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ronald4lif:
As time changes, humans perspective to life is expected to change along with it. Life experience and recent happenings have thought men that most women aren't attracted to such men who go about "pleasing". A lot of the ladies on this forum did also affirm to that. If one must say sorry to their woman or make up to some err, they can still do so via other means. Not by writing such a long epistle demoting one's self-worth.

The guy that wrote that piece might be in love but such a letter can only do him more harm than good. Yes, he's sorry he should go ahead and say so and not say it repeatedly. What difference does it make?.

Like I said I'd no idea it's from someone you'd knowledge of. I thought it's one of those stories lifted from blogs or a work of fiction. Retractions to any wrong choice of words I may have used. But still, he should have done better.

Did you even stop to think that the persistent use of the word I'm sorry was just a literary device called alliteration?
Like when Akon sang "put the blame on me"?

As life goes on I’m starting to learn more and more about responsibility
And I realize everything I do is affecting the people around me
So I want to take this time out to apologize for things that I've done
And things that haven't occurred yet
And the things they don’t want to take responsibility for

I’m sorry for the times that I left you home
I was on the road and you were alone
I’m sorry for the times that I had to go
I’m sorry for the fact that I did not know
That you were sitting home just wishing we
Could go back to when it was just you and me
I’m sorry for the times I would neglect
I’m sorry for the times I disrespect

I’m sorry for the wrong things that I’ve done
I’m sorry I’m not always there for my sons
I’m sorry for the fact that I'm not aware
That you can’t sleep at night when I am not there
Because I'm in the streets like everyday
I'm sorry for the things that I did not say
Like how you are the best thing in my world
And how I'm so proud to call you my girl

[Bridge:]
I understand that there are some problems
And I am not too blind to know
All the pain you kept inside you
Even though you might not show
If I can't apologize for being wrong
Then it’s just a shame on me
I’ll be the reason for your pain and you can put the blame on me

[Chorus:]
You can put the blame on me [4x]
Said you can put the blame on me [3x]
You can put the blame on me

I'm sorry for the things that he put you through
And all the times you didn’t know what to do
I'm sorry that you had to go and sell those packs
Just trying to stay busy till you heard from Dad
And you would rather be home with all your kids
As one big family with love and bliss
And even though Pops treated us like kings

He got a second wife and you didn’t agree
He got up and left you there all alone
I’m sorry that you had to do it on your own
I’m sorry that I went and added to your grief
I’m sorry that your son was once a thief
I’m sorry that I grew up way too fast
I wish I would’ve listened and not be so bad
I’m sorry that your life turned out this way
I’m sorry that the FEDS came and took me away

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My best guess is Akon's a Sissy too and playing on the emotions of his fans.

and now we're back to square one.
These random blogs you talk about, are they human beings or robots who fill them with content?
Whatever happened to giving people grace? Why does the spirit of gentility now so elude us.

And who told you women aren't attracted to men who dot on them?
No dear, what puts them off is when these men begin to show an obsessive tendency of sorts towards them.
Besides, different strokes; different folks.

This is why I refrain from talking on topics I do not have a sound understanding of.
Humans are naturally inclined to put down and destroy what they do not understand.

Ronald, you shouldn't feel bad over my comments above, if I didn't like you, If I didn't see a light in you...
Trust me, I will ignore
You must have observed that I'm quite apt at the art of ignoring.

I like you dear, and while it may not seem like it, I'm doing what I can to help you get better.

Matthewbriggs:
I nearly puked on seeing this. I could not read it to the end. I really have no solid idea of the writers motivation, I am no place to judge him. But men he is on his own.

I am not a big fan of sissies.

Puke on Akon too

MizMyColi:
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Puke on Akon too

MizMyColi:
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Puke on Akon too

MizMyColi:
Did you even stop to think that the persistent use of the word I'm sorry was just a literary device called alliteration?
Like when Akon sang "put the blame on me"?

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My best guess is Akon's a Sissy too and playing on the emotions of his fans.

and now we're back to square one.
These random blogs you talk about, are they human beings or robots who fill them with content?
Whatever happened to giving people grace? Why does the spirit of gentility now so elude us.

And who told you women aren't attracted to men who dot on them?
No dear, what puts them off is when these men begin to show an obsessive tendency of sorts towards them.
Besides, different strokes; different folks.

This is why I refrain from talking on topics I do not have a sound understanding of.
Humans are naturally inclined to put down and destroy what they do not understand.

Ronald, you shouldn't feel bad over my comments above, if I didn't like you, If I didn't see a light in you...
Trust me, I will ignore
You must have observed that I'm quite apt at the art of ignoring.

I like you dear, and while it may not seem like it, I'm doing what I can to help you get better.

MizMyColi:
The title was meant to draw you in.
This piece is loaded with subliminal messages for all; young and young at heart, especially the Women Bashers association of Nairaland

Read and be inspired.

[b]Woman, I am sorry
Sorry that I have sat as judge and jury, weighed you on scales unfit and found you "wanting".

Woman I am sorry
In my search for validation, I have used you and finding myself unsatisfied, cast you away.

Woman I am sorry
Perceiving my sense of self as me on top and you below, I have used words, law, religion and ever escalating cruelty to keep this hierarchy sure.

Woman I am sorry
For I have regarded you as my Achilles heel and the force of my damnation
I have looked at you as someone to be controlled, something to fettered lest I end up destroyed
Your heart and body bear the scars of my paranoia
What have I done?
In my idiocy I marked out a piece of life, labeled it "your place", herded you in with the warning "here and no further"
What have I become?
Seeking to rule, I have all but forgotten that a crown, scepter and throne are but symbols of service.

Woman I am sorry
This is my repentace song
The lens of my father lies broken now and for once I truly see
I see that you stand strong despite the many hurts that have come from me
I see that you yet stand graceful even with all the burdens I have ladeled on you
I see you; unique, beautiful, tender, strong, passionate, gifted, full of life.
I marvel at your might
I see your courage in adversity, your wisdom and strength and now my heart trembles at your awesome essence
I pray that you will forgive me and let me help you on your way
That I might witness your vision, darkened by my fists healed
and your grounded dreams take flight and pierce the horizon.


Yours sincerely
A foolish man[/b]

Matthewbriggs:
I am not against the word sorry. I use the word when necceesary, Nor am I going to puke on any one.

I am just irked by the whole composition. You can make how you feel and apologizes with out sounding like a Sissy or deginerating your self. What happened to diginity and self respect.

Imagine calling him self a foolish man to what end.

AirborneLacer:
Akon could be a victim to this, we can't be too sure.

That he's a global icon doesn't make him less of an emotional creature.

We all know of Drake's uninhibited emotions too, dude once cried in a club for a chick.

In Olamide's voice ''Feelings sucks''

Noted

Dygeasy:
Reading that piece up there reminds me to a great extent myself at a point in my life and this makes the content relatable. I am not going to condemn that he's sorry and sorry and sorry all over. It's allowed and quite subjective based on the extent of his misdoing towards his woman. It's his personal thing and he bears the risks of the consequences of his "sissiness" ALL ALONE.

From a personal view, I made my woman unwanted, alone, scarred over and over and taunted her with the image of other women while at the same time making her think I wasn't breaking her heart or at least that wasn't my intention. For a whole Four months. I realized my folly and Seven months later, I do everything I do to make her happy for the moment and at the same time apologize and make up for those times. Every chance I get, everything that brings back memories of those four months I make sure I make a yet sincere apology cos thinking back, I see clearly now how it must have been for her.

Now if it makes me a sissy she hasn't called me one and I am still her man, as in HER MAN. So this 'Foolish man' shouldn't be stoned. This piece was borne out of guilt and that guilt can kill a viable part of a human with strong conscience.

Okay now. I have to call her

Preach on DyG

Matter of fact. The person in question is a writer.
He's an aspiring poet and is not even in any relationship to begin with.

It's just like the producer of twelve years a slave or one of those emotional films having to get all tongue lashed at his creativity.

I'm a writer too, and I know how emotional I could get when I deal with certain subjects.
I'm waiting for the person that'll refer to me as someone less

MizMyColi:
Preach on DyG

Matter of fact. The person in question is a writer.
He's an aspiring poet and is not even in any relationship to begin with.

It's just like the producer of twelve years a slave or one of those emotional films having to get all tongue lashed at his creativity.

I'm a writer too, and I know how emotional I could get when I deal with certain subjects.
I'm waiting for the person that'll refer to me as someone less

Apparently so.

Dygeasy:
Yeah. I believe he only put himself in that spot to pass a message. A message a lot of men would consider making a man weaker than a man. Don't blame them though, the womenfolk have made men wary of doting excessively or showing too much affection. Like I said earlier, it's risky. A risk not many can afford to take for the sake of their ego.

MzNelly:
*sigh

Some people are so daftt to see this is a literary piece.

To see that this is not just for a woman, but for the female folk in general.

They are not to be blamed however.
In their tiny little minds, a man who is unashamedly apologetic to a woman is a "sissy."

The term "foolish" is also used literally.

But once again, too daft to understand.

I give up.

My darling has spoken.
Thread Closed!

MzNelly:
*sigh

Some people are so daftt to see this is a literary piece.

pickabeau1:
calling people daft does not make u smart

Literature by itself opens up to various interpretations

Your idea is not the only idea

People read things and come upwith diff meanings

MzNelly:
Who is talking of being smart here?

There's only one meaning to this piece and anyone who fails to see it is-mildly put-silly.

pickabeau1:
hmmm........still feeling smart and assuming the way you see things is the only way

MzNelly:
Okay.

What meaning do you read to this piece then?

pickabeau1:
hmmm........still feeling smart and assuming the way you see things is the only way

Okay maybe the word daft was somewhat overboard, at the same time, I can't fault her really, especially going by the kind of commentaries on the thread.

I think she is even more appalled that people whom one'd ordinarily expect to appreciate stuff like this are actually the ones running it down.

Nelly babes, try and see stuff from his angle too

MizMyColi:
Okay maybe the word daft was somewhat overboard, at the same time, I can't fault her really, especially going by the kind of commentaries on the thread.

I think she is even more appalled that people whom one'd ordinarily expect to appreciate stuff like this are actually the ones running it down.

Nelly babes, try and see stuff from his angle too

pickabeau1:
my meaning has been written in my first post on this thread

the point is this..Sharon stone... what ever meaning I ascribe is my own meaning and I will not call another daft because they did not see it my way

MzNelly:
Okay.

Because of MizMyColi -_-

(I won't however take back my statement. Half of the comments here are made by egoistic males who've refused to actively task their brains to uncover the message behind the piece.)

MizMyColi:

I did some modifications on the FP.
I quoted your post there, changed daft to myopic.
Lols...

Hope I get off pardoned?

MzNelly:
Okay.

Because of MizMyColi -_-

(I won't however take back my statement. Half of the comments here are made by egoistic males who've refused to actively task their brains to uncover the message behind the piece.)

The lens of my father lies broken now and for once I truly see
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,
.
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I pray that you will forgive me and let me help you on your way

pickabeau1:
ok// peace