aisha2:


Okay, now I must admit you need mental help. This is sick, so its okay to kill her because she is rude. Mutter with all due respect you are not sane. Your own ex husband didn't kill you, but because you are alive and living you can spew this for other abused women justifying their murder. This is sick

manny4life:


It's so much easier for option 1, if that were the case, divorce proceedings will end on the first day or even the first week of hearing. Women who came into this country understood why they came: most knew exactly what their role was. If the man and woman had an understanding for the woman to be the caretaker of the house while he's the hustler, but when she arrives, she changes plan. Why then blame the man? This is what leads to marriage wahala.... Then the woman wants to be Mrs. independent but can't find the balance to maintain her household.. As for murder, it isn't right but let's face it... IT HAPPENS and something led to it.

mutter:
When you have nothing to live for, then you have everything to die for!

The fact that it keeps happening shows that the men are not all suddenly going mad.

A man that had worked so hard brought his much younger wife here to Germany, when they come to church the wife was so rude to the man, perhaps because she was better educated. I quickly grabbed hold of her and drew her aside. I warned her that her husband was respected in this community and if she ever tried it again where I was I would shred her to bits. Foolish girl!

These greedy bitches accept a man they do not love and are ashamed of just to get out of Nigeria and then they want to ruin the man.
Do you know that these men have worked so hard for so many years! Received all kinds of insults from society and then you bring this young girl and she gives you the final insult to let you know you are = 0.
How many of them come here with nothing and soon the man is out of his own home on the streets and having to pay maintenance.
When the study in America, they are able to do so because the man brought them there.
Nursing is not even a good paying job, like any menial job you can gather money if you work enough hours. While they are at work they cannot perform as wife`s so of what use is the work if it does not benefit the family?

No matter how educated or how much money they have a woman must humble herself and treat her husband with the utmost respect in all situations. That is not just good for the man but also for the children. The children are raised in an environment where the learn respect and manners.
That is what you get when a man that has struggled for years gets dragged into the mud in his own home. A man that has struggled and faced discrimination and abuse outside. Treat him like a king at home so that he can feel like the man he is, that will give him the strength to keep struggling.
Instead these women get rude, function like they don`t have a family, neglect the welfare of their husbands and homes and go running after the dollars.

Fhemmmy:


That is a lie, sir . . . Men competes more with their wife than the other way . . . Imagine, you have a wife that is making more money than you, and she makes a decision, would you see it as a darling thing or you would wanna compete? be honest oh, all lairs na hell fire oh

Fhemmmy:


I am so shocked to read this from a fellow man in 21st century . . . .

Legendoscar2:

You uttered and I could not mutter but when I tried to stutter I saw you were better....because your thoughts has manners.
Well done Ma'am you are way above many young ladies I know on Nairaland. No man has the moral justification to murder a sole but in those words of yours above lies the reason behind most of those sickening murders. I hope more people read this.

sukkot:
its the truth. question is can you handle it ?

bukatyne:


You are really fresh in This parts.

carefreewannabe:


You don't know what you are talking about?

Even if they have to split everything to 50/50 ("at worst" ), how do they lose everything?

Fhemmmy:


Please tell them oh . . . So sad to see men trying to run away from paying child support for their own kid(s).

sukkot:
carnally speaking, truth be told a man has no business being married to a woman who earns more than him. womens egos cant handle that type of situation. they will let you know you are a piece of sshytt every chance they get. the only time a man has business marrying a woman who earns more than him is if his pipe game is very strong. yall know what i mean by pipe game right ? lmao. he taking her to different galaxies in the bedroom. making her howl like a werewolf lmao. this the only time you will not be disrespected if you earn less than her. so if your pipe game weak ? you have no business whatsoever marrying a woman who earn more than you cuz your life will be miserable. women have egos the size of texas and dont know how to act when they earn more than you.

Fhemmmy:


Chairman, check a lot of coy, ladies are taking over, check schools and see how many ladies are doing way better, i guess they wont marry? Next time you attend a graduation ceremony, see how many ladies are on awards compared to guys and you will see what the new reality is

ladygogo:



Have you ever questioned the reasons why they are going back to Nigeria to search for a `wife`!

What business does an almost senior citizen have with a girl in her 20`s!

I personally wont go back to Nigeria to look for a husband because we definitely wont see things the same way.

What business does a female manager at exxon mobil have with a care worker or some guy that just moved from Nigeria(True life story).


Abeg.Let everybody stay in their lane.

Kedam:
They here means men . Also divorce has always been unfavorable to men in the USA and other western states. You take a woman to usa, married her, she later got a good Job nursing precisely and because she thinks she is on top of the world, makes ur life unbearable, u think u can't cope and seek for divorce, half of ur property goes to ur wife, ur wife becomes the children guardian and you still foot ur childrens bill tell me what else does he have. In real sense that's a blow.

Kedam:
They here means men . Also divorce has always been unfavorable to men in the USA and other western states. You take a woman to usa, married her, she later got a good Job nursing precisely and because she thinks she is on top of the world, makes ur life unbearable, u think u can't cope and seek for divorce, half of ur property goes to ur wife, ur wife becomes the children guardian and you still foot ur childrens bill tell me what else does he have. In real sense that's a blow.

humilitypays:
You see that thing I was crying about: Nigerian ladies always consider money and material things first b4 their own emotion and future, very absurd and sad I must say.

Pls read my previous comments, I already mentioned y most Nigerian guys who migrated abroad return back to Nigeria to find wife; if u care to read my opinion on that, scroll up.

Meanwhile, from ur statement, a single lady working in Chevron for instance ought not to marry any guy who isn't close to her class but a guy who is a billionaire can marry a girl from a very poor family background right

I hope everyone is reading that comment Isorait...we all are reading and taking notes directly/indirectly.

Lastly, my friends aren't aged...they are guys bw 29 - 34yrs....who have worked hard to become most ladies dream man now....some work with top firms (Shell, etc)...so I am talking abt a 50year old man coming back to Nigeria to marry a 25year old girl, nope.


And if men maintain that rule: everyone should stay on their lane by dating/marrying their class, I am sure many women living big today via marriage would have been dying in abject poverty in their various father's poor homes.

Nigerian men date & marry without considering a lady's class or financial background, but gradually, our Nigerian ladies are making men look like fools and are indirectly teaching men to also marry only ladies within their class and financial background.

We are getting there gradually...but women will suffer more if this your rule becomes rampant.

Have to go to bed now. Nice interacting with you and Fhemmy

Fhemmmy:


Chairman, check a lot of coy, ladies are taking over, check schools and see how many ladies are doing way better, i guess they wont marry? Next time you attend a graduation ceremony, see how many ladies are on awards compared to guys and you will see what the new reality is

mainman7:
Instead of being man enough to beg the Yorubas to teach them how to satisfactorily fvck their wives and cure their usual pathological erectile dysfunction, they are busy killing their innocent wives, poor women. Is it her fault that you perpetually can't perform as a real man in bed?! Why do u have to fraustratedly blame and kill her for all ur woes, weakness and incapabilitues, u senseless cowards!

SirShymexx:


Wagwan, bredrin?

You have gone ghost on me...wahh ya say?

Fhemmmy:


Fresh in which one?

Fhemmmy:


Not true, all depends on who makes more money . . as of May 27, 2014 – When a female celebrity making big money paid out spousal support, it made headlines: Jennifer Lopez, Jane Fonda, Janet Jackson, Jessica Simpson. Now the trend is trickling down . . . so it is case by case.....By the way, if you know you cant handle a woman coming here and now changed, marry the one you see here . . . easy and no need for wahala

coogar:


and how many of them see their career to the very end? half of them still abandon their career to become full housewives. half of them can never marry because the higher they go, the shallower their dating pool.

the so called ladies taking over may also be the reason many women can't find a man to marry. it's a gift & a curse.

sukkot:
nuff rahhspekktttttt mi breda. i went ghost on you ? nah chief you went ghost on me. been looking out for you but you went awol. or maybe we just in different threads

SirShymexx:


The comic relief I keep getting from ya posts is cracking me up. It's either you've never left naij, or probably haven't been entangled in women and their problems. Your posts reek of someone who probably just reads stuffs and translates everything based on utopia.

I believe you think it's just mere child support - just pray you don't get involved in custody battles, restraining order, over-inflated child support etc - against an unfair system that favours women. This isn't even about Nigerian men, men of all races know the dig. It's deeper than rap, and not as simplistic as you think it's.

aisha2:


I feel its justification. It means when you get in a rage and feel its over for you instead of calming down and thinking of how to work out the situation its okay to kill and commit suicide.

Everyone gets pained one time or the other, the wife who spends all her youth building a life with her husband gets betrayed does it justify her murdering him or poisoning him? NO. People should learn to deal with anger and difficult situations, not by thinking killing another is the solution

sukkot:
and so many of those ladies dont get married. a career woman more than likely will find it very difficult getting men to marry her. thats why we have topics on nairaland called ' career women who chose their career over marriage '. i believe that topic was on a few weeks ago. these women were in their thirties and forties

bukatyne:


Lol!

family section...

I know you are an old member but rarely frequent FS.

Fhemmmy:


Ha ha ha ha . . . Cos she challenged you, now she has turned into a man? Na wa oh, you will be surprised that you will go and come back to meet the girl in Nigeria that is not just a man, but would have turn into a monster for leaving her for so long . . . chose one.

coogar:


in your estimation, who is likelier to make more money? don't trump out stats of the very few women unfortunate to be issued divorce payments to counter millions of the average joes that are homeless today.