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Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot(op): 7:26pm On Jan 04, 2015
redsun:
That is what mean by getting to point you go any more. And the one that can carry on will have to adapt. Making provision for care for the fallen loved one and at the same time carrying on with his/her life.
really ? you get someone to care for your sick spouse and move on to the next ? haha thats very cold bro. even hitler has a bit more compassion than that
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by MurderX: 7:30pm On Jan 04, 2015
Most people commenting here never marry reach 5yrs. What the OP says is quite factual although not entirely.
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by That9jaVine(m): 7:40pm On Jan 04, 2015
kilokeys:
dude.. u r sick..
chai. i just had rice turkey and coke o.. why u wan spoil my belle na..

ur mind is messed up guy
grin grin grin
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by ololo12: 7:42pm On Jan 04, 2015
Lol... sukkot, you again with these your pseudo crazy topics. Well I got no comment
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by demelza: 7:46pm On Jan 04, 2015
sukkot:
old enough to vote for sai buhari grin
The only thing that matters!
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Nobody: 7:47pm On Jan 04, 2015
sukkot:
lmao. hey, this is why me personally, i think in a marriage there should be separate rooms for the husband and wife. so she can have her privacy. and then when you guys are feeling romantic you visit each others rooms. i think this is what will make marriages last. you dont want to become too over familiar to where the attraction diminishes. she has her own toilet and bathroom in her room and i have mine in my room. so this way there is mystery conserved in the relationship. you dont want to totally demystify the relationship by sharing the same room 352 days in a year grin
This is a good idea. You get personal space and me time.
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Nobody: 7:56pm On Jan 04, 2015
sukkot:
lmao. hey, this is why me personally, i think in a marriage there should be separate rooms for the husband and wife. so she can have her privacy. and then when you guys are feeling romantic you visit each others rooms. i think this is what will make marriages last. you dont want to become too over familiar to where the attraction diminishes. she has her own toilet and bathroom in her room and i have mine in my room. so this way there is mystery conserved in the relationship. you dont want to totally demystify the relationship by sharing the same room 352 days in a year grin
I was told that a husband and wife should stay together, move together, eat together because they are one. I think staying in a seperate room and coming together when they want to be intimate makes the union sex driven union and can also give room for adoltry to creep in
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by timifakay(m):
sukkot:
You know the level of familiarity i am talking about ? you have seen her on the toilet many times and smelt her shyttt, and you may have run into her inappropriately disposed bloody sa-nitary towels a few times etc etc. its like a family member now as opposed to a sex-ual desire driven union. its a companion union and no longer se-xually driven.
There's a world of difference between seksually driven union and marriage.
So if all these turn you off that means its not marriage but a seks union.
Got my point?
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Lilimax(f): 8:04pm On Jan 04, 2015
Eww! The first page of this thread to me is bullshit! Why all the attacks on female gender undecided
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by timifakay(m): 8:19pm On Jan 04, 2015
sukkot:
ahhh but you miss the point. this is directed only for nightime. throughout the rest of the day you are hanging out together, going places, watching tv etc etc. then at night if she has a headache or just wants to have privacy she can retire to her space. and likewise me. you making it out like we seperate for the rest of the day. this is strictly sleeping arrangements. throughout the day we are hanging colliding colluding and collaborating. and you dont need a big home in order to have 2 bedrooms. i have yet to see a one bedroom apartment or flat in naija
There's something called earning a living you know? And its done during the day, 5 days a week most times. Then chores follow when back home...
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by favouryemmy: 8:21pm On Jan 04, 2015
No matter how close me and my wife are, even if I see her as a sister, not to the extent of feeling like incest while having sex with her. No matter how many children we have, I will continue to sleep with her without guilt. Haba! Wetin! After all, I married her and the relationship between me and my sister isnt marriage.
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by felicity111(f): 8:27pm On Jan 04, 2015
sukkot:
Does it ever get to a point of familiarity and companionship in a wedding ( after a long period ) where you are now like best friends and ' family members ', and then trying to summon up a s-e-xual desire is akin to someone trying to sleep with their brother or sister, especially if you now have children.

Apparently Elvis Presley could never ever bring himself to sleep with his wife Priscilla again after she had his baby. and they never had sex after that.
. i dont think he is tinking straight. no matter wat happens dey are not related. besides wen dey were getting married was he not xpecting dem to ve dat close
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Nobody: 8:41pm On Jan 04, 2015
sukkot:
lmao. hey, this is why me personally, i think in a marriage there should be separate rooms for the husband and wife so they can have their privacy and then when you guys are feeling romantic you visit each others rooms. i think this is what will make marriages last. you dont want to become too over familiar to where the attraction diminishes. she has her own toilet and bathroom in her room and i have mine in my room. so this way there is mystery conserved in the relationship. you dont want to totally demystify the relationship by sharing the same room 352 days in a year grin
Yes, this is perf. I dig it.
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Juzzybabe(f): 8:59pm On Jan 04, 2015
Na wa ooo...Even the oldest couple wudn't dare say such.
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Nobody: 9:02pm On Jan 04, 2015
sukkot:
You know the level of familiarity i am talking about ? you have seen her on the toilet many times and smelt her shyttt, and you may have run into her inappropriately disposed bloody sa-nitary towels a few times etc etc. its like a family member now as opposed to a sex-ual desire driven union. its a companion union and no longer se-xually driven.
Not enough reason to get one disillusioned.
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by ogtavia(m):
kilokeys:
dude.. u r sick..
chai. i just had rice turkey and coke o.. why u wan spoil my belle na..

ur mind is messed up guy
Honestly...d guy's mind is filled with crap...imagine what he is thinking...besides what sort of woman leaves her pads lying around,I have four sisters,yet I haven't seen it before,...d toilet thing is general,I jst have a rule,flush d toilet no matter what,even if u spit into it,flush it...I av seen tiny traces of blood before in d toilet no doubt...but it does not give me warped thoughts like d OP...d OP better get rid of such thots otherwise..m
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by tefund(m): 9:23pm On Jan 04, 2015
women work themself into adol or a godess...little wonder some men think women are not human and dont deserve to poo or menstruate
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by todayguest(m): 9:26pm On Jan 04, 2015
sukkot:
You know the level of familiarity i am talking about ? you have seen her on the toilet many times and smelt her shyttt, and you may have run into her inappropriately disposed bloody sa-nitary towels a few times etc etc. its like a family member now as opposed to a sex-ual desire driven union. its a companion union and no longer se-xually driven.
It's only an impotent man that would treat his wife like a sister. You need medical help.
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by jireh250: 9:31pm On Jan 04, 2015
delishpot:
:Pn

That was because the men had many wives. The mans room had to be free cos no one wife can dominate the bed. The man had a woman in his bed every night. The wives had their duty roaster grin and besides, those men had plenty kids you can imagine how it will be if all the women and kids lived under the same roof and the husband slept with all the women in the same bed every night grin
To make life easy and avoid wahala, each wife was assigned her hut, where she and her kids will have freedom and privacy. No who took my salt? Who stole my meat? Who removed my soup from the fire and put her stupid pot? Who removed my wet clothes from the line? Mama mary go to the back its my turn to sleep on our husbands right hand side grin
That was why. Those women had no choice. If they did, they would not have lived that life. Ask any woman from those days. Ask them why they did not leave, 90% of them will say...... leave to where? No escaping the obvious they had no choice o.
I like the way you think n write...intelligent!
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Nobody: 9:34pm On Jan 04, 2015
sukkot:
You know the level of familiarity i am talking about ? you have seen her on the toilet many times and smelt her shyttt, and you may have run into her inappropriately disposed bloody sa-nitary towels a few times etc etc. its like a family member now as opposed to a sex-ual desire driven union. its a companion union and no longer se-xually driven.
One of my high school teachers mentioned this fact randomly in the class

According to him, marriage gets to a point, usually when all the children are grown, that the only thread sustaining it is what you have shared prior to that moment.
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Nobody: 9:39pm On Jan 04, 2015
although d op put it too harshly, his imagination follows somewhat. couples shld even miss each other sometimes. even couples need separate time for themselves at times. though dey were made one by cultural and religious rituals through d concept of love, dey r still two individuals wired differently
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Nobody: 10:06pm On Jan 04, 2015
OP knows little or nothing abt marriage. Marriage is nt the same as a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship and it's not jst abt sex. Sex dies! Immediately u cross 50, libido begins to diminish, either on the side of the man or woman. Marriage is about companionship and support. And i can tell you, u can never get tired of recieving support, physically, emotionally, spiritually and mentally.


I feel you re using ur experience of living with women in a casual relationship to judge marriage. Compared to marriage, dating is like flying a kite and marriage flying a plane.
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot(op): 10:43pm On Jan 04, 2015
KingBish:
The post isn't crap. Trust me if it were, you wouldn't come back here even if you see it on instagram not to talk of dropping another comment.
Some people are genuinely passing through this phase of life.

In other news, OP biko what has happened to the remaining 12 days in a year? I painstakingly read through all your comments and you proclaimed there are 352 days in a year twice
oh its 364 days in a year ? tongue
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Yusphull(m): 10:45pm On Jan 04, 2015
delishpot:
Nope. Wife is wife, sister is sister. Besides, what kind of marriage is that when husband and wife start seeing themselves as brother and sister? That marriage must be borring mana! No dirty talks? no flashing? No ass spanking? No nada? Shuo, I guess that marriage was never romantic from the start. So lets not blame time here.
On the other hand, the man may be looking for excuse to start cheating
Lolsss @ bolded

Well said...wink
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot(op): 10:52pm On Jan 04, 2015
cyberguy72:
u re misunderstanding d dude.wot d op means is dat it gets to a stage in ur marriage life where u c ur wife as a sister.u dnt hv a sexual craving for her again,overfamiliarity.and dats true.
thanks. some folks cant decipher stuff. lack of critical thinking in africa. people actually think i am speaking about literally having s-e-x with ones siblings smdh cheesy
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot(op): 10:55pm On Jan 04, 2015
kilokeys:
guy.. never use a sib to compare.. it isnt d same..
u might just say reduced libido.. it cannot be same as saying sister.. haba
its called analogy. get a clue tongue
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot(op): 11:00pm On Jan 04, 2015
Lilimax:
Eww! The first page of this thread to me is bullshit! Why all the attacks on female gender undecided
this is no attack. this is a thinking out of the box method of strengthening marital unions. a non-conventional format. a non-conventional way that most people are scared to talk about. wink
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Nobody: 11:04pm On Jan 04, 2015
sukkot:
lmao. hey, this is why me personally, i think in a marriage there should be separate rooms for the husband and wife. so she can have her privacy. and then when you guys are feeling romantic you visit each others rooms. i think this is what will make marriages last. you dont want to become too over familiar to where the attraction diminishes. she has her own toilet and bathroom in her room and i have mine in my room. so this way there is mystery conserved in the relationship. you dont want to totally demystify the relationship by sharing the same room 352 days in a year grin
nigga it's 365 days a year.. :-p you can thank me leta tho'




#You heard it first on.......#
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot(op): 11:09pm On Jan 04, 2015
sirfrankben:
nigga it's 365 days a year.. :-p you can thank me leta tho'




#You heard it first on.......#
oh yeah lmao. my brain is on hiatus seeing as it is a sunday. oh yeah. 365 days. good looking out
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by goldfish80(m): 11:20pm On Jan 04, 2015
sukkot:
You know the level of familiarity i am talking about ? you have seen her on the toilet many times and smelt her shyttt, and you may have run into her inappropriately disposed bloody sa-nitary towels a few times etc etc. its like a family member now as opposed to a sex-ual desire driven union. its a companion union and no longer se-xually driven.
This reminds me of the convo I had with a mate of mine, who told me he won't dare allow his wife cook for him when she's menstruating. I guess he must have been scared by the sight of sanitary towels of his family members like you have. grin
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Nobody: 11:21pm On Jan 04, 2015
Funny as it may sound this is so true.I remember one of my lecturers in Uni then sharing how he sees his spouse of over 20yrs more as his sister than as a wife when it comes to sexual sensations.Such was the level of intimacy. This he explained is why he goes for fresh blood.
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by jimmy101231(m): 11:40pm On Jan 04, 2015
Must u post? Fools
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