tosyne2much:
Observing frm my coconut tree

safarigirl:
I'm writing this article strictly out of necessity. Not only is this based on the experiences of others, but also on personal experience

I want to start by posting a known fact. It's not by force to have a child, neither is it necessary to send your child to a higher institution, ESPECIALLY a girl child

See ehn, make una forget anything, the truth and the koko of the matter, forgetting all these yeye posts on NL is that most girls go into the University WITH ONLY their PARENTS as their source of finances. There is no money bag somewhere that provides money for us. Na only us waka come

There is a popular saying that when you're in 100 level, money comes in steady, as you progress it becomes less frequent and reduces in amount, by the time you're in your final year, if you even see 1k alert from your family, na to shoki reach ATM.

Many students especially those in government institutions can testify to this fact.....but I digress. It has come to my knowledge that most parents do not pay as much attention to their daughters in higher institution as they do their sons, because the female child is perceived as the 'understanding' one, who is supposed to 'persevere' because she's a 'nurturer'....that is by far the biggest load of BS ever peddled by the male folk (yes, na boys cause am )

All those bad belle brothers wey dey like shorten their sisters' monthly allowance on top tales of one (imaginary) boyfriend that is sending her regular money, just know that your village people have already pounded the yam that they'll use and lick soup ontop your head .

If not for the fear of God that some girls have, obatala knows that the amount of runs girls that would've been in this country for don reach to rival the entire Cape Verde's population. Not every girl has a business she's doing in school and we all can't combine business with schooling. Why then should parents transfer their burden to one small boy that made the error of toasting their daughter? Boy wey still dey collect money from house go come dey feed your daughter for school on your behalf, unto wetin?

Even if there is a boyfriend, is it his job to provide food, clothes and hair product from your daughter? If he provides all of that, what is her consideration in such a contract? And by consideration, I mean, her sacrifice. You want your daughter to leave school and immediately marry, but you allow her look unkempt while in school and starve thinking she has a guy that does it all, like say the guy follow una conceive.

Please, if you have a daughter in school, do well as a parent to see to her needs, even the petty ones, don't wait for memos from your child before you know your job. The tertiary instituion is hard enough, but peer pressure is a b*tch and not every child is understanding and persevering. Shame on a child is shame on his/her parents too, so nothing like 'shebi na she get herself?'...na una get her

I'm sorry I wasn't able to pass across my message in what some may term a 'civil' manner, but some things gats come in pidgin for the message to make sense .

I'm not hitting at parents who try their best, I'm hitting at those who don't try at all and expect 'understanding'. Thanks for reading

safarigirl:
my mum is dead, my dad re-married, they have other kids....if my mum were alive, trust me, I wouldn't even understand half of the things I wrote in this article

lordraiden:
guy y u no were boxers i dey see ur. ...,u knw wetin i dey see and na so all dis gals don see em

ebosse:
Actually, this isn't true.( Speaking from personal experience).. Back then My Fam would always say to me a guy will always survive with little or nothing but a girl would be force to do things ( Mostly indecent ) to survive. Funny enough they were/are right.

safarigirl:
of course the prostitution rate is high, is there any Government uni that the prostitution rate is low?

nairalandbuzz:


"Who were making your exam scripts".... I hear you

I don't need exchange words with you as I can fully comprehend that you don't understand the context of the Original post let alone my reply...

Well, keep reading... and dont comment on Nairaland... the more you read, the more you learn.

I am not "too full of myself" (lol) Its by His grace... If you need to know more, the lecturers even have my phone number on speed dial... Cultists were after me... girls want me... should I go on?

It happens when you read and not talk too much... Start reading guy.... I read last week that we should not be envious of our brethren, instead celebrate them bla bla bla

It is well.

safarigirl:
I'm writing this article strictly out of necessity. Not only is this based on the experiences of others, but also on personal experience

I want to start by posting a known fact. It's not by force to have a child, neither is it necessary to send your child to a higher institution, ESPECIALLY a girl child

See ehn, make una forget anything, the truth and the koko of the matter, forgetting all these yeye posts on NL is that most girls go into the University WITH ONLY their PARENTS as their source of finances. There is no money bag somewhere that provides money for us. Na only us waka come

There is a popular saying that when you're in 100 level, money comes in steady, as you progress it becomes less frequent and reduces in amount, by the time you're in your final year, if you even see 1k alert from your family, na to shoki reach ATM.

Many students especially those in government institutions can testify to this fact.....but I digress. It has come to my knowledge that most parents do not pay as much attention to their daughters in higher institution as they do their sons, because the female child is perceived as the 'understanding' one, who is supposed to 'persevere' because she's a 'nurturer'....that is by far the biggest load of BS ever peddled by the male folk (yes, na boys cause am )

All those bad belle brothers wey dey like shorten their sisters' monthly allowance on top tales of one (imaginary) boyfriend that is sending her regular money, just know that your village people have already pounded the yam that they'll use and lick soup ontop your head .

If not for the fear of God that some girls have, obatala knows that the amount of runs girls that would've been in this country for don reach to rival the entire Cape Verde's population. Not every girl has a business she's doing in school and we all can't combine business with schooling. Why then should parents transfer their burden to one small boy that made the error of toasting their daughter? Boy wey still dey collect money from house go come dey feed your daughter for school on your behalf, unto wetin?

Even if there is a boyfriend, is it his job to provide food, clothes and hair product from your daughter? If he provides all of that, what is her consideration in such a contract? And by consideration, I mean, her sacrifice. You want your daughter to leave school and immediately marry, but you allow her look unkempt while in school and starve thinking she has a guy that does it all, like say the guy follow una conceive.

Please, if you have a daughter in school, do well as a parent to see to her needs, even the petty ones, don't wait for memos from your child before you know your job. The tertiary instituion is hard enough, but peer pressure is a b*tch and not every child is understanding and persevering. Shame on a child is shame on his/her parents too, so nothing like 'shebi na she get herself?'...na una get her

I'm sorry I wasn't able to pass across my message in what some may term a 'civil' manner, but some things gats come in pidgin for the message to make sense .

I'm not hitting at parents who try their best, I'm hitting at those who don't try at all and expect 'understanding'. Thanks for reading

safarigirl:
if it's a class thing, then it only affects low class and middle class (upper and lower middle class)

safarigirl:
There is no money bag somewhere that provides money for us. Na only us waka come

IVORY2009:


But the topic @ hand does not warrant you to be saying all dat, or u seems to be carried away, not to undersand the topic of discussion or something.

Its well too!.

Karleb:
Op, you lie for this one. Infact, girls gets more attention from parents and God help you if your Dad is caring, he go spoil you finish. The only exception is when the boy is the only boy in midst of 2 girls or more.

nairalandbuzz:


Now let me shine more light...

The topic as we can all see complains why girls dont get attention in school and I made my own case of why it warranted to making the decision that i wont marry anyone from such institution pointing out to the question my wife asked in her own statement... also going along to confirm her words by giving my own experience in Yabatech... else someone will shout pincture or idonblivit..

No be Nairaland? Some will hate, some will like and some will be neutral.

freecocoa:
I watched my elder sister come home most weekends from the university, to demand for money, she taught me the trick of coming unannounced, because your demands would be met faster than when you called on the phone, my brother(her twin) was placed on a monthly allowance and somehow, he managed to stick to that, except on very few occasions when he had to call and gave detailed/reasonable explanation of what he needed the money for, and whenever he complained of the girls getting all the love, he was always reminded that our needs are much higher than his, with my mum listing some of the things a girl needs, he never won the argument so he stopped complaining.

The girls always and I mean always got more money in my house, because my parents knew we had to buy clothes, make hair, make up, cream and other girly things. Same with most girls I know, tbh, I'm surprised at this your article.

IVORY2009:


see you on pay day

searching4love:



OP YOUR ARTICLE REEKS OF PURE IGNORANCE AND SIMPLY SHOWS HOW LAZY AND DEMANDING NIGERIAN GIRLS OF THIS GENERATION ARE

BEEN A RUNS GIRLS IS A CHOICE EVERY GIRL HAS TO MAKE DUE TO PEER PRESSURE IN SCHOOL. WE HAVE SEEN GIRLS FROM WEALTHY HOMES WITH REASONABLE POCKET MONEY DO RUNS. IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH PARENTS.

ALL YOU NIGERIAN GIRLS ARE WAYWARD AND MATERIALISTIC IN NATURE. YOU ARE ALL PROMISCUOUS AND MENTALLY LAZY TO THINK OF A LITTLE BUSINESS TO START UP IN SCHOOL.

INSTEAD YOU NIGERIAN GIRLS SEE RUNS AS A EASY WAY OUT AND YOU START JUMPING FROM DICK TO DICK ALL IN THE NAME OF MAKING A LIVING.

THIS IS WHY I DECIDED TO MARRY A FOREIGN LADY.


#TEAM FOREIGN GIRLS

safarigirl:
lol.....if you know how I survive in this school, you won't even say such nonsense

Not trying to justify anything, just stating facts. I have a room mate who is yet to receive shishi from her mum this semester. This girl used 35k to het accommodation, she's been feeding steady and trying to understand her mother who complains of lack of funds, yet this same woman called her to tell her just last week that she sent 100k to her bro in Lead City, which kain thing be that?

See ehn, just no yarn anything wey you no sabi, I don't even ask them for money cuz I don't like asking, they know that about me yet they still expect me to ask. For days now na my room mates dey feed me, me wey het asthma ....I suppose dey on special care yet provisions I no get, money I no hold, food sef....in fact make I just hold my own

Napoleone:
Law Student?

vfactor:



It's good to always say the truth. Thanks for saying the truth. The op is doing what some girls usually do - play the victim, blame the male folks.

I have always said it, a female child is more expensive to train than a male child, and the reasons are not hard to see.

oyb:


i grew up middle/upper middle class and i can say for certain that none of the chicks i knew or my sister for that matter faced this issue of the son getting more money. if anything, it was probably the other way,

searching4love:



OP YOUR ARTICLE REEKS OF PURE IGNORANCE AND SIMPLY SHOWS HOW LAZY AND DEMANDING NIGERIAN GIRLS OF THIS GENERATION ARE

BEEN A RUNS GIRLS IS A CHOICE EVERY GIRL HAS TO MAKE DUE TO PEER PRESSURE IN SCHOOL. WE HAVE SEEN GIRLS FROM WEALTHY HOMES WITH REASONABLE POCKET MONEY DO RUNS. IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH PARENTS.

ALL YOU NIGERIAN GIRLS ARE WAYWARD AND MATERIALISTIC IN NATURE. YOU ARE ALL PROMISCUOUS AND MENTALLY LAZY TO THINK OF A LITTLE BUSINESS TO START UP IN SCHOOL.

INSTEAD YOU NIGERIAN GIRLS SEE RUNS AS A EASY WAY OUT AND YOU START JUMPING FROM DICK TO DICK ALL IN THE NAME OF MAKING A LIVING.

THIS IS WHY I DECIDED TO MARRY A FOREIGN LADY.


#TEAM FOREIGN GIRLS

safarigirl:
if you don't know, don't talk. Thank you

tyconcepts:
Safarigirl be "talking" the truth.....

I had a similar experience back in my poly days....No alowee for hair, cream n small frys.. Popsi would say in that his military voice "We sent you to read books not to be beautiful" ...On one occasion I was forced to talk back at dad, "Popsi I know say u no get but 2k for 2weeks? That's witchcraft". The old man chased me back to school with same 2k from which I would pay back the soft loan I used in faring home and also faring back to school is from the 2k also....How much come remain??

Imagine a 2k alert that is suppose to last me 2weeks with very meagre provisions....To even buy new clothes na war and like seriously momsi thought there was a guy somewhere who should be catering for my small needs because she saw some love textmessages on my phone.

Then there was no Brazilian hair ooo but to buy the cheap synthetic hair na double wahala.

A friend and room mate of mine had it worse when I thought mine was the baddest....Her popsi gives her 2k to spend for 1month.

safarigirl:
Law student o....very nonsense course

freecocoa:
Oh my! Sorry about that my dear, my mum's late too and dad is remarried, now I fully understand where you are coming from.
It's never the same without a mum, though my dad still tries but the difference is just too clear/big from when my mum was alive(although I don't really rely nor need him in that aspect anymore, it's just my kid sister now).It's a good thing that you are already in school and are a very good, intelligent young woman, I don't know how feasible it is to get a job while schooling in the area you stay, you could try getting one if it's something you can do.
Runs is never the way out, believe me, sometimes a girl is tempted, especially with all the men waving their cash in one's face, I just tell myself that, good things no dey finish jare, we will get there someday, it's well sweetheart.

tosyne2much:
ooooboi leave dem make them see am, afterall none of dem fit claim say dem neva see joystick before

oyb:
i don't understand - it is the other way - daughters in uni get more money than sons for those exact reasons - unless this is a how do you call - class thing.

freecocoa:
I watched my elder sister come home most weekends from the university, to demand for money, she taught me the trick of coming unannounced, because your demands would be met faster than when you called on the phone, my brother(her twin) was placed on a monthly allowance and somehow, he managed to stick to that, except on very few occasions when he had to call and gave detailed/reasonable explanation of what he needed the money for, and whenever he complained of the girls getting all the love, he was always reminded that our needs are much higher than his, with my mum listing some of the things a girl needs, he never won the argument so he stopped complaining.

The girls always and I mean always got more money in my house, because my parents knew we had to buy clothes, make hair, make up, cream and other girly things. Same with most girls I know, tbh, I'm surprised at this your article.