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| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by ideykwum: 8:55pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
I see your logic and it makes sense, however, do you know how many men are emotionally scarred by such relationships that have gone sour? I tell people that we are lucky in Nigeria because our religious institutions bridge the gap for physiological issues and psychiatry ( I wasn't surprised when I read somewhere that 45% of Nigerians have psychiatric problems). In my opinion, Nigerian marriages are failing more these days, not because of village juju, but because many scarred people are coming together without targeted counselling! It's okay to assist people, but when there is an emotional and romantic undertone to it, it needs to be approached with extreme caution! My advice on this is: Never venture!! quote author=50calibre post=32651791] Normally, I will concur with what you said but in this case, I disagree! You don't know what they've got going on, you don't know their level of committment to each other. If you can say a guy shouldn't cater for his girlfriend who isn't too financially well off, then you can as well say the guy shouldn't be catered for by anyone who isn't related to him. Life is more than that, People do things for people they don't even know, talk more a girlfriend. As long as she's is genuine and not using or taking advantage of him, it's ok. You've got to make sacrifices for the ones you care about (more so the ones who care about you), take chances on people, same way you would want people to take chances on you.[/quote] |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by kobonaire(m): 8:56pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
RottenTomato:Your signature is self descriptive of your low intellect and character. I suggest you and the dunce of an OP get together because only then will there really be 1 complete brain in the room ![]() |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by garriboy(m): 8:56pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Guilt is making many girls here blast the op but really let's look at it. If u cohabit wit one guy and break up and cohabit wit d next guy and d next and d next, would u still feel u have worth (I'm not talking about bride price mind u)? Seriously wat r we saying. Now some girls would say in dis case they will choose dose dey would and won't cohabit wit and it will beg another question; how do u decide whom u can cohabit with, since d last one u were so sure of, u ended up breaking up with. And before u blast the op again answer urself honestly to the question; will u like to mention to ur present bf that at some point u cohabited with some person(s)? I mean honestly answer urself. Make we talk true na |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by Nicklaus(m): 8:57pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
RottenTomato:you don't wanto do that. |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by Nobody: 8:58pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by MarcB: 8:58pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
jahjehova:tell them! See them talking morals which of them did not sleep with a girl while in school... Except the one who is socially sick. Who still commits the act in his heart day dreaming. Right or wrong is relative in this sense |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by Gracyel(f): 8:59pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Blebleswag:Dont mind the hypocrite jare! |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by Nobody: 8:59pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Does she have any physical or mental conditions causing her to fall sick? You didn'tmentioned any. If not, try not to make excuses for her. The more she experiences life, the stronger she will get. Visiting another country sounds like a great opportunity, even if it's only for business purposes, not something for you to worry over. This business idea is going to cost you financially, initially, but if you're ready to pay the costs, then ok.. I thought you needed money immediately. You two can also look into utilizing your skills to make some money. Anyway, you two have been together for a long time and love each other, I'm sure you will be okay. martyns303: |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by Nobody: 9:04pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Rapmoney:Are u a virgin? Did u attend University ? Or did u drop out in SS2 ![]() ![]() Rapmoney:Are u a virgin? Did u attend University ? Or did u drop out in SS2 ![]() ![]() |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by Nobody: 9:04pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Rapmoney: |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by ideykwum: 9:04pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
He doesn't have to use the word "morality"! From his writing, you can deduce why he thinks their brideprice shouldn't be paid! That raises moral questions! kobonaire: |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by Gracyel(f): 9:05pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
aflyingbird:My dear...its such a pity. And even if d lady loses value, then same should go for the guy!!!, plus whats dis bullshit about brideprice?? Who says pple collect brideprice anymore. My yoruba brothers and sisters can testify to it. Whatever money is paid to d bride's family is returned immediately after d ceremony......Now lemme wait for one slowpoke to misquote me! |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by shindarayo(f): 9:05pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Blebleswag:haba, e never reach dt now.abi re u one of dem ni.... |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by slimwhite(f): 9:07pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
[quote author=kobonaire post=32652172]Your signature is self descriptive of your low intellect and character. I suggest you and the dunce of an OP get together because only then will there really be 1 complete brain in the room Jezzzzzzz.....kobonaira abeg easy ooo.....no kill person with your mouth...... ![]() |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by zudozz: 9:08pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
am surprise that u did nt mention d number of abortions in that 4-5t years n some innocent small boy like me ll still pay heavily 2 marry her n put her in my hse. |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by Gracyel(f): 9:08pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
garriboy:I agree with u. Plus I strongly believe You should ask yourself the same question. |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by BraniacX(m): 9:09pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Rapmoney:Dude!!! To each his own While I respect your opinion Am also entitled to mine In the end, our paths will most likely not even cross, so it doesn't really matter But go easy on 'em gals ![]() Because you never mentioned that co-habiting also devalued the fellas too, esp financially |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by ideykwum: 9:09pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Bros, it's okay to make reasonable assumptions when making an argument. It's part of fair discuss. Secondly, what we are dealing with is societal morality (a compendium of our aggregate individual views on morality)!!! Society compells us to wear clothes for instance, but nudists may have a different view! wallflower: |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by Nobody: 9:11pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Nice argument. But let me ask the OP a question ; Does a man who has slept around with more than one partner deserve to marry a girl who has kept herself from her days at university ? And considering that it is pastors who commit fornication and adultery the most , I am wondering if the wives of these pastors should stay loyal to them. |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by kobonaire(m): 9:12pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
ideykwum:OK, fair enough, good point. I've 'liked' your post too ... |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by fernandoc(m): 9:13pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Mumu talk for people with a lot of time on their side. |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by Emmahunk(m): 9:13pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Rapmoney:Clap! Clap!! But don't you think the guy deserves to face firing squad if the girl is so worthless not to attract a dowry. Here was a guy who out of his parents sweat was taking care of girl he claims to be '' bleeping '' He provided protection for her yet stupidly thinks he was having her for free He was at hand to clear her mess whenever and wherever yet you believe she was so cheap because she cohabited. Cohabitation does not in anyway make the woman of less value than the man. Mtchewww |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by Nobody: 9:14pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
quivah:Marriage is the most over rated thing in the world maybe when nigerian men realise that some things will change. |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by Nobody: 9:14pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
lol ![]() Gracyel: |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by kobonaire(m): 9:14pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
slimwhite:thank you my dear ... I'll behave my self now ... happy Sunday. |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by Raalsalghul: 9:15pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Nwachiizu:Am telling you bro. |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by donpy(m): 9:15pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
A girl bleeps 1guy for 5yrs and a guy bleeps 20 doffrnt girls within d same 5yrs. D guy wu has a babe living "couples life" wit him in school in Uniben, 2babes he bleeps steadily wen he cums to lagos. 5 in his aunts place in ibadan he also bleeps constantly for 5yrs. Now wu shld be stroked. The same guys makin all dis comment ar guilty of all dis. #mytake |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by gmacnoms(m): 9:16pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
takoi:are u one of dem? If yes, den u need to b thrown in d lagoon |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by Boyooosa(m): 9:18pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Rapmoney:it is not even necessary they graduate from the school na, the dude can just pray that both of them do not graduate so that he can SKIP dowry for ever! ![]() |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by frmglorytoglory: 9:18pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Ladies we have heard it all. You are better off and safer abstaining from premarital sex. Not because you want to be a trophy to some man out there but because the Lord says so. Frankly indulging in premarital sex has so so many disadvantages. Not worth it at all |
| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by Nobody: 9:18pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Rapmoney:
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| Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by 50calibre(m): 9:18pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
ideykwum:You're right!! I believe people shouldn't be too emotionally or financially invested in a relationship (especially ones they can't predict) it limits the disappointment. However when a grown man choses to go down that path, I can only hope he knows what he is doing and hopefully it will be worth it in the end. |
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