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Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by JeffreyJamez(m): 1:12pm On Mar 28, 2015
olexy4real:


Hmmm!!! That's the kind of traits and lesson we pass down to the younger generation and we expect the world to be a better place.

If everyone respects themselves according to their age, the world would indeed be a better place.

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Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by TheFilmmaker: 1:13pm On Mar 28, 2015
NmaGOD44:
now don't be foolish....did u ever read where she was said to have ran her mouth like a sloth??....evils


Why did you avoid my first accusation?
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 1:14pm On Mar 28, 2015
TheFilmmaker:


Ever asked yourself why you're still single?

Feminist.

Is singleness a disease? are you married yourself?

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Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by seangy4konji: 1:16pm On Mar 28, 2015
Am sorry..r those feminist here also?
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by TheFilmmaker: 1:20pm On Mar 28, 2015
Sophyrocks:


Is singleness a disease? are you married yourself?


No I'm not married, not even planning to. However, I won't acomodate a fiery woman who doesn't love me or my family back.


Love is the basis for everything. I think I have been bitter throughout this thread. I have my reasons and I am sorry if I have erred anybody.

I wish you all the best.

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Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 1:22pm On Mar 28, 2015
NmaGOD44:
thanks dear.....some people are just too egocentric for my liking......spoiling the beautiful image of other sane Africans

I met a lady recently at a party who told me she disliked Nigerians with a passion
From her accent I placed her to be a Cameroonian
Come to find out she was a full blooded Igbo woman but born and raised in Cameroon and married to an Igbo man too
I asked why she hated us
She said Nigerians were wicked people
She told me growing up in Cameroon she would see Nigerians call even their own sisters and nieces their maids and treat them poorly and that cameroonians didn't do that.wouldnt refer to their own flesh and blood as maids and house girls.i couldn't defend that.
I asked if she had been to Nigeria
She said she spent 6 months in Nigeria and just hated it
Every nigerian relative,every man ,woman she met was very harsh and very wicked and treated everyone around so poorly
People were extremely rude for no reason and constantly angry and on edge
If you know cameroonians,they are easy going party people, I had a good friend from there sometime ago
Very polite people
If a nigerian and a Cameroonian chased a woman the Cameroonian will get the woman
There is a terrible culture we have that many Nigerians are caught up in without knowing it and sometimes it requires being away from Nigeria to another environment to appreciate the enormity of that defect we call culture.
Many of the things I see now and cringe may not have bothered me before.
There are fellow Africans that will read this same story and be horrified that a mother inlaw will act this way and be more appalled that majority of the people see her as the victim here.
Our people are messed up in their thinking and don't even know it and we call it culture
That is sad

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Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by mirob(f): 1:22pm On Mar 28, 2015
aflyingbird:
why are some of y'all blaming the wife ?
OP , ur mother wanted to take the photos, but u didn't mention her wanting to print them and bring back the original. 1) ur wife had every right to prevent her from taking the photos ( they are her photos after all ), especially if there was no mention of printing. they r child dedication photos dat mean a lot to ur wife , of course she won't let anyone take them just like that . 2) ur mother had no right to slap ur wife just 'cus ur wife said she couldn't take the pictures. why hit her? she isn't ur child neither is she a little kid to be slapped anyhow. u don't put ur hands on anyone. let's be fair here : your mother initiated this fight. ur mother had her sister n friend there so of course they will take her side, ur wife is the lone ranger dat they ganged up on , but if u ask me she is the victim . they were probably looking for a fight from the start



A mother-in-law should be respected no matter what, it happens all the time, relations, especially mothers would want a memorable picture of their grandchildren to show off, the wife has no right WHATSOEVER to fight the mother, she can only go inside her room when the mother slapped her, if it were sister in law that would have been different but mother, no way, that shows u don't have respect for your husband.
That said, Op u have been advised, just make peace between them and get them to reconcile, but warn ur wife seriously because that action of hers will make people conclude that she is not well brought up.

Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by NmaGOD44(f): 1:22pm On Mar 28, 2015
TheFilmmaker:


I'm saying this because were not in the dark ages. Therefore, she has to apologize.
her only reason for apologizing would be just to let peace reign not cos she has to ....she is the victim here not the MIL.....get it straight

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Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by iiichidodo: 1:22pm On Mar 28, 2015
MadCow1:



Coming from someone who see nothing wrong in a mother in Law assaulting her daughter in law over the photos of her daughter in laws child in her daughter in Laws house.. grin


You keep calling me a woman prick and that is supposed to be an insult? undecided grin

You are a funny young man.. grin
Yeah and his Royal High Prick would suggest a clap on the back for the wife for drawing blood and should get more commendation if she had the opportunity to break her MIL's head afterall her husband is hen pecked and liverless just like RHP's father.Whichever way you look at it son, that's your funeral..not ours.

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Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by NmaGOD44(f): 1:25pm On Mar 28, 2015
iiichidodo:
Yeah and his Royal High Prick would suggest a clap on the back for the wife for drawing blood and should get more commendation if she had the opportunity to break her head afterall her husband is hen pecked and liverless just like RHP's father.Whichever way you look at it son, that's your funeral..not ours.
stop hating guy......it doesn't suit u......just wake up from ur slumber cos this is 21st century where men treat their wives with the due respect they deserve...it's actually very simple

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Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by NmaGOD44(f): 1:29pm On Mar 28, 2015
TheFilmmaker:



No I'm not married, not even planning to. However, I won't acomodate a fiery woman who doesn't love me or my family back.


Love is the basis for everything. I think I have been bitter throughout this thread. I have my reasons and I am sorry if I have erred anybody.

I wish you all the best.
u want a wife dat would love u and ur family??...fine,datz actually a good dream but u will definitely kill dat dream when u get one and let ur family boss her around the way they want....u will end up with a bitter wife and ur own soul a more bitter one

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Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 1:30pm On Mar 28, 2015
TheFilmmaker:



No I'm not married, not even planning to. However, I won't acomodate a fiery woman who doesn't love me or my family back.


Love is the basis for everything. I think I have been bitter throughout this thread. I have my reasons and I am sorry if I have erred anybody.

I wish you all the best.

So you are not married and you could point fingers at another person for being single. Nigerians and hypocrisy! Why? Remove the rafter from your eyes before removing the straw from another. I have not seen you point out the fact that the Op's mother was wrong for daring to slap his wife. She was the troublemaker here. What sort of mother goes about fighting in another person's home? Will such a woman get the respect she deserves? You dnt go formenting trouble expecting a pat in the back. Respect begets respect. If a MIL does not have such mentality in dealing with others, she should expect disrespect.

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Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by NmaGOD44(f): 1:32pm On Mar 28, 2015
babyosisi:


I met a lady recently at a party who told me she disliked Nigerians with a passion
From her accent I placed her to be a Cameroonian
Come to find out she was a full blooded Igbo woman but born and raised in Cameroon and married to an Igbo man too
I asked why she hated us
She said Nigerians were wicked people
She told me growing up in Cameroon she would see Nigerians call even their own sisters and nieces their maids and treat them poorly and that cameroonians didn't do that.wouldnt refer to their own flesh and blood as maids and house girls.i couldn't defend that.
I asked if she had been to Nigeria
She said she spent 6 months in Nigeria and just hated it
Every nigerian relative,every man ,woman she met was very harsh and very wicked and treated everyone around so poorly
People were extremely rude for no reason and constantly angry and on edge
If you know cameroonians,they are easy going party people, I had a good friend from there sometime ago
Very polite people
If a nigerian and a Cameroonian chased a woman the Cameroonian will get the woman
There is a terrible culture we have that many Nigerians are caught up in without knowing it and sometimes it requires being away from Nigeria to another environment to appreciate the enormity of that defect we call culture.
Many of the things I see now and cringe may not have bothered me before.
There are fellow Africans that will read this same story and be horrified that a mother inlaw will act this way and be more appalled that majority of the people see her as the victim here.
Our people are messed up in their thinking and don't even know it and we call it culture
That is sad


very sad indeed.....we actually have very good and considerate beings here but the bad eggs will keep spoiling the good ones .....wat a country
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by mirob(f): 1:33pm On Mar 28, 2015
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Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by mirob(f): 1:33pm On Mar 28, 2015
NmaGOD44:
a good wife my foot.....how about a good MIL??....won't she be good to d DIL and not make troubles first??.....stupid



What is so hard in leaving the copy for the mother in law and printing another one? She wants to drag things with the mother in law and that is so bad, we have to initiate peace sometimes.
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 1:33pm On Mar 28, 2015
MadCow1:



Coming from someone who see nothing wrong in a mother in Law assaulting her daughter in law over the photos of her daughter in laws child in her daughter in Laws house.. grin


You keep calling me a woman prick and that is supposed to be an insult? undecided grin

You are a funny young man.. grin

Besides doing a pee pee and using the preek on your wife, of what other use is the preek
The preek is for your woman
Na you own am
It is thereby a woman's preek
Lekwanu Anya o
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by NmaGOD44(f): 1:35pm On Mar 28, 2015
Sophyrocks:


So you are not married and you could point fingers at another person for being single. Nigerians and hypocrisy! Why? Remove the rafter from your eyes before removing the straw from another. I have not seen you point out the fact that the Op's mother was wrong for daring to slap his wife. She was the troublemaker here. What sort of mother goes about fighting in another person's home? Will such a woman get the respect she deserves? You dnt go formenting trouble and expecting a pat in the back. Respect begets respect. If a MIL does not have such mentality in dealing with others, she should expect disrespect.
he has no idea how old I am so I won't bother about the being single comment of his........marriage isn't everything for me contrary to the general believe they have here....first things first then a clean and correct guy will follow

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Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Felibaby(f): 1:39pm On Mar 28, 2015
perfectionist:
@ ZACHIE
Thanks for updating your previous post.
My wife called me while they were still quarrelling, before the fight started.
I hope to God this issue is resolved amicably. I've already started the mediation process but it's not easy 'cos my mother would have none of it. Her terms for reconciliation are rather steep, necessitating the departure of my wife from the home.

In my opinion, since their is no love lost between your mum and your wife, this is an excuse for her to get rid of your wife. Also, i suspect the quarrel was intentional because i could not fathom what your aunty and the friend were doing when the two were going at each other. Seems they already planned it.

Anyway, you still have to get your wife to beg and plead. An adult is always "RIGHT". You also need to train your wife to be more enduring.
Life is too short to live in disharmony!

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Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by NmaGOD44(f): 1:39pm On Mar 28, 2015
mirob:



What is so hard in leaving the copy for the mother in law and printing another one? She wants to drag things with the mother in law and that is so bad, we have to initiate peace sometimes.
u ask wats so hard in it??....do u have any idea of how many things she must have (probably) let go just for that same peace to reign??....u never can tell unless u've had to deal with a troublesome inlaw

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Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by iiichidodo: 1:41pm On Mar 28, 2015
NmaGOD44:
[s]stop hating guy......it doesn't suit u......just wake up from ur slumber cos this is 21st century where men treat their wives with the due respect they deserve...it's actually very simple[/s]
Real men control their wives and not allow them fight their mothers.Woman wrappers eat sh**t dished out by their wives then allow their mothers be bloodied by these jezebels jes because they can.As a jezebel that should be easier for you to understand.

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Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 1:41pm On Mar 28, 2015
mirob:



What is so hard in leaving the copy for the mother in law and printing another one? She wants to drag things with the mother in law and that is so bad, we have to initiate peace sometimes.

That is why the MIL has to slap her? What if there are no negatives to print more? what stops the MIL from asking her son about the pics? Slapping another human because of pics? Is the MIL a good initiator of peace by her actions? Is it only DILs that are to initiate peace? You see the type of dysfunctional homes we run in this 9ja.

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Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by onoja12: 1:44pm On Mar 28, 2015
She did do that,she pretended till her husband went out,did you read no sooner had he gone out they have started.the story is very related,if you conduct yourself stupidly your husband would pay for it,at every given time a wife is an ambassador of her husband,if he insult people on the road the husband suffers for it.her conduct matter 100% and in this case her conduct way nothing to speak of,to her own husbands mother for that matter of all people.i ask if her husband had fought with her father how would she take it.please answer me

NmaGOD44:
ur story has nothing to do with the issue at hand.....did the wife throw her MIL out?....did she not welcome her well ??...was she the first to strike??.....pls read the whole story before dishing out ur advice ...abeg
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 1:45pm On Mar 28, 2015
perfectionist:
@ ZACHIE
Thanks for updating your previous post.
My wife called me while they were still quarrelling, before the fight started.
I hope to God this issue is resolved amicably. I've already started the mediation process but it's not easy 'cos my mother would have none of it. Her terms for reconciliation are rather steep, necessitating the departure of my wife from the home.

Hold up o,let me come again
The same mother of yours that started this whole thing also wants it " resolved" on her terms
Replace that word steep with unreasonable
That's exactly what you wanted to say
She wants your wife out of your home as appeasement
What type of mother would want her son to send his own wife he has no issues with away,this is manipulation of the highest order
Look nna ,you need to rein in that mother of yours and fast
She has crossed the line and you need to put your foot down and hold it down firmly
I won't even advise your wife to go meet her face to face at this time,before she pours acid on the poor girl's face
Let her call your mom on the phone and give her an unreserved apology ( for your sake o,I know she will do it if she knows you have her back)
If your mom insists she will not step foot in your home till your wife leaves,tell her your wife will not leave your home.
Be a man and take charge of your home
You are a married man with children now ,not a high schooler.

If you bow to their machinations and send her away,you,not your mother have destroyed your home.
That decision is yours

[size=18pt]Many of the people advising you to throw your wife out have never taken care of a gold fish or a puppy let alone run a family
Don't listen to a word they say.
[/size]

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Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by onoja12: 1:46pm On Mar 28, 2015
As for strike,let me ask you so,if your mother strikes you,you would strike her back,or if your mother wants to take pictures from your husbands house you would stop her,please answer

NmaGOD44:
ur story has nothing to do with the issue at hand.....did the wife throw her MIL out?....did she not welcome her well ??...was she the first to strike??.....pls read the whole story before dishing out ur advice ...abeg
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by NmaGOD44(f): 1:46pm On Mar 28, 2015
iiichidodo:
Real men control their wives and not allow them fight their mothers.Woman wrappers eat sh**t dished out by their wives then allow their mothers be bloodied by these jezebels jes because they can.As a jezebel that should be easier for you to understand.
laughs.....u really are a sadist...it's quite clear to me now..........I keep telling u to wake up cos u are gonna b stuck right here in this country with dat idea of being a control freak.....learn to love and u will b loved back.....peace

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Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 1:48pm On Mar 28, 2015
NmaGOD44:
he has no idea how old I am so I won't bother about the being single comment of his........marriage isn't everything for me contrary to the general believe they have here....first things first then a clean and correct guy will follow

Correct jare. On point. Dnt mind all these myopic peeps who take marriage as oxygen. See the marriage op has na. allowing his mother rule his home. Na better marriage be that?

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Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by knowledge4(m): 1:49pm On Mar 28, 2015
Why would your mother remove the children's photos from the album without your wife's consent?
She has no authority to do such a thing.
Your wife had the rights to refuse and your mum should have calmly withdrawn till your return to make the request again rather than let it result to a fight. Mother in law/daughter in law battles occur because many mothers in law overstep their bounds
If you sack your wife, will your mother play the role of your wife in your life?
The mother role is different from the wife role.
Do not allow your home to break.It will do more harm than good to you and your children
Do not listen to those insisting you send your wife away.They are 3rd parties, take your own decisions independently and stand by it
Your home comes first above 3rd parties interference.
Forgive your wife and caution her and carry on
Apologise to your mother and reconcile both wife and mother in law.

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Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Notyourb1tch(f): 1:49pm On Mar 28, 2015
TheFilmmaker:


What the hell are you people saying? A woman slapped my mom? And you expect me to take it like it's Nescafé? Why is everybody so hypocritical in judging? My wife can not even have the effrontery to slap my junior sister, not to talk of my mother. WTF are you people talking self?
it seems you have comprehension problems. That women is his wife not just any woman and his mother slapped his wife(his kids mother in her own home) first in which she retaliated unfortunately. I really think both parties are to blame but the mother started it.

Imagine if it was the reverse where the FIL slapped his SiL simply because he refused to give him something he demanded and now wants to break up the family. Its wrong. There are better ways to handle it but truly some mother in laws are something else. When you leave your parents home and marry then you become one with your wife. He needs to talk to both of them. Get his wife to apologise for peace sake and try and keep them far away from each other.
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by NmaGOD44(f): 1:50pm On Mar 28, 2015
onoja12:
As for strike,let me ask you so,if your mother strikes you,you would strike her back,or if your mother wants to take pictures from your husbands house you would stop her,please answer

and let me make it clear to u dat if both of them were in peace....the DIL would have been the one to present the pics to her MIL even before she makes her request.....my mum can't hate me and still demand something from me...it doesn't work dat way...and I don't tolerate shit from people
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by iiichidodo: 1:51pm On Mar 28, 2015
NmaGOD44:
[s]laughs.....u really are a sadist...it's quite clear to me now..........I keep telling u to wake up cos u are gonna b stuck right here in this country with dat idea of being a control freak.....learn to love and u will b loved back.....peace[/s]
Nonsense rubbish....

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Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 1:51pm On Mar 28, 2015
onoja12:
As for strike,let me ask you so,if your mother strikes you,you would strike her back,or if your mother wants to take pictures from your husbands house you would stop her,please answer


No mother would strike or slap her daughter over mere pics!! Get that straight. The Op's mother is too petty!! Slap a woman, AN ADULT, that you know u aint in good terms with over mere pics!! You are only asking for trouble!! Only a woman who is a troublemaker and jobless would do that.

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Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by NmaGOD44(f): 1:54pm On Mar 28, 2015
iiichidodo:
Nonsense rubbish....
say wat??...laughs again

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