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lafflaff123:
@OP you do have points from the reasons you listed, but ironically girls with those attributes usually get married first.

When was the last time you visited the FAMILY section on Nairaland?if you have not visited there of late, please do. 95% of the women there claim to have HUSBANDS, and from some of the women's write ups, and written utterances. You will be wondering who actually married this women.

Women double date, not because they are bad. But as any sensible person, it is always good to have a back up GUY, just in case. Some days ago, i was going through some pictures of an ex who just got married and put up some pics on FB, and it hit me that just last year alone a good number of my exes got married. It got me thinking, that what if i had been stringing them along? i would have been wasting their time.So as long as i am not promising them marriage, they can triple date for all i care.

Men have DOUBLE DATING in our DNA so why should women not do same?

The excessive forming thing you mentioned, i think can only be done by girls. Not marriageable ladies. You don't see professional ladies announcing themselves as being this or that.

Now that Temperament thing?hmmmm. I dated a Benin girl once in my undergraduate days, and thought i could cheat and get away with it. This girl broke a bottle of STAR, and chased me round the campus wanting to stab me. That day, was the day i knew i should have represented Nigeria on the track events at the Olympics. So girls that are Benin or Have Temperament is a no go for me.

You said learn how to cook?it took me time to accept the fact that a lot of girls, don't know how to cook. But Nigerian girls are trying in that Department bros. 9 out of 10 African American ladies live on frozen food, and cant cook jack. Nigeria women even cook and serve their husbands, go try am with oyinbo?only you cook and serve yourself then wash plate join.

Misplaced Priorities,Big Eye and Facial Expression are things that can be worked on.But even the decent well brought up girls with manners are guilty of some of the things you mentioned too.

Lastly, not all ladies/men are destined for marriage. Life is not fair and that is why you see a lot of people in their old age without a significant other.

ivyy:
Thank you
@ op, Ladies with some of the atributes you listed up there still end up getting married every sat.

The temper issue, I personally wil advice guys to run 440 from any girl who can display madnes sote she can exibit it in public. But the painful truth is, some stil end up marrying them like that n later live to regret it. A thread on fp yesterday "separation is imminent in my marriage" just proved this point.
In short, everything in life is not black or white.

tosyne2much:
Woooooow !!! This is wonderful

If I were a lady I would take my jotter and take things down

emusmith:
I am not marrying a Tiger!
Look at what some ladies are preparing some men for... instead of him to be pursuing career with happy eyes, he'll be busy taming tiger!

SMH

midasbliss:
Uhmmm. Must u misunderstand me? If u can't tame a girl, den be ready for a bumpy ride... Nobody is flawless... Even d good ones have their bad sides.

emusmith:
"Bad sides", I call it "soft spot" ...it does not make you a tiger unless your own is really really bad...

BTW, change is constant. if you refuse to change before marriage, you will change in it...but it will be difficult.

Everyone, myself must work on ourselves the best... so our spouse can enjoy us...we will not be 100% but she will still enjoy us...do the same, ladies.

No excuses!

midasbliss:
Uhmmm... Shey na d tiger dey make u vex? Oya sowi... Pertaining the post, I tried to add humor, naim u con pick am against me ... I'm sowi o.

ROZZAYY:
Nice points @ lafflaff123, lol @ women in family section. Reason I hate goin dere bunch of hypocrites.
As for d op, even with all dese reasons women r still getting married every sat, so doesn't mata btw men r also single care to tell us the reason. Waiting for d counter thread.

BreezyRita:
I'm liking this op!
He's thoughtful.
Nice points there!!

lafflaff123:
@OP
When was the last time you visited the FAMILY section on Nairaland?if you have not visited there of late, please do. 95% of the women there claim to have HUSBANDS, and from some of the women's write ups, and written utterances. You will be wondering who actually married this women

emusmith:
Nice Rozzay... You come up with the counter thread..

alexis007:
my own be say.......list wey dey fly for nl don plenty pass the list my in-laws give me when i sought genevive nnaji's hand in marriage ..........on a more serious note.......after reading self-help books like 'think and grow rich', 'building a happy home', 'how to make everyday single day of your marriage seem like a honeymoon'......and listening to Oyedepo,oyakhilome etc. during marriage seminars............someone would still be so trite in style that he would come up with these overemphasized hints...and this is even coming from an under-G who still eats 'mama thank you'........hmmm.....the bizzare form of folly obtainable in my generation makes Indian sages to go on hunger strikes.............. The punchline of my post: op utilize this time used in compiling silly lists to boost your intellect as a student or better still,go hunt for money........you are not too young to earn a living

tosyne2much:
This write-up is da bomb

OP, I hereby give my award to you

ROZZAYY:
Naaa I don't open threads I only comment my 2cents. So open let me do dat.

emusmith:
# clears throat# #cleans eyes#


This thread came to mind from my discussion with a married friend who paid me a visit and we spoke at length... Plus my thoughts over a long time.

I have seen that many ladies would do just about anything to get married to the right guy. I mean, they're tired of buying Asuebi every month. They want others to celebrate with them which is okay.

Funny, some are the ones holding themselves in that position year in year out.

They've wholeheartedly cultivated some thinking patterns that repels the kind of the guy they TRULY want. In other words, they're hoping for A, cheating with G, praying for C, friend zoning W and expecting Z- That's the definition for a CONFUSED BEHAVIOUR.


Without wasting time, what are the 7 Painful/ Annoying Reasons Keeping Some Ladies Away From Their Man.

1. Misplaced Priorities

She says in her Priority List For A Husband, tall man, well to do, and a bit good looking (she's in her late 20's that's why). A guy who is opposite of all that, comes around and just because he has a car, she starts seizing the moment with him. For how long? Till her heart is broken.
She says she wants a Godfearing man who loves children and also working, that's all. Ask her, who is she currently dating? Who is she in love with? Just the opposite! Even if she has seen all she truly wants in Johnny.



2. Double Dating

I can tell you without mincing words, about 50% of ladies READY for marriage are Double Dating. Don't misunderstand me. It's not "Double Friending". You're dating two guys at the same time! For example: One is paying your fees, the other is helping your parents. Which will you marry? That's wickedness! Because you think he loves you right? You're just been childish. Wake up from that delusion before breeze blow and the anus of the chicken is exposed !


3. Big Eye (Oju - Kokoro, Yoruba dialect)

Even though they scream, I want a man with vision! Is she sure? No be television she mean? These days ladies will climb on your head if you have a car. It's good! But, what if the car get stolen? Guys, the lady that enjoyed oil rice with you now in your hustling days, Abeg, na dat one be your wife. No leave her! Marry her. Today's high-heeled, pink lips, Sugar lips, hot hips ladies nor get patience to wait. That's why guys use and dump them for the girl that controls his money wisely. Ladies, CHANGE!


4. Uncontrollable
Temperament

Not all ladies are this ill-mannered. Some can't control their anger even in the public. They have this notion that, "if he loves me, he will take me for who I am." I laff in Chinese! Who are you na? Everywhere you go, malice, anger and jealousy follows you about. Try to work on yourself this year. Don't nurse your weakness by saying, "That's who I am naturally". "In my family, anger is our problem" and you expect me to open my two eyes propose! Ayakata!
Even if you hide, somehow, he must still know. Work on yourself! That's not who you are!



5. Excessive Forming

I read Law. I read Medicine. I'm a banker. Who asked you? You have not gone too far in discussion, they're already bragging. OK na!
I'm not saying you should not play hard to get( which some guys are even doing o) but for how long?? You put on your PM, "I'm a Queen Without A King". You would have simply said, "I am a Selective Queen Looking For Prince Charming"- Is this a movie? The King came but disguised with clothes of "No car", "Self Contain", "Earning 50k", "Humble Background" but WITH A VISION!. Your eyes were too "Up" to notice him.


6. Facial Expression

The first place to note a happy person is the face. One day, I humorously advised a colleague, Why don't you at least smile small? Will your husband notice you like this? She replied me, "That's how my face is", If he is Truly mine, he wouldn't mind. I no fit laff abeg! And she and her friends always discuss husband house, I go dey laff them for my mind. I don jokingly tag them, "desperate housewives". Try to smile joor! Be real and smile. No man wan marry Wrestler?


7. Insensitivity

Some guys do find out about a girl before they decide to take it deeper. They go any length to do this. Some ask their friends to go toast her. Some get her pin and test her in all angles to see if she is "hoe" or a gold digger. Imagine going to visit a your bae's family who is a yoruba guy and you know they major on RESPECTING THE ELDERS, you see the mum and say Hi or just good morning! (-1 be that, lol) ! Be smart! Some take her out on a dinner and watch her manners (if she will demand for ten plates or invite the whole world) Some invite her and sheepishly hand the food items over to her to cook- he will then form busy! You Lady, should be sensitive. (I know the hardened ones now will be saying, All these for guys, a beg). If you are tired of being single and really really really wants to settle down. You should at least have a "C" in these exams, lol!

Learn how to cook. Learn how to be domestic- Run from Eateries at this time of your life. Why? You're preparing for your Prince. If you prepare for him like a Prince, he will prepare for you like a Princess, perhaps a Queen....


The crux of the write up is Prepare for what is really really worth it. Is getting married to the best guy (to you) really worth it? Then prepare for it. Prepare for marriage.

Good morning.

TDstarr:
i love you


no homo

emusmith:
Emini ke! Who am I? Tosyne, stop abeg!

tosyne2much:
I bow ooooo.. You ar da bomb

I have stopped creating threads just to sharpen my skills from you

englishmart:
"some of their parents could not afford a Volkswagen beetle but they need a guy who will present them a range rover for a birthday gift.

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a girl I asked out and she turned me down before. Just because my Dad bought a camry, she now asks me out.

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too many fake lovers in Naija. A lady once told me "Don't give a flower to me as a gift. Person no dey eat flowers. " Eeediot! Who wan give you flower before?

emusmith:
See Flattery naa! Bro, I never reach abeg!

tosyne2much:
Anyway you are doing a nice job

** Thumbs up**

lefulefu:
dating in naija na business oppurtunity 4 many ladies

Liability:
am single

Dreyl:
VOTE WISELY, VOTE BUHARI

lafflaff123:
@OP you do have points from the reasons you listed, but ironically girls with those attributes usually get married first.

When was the last time you visited the FAMILY section on Nairaland?if you have not visited there of late, please do. 95% of the women there claim to have HUSBANDS, and from some of the women's write ups, and written utterances. You will be wondering who actually married this women.