Fhemmmy:


Did the woman lied that the man was the father till DNA show otherwise?

Fhemmmy:


Teach them too to know more about what is happening around them and for the boy to have a heart and don't see woman as a object

chigoizie7:
this is were we think that divorcing a woman in Europe is that easy, a man who brought a lady from Nigeria to London as a wife turned out to be hunted becaus the lady presumed she has better rights than he is, that's not good,(European Govt. supports women more than men by law. so why wont they misbehave? a Nigerian man wont tolerate that, well,when the couple visited Nigeria, the husband confiscated all her document,left her with no money, quarrel ensured and she threatened to sue him, the young man proudly said, sweetheart , "certainly not in Anambra". that's how she started begging that she will change, but the guy didn't hear any of it, he travelled without her. now the lady is back home alone with the mother in-law (now very humble and respectful) my question is, why wouldn't they respect the man while outside naija?

aisha2:


Okay, now I must admit you need mental help. This is sick, so its okay to kill her because she is rude. Mutter with all due respect you are not sane. Your own ex husband didn't kill you, but because you are alive and living you can spew this for other abused women justifying their murder. This is sick

pickabeau1:

Implicit in your posts is that by having a child for a man
A woman did It for him hence her quest to be compensated for giving him a child is justified

The child is not hers but the man's.



Cc: Fhemmmy

pickabeau1:


Women r d greatest culprits here
They see themselves as objects

100Cents:


She never said it is right killing a woman. Think and stop being sentimental..

pickabeau1:


There's a link on the early pages

Paternity fraud

Fhemmmy:


Chairman, read me well.....

Fhemmmy:


Dont have the time yet to read it, just got home and need to spend family time and update my auto threadsand tech market. ...Lol

pickabeau1:


I been reading u wella..Big bro

Statements like I gave u a kid, my body[i] etc are manifestations of such

Is the sex pleasurable to one person only?

Is the child the responsibility of one person only?

pickabeau1:


No wahala bro...more grease to the elbow....

Read up on paternity fraud cases

It happens in your neck of the woods too

donpeey22:
And when the both of us work, but she earns more than I do thanks to her training as a Nurse which I bankrolled, she now has the right to get mad at me? Like I forced her into taking up the nursing job? And even when I still do my fair share of house chores?

I am asking all these because [b]I found out that when most married women work and make financial contributions in their homes, they tend to think they doing the man a favor or that they are slaving for the man like some would put it. [/b]Not really that they are fulfilled from doing that. This is not even a problem of the man not helping out in house chores, because even he helps out with chores, some ladies will still assume that he is doing that just so they could keep working their a5ses off, and not really that it's a normal thing to do. Such mentality is common among Nigerian- bred women, and they retain that mind set even when they go abroad.

This makes me want to conclude that A TYPICAL NIGERIAN-BRED WOMAN SEEMS TO LOSE RESPECT FOR HER MAN WHEN SHE BEGINS TO WORK AND MAKE FINANCIAL CONTRIBUTION IN HER SUPPOSED HOME. Because she was raised to believe that the man is to provide for her while her duty is to keep the home. So, when they see themselves working and contributing to the upkeep of the house, they consider it an anormally and begin to humiliate their men. When such humiliations linger for a long time, hatred builds up, the next thing is divorce where the man is made to lose almost all what he has laboured for in life.
This makes me wonder if it's better for Nigerian women to remain in the kitchen while the men go out to win the bread until they realize that it is not abnormal for them to work and contribute to the household, and that it is also not unmanly for their men to help in domestic chores. I know that some of you pretend that you don't want to be housewives, but it seems you inwardly crave to to be. So, damn the pretence and say what you really want.

Fhemmmy:


I don't think you actually read me well, something or some comments from other people resulted to that statement of mine....

Fhemmmy:

If it happens and you have evidence as a nan, use yhe law to your advantage.

babyosisi:
Aisha2 and sophyrocks come and see American wonder
No wonder Igbos say when a funeral procession is going by ,to onlookers,they might as well be carrying a log of wood
All this from a woman who educates us on how some women deserved death at the hands of their husbands
Na wa o

Down memory lane







https://www.nairaland.com/mutter/posts/42

craziebone:
When a woman decides to get pregnant with your baby, it isn't because of you because the law gives her the unfair power to decide if the child will be born or not even if you want it, fact!

When a woman decides to go to bed with you, she is doing it for her own pleasure, fact!

When a woman gets married to you, she isn't doing it for you, but for herself, fact!

When a woman cooks for you, she is not doing it for you, at least not entirely. How many women even cook for their hubby nowadays?

Why should men be made to feel guilty for what women do for their own pleasure?

When she decides to

mizzochocinco:
I am well over 35 and have never had a sensible relationship with a good man

aisha2:


Okay, now I must admit you need mental help. This is sick, so its okay to kill her because she is rude. Mutter with all due respect you are not sane. Your own ex husband didn't kill you, but because you are alive and living you can spew this for other abused women justifying their murder. This is sick

andromida:


How and why will a woman go from daddy and sir to useless man? can it be just because her eyes are opened or are there other things going on that you cannot know. Why must it be the woman's fault? Accepted in some instances it will be mostly the woman's fault but it cannot be in all instances.

You speak of vow did the man not promise to love his wife? yet he kills the woman he promised to love for his pride sake he prefers his children to be orphans what level of selfishness is this? even the children are nothing to him his pride means every thing this is the kind of man that cannot command respect.

I don't think this kind of man is concerned about the custody of his kids,all he is concerned about is himself. If he was concerned about his kids he would not kill their mom and truly destroy everything.

sukkot:
[b] brah, you trying too hard to be on the ladies side. it is a honorable thing to do and i am sure a few of the ladies will PM you their phone numbers lmao. however you are not being truthful with yourself. listen, nigerian women have egos the size of dangotes bank account. HUGE EGOS. see a nigerian woman is like a see-saw, you are either rich and paying for her or she is rich and dont want you around. no inbetweens . thats just how it goes. nigerian women have this thing called ' IRRITATION FACTOR' and one of the things that trigger that factor is a broke man or a man who earns less than them. these women are easily irritated. heck have you seen what they do to their housegirls and houseboys ? they treat their housegirls and houseboys like that because they are irritated that such a lowly despicable poor creature is in their presence. lmao. naija women hate people who they perceive as lowly or lower than them. now you can peep game and try to adjust or you can be stubborn and go marry some naija woman who earns more than you. next week we would be reading about how you got so angry you strangled her to death after you got tired of her disrespecting you. this will be frontpage topic next week[/b]

mutter:


The men married them because when before they got out they acted all humble or probably even where, but then their eyes opened.
I see some when they come newly "sir, daddy" and after a few months, "useless man".

How does a man become the kind of man that commands respect? Every human being commands respect. In accordance with our tradition every man commands respect from every woman and men have a different status in society. Did the woman not take a vow to submit to him or better for worse?
When you do the wine carrying why do you go down on your knees? Is that just a show, a body movement. It is a promise to the man made before your family and his that you would submit to the man and go down for him. The man does not have to command his respect it is your duty as his wife.

Divorcing them would mean loosing everything, even custody of the kid`s. That is how it functions. The man would loose everything he built up. He not only looses it but looses it to someone he built up who turned around to destroy him.

pickabeau1:


There's a link on the early pages

Paternity fraud

donnypool:


you probably haven't seen them here in canada.

Fhemmmy:


I have red it.... so sad for the man, but that is not something usual thus, judge told the man to make a 1$ payment per month for those donkey years

babyosisi:
Aisha2 and sophyrocks come and see American wonder
No wonder Igbos say when a funeral procession is going by ,to onlookers,they might as well be carrying a log of wood
All this from a woman who educates us on how some women deserved death at the hands of their husbands
Na wa o

Down memory lane

https://www.nairaland.com/mutter/posts/42

FolarinLondon:


Finally, if you want to advise anybody, l ll advise you to channel your effort towards your fellow ladies who would expect a destroyed man to just walk away simply cos he is a strong man. We r different; not all men would accept your bullshit and walk away.

If you are ready to destroy someone's life, then prepare to die. Simple.

cococandy:


Even if they do want to sit at home, can they afford to? How many families can really afford for one party to be a permanent stay home parent? That only happens when the kids are tender and once they are weaned,fiam it is off to the labor market for mama once again.

After all the struggle and suffer that both parents put in together, some men will still have the guts to say that it is all they worked for as if the part the woman played was nothing at all.

Every time on NL one keeps reading stuff like this you wonder if all the women in the world are house wives. Goes to show you the financial contributions of the wives are never taken into consideration when these alarmists start their exaggerations.
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The sentiments you see on this thread is exactly was goes on in the Nigerian environment.
The wives work tirelessly. both the educated and uneducated alike. Struggle to make ends meet and all what not only for the men to kick them out when they are bored and a new sissy is in the corner. All her contributions swept under the carpet because typically most families would buy props in the man's name even if they both brought the money for it.

That's why it seems unfair to them that a woman is given her due and fair share in the case of a divorce.


The wise courts of the west know this that is why anything acquired during marriage is community property as it is seen to be gotten by the joint effort of the couple whether only woman or the man is working.