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Why are you taking it personal?

Why not ask the guy? (guilty conscience)

because they have it all.

In Nigeria today igbos remain the highest group of all the tribe in some sought of inter-tribal or inter-racial marriage. 1 in 5 igbos are likely to be married to a person outside their tribe. The Fulani and hausa are least likely followed by yorubas.


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Nairaland encourages tribal bashing against igbos becos the site is owned by a yoruba.

This issue has been over flogged,lets move to something else.Thanx

They don't trust other tribes

CHM11:
I've noticed that Nairalanders based in the USA can write long epistles, couldn't even finish my igbo brother's comment.
But I get his point.
@bigfrancis21 nice point, but here's my view.
Others do it doesn't make I right.
Additionally, Nigeria is made up of major 3 regions. North west and east. The people in the North inter marry freely, fulani, gwarri, benue, hausa, Tiv etc....people in the west intermarry freely too, yoruba, egun, badagry, etc. But because tribes in the EAST are much, igbo's don't like marrying others and its justified because it favours them better.

I for example wouldn't want any of family member to marry an igbo man or woman, I'd rather marry a yoruba or even a fulani. This is because I have not had a good experience as regards the igbos I've encountered in life.
All in all, igbos!!..marry yourselves, its good for you bcause other tribes will hardly understand your behavior and character.

Wrong... Many peeps from rivers, etc. marry Ibo women....

CHM11:
I've noticed that Nairalanders based in the USA can write long epistles, couldn't even finish my igbo brother's comment.
But I get his point.
@bigfrancis21 nice point, but here's my view.
Others do it doesn't make I right.
Additionally, Nigeria is made up of major 3 regions. North west and east. The people in the North inter marry freely, fulani, gwarri, benue, hausa, Tiv etc....people in the west intermarry freely too, yoruba, egun, badagry, etc. But because tribes in the EAST are much, igbo's don't like marrying others and its justified because it favours them better.

I for example wouldn't want any of family member to marry an igbo man or woman, I'd rather marry a yoruba or even a fulani. This is because I have not had a good experience as regards the igbos I've encountered in life.
All in all, igbos!!..marry yourselves, its good for you bcause other tribes will hardly understand your behavior and character.

choi no be all of us wey dey US love epistles o, it's an individual thing besides i wonder why the guy dey para on top small matter o

Sweetlemon:
Why not ask the guy? (guilty conscience)

You both are taking it personal, you could have let it slide.

CHM11:
I've noticed that Nairalanders based in the USA can write long epistles, couldn't even finish my igbo brother's comment.
But I get his point.
@bigfrancis21 nice point, but here's my view.
Others do it doesn't make I right.
Additionally, Nigeria is made up of major 3 regions. North west and east. The people in the North inter marry freely, fulani, gwarri, benue, hausa, Tiv etc....people in the west intermarry freely too, yoruba, egun, badagry, etc. But because tribes in the EAST are much, igbo's don't like marrying others and its justified because it favours them better.

I for example wouldn't want any of family member to marry an igbo man or woman, I'd rather marry a yoruba or even a fulani. This is because I have not had a good experience as regards the igbos I've encountered in life.
All in all, igbos!!..marry yourselves, its good for you bcause other tribes will hardly understand your behavior and character.

If you have never met any good igbo man or woman in your entire life, then you need to reassess yourself.

sleekangel85:
If you check my thread,it's a question not an allegation all you needed to do was to give ur advice to d Lady.I know d Yorubas nd Hausas do dat but in dis case d guy is igbo.You Igbo guys aren't giving me answers dat I want instead u r paranoid.Abeg no be me start am oh.

Babe, why are u drinking paracetamol for ur friend's headache? Did she complain to you about the guy not proposing or him being tribalistic? IMHO, mind your business and leave Igbos alone.

bigfrancis21:
Igbo bashing has become quite a common thing in Nigeria such that it has become normal to bash Igbo on every single thing, even on things that are meaningless.

You created this thread to ask why Igbo prefer to marry from their tribe. Are you really serious? This is a question you opened this thread for looking for 'answers'? Would you have opened this very thread in the first place had a Yoruba or Hausa guy been the one who preferred to marry from their tribe? Yes or No? Why would a Yoruba parent reject a non-yoruba suitor, and that will not be an issue. In fact, such action is justified. A Hausa parent will do the same and no dust will be raised about it. But when an Igbo parent does the same, then its a big deal. It is a serious issue that calls for serious attention and criticism, then you begin to get tags like ''Igbos are 'tribalistic'', 'they are 'selfish'', it is an 'Igbo problem' e.t.c. Minor issues that aren't issues when done by other tribes become a serious issue when Igbo is involved.

I look around me, majority Ibibios marry within the Ibibio tribe, majority Hausas marry within Hausa, Yoruba within Yoruba, why should the Igbo marrying within themselves even be a question in the first place? Despite the level of inter marriage between whites and blacks here in the US, majority whites marry within whites, chinese within chinese, blacks within blacks, and you're going to sit there and tell me that it is a problem when Igbos prefer to marry Igbos?? Like seriously??

I get your point about love being the most important factor between 2 people from different tribes and there are marriages between Igbo men and non-Igbo women however majority Igbos don't need to look outside for love when they can find it within themselves. The same love you mentioned as important, Igbo men get it from within the tribe. Why look outside? What about culture preservation and values? Why should Igbo preferring to marry from within even be an issue in the first place when other tribes are doing the same? Is the creation of this thread even justified in the first place?

Tomorrow you're going to open another thread asking 'Why do Igbo people speak Igbo?' Like seriously??

Acting as a victim again...smh.

waternogetemeny:
Igbo this, igbo that, are we the only ones in Nigeria? Must everybody marry from one igbo tribe?



smh for yorubas!

Na RESPECT Ooo..
If no one talks about U, then U are NOBODY..
AM HAPPY and PROUD..

sleekangel85:
A friend of mine has being dating a guy for some years now. She's not an Anambrarian. She's a very lovely lady,beautiful, kind, down to earth and she loves the guy so much.

I'm worried because the guy hasn't proposed and he is from Anambra state . I don't know if he'll eventually marry her because I've heard and I've seen a lot of people from Anambra state marrying from their tribe.

I need to know why they do that even when most times it's against their wish. What's your advice for her? Don't you think that the guy may eventually leave her for an Anambra Lady?

Thanks

Sis- because they are difficult people* and they can manage each other well- secondly because they feel they are the true ibo's and they don't want to pollute - their blood

this is not an igbo thing really,it happens with every tribe.

That's becous its only anambra women that gives birth to real men..and its only anambra guys dart can marry a real woman d right way it suppose to...

bigfrancis21:
Igbo bashing has become quite a common thing in Nigeria such that it has become normal to bash Igbo on every single thing, even on things that are meaningless.

You created this thread to ask why Igbo prefer to marry from their tribe. Are you really serious? This is a question you opened this thread for looking for 'answers'? Would you have opened this very thread in the first place had a Yoruba or Hausa guy been the one who preferred to marry from their tribe? Yes or No? Why would a Yoruba parent reject a non-yoruba suitor, and that will not be an issue. In fact, such action is justified. A Hausa parent will do the same and no dust will be raised about it. But when an Igbo parent does the same, then its a big deal. It is a serious issue that calls for serious attention and criticism, then you begin to get tags like ''Igbos are 'tribalistic'', 'they are 'selfish'', it is an 'Igbo problem' e.t.c. Minor issues that aren't issues when done by other tribes become a serious issue when Igbo is involved.

I look around me, majority Ibibios marry within the Ibibio tribe, majority Hausas marry within Hausa, Yoruba within Yoruba, why should the Igbo marrying within themselves even be a question in the first place? Despite the level of inter marriage between whites and blacks here in the US, majority whites marry within whites, chinese within chinese, blacks within blacks, and you're going to sit there and tell me that it is a problem when Igbos prefer to marry Igbos?? Like seriously??

I get your point about love being the most important factor between 2 people from different tribes and there are marriages between Igbo men and non-Igbo women however majority Igbos don't need to look outside for love when they can find it within themselves. The same love you mentioned as important, Igbo men get it from within the tribe. Why look outside? What about culture preservation and values? Why should Igbo preferring to marry from within even be an issue in the first place when other tribes are doing the same? Is the creation of this thread even justified in the first place?

Tomorrow you're going to open another thread asking 'Why do Igbo people speak Igbo?' Like seriously??

My brother u get time for them.

An id10t will just wake up nd start writing jargon.

Because her friend's boyfriend has not proposed to her, she jumps into conclusion.

BTW, this is an issue that happens in every tribe. My friend that wanted to marry yoruba girl He met during nysc was rejected bc of tribe issue. Do We now generalized that yorubas are tribalistic?

OP with a prejudice mind opened thread to ask question, within the same front page she is already blaming Anambra people for not marrying other tribe but forgot that :

Peter obi married from akwa ibom

Psquare from Anambra married lola a yoruba

Mikel obi from anambra is about marrying a
Russian

Dora Akunyili Daughter married an oyibo

The traditional ruler of Awka married a Zambian woman

just a few example of known Anambra people that married from other tribes.

Their hatred for igbos will continue giving them high bp

Abeg e fi Awon omo Nna le joo,

Tribalist ni won simple

To add to that..Anambrans are of special breeds. its a thing of pride being an Anambran just like an American prides about his origin.

Both Anambra men and women hardly marry outsiders because of the greatness that goes with being an Anambran. The same thing is pushing non Anambrans to force themselves on Anambra people just to have a feel of that same honor and greatness which is associated with Anambrans..

Ife eji abu an Anambran erika..

onyedikachukwue:
Our women feel more comfortable with us.i can't marry a girl who is not from anambra.


Proudly ANAMBRA
I REP NNEWI

It is VERY VERY TRUE...An anambra guy can date you and have a successful relationship with you but when it comes to marriage, he's DEFINATELY gonna marry a gal from his state..IT IS SOOOOOOO TRUE...It is very difficult for an anambra guy to marry a gal dats not from his state..
If you're not from anambra DON'T bother dating a guy from there, only if u wanna have fun..
As for me, once I hear Anambra, I RUN!! #NoTimeToWaste

onyedikachukwue:
Our women feel more comfortable with us.i can't marry a girl who is not from anambra.


Proudly ANAMBRA
I REP NNEWI

See them!
This is so unfair

u turn it upside down

Calculia:
In Nigeria today igbos remain the highest group of all the tribe in some sought of inter-tribal or inter-racial marriage. 1 in 5 igbos are likely to be married to a person outside their tribe. The Fulani and hausa are least likely followed by yorubas.


Nairaland encourages tribal bashing against igbos becos the site is owned by a yoruba.

xhamel89:
The truth is that Igbos are highly tribalistic. No tribe does it better. They are the best in their own eyes. Others are bad, hausas are illiterates, Yorubas are dirty. All sort of things you hear from them. That feature of them is a clear a position of their tribalism life. The day an Igbo rule Nigeria, we are finish.

One Company on Allen Avenue in Ikeja here, does not only teach his Igbo brothers that other tribes are bad, especially Yorubas, it also ensure that other tribes are like Isrealites in Goshen. Too bad for who create this mentality in them.

Quote me and.........

The Igbos in my company have their own clique. You need to see how they constantly bash non-Igbos especially Yorubas. In any department with an Igbo executive, Yorubas are in trouble there! But Yoruba executives usually create level-playing field.

YOU PEOPLE SHOULD KNOW THAT THE IGBOS HAVE THEIR UNDERGROUND PLAN FOR SEGREGATING TO THEIR SO CALLED "BIAFRA" AND WOULD NOT WANT ANY TRIBE TO BE WITH THEM BY THEN.

CHM11:
I've noticed that Nairalanders based in the USA can write long epistles, couldn't even finish my igbo brother's comment.
But I get his point.
@bigfrancis21 nice point, but here's my view.
Others do it doesn't make I right.
Additionally, Nigeria is made up of major 3 regions. North west and east. The people in the North inter marry freely, fulani, gwarri, benue, hausa, Tiv etc....people in the west intermarry freely too, yoruba, egun, badagry, etc. But because tribes in the EAST are much, igbo's don't like marrying others and its justified because it favours them better.

I for example wouldn't want any of family member to marry an igbo man or woman, I'd rather marry a yoruba or even a fulani. This is because I have not had a good experience as regards the igbos I've encountered in life.
All in all, igbos!!..marry yourselves, its good for you bcause other tribes will hardly understand your behavior and character.

oh my goodness every time igbo, igbo what is that. .....

For me my tribe babe's are so nice and precious. .....mmwwaa.
I can't wait to get married with my tribe

Justfollowit:


If you have never met any good igbo man or woman in your entire life, then you need to reassess yourself.

They haven't met good Igbo people yet they complain that Igbo people don't marry them.
See them dying for an Igbo man's love.

CHM11:
I've noticed that Nairalanders based in the USA can write long epistles, couldn't even finish my igbo brother's comment.
But I get his point.
@bigfrancis21 nice point, but here's my view.
Others do it doesn't make I right.
Additionally, Nigeria is made up of major 3 regions. North west and east. The people in the North inter marry freely, fulani, gwarri, benue, hausa, Tiv etc....people in the west intermarry freely too, yoruba, egun, badagry, etc. But because tribes in the EAST are much, igbo's don't like marrying others and its justified because it favours them better.

I for example wouldn't want any of family member to marry an igbo man or woman, I'd rather marry a yoruba or even a fulani. This is because I have not had a good experience as regards the igbos I've encountered in life.
All in all, igbos!!..marry yourselves, its good for you bcause other tribes will hardly understand your behavior and character.

You are a fool and a mentally backward person for saying that. Yorubas dat are so tribalistic in nature are the ones to avoid. Ewu.

sleekangel85:
A friend of mine has being dating a guy for some years now. She's not an Anambrarian. She's a very lovely lady,beautiful, kind, down to earth and she loves the guy so much.

I'm worried because the guy hasn't proposed and he is from Anambra state . I don't know if he'll eventually marry her because I've heard and I've seen a lot of people from Anambra state marrying from their tribe.

I need to know why they do that even when most times it's against their wish. What's your advice for her? Don't you think that the guy may eventually leave her for an Anambra Lady?
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Thanks

My advice for her is not to marry a stranger.

CHM11:
Dear OP, please leave igbos alone if you are not igbo. Let them keep marrying themselves, its better for them.

I just pity peeps who date igbos!!,..especially igbos who live or have lived in the east...how do you cope with them??

Had to live amongst some east-based igbo guys and ladies during my NYSC..... Worst experience of my life...

me too

A billion likes for bigfrancis21 and Ishilove. Your responses are not only logical but they show enlightened breeding and class. Please don't stop teaching that other lady (others like) who says her own personal experience is enough to decide the fates of her other family members when it comes to relating with Ndigbo. She definitely requires your lectures.

One Anambran girl I dey friend here in Delta st, said she hate my tribe! I asked am why she said because we Urhobo luv beating their girls! aba nah for witch. I don,t even kn how to beat women self because all my elders once are girls

Sweetlemon:
The Igbos in my company have their own clique. You need to see how they constantly bash non-Igbos especially Yorubas. In any department with an Igbo executive, Yorubas are in trouble there! But Yoruba executives usually create level-playing field.

Dat is a lie, it is the other way round. Yorubas will only promote themselves above their igbo superior, that is if they dont first sack them. The pay they give their yoruba is different from that the igbo get.

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chillingbabe:
It is VERY VERY TRUE...An anambra guy can date you and have a successful relationship with you but when it comes to marriage, he's DEFINATELY gonna marry a gal from his state..IT IS SOOOOOOO TRUE...It is very difficult for an anambra guy to marry a gal dats not from his state..
If you're not from anambra DON'T bother dating a guy from there, only if u wanna have fun..
As for me, once I hear Anambra, I RUN!! #NoTimeToWaste

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Continue to miss ur luck till u clock 40.

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