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IamOdin:
she's regretting d marriage,,what she said of her hubby 2day got me rolling with laughter.

mekzyjoe:
MRS CHIMA ..I LUV U AND I DONT NO Y

MrsChima:
Hush fool!

IamOdin:
u can call me that the whole day but i don't care so far the truth is piercing u..i keep wondering why truth is so painful

MrsChima:
I am happy with my marriage...trust! He is good husband so no wahala!

ronald4lif:
Not that we like it.

IamOdin:
swear say u no like am

IamOdin:
if he's all these why then do u have to disgrace him?

ronald4lif:
Some times one just have to understand why a lot of these girls doesn't open up much when it comes to sex and issues relating to it. Whenever they do or try to be real you see some guys who are bereft of common sense comes up with st*pid questions and remarks. Imagine one of the above poster asking someone how old is she to have a boyfriend. How dumb can people really be. The resultant effect of such remarks is what makes a lot of girls keep to themselves and hardly opens up when it comes to questions like the one asked by the OP. Same guys will throw all kinds of invectives at them tomorrow calling them hypocrites. It's annoying really.

Women could get tired of sex, they may not. But they have a choice to stand their ground and reject sexual advances from their man if they aren't in the mood. Naturally, women are conservative when it comes to being the first to making sex moves and expressing their emotions as compared to men. Men are more open. This is the reason why men make the first sex move, coz they know women will hardly come for it, even if they want it. How then can a man not ask for sex when he's not a soothsayer to know if his woman needs one?. Sometime we just do it to please women. Not that we like it.

Mhizizzy:
Simple

I wont visit my boyfriend wen I don't want to get down

MrsChima:
I can understand men not knowing if their women are horn or not BUT if we say no...why do we have to show proof that we are not Hot?

My husband never asked me to show proof and he is usually okay when I say no but I have some friends who swore their man asked for proof of why they are not hot.

Be honest...don't men get tired of sexx too? What you meant when you said we do it not because we want to?

mayowa122:
Do u school at OUI?

ronald4lif:
To be quite frankly, I ask for proof too when I want to have a go for the first time with someone and they come up with excuses. The most common is the period thing and on two occasions it was proven to be a barefaced lie. You just can not trust some babes.

I don't think it's wise for a husband to demand for proof. A married man should be able to know when the wife is telling the truth and when she's lying about sex, except of course they have trust issues. This trust issue could propelled a man to thinking that the wife is seeing someone else and getting it elsewhere. There are a lot compromise in marriage and I want to believe sex is one of them. One may not be in the mood but they just have to understand that when you love someone their well-being and satisfaction becomes their responsibility. If couples are to have sex only when the both of them are h*rny then their sex life might become boring as the chances aren't favourable.

Sure men get tired of sex. But the problem is that most women wouldn't agree. Women expect men to always fxck them whenever they are in the mood without minding if a man is in the mood. So it shouldn't be a problem when the reverse is the case. Or should it?

MrsChima:
Now you can't ask for proof when your girl say no then complain about her expecting sexx when she wants it.

I will say that there are three stages to menstruation that most men and women don't realized.

The first stage is spotting which is the first sign of the cycle.

The second stage is flow or period.

The third stage post menstruation which is nothing but discharges and remains.

Most men think that menstruation is valid when blood is spotted and that is not true. Some women may not have a uterine lining which is what essentially menstruation is...shedding of uterine lining and ovum matters. However, she is able to ovulate which is release of oocytes and if not fertilized in the fallopian tubes then it goes through menstruation process.

It could very well be that those girls were having their cycle and just didn't reach the second cycle. I know men too can gets tired of sexx but girls are typically trying to please their man and think that sexx is what he wants and 6th at is not true. It is not the girls fault because society has conditioned them to believe such hype. It is important that we have healthy conversation about sexx and what we each desire out of the relationhip. People do not talk anymore and are such in a hurry to grow up so fast.

While I admit what you narrated its true but it's hard to believe and accept when a girl comes up with the period story particular when she has been doing everything possible not wanting to have sex or procrastinating it. When it comes to having a first shot at any new relationship most men are likely to dismiss any excuse a girl bring up. It's easier to accept at any other time but not at the first go. Breaking the ice is usually the most difficult and equally most important for guys. No excuses are welcome during this time.

It is not the women's fault like you said, the status quo have positioned them to be so. Men have also adopted the status quo and have taken it upon themselves to make the first move. You know, even in cases where women are really h*rny they still come up with some excuses while they don't want to have sex at the moment. Just for the men to pamper them before succumbing. So a lot of men have come to accept a woman no-sex-talk as a mind game and that all she needs is some sweet talking.

I agree it is important we have healthy discussions about sex and address issues surrounding the sex pattern of a relationship. But I'm afraid one can hardly hold such talk on a forum like this one. A lot of the girls here won't be forthcoming as the same society have conditioned them not to open up on their sex life and how it affect them, or they might be tagged hoes. Some guys too aren't helping the issue just like one of the poster above.

Addressing issues of sex and how it can affect relationships is best left for married couples. Unmarried couples (the women) will find it hard to open up more as they're uncertain about how the relationship might turn out. It is my believe that married couple should be able to have an insightful discuss about their sex life, this will help them understand themselves better and can easily discern when either of them is not truly in the mood.

ronald4lif:
While I admit what you narrated its true but it's hard to believe and accept when a girl comes up with the period story particular when she has been doing everything possible not wanting to have sex or procrastinating it. When it comes to having a first shot at any new relationship most men are likely to dismiss any excuse a girl bring up. It's easier to accept at any other time but not at the first go. Breaking the ice is usually the most difficult and equally most important for guys. No excuses are welcome during this time.

It is not the women's fault like you said, the status quo have positioned them to be so. Men have also adopted the status quo and have taken it upon themselves to make the first move. You know, even in cases where women are really h*rny they still come up with some excuses while they don't want to have sex at the moment. Just for the men to pamper them before succumbing. So a lot of men have come to accept a woman no-sex-talk as a mind game and that all she needs is some sweet talking.

I agree it is important we have healthy discussions about sex and address issues surrounding the sex pattern of a relationship. But I'm afraid one can hardly hold such talk on a forum like this one. A lot of the girls here won't be forthcoming as the same society have conditioned them not to open up on their sex life and how it affect them, or they might be tagged hoes. Some guys too aren't helping the issue just like one of the poster above.

Addressing issues of sex and how it can affect relationships is best left for married couples. Unmarried couples (the women) will find it hard to open up more as they're uncertain about how the relationship might turn out. It is my believe that married couple should be able to have an insightful discuss about their sex life, this will help them understand themselves better and can easily discern when either of them is not truly in the mood.

Mhizizzy:
Go ask amadioha

Mhizizzy:
No

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]Oga how that one take concern you? [/color]

temmy6996:
Na person like u dey mumu 4 woman. Ao my talk take concern u. Person wey drink milk no complain na u wey pick container dey show crase. Alaye baje Omo Iran ki ran

[color=#1980BC]Shut the fhuuck up! [/color]

Mhizizzy:
No

Mhizizzy:
Simple

I wont visit my boyfriend wen I don't want to get down

Mhizizzy:
Simple

I wont visit my boyfriend wen I don't want to get down

Clap for yourself

Kolade354:
Back When.

Mhizizzy:
Simple
I wont visit my boyfriend wen I don't want to get down

MrsChima:
If we say no..we are cheating.

If we say we are bleeding...we must hang up pad as proof.

If we have headache..we must take tablets and hold out breathe until they are finish.

why do we accept this ladies?

milychocs:
Without meaning to be crude
..my problem at times is how to pretend I do not want se.x

I remember one time, my boyfriend woke me up one night and asked me the meaning of "being in a relationship"
Apparently for me it meant doing "it" all the time
SMH
I had to start an essay on what it meant to be a girlfriend
(Sighs)
And no, I am not a nymph.o