkot:
lol. you have to try to prevent it from the start. establish boundaries that you dont want crossed from the start. hey darling i dont want you farting around me or leaving used sanitary towels where i can see it etc etc lmao. that shhytt is a terrible experience for any sane man. or maybe i am on my own lol. i get grossed out easily though. i dont even want guys farting around me.

can u keep quiet for once stop ranting pls u are making no sense here dude I need some peace!

Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by BeautfulB(f): 6:28pm On Jan 04, 2015

I got married last month dec, 13 2014, now our itimacy has been getting sweeter n sweeter.
We play like friends and brother sister not sleeping like bro.n sist.

Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by redsun(m): 6:31pm On Jan 04, 2015

When it get to that point,there won't be any need for the relationship. It is dead end and the best thing to do is part ways and seek out a fresh life with more attractive partner. Life without sex is incomplete, it is almost as the same as abstening from foodt is part of the basics of human functionality and when it is not there,something is amiss.

Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot(op): 6:31pm On Jan 04, 2015

jayedu108:
can u keep quiet for once stop ranting pls u are making no sense here dude I need some peace!

bro this is a public forum. there is a button at the bottom of your phone. it is called the POWER BUTTON. try to use it wink

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