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Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by billtommy(m): 10:28am On Apr 10, 2015 |
If all dats been said isn't working....then I suggest u see a marriage counsellor in ur. State, PM me for contact. God bless your marriage |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Nobody: 10:31am On Apr 10, 2015 |
multicast: You need to be cool calm and collected when she starts, just answer her questions firmly and calmly, and in that same tone tell her you do NOT appreciate her attitude. Do not beg her. If she starts keeping malice. Ignore her, sleep in the spare room or couch. Stay out of the house more(but please don't get used to this biko, hopefully she will change and you can go back to normal) Also you could tell her you want to have a meeting with her dad about this because you are getting fed up. Its important you let her know its making you tired of the marriage. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by NobleG1(m): 10:32am On Apr 10, 2015 |
aflyingbird: My phone keyboard is f*ucked up at times, and I didn't read it before or after posting. Thanks for pointing it out. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by fynex(m): 10:33am On Apr 10, 2015 |
Well dude...u already married...everything can be fixed though; you said she wasn't a stranger well I feel that aspect of her is now a stranger to u co u never really saw it then..."Too much of SORRY" to a gal/guy u dating or married to, is bad, why-because they will keep repeating it believing you will either talk them out and make them realize or tell them sorry; so they take advantage of that and take you for granted; so that's why she would keep repeating it. Well you used to it and she's now getting used to you talking sense into her everytime, its cool u respect ladies and you don't want a fight, now you don't have to fight you now have to give her the "silence" thing, do whatever you have to do as a husband to or for her; bah wen all these irritating attitude comes up ignore them; it would take a while; but when she notices the changes she would start adjusting!... 1 Like |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by wjxavier(m): 10:34am On Apr 10, 2015 |
multicast: Oga I think your biggest challenge is that you are scared of FAILURE. you must get to that point where you don't fear failure aka divorce. Your fear will push you to failure. You will want to "kuku" fail by your own hands. Watch it. Dont be afraid to scatter yam pepper pepper if u know what I mean. I know couples who disturb with their fights amd their sex day and night. Your gentleness will onky embolden her to perfect her malice as an effective manipulation tool. Face it like a man. Shes still that gf. Be like a bf. Let her know the door ia open. Oh and by the way, she just may be on another thread complaining aboutchu too. we all have hallpasses. She is using hers. Use yours too. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Nobody: 10:34am On Apr 10, 2015 |
multicast: What is the reason she fights you when you don't pick up, does she th ink you are cheating |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Edusouls(m): 10:36am On Apr 10, 2015 |
brother ur wife wont and will never,ever change,women dont change, she is a woman that torments men to misery, depression, and at worst untimely death, stay there and be playing love, to a woman that dosent love you half the way u do to her, she is not a good woman, that's the simple and the truth of this matter, you didnt get a gud wife my brother, if she loves you she wont bear malice for you, picking quarells with you easily,and refuses to first say sorry until you do,this is not love, act fast and save urself from the endless and ruthless torment of a woman, some women are beast in pretty form, they are very ruthless and dosent have human feelings, she dosent even have the humane feelings for her husband to know that you are feeling baad, divorce her brother and save urself from untimely death,regrets and at worse unhappy living.. 1 Like |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Fourwinds: 10:39am On Apr 10, 2015 |
qbd2:alrite. Have a great day |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by erumena(m): 10:47am On Apr 10, 2015 |
multicast: Patience my Brother, you'll need it! I had this kind of issues with my wife back then, but now we are over it. It wasn't easy though, but I realised that patience can really do a lot. There so many battles to be fought but when it comes to joining issues with your spouse, it's better you let it go. Ask yourself this question; is your wife someone you can live without, even with the kind of attitude you spoke about? If yes, then I guess your love is not strong after all, but if otherwise, you have no choice than to stand like a man and keep your home. As far as you didn't complain of infidelity, you have no problem. In my own case, I always keep quiet anytime she comes up with her episode, I pretend as if I'm not bothered but I always PRAY for her and my home. Over time, it became less and less until it reduced to it barest minimum as we speak. Now, we joke about it and she sometimes apologises for all those "lost days". I pray for peace in your and wish to congratulate you on your wedding anniversary in years to come. It is well! |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by erumena(m): 10:47am On Apr 10, 2015 |
multicast: Patience my Brother, you'll need it! I had this kind of issues with my wife back then, but now we are over it. It wasn't easy though, but I realised that patience can really do a lot. There so many battles to be fought but when it comes to joining issues with your spouse, it's better you let it go. Ask yourself this question; is your wife someone you can live without, even with the kind of attitude you spoke about? If yes, then I guess your love is not strong after all, but if otherwise, you have no choice than to stand like a man and keep your home. As far as you didn't complain of infidelity, you have no problem. In my own case, I always keep quiet anytime she comes up with her episode, I pretend as if I'm not bothered but I always PRAY for her and my home. Over time, it became less and less until it reduced to it barest minimum as we speak. Now, we joke about it and she sometimes apologises for all those "lost days". I pray for peace in your home and wish to congratulate you on your wedding anniversary in years to come. It is well! |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Nobody: 10:48am On Apr 10, 2015 |
OP you never told us exactly what it is that you are doing that is making your wife react to you this way. You are trying to paint yourself here as the perfect gentleman. If that woman doesn't love you she won't have made a life time commitment with you. You need to look inwards and ask yourself what you are doing wrong that is contributing to her attitude towards you. I personally see this as a one sided story. 3 Likes |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by skyenitan04(m): 10:49am On Apr 10, 2015 |
lolz... Moana: |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Rachaelfrancis(f): 10:49am On Apr 10, 2015 |
now,let me say this..Are u completely innocent? u just have said what ur wife does. are u faultless/blameless in all this or she is a mad woman and just loves to talk? u are not saying the truth. when u seek for solutions,u have to be very truthful,no need fighting to look blameless. Also,I can see that u are just here looking for people to tell u,'go ahead guy,take another woman,she isn't good for u' because from all ur posts,u ve already started to look at option outside ur matrimonial home which I must tell u is de beginning of most men's downfall. so go into ur room,lock urself and ask urself what really are those things u are doing that u think she nags about and try to change. nobody can make u happy,just u. and stop making it look like u are a saint. thanks. 1 Like |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by phabulous88(m): 10:50am On Apr 10, 2015 |
Lol! Marriage sha! If she doesn't fight or keep malice with you, who's she gonna do with? 1 Like |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Truth234(m): 10:51am On Apr 10, 2015 |
Babymama1: You should have done that yourself before your first comment! |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Nobody: 10:53am On Apr 10, 2015 |
omonnakoda: Hmm, I wonder if you are serious |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by skyenitan04(m): 10:54am On Apr 10, 2015 |
what a stupid thinking ..re u adding more sorrow to his intellect ?..if ur wife adds sorrow to ur own life it doesnt mean all women re d same..stop being childish here with such shallow mentality..it sucks..he asks for advice suitable one to be precised from intelligent people and not like urs..gosh Edusouls: |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Nobody: 10:55am On Apr 10, 2015 |
ayusco85:Don't u think ur brain also needs a space for manners? |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Moana(f): 11:03am On Apr 10, 2015 |
OkikiOluwa1:im sure we are not mates |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by NigerMan1: 11:03am On Apr 10, 2015 |
multicast: This is where your problem is: You saw and experienced her TEMPERMENTAL Attitude and you went ahead and marry! Bro that's a big blunder. One of the key elements for marriage is: "Don't marry a man/woman with rude, hot temper nature". It's a no-go area unless you're ready to live with the consequences. I also believe you guys did not submit to serious counselling before marriage and is hurting you. And you NEVER seek out counselling, advice about her behaviour before marrying. Maybe you loved other things about her like sex, physical nature etc, but the foundation your marriage will be built upon, were ignored at the outset. It's entirely your fault man. Am not writing to admonish you but to help you think better about the issue. And to also assist the many young guys and ladies here. I know this much because I once made this same mistake. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by phabulous88(m): 11:05am On Apr 10, 2015 |
Rachaelfrancis: crowns2: I've got a childhood friend who's been married for about 4 years to a perfect gentleman. Recently, she confessed to me that she's the cause of all the drama in her marriage and she does that to make their marriage seem busy and 'interesting'. @Op: how interesting is your marriage? She probably needs the marriage to get 'busy' and not you spending all your time working and studying, and leaving her with little or no time with you. Again, loving someone shouldn't be all about 'Ok love', 'I'm sorry', 'Its alright'... If she behaves anyhow, threaten to slap her |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by egbaguy: 11:06am On Apr 10, 2015 |
Dyt:i no b legend of the seeker ooooo....lol. @aminat508 fine oooooo.... Wish to see her sha!!!! |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by rakasbabe(f): 11:06am On Apr 10, 2015 |
Learn to live wit it cos some pple are jst like dat,and wen keeping malice they are comfortable with it.jst pray to god to mak her realise the harm her attitude has on you.keep praying 4 her |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Nobody: 11:08am On Apr 10, 2015 |
tochimas: Actually if handled right I think it will work. It has to be carrot and stick. When she is not stressing him he should be extra extra loving and wonderful to her so that she knows he loves her very much, but once she starts he should be stern so that she can see consequence s of her actions. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by holuwaabukunmee(f): 11:09am On Apr 10, 2015 |
Bros, I advice u nd ur wife to read the book titled 'Love and Respect' by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by tunes2k10(m): 11:10am On Apr 10, 2015 |
multicast: Bros, your honeymoon ended so soon......., in my own opinion most marriages pass through this phrase. i will be four years by next month in marriage. Unfortunately but true, Your wife might not know she is doing all this to you. Courtship is massively different from marriage women are encoded to test, and adjust boundaries in marriage, while the man is still relishing the idea of his new status (being married), she would have gone far in adjusting boundaries by miles, It will take a major event for readjustment because the minute you try that, she tells you that you are not loving me anymore, you are seeing someone else and the likes........... Firmness and communication (not just talking but real communication) and be on the look out for a major slip from her to readjust the boundaries. And that she loves you dearly but cannot help herself. 1 Like |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by gohzieh(m): 11:15am On Apr 10, 2015 |
Moana:. Lols. Who is interested |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by ayusco85(m): 11:16am On Apr 10, 2015 |
qbd2: dont shoot the messenger. get the message |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by NigerMan1: 11:20am On Apr 10, 2015 |
multicast: multicast- let me warn very well. You are being sentimental. You obviously understand LOVE in the modern concept filled with deception and vagary. I can perceive what you mean by "I love her so much" means you love certain attributes about her. Now you are explaining some salient factors here: Listen if you continue like this, you may be emotionally destroyed and get your health affected in the process. Is either you get a divorce as soon as possible. Or go see a counsellor to help you guys resolve the issue and help her change her rude and hot temper nature. Bro I speak from vast experience and knowledge about marriage / relationship. Once a partner start suffering emotional and psychological trauma... ... he/she is only getting closer to the grave: financially, professionally, health wise, social output, spiritual well being will all be negatively affected. The Solution! You either allow her go meet her kind. Or she must accept to change. Anyway the decision is yours!!! |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by MicroBox: 11:24am On Apr 10, 2015 |
Hum.. my fiance have same problem of temper,she is a simple lady and always let the quarrel go easily. I got to know her ex through her yesterday and he said the samething :Simple with temper: the question now is for how long someone would continue to correct his own wife not forgetting that when babies start to come in, is going to be double work !correcting mama and baby at the same time! abeg I m also very confused... |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Starieangel(f): 11:25am On Apr 10, 2015 |
Sunymoore:u sound lyk u re givin up already.......so it dat it?u re givin up on her?forgettin the vows u made b4 ur parents ur frnds the whole world and God Almighty?mybroda,is that it?c'mon!go to the lord in prayer.....dnt giv up yet,ul soon c d light@the end of the tunnel.pls...........geez i feel lyk talkin sum serious sense to ur wife!pray wif her.....a family dt prays togeda stays today!God bless u! |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by henrimoto(m): 11:26am On Apr 10, 2015 |
Young03:why not hold your pen and read what other matured fellows have to say.. |
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