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Stephanie share this piece,I find it quite interesting so I decided to bring it here


1. Stop Taking Each Other Down:
For a woman, it is another woman. As women, we need to stop taking each other down with our words and actions and rather focus on lifting each other up. The world would be a much better place if we all did that.

2. Stop Comparing:
As women, we find it so easy to look at ourselves and compare varying qualities that other women possess. Each of us is created in our own unique and special way. Let us try taking the time to realize the unique qualities that each of us has rather than comparing.

3. Fighting Over Guys
Obviously, if your best girlfriend has an affair with your guy, you have every right to scream and yell. That kind of betrayal warrants anger, for sure. But most times, we should take our anger out on our partners rather than the other girl. Also, if your girlfriend is in a relationship and you are not, don’t allow your jealousy and frustration to get in the way of your friendship.

4. Criticizing Other People’s Weight:
There are very polite ways to make a complement on another woman’s weight. But saying “oh my gosh you’re so skinny” or “wow, you’ve added so much weight!” might be more hurtful than we think it is.

5. Withholding Compliments
Not only is it bad to compliment someone negatively, it is also wrong to withhold good compliments. If your girlfriend has a really nice hairstyle on, or has lost some weight and is looking great, go ahead and say it to her.

6. Telling each Other's Secret:
It’s really sad to confide in someone and find out that the person has let out your secret to the wrong person. Ladies, let’s not do this to ourselves.

7. Not been Supportive:
Many times as women, we desert our friends when they need us the most. Its our friend’s wedding, birthday, graduation, store opening…. and because we feel a certain way about that achievement or milestone, we don’t give our support. So wrong.

8. Stop Competing:
I wish I could scream this. Not everything in life is a competition. No one has to really ‘win’ that best dressed award or most expensive bag title. Focus on your own qualities that are unique and special to you.

9. Comparing Our Bodies:
Hey ladies, we really need to stop this. Many of us have done harmful things to our bodies in a bid to look like the next person. Love who you are and don’t think you need to look like anyone else.

10. Stop Hating:
I really didn’t know what to title this last point. It might not be the appropriate word to use, but have you noticed that some women just don’t like other women for absolutely NO REASON? I’ve heard this a lot of times “I don’t like that lady” and when you ask why, the response is “I don’t know, I just don’t like her“. Maybe she walks or talks in a certain way that you don’t feel comfortable with and because of that, you conclude that you don’t like her even though you hardly know her!

This gets me confused. Let’s continue this discussion in the comment section. Ladies, why do you think we do this to each other? How can we stop such habits?

What other things do we need to stop doing to each other?

kilokeys:
why is the op spoiling our show...
we need women to hate on eachother.. they are disunited and we are this miserable
. if they come together..
we would be in cages o..
brought out for sports (gladiator things) and se. x..

lagmostkuit:
I don't do all except No 10.. I can fit hate some girls ehhh!

chibwike:
re u a girl?

kilokeys:
why is the op spoiling our show...
we need women to hate on eachother.. they are disunited and we are this miserable
. if they come together..
we would be in cages o..
brought out for sports (gladiator things) and se. x..

priscaoge:
Lol this is funny

No vex say I burst d bubble

priscaoge:
Some Nairaland attention seekers (ladies) need to Stop opening silly threads about who envy's them,who "Wish" to be like them or asking how they look

I wholeheartedly and seriously Concur from the depth of my being

lagmostkuit:
I'm a woman!

chibwike:
They shud stop kissing and hugging themselves in public...and also calling themselves darling and my love. ..coz if we guys do that....the rest is history.

This too

lagmostkuit:
I don't do all except No 10.. I can fit hate some girls ehhh!

Na small pikin dey worry you

kilokeys:
something funny happend
while trying to read the quote on ur dp.. i tried with d first line.. then i got foncused when i read the scribblings across ur boobs. still havent been able to understand them

naijaboiy:
I wholeheartedly and seriously Concur from the depth of my being

The Thrash Bin

diddydiva:


they should support themselves when a lady is bashed