MizMyColi:


Pickabeau1
Matthewbriggs

Please what's your opinion?

Adaobi12:
I always have this fear, that I might end up with the wrong man. this little voice keeps telling me, if you are not careful, you will make a mistake in the choice of life partner.

pickabeau1:


Another unpleasant news


Well, I need to know more of the lady and her makeup


I will assume she is a more traditional lady who is down with marriage
The guy did not have solid intentions towards her for 2 years or not meeting her parents

- He has made up his choice except she uses the baby to convince him otherwise - not the best considering he is shady himself




- He may take responsibility for the kid eventually but she has a kid which will affect her future prospects - not too optimistic he will take responsibilty

- have the child and raise as her own - what will her parents say, job prospects, school etc

- have the child and give for adoption - a possibility as the dad does not really care

- not have the child at all - we all know the questions around this (trauma of loss, bad procedures etc)

She has to be decisive and be firm whichever path she takes
Her life as she knows it is over

MizMyColi:


Pickabeau1
Matthewbriggs

Please what's your opinion?

Matthewbriggs:


I think she already knows the options on the table by now. If she doesn't pickabeu 1 has done of good job of stating the possible decisions she can take.

Moreover it is important, She moves on with her life. What ever decision she takes is up to her inasmuch as she knows deep down she can live with the outcome.

lekinz18:
Mizmycoli..pls i don't knw hw i could go abt wit d valentine on election day...how should it be celebrated in considering we student on campus....and wot type of gift would go best..take student lyf into consideration...pls reply me fast

lekinz18:
Miz mycoli..pls i don't knw hw i could go abt wit d valentine on election day...how should it be celebrated in considering we student on campus....and wot type of gift would go best..take student lyf into consideration...pls reply me fast

Tallesty1, please give a suggestion, thanks

Jollyjoy:
Hmmm.there is dis guy i really love so much,who i hv been dating for d past 2years.dis guy is usualy secretive nd hardly introduce me to his frnds or even his family though i didn't really mind , bt of recent i paid him a surprise visit,lo nd behold i saw a lady who told me d guy has introduce her to his parent nd they are planning to get married. I really want to forgt abt d guy bt d most painful thing is i am already pregnant for him.wat wil i do to get out of dis predicament. Let me quickly dis. He denied responsibility of d child

lekinz18:
Mizmycoli...pls ansa my question abt val and election..i use God beg u...

Jollyjoy:
I sincerely thank all those whose advice on this thread hv given me an iota of hope nd direction. Mizcoli thanks 4 dis thread am greatful for d advice.

MizMyColi:


Tallesty1, please give a suggestion, thanks

Tallesty1:
Hian............

Ichoro ichiputa m ukwu n'ezi bah?

MizMyColi:

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MizMyColi:


Good Morning Zicoraads!

zitalin:
@Mizmycoli. Ive been in a relationship with my BF for about a year now. Yestaday i went tru his fone while he was asleep nd found out dat derz dis girl he jus added recently on BBM nd dev been getting to knw each oda.

I also went tru his call log nd saw he calls her once a day. Ive been restless since den nd he has been asking me wat d problem is.

NB. D lady looks very matured nd has been asking him questions like she wants a serz relationship with him.

Im so confused. Plz help

zitalin:

Hello Dear

I'm a lady like you, and quite candidly, if I were in your shoes, I'd be worried and even act more insecure than you.

Lolz

However, I've learned that there's a normal way to do things, and there's the best way to do things too.

The normal way would entail you calling his attention to it, which he'll most plausibly deny.....and then you press on....and then he becomes more emotionally distant from you....and then at some point you can't take it anymore and you call it quits!!!!!!!!

^^^There, you've succeeded in spoiling your r/ship due to lack of discernment and good judgement.

Now Let's try to figure out a best way.

Remember we are all humans and bound to falter.
So, put yourself in your guy's shoes. What are those things that he does that is likely to give you the impetus to give other guys attention?

Now, put yourself back in the situation.
Btw You, me and yourself, what are the things you think you might be doing wrongly in the relationship?
What do you think will make him have the hots for another chic.

What I'm saying is this dear.
Suffering is inevitable, but pain is optional.
As long as you haven't caught him red-handed cheating on you. Quit snooping around his phone and love up on him. Yes.....go beyond yourself and give him your best.


If ever the need comes to leave the r/ship....you and him can testify that you really did your best. That all you ever did was love him in every way that you could. Trust me dear. I have been there. Even if your relationship becomes a failed project, the satisfaction that you gave even more than your best will carry you through the period of your hurts till you're ready to attempt loving again.

I'm sorry if I've bored you with my epistle. I kinda took your story personal. It gets better, okay.


Owh, one more thing......please ask him.
Clear your doubt.
But be very tactful and go about it wisely.
Don't ask like you want a fight.
Ask when you two are in the best of moods.

No one is really difficult, just difficult timings

I'll be here if you need more clarity

zicoraads:
Yesterday was my girlfriend's birthday. And we have been dating for a long time now; since 2005 to be precise. We've had issues from time to time. But it's been a jolly good ride so far. I started work last year in this private establishment and have become quite close with my boss' P.A. We have kissed a few times but we haven't 'gone all the way yet.'

My point is; I think am beginning to pull away from my girlfriend and I don't want to not pull away but I feel breaking up with my girlfriend would be terrible on her.

Come to think of it, I think I was already bored in the relationship and being close to someone else has been 'new'.

So, I want to break up. But I guess it's someone who would say; yea...'Break Up' that am hoping for. Someone who would give it a certain legitimacy

MizMyColi:


.....Love is A Decision.

sodson11:
Hello Mizmycoli,I am a final year nd student in a polytechnic and a 100level student in a university and I have a gf who happens to be a jambite,How can I make her love and care for me?

Hello There

Except I'm missing the memo here, you really can't make a person love you. However you can help them grow in love for you.
You can do this by building your relationship on the tenets of openness, sincerity and trust. If she's your gf, loving and caring (as I know it) for you should come naturally to her.

Btw, seeing as she's a Jambite, wouldn't it be more profitable if you helped her focus more on her studies, in other words....you might wanna mellow down on the romantic aspect of the relationship.
It'll build respect for you and increase your value in her eyes.

I'm putting myself in her shoes here, the implication is she might have other priorities.

Whatever they are, seek for ways to add value to her life.

Remember that you cannot give what you don't have.

Try to love yourself more too. Any love you have not given and cannot give to yourself, You may not be able to receive from others.

Hope this helps. All the best.

MizMyColi:
@Jhidey08
First mistake you made was engaging a girl in a romantic chit-chat because you wanted to prove your mettle to yourself and your friends.

That's one recipe and equally a cute way to court emotional disaster.

But don't be discouraged. Please continue with your story.

Holla when your phone's charged up.
Btw, what's your month and date of birth?

Cutehector:
na so e dey take start. From clap to dance

MizMyColi:


Yinmu.
I was only trying to decipher his personality.

Cutehector:
not all personalities conform with their respective zodiac signs Miss. Wats d meanin of yinmu anyways? Smth tells me its a foul language. I'v always respected ur personality buh it seems ur now being rude.

Teespice: love is truly beautiful.

that's all I can say.