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nairalife2013:
I see u are now calming down. Women who refuse to be under and bluntly misbehave, Instead of divorce, I ll tell her openly I ll try my luck in giving her a little spank to see if she would regain her senses. If she insists on sitting on the stuborn wall, I ll carry out my word practically. I wont do that anyway to a lady after marrying her and she is already my wife. I will bear her all fronts and live with my mistake till dead. I have a friend whose wife once said to me" there are certain things I used to do at will, like sitting in the saloon to gossip and run into skirmishes and bring chaos home for my whole family till one day my calm husband of old gave me a slap that made me hate all the freinds I had in sch and in the saloons. I wept that day. Not because the slap was painful but because I was in full regret of my past childish and careless behaviours towards my home, esp my chubby's person as a man . Now I despise to repeat things he doesnt like, cos at the umpteeth time he will becom fairly loosed. thatz a typical man for u. My husband is."
The battering am talking abt are understood by the many members(males and females) who have liked my elaborate posts, many of whose fast discernment, without talking too much or responding with ambiguous ulterio motif, points to the fact that a sane man cannot batter his wife or gf or kid to disgraceful and injurious levels. There are limits to chastisement. Those that go astray are folks of pride. I have a colleague whose wife is a chronic club lover. We settle cases almost every month. This is some1 am older than but whose wife is older than him! The wife once called him woman rapper and the marriage almost crashed. Now the man has sit up and they love each other like high sch chaps! Dont be so worked up about these things. Just choose yur own path and be contented with it. Dont be mad when others live their life the way they see fit. Divorce is too rampart lately. Let people be sure it's love and sincere acceptance that leads- those are the ingredients onwhich a lasting union survive. Those two creates tolerance- the crux in a deceptive world is how to be sure... we must therefore have or device our own honest ways to go abt this, so in the longrun we accept our fate, knowing we did our best in the start.

bro I'm not calming down nor flaring up, from my understanding I think you think I'm referring to you when I said a man should protect, love, care for his wife and all that instead if those who do the opposite, that is for A LADY OR WOMAN WHO KNOWS HER PLACE!?! I'm not against your actions in fact I love it and picked a thing or thing from your initial post since thanks to you, you wowed US with your strategies in sieving the girls from the lady you want in your life which is awesome and you are enjoying your marriage today. what most immature people on here didn't UNDERSTAND is that you did what you HAD to do to get the type of woman you want and that wants you the way you want your wife to be to want you and the genius is knowing how to get what you want and got it at the end of the day though you took some drastic measures but the were needed to achieve the required results. RESULTS which I'd the main thing, yeah most girls wouldn't like it but who the fk cares the most important thing is that you got yourself the kind of sweet, unconditional loving wife which is rare and that LOVES YOU SOOO MUCH because it takes one who loves another more than the live themselves to take all the tests you put her through but I guess now she's reaping all the positive things out of it because if I get that of lady there's nothing I wouldn't do for her. congrats by the way. And for the ladies that don't like it, deal with it,.

Everybody mustn't do things the same generic way. Don't hate the player hate the game.

Ihuomadinihu:
Who said so? You have been chanting cun-t snice morning. That is exactly how you feel about your doll baby and other women.
Read what? Read about a man that believes his wife has no right to react in his presence. Nah!

to react has two sides: when u react based on genuine excuses and when u react on the embers of self ago and chronic recalcitrance. If u have a daughter who is constantly bent on wrecking havoc in her own matrimonial-home-to-be and the husband mind is on the verge of divorce but by chance at the dying minute he gives her a little spank to salvage the home and it worked, what would u as a mother say?

Ihuomadinihu:
Bible? Am yet to read that Adam,Abraham,David,Solomon, Joseph and Jacob subdued and dominated a woman for respect. You probably have to read your bible again. All these men had wives and they never had to see them as lower beings, who are supposed to bow before their rubbish. Infact all the women in the Bible were wise enough to leave 1diot. Read up the story of Abigali,the wife of David.

Abigail's husband died before she left.

icedbeatz:
bro I'm not calming down nor flaring up, from my understanding I think you think I'm referring to you when I said a man should protect, love, care for his wife and all that instead if those who do the opposite, that is for A LADY OR WOMAN WHO KNOWS HER PLACE!?! I'm not against your actions in fact I love it and picked a thing or thing from your initial post since thanks to you, you wowed US with your strategies in sieving the girls from the lady you want in your life which is awesome and you are enjoying your marriage today. what most immature people on here didn't UNDERSTAND is that you did what you HAD to do to get the type of woman you want and that wants you the way you want your wife to be to want you and the genius is knowing how to get what you want and got it at the end of the day though you took some drastic measures but the were needed to achieve the required results. RESULTS which I'd the main thing, yeah most girls wouldn't like it but who the fk cares the most important thing is that you got yourself the kind of sweet, unconditional loving wife which is rare and that LOVES YOU SOOO MUCH because it takes one who loves another more than the live themselves to take all the tests you put her through but I guess now she's reaping all the positive things out of it because if I get that of lady there's nothing I wouldn't do for her. congrats by the way. And for the ladies that don't like it, deal with it,.

Everybody mustn't do things the same generic way. Don't hate the player hate the game.

good. Thatz it! We must have our own ways.

5minsmadness:
So let me get this straight...

A man tells you how he deliberately misbehaved to get the worst out of his wife and how they are living blissfully afterwards and to show your displeasure you cronies decide to INSULT not only the man but INSULT his innocent wife as well(the woman you are supposed to be defending) in a bid to get back at him/hurt his feelings?


And you expect to be taken seriously?

Other guys will read and believe this is the best way to ''dominate and 'control' a wife. Nigeria is already choatic,we don't need psychopaths to contribute more domestic problems. Emotional and physical manipulation in marriage is a no no! People like you and him that get defensive want a trophy wife not a confident wife.
As far as marriage is concerned you don't need to intimidate a woman to submit to you.

nairalife2013:
to react has two sides: when u react based on genuine excuses and when u react on the embers of self ago and chronic recalcitrance. If u have a daughter who is constantly bent on wrecking havoc in her own matrimonial-home-to-be and the husband mind is on the verge of divorce bchosedsed at the dying minute giving her a little spank to salvage the home and it worked, what would u as a mother say?

You wouldn't be yarning this rubbish by the time your in law deals with your daughter for issues that can be controlled by you or him. You had a troubled childhood,i don't expect you to be reasonable with women. Am sure by that time your dolly would approve of battering afterall she passed through the same experience.

Ihuomadinihu:
Other guys will read and believe this is the best way to ''dominate and 'control' a wife. Nigeria is already choatic,we don't need psychopaths to contribute more domestic problems. Emotional and physical manipulation in marriage is a no no! People like you and him that get defensive want a trophy wife not a confident wife.
As far as marriage is concerned you don't need to intimidate a woman to submit to you.

That psycho even referred to his wife as his daughter. She sees him as her father. Smh!!

That alone says a lot.

Ihuomadinihu:
Experienced men and women did not make a mistake when they adviced young ladies to look before jumping. Many women are yorked with insane men in the name of marriage.

Yes ooo, marriage should not be entered into lightly. You really have to shine ya eyes and pray for guidance from God

Ihuomadinihu:
But she must tolerate your bad moments? And when you can't tolerate her you push,batter her and intimidate her to obey you?

I'm not saying that I'm perfect but I've managed to master how to channel my personal negative energies or bad moments like you said towards a good course or direction instead of getting aggressive at someone because I'm having a bad day, I know how I vent my bad moments dear. As a very good husband that I'm going to be I can bet that she will graciously and willingly support or tolerate me if I fail at times after all I'm human not a God and so is she.

Ralphlauren:
That psycho even referred to his wife as his daughter. She sees him as her father. Smh!!

That alone says a lot.

Yes,a daughter he can hit at any point in time.

fem29:
Yes ooo, marriage should not be entered into lightly. You really have to shine ya eyes and pray for guidance from God

my dear now that you are talking/typing unlike your comment earlier. Be blessed.

I don't understand why some of these men are saying nairalife's wife is enjoying. Is cheating on her now enjoyment? Maybe when he infects her with HIV and start taking medications, people will understand. He wanted someone who can take all that rubbish from him and he made sure he got one.

Ihuomadinihu:
You wouldn't be yarning this rubbish by the time your in law deals with your daughter for issues that can be controlled by you or him. You had a troubled childhood,i don't expect you to be reasonable with women. Am sure by that time your dolly would approve of battering afterall she passed through the same experience.

u didnt answer my question. Calm down again. Be fast this time. Dont let your calming down take so long like before. Am heading to the court for a round of tennis.

lezz:
Abigail's husband died before she left.

Yes! But what happened before that? Abigali was strong and wise enough to recognise and speak about her husband's bad character. We are talking about a loser that insulted the King of Isreal. If it was on this thread,that dolly wouldn't even speak out not to talk of going after David cos she will be spanked and battered.

icedbeatz:
my dear now that you are talking/typing unlike your comment earlier. Be blessed.

Yes I'm saying the same thing, when I say be picky, I don't mean a man that is rich etc. I mean someone you have the same ideologies with, someone you are very compatible with. Physical attrition is important but you should not let it carry you away.

A man who was s very traditional should marry a woman who is very traditional. A woman who has feminist views should marry a man who is very open minded etc etc

nairalife2013:
u didnt answer my question. Calm down again. Be fast this time. Dont let your calming down take so long like before. Am heading to the court for a round of tennis.

Why don't you ask your cun-t? She is the one you are abusing and will still abuse. Psychopath!

Ihuomadinihu:
Other guys will read and believe this is the best way to ''dominate and 'control' a wife. Nigeria is already choatic,we don't need psychopaths to contribute more domestic problems. Emotional and physical manipulation in marriage is a no no! People like you and him that get defensive want a trophy wife not a confident wife.
As far as marriage is concerned you don't need to intimidate a woman to submit to you.

honey yeah Nigeria is hell chaotic enough for men to deal with accompanied with family problems, office problems, responsibilities, tasks and thousands of things that goes through the mind of men that really take care of their business, then talk of someone he married with his hard earned money, takes care of her and many other lovely things even ready to die for her only for her to turn out to be a torment to the man!?!?! you can trouble a man anywhere in the world but please please please a man's house is his place the ONLY he comes to find peace and joy if the wife can be caring enough so if you take that away from him be ready to take what you get.

I think the problem here that you still don't understand the guy, he is not intimidating his wife rather he was putting the girls around him to test to see who truly loves him and has the qualities he needs in a woman yes some measures where drastic but honey believe me when you make a lot of money or when you are ready to settle down the number of girls that would be flocking around you,swearin to kill themselves to love u, Callin ,showering you with gifts and other things that u just don't know what or who really loves you so that you can marry her then you will understand what trouble men are going through that's why many guys married Jezebels who now makes their lifes miserable after marriage that what the guy tried to avoid and successfully did and a lot of dude would have taken this strategy if they knew better. It's not the best thing to do yeah but certain things needs to be done to achieve the required results. let the guy be please.

Ihuomadinihu:
Yes! But what happened before that? Abigali was strong and wise enough to recognise and speak about her husband's bad character. We are talking about a loser that insulted the King of Isreal. If it was on this thread,that dolly wouldn't even speak out not to talk of going after David cos she will be spanked and battered.

David wasn't yet king then. He was still wandering, tending to people's flock.
he was tending to Abigail's husband's flock and requested he be given one so he can feed with his band.

Abigail's husband tactlessly refused and David swore to kill him.

TO THE MAIN GIST: Abigail actually heard of what David intended to do. AND SHE CAME AND FELL ON DAVID'S FEET to spare her husband who was wicked, foolish and heartless.

Abigail didn't abandoned or left her husband to face the fate he deserved. She stood by him with meekness, wisdom and grace. not like the modern woman who would have been in a hurry to prove how tough and superior they are.

David admired her qualities and when her husband died, David married her as a king. SHE WAS LOYAL EVEN TO THE DEATH OF HER HUSBAND.

lezz:
David wasn't yet king then. He was still wandering, tending to people's flock.
he was tending to Abigail's husband's flock and requested he be given one so he can feed with his band.

Abigail's husband tactlessly refused and David swore to kill him.

TO THE MAIN GIST: Abigail actually heard of what David intended to do. AND SHE CAME AND FELL ON DAVID'S FEET to spare her husband who was wicked, foolish and heartless.

Abigail didn't abandoned or left her husband to face the fate he deserved. She stood by him with meekness, wisdom and grace. not like the modern woman who would have been in a hurry to prove how tough and superior they her.

David admired her qualities and when her husband died, David married her as a king. SHE WAS LOYAL EVEN TO THE DEATH OF HER HUSBAND.

This is just a sermon! The summary was that Abigali was able to detect her husband's messy character period! Speaking out and exercising her rights saved her life. People especially men tend to revise the Bible to suit their ego.
The Bible is yet to record any act of spanking or intimidation against a woman. Neither have i read any potion of the bible that encourages a woman to live under a manipulative man till he dies.

Ihuomadinihu:
Why don't you ask your cun-t? She is the one you are abusing and will still abuse. Psychopath!

I didn't abuse any1. If I tell u to stop doing somthing that is not acceptable to me and u insist on it I will discipline u, be it a wife, a daughter or a sister, I will, I repeat, I WILL DISCIPLINE U. or u just quietly stay away from my dormains. Is that too much for u?

nairalife2013:
I didn't abuse any1. If I tell u to stop doing somthing that is not acceptable to me and u insist on it I will discipline u, be it a wife, a daughter or a sister, I will, I repeat, I WILL DISCIPLINE U. or u just quietly stay away from my dormains. Is that too much for u?

No responsible man disciplines a woman. Infact only a Father has the right to discipline his daughter. Even a loving father knows he has to be careful when dealing with a girl child. But of course,cowards like you believe in ''disciplining'' a ''tabular raza'' to fit into your life.
If you have to manipulate or discipline your wife into submission,then you are half a man.
Rubbish!

Ihuomadinihu:
This is just a sermon! The summary was that Abigali was able to detect her husband's messy character period! Speaking out and exercising her rights saved her life. People especially men tend to revise the Bible to suit their ego. .

That is the gospel. it is no fiction. Abigail came to PLEAD for her husband's life not hers.
her own life was never in question.
if she wanted to leave, she would have left a long time ago. but she was loyal and honourable. no one is supporting the ill-treatment of women.

but of course you wouldn't own up. you are a modern woman with a man's ego. too much education , western movies and telemundo saw to that.


women of Abigail's time had one duty: to support and reverence their husbands and run the home. it takes a lot of wisdom and intelligence to do that.

the modern woman has to run the home, be a career woman and a pseudo bread winner and still support the kids. Striking the balance has been the dilemma of the modern woman. that's why there are so many angry, confused and frustrated women today.

in summary, a lot of modern women today are just she-men groping for meaning in a simple world they have made complicated for themselves.

lezz:
That is the gospel. it is no fiction. Abigail came to PLEAD for her husband's life not hers.
her own life was never in question.
if she wanted to leave, she would have left a long time ago. but she was loyal and honourable. no one is supporting the ill-treatment of women.

but of course you wouldn't own up. you are a modern woman with a man's ego. too much education , western movies and telemundo saw to that.


women of Abigail's time had one duty: to support and reverence their husbands and run the home. it takes a lot of wisdom and intelligence to do that.

the modern woman has to run the home, be a career woman and a pseudo bread winner and still support the kids. Striking the balance has been the dilemma of the modern woman. that's why there are so many angry, confused and frustrated women today.

in summary, a lot of modern women today are just she-men groping for meaning in a simple world they have made complicated for themselves.

It's interesting how you sit behind the computer and feel you know every detail about a fellow nairalander. You can go and look for women of Abigali's time,you would never find them cos the world has evolved and women are wiser. Women now know that reverance and submission doesn't include cowardice and cohesion.
Too much education? In your mind,women are not supposed to to go through a lot of education,cos of course it's helps them sieve and weigh their rights and priviledges.
Man was not created to see himself as a king and a woman as his foot stool. You and most men on this thread have a distorted view of loyalty and submission,that is why you support every rubbish you read.

Ihuomadinihu:
No responsible man disciplines a woman. Infact only a Father has the right to discipline his daughter. Even a loving father knows he has to be careful when dealing with a girl child. But of course,cowards like you believe in ''disciplining'' a ''tabular raza'' to fit into your life.
If you have to manipulate or discipline your wife into submission,then you are half a man.
Rubbish!

in the first place, I would not allow a red head woman to gain access into my life. If she does by craft or wrangling that did beat me to the game, I WILL show her the way out, if she insist on staying to wreck more havoc and drag my neck into it... no sane man will tolerate that, u know na! Better u sit up. Reasonable ladies know itz a man's world ,fools rush in headlong...Continue.

lezz:
That is the gospel. it is no fiction. Abigail came to PLEAD for her husband's life not hers.
her own life was never in question.
if she wanted to leave, she would have left a long time ago. but she was loyal and honourable. no one is supporting the ill-treatment of women.

but of course you wouldn't own up. you are a modern woman with a man's ego. too much education , western movies and telemundo saw to that.


women of Abigail's time had one duty: to support and reverence their husbands and run the home. it takes a lot of wisdom and intelligence to do that.

the modern woman has to run the home, be a career woman and a pseudo bread winner and still support the kids. Striking the balance has been the dilemma of the modern woman. that's why there are so many angry, confused and frustrated women today.

in summary, a lot of modern women today are just she-men groping for meaning in a simple world they have made complicated for themselves.

For your information, the name Nabal means foolishness in Hebrew. Nabal was not just foolish,he was mean,intemperate and inconsiderate. Abigali never submitted to his foolishness,by speaking out, she saved her family from the wrath of David. She already knew that David was going to be the next king of Israel.
Submission is not about blind obedience and subservience. It's appaling that a 21st century man thinks like this. Even before the coming of the white man,women had enough respect and right like men.

nairalife2013:
in the first place, I would not allow a red head woman to gain access into my life. If she does by craft or wrangling that did beat me to the game, I WILL show her the way out, if she insist on staying to wreck more havoc and drag my neck into it... no sane man will tolerate that, u know na! Better u sit up. Reasonable ladies know itz a man's world ,fools rush in headlong...Continue.

Who made it a man's world? Lol. Even God made man and woman equal in his own image. While a man has the primary responsibilty of providing for his family,a woman was created to be his helper and lighten his load. Sorry for the men that believe your grandiose foolishness.

Ihuomadinihu:
It's interesting how you sit behind the computer and feel you know every detail about a fellow nairalander. You can go and look for women of Abigali's time,you would never find them cos the world has evolved and women are wiser. Women now know that reverance and submission doesn't include cowardice and cohesion.
Too much education? In your mind,women are not supposed to to go through a lot of education,cos of course it's helps them sieve and weigh their rights and priviledges.
Man was not created to see himself as a king and a woman as his foot stool. You and most men on this thread have a distorted view of loyalty and submission,that is why you support every rubbish you read.

like technology, u have chosen to bring digital ageness into marriage and crusade to drag other women into it so thier marriage would be in chaos as u wish abi. Women are wiser abi. Who told u women were unwise before. U are own yur own girl. Chose yur lifestyle and stick to it n stop generalizing your computer age ideals. Real people know better than to force thier lifestyle on others.

onelife97:
@op,permit me to tell u my personal experience.
I got married abt 5 years ago and have a 4yr old boy.But ever since my wife delivered the boy,my life has become unbearable and very difficult to move on.my opinion in any matter with my so called wife mother of my son never counts.But she LL have to confide ir seek advice from unknown people online or her racist family b4 she LL to what I say even though she LL never bring any I her own idea to the table.If u ask my wife a million questions,I bet u csn only get one answer everytime"I DON'T KNOW".those has been goin on for the past 4 years.for more than 3 years,she won't even sleep with me in the sane too let alone make love/have sex with me.I can count how many times we did it in the past years.
Anyway,to cut the long story short,I decided to look for another girl because I won't kill myself with depression.
So sometimes last week,I was talkin to a girl on phone and she was eavesdropping and I got caught.
However,I was thinkin there would be problem in the house and heaven might fall and the hell would break loose.But to my deepest surprise my wife has been treating m like a man of the house now.askin me for sex without rubber etc.
So I have learnt a new lesson now.WOMEN DON'T APPRECIATE GOOD GUYS WHICH I HAVE BEEN ALL THESE YEARS.
Unfortunately for her,I am gone and no looking back.just waiting for something and she LL be completely out of my life.

I won't tell u what to do with urs.u know her and u know the best for ya.think it thru and take ur best decision without anybody interference pls.

Women are not supposed to be pampered.

Agreed, women dont appreciate good guys who treat them well but not treating her right is one thing, but trying to replace her is another


Hmmm..... You need to be very very careful!
They call it "The CALM before The STORM"!

When a woman knows you are about to dump her..... and she still or starts playing NICE with you, l can bet my balls that if you are not very careful, you are as good as dead!

For starters, l suspect she just wants you to father another child with her, TWO KIDS means "two things".
1.) She would not likely have the need to have another man, to procreate another child. Its good having both for the same man.

2.) She might be thinking ahead to "child support & maintenance" things. Chasing two different men for that would be cumbersome but you only, you are mincemeat!

Finally, women who murder their husband, either by poisoning or stabbing, always do it when his guards are down and everything seems rosy and perfect. It arouses less suspicion and makes the job easier.

I really fear for your life, really.
Let me recommend a program for you to watch on SKYY!
Its called "Women who kill their husband".
Thank me later.


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nairalife2013:
like technology, u have chosen to bring digital ageness into marriage and crusade to drag other women into it so thier marriage would be in chaos as u wish abi. Women are wiser abi. Who told u women were unwise before. U are own yur own girl. Chose yur lifestyle and stick to it n stop generalizing your computer age ideals. Real people know better than to force thier lifestyle on others.

Yes,i repeat women are wiser! They now know it is never a man's world and women equally have rights in a marriage. They know now that women are not servants and their place is not restricted in the kitchen and bedroom. If you want don't educate your daughter till she ends up with a man worse than you. Oh! Women now know that they are not tabular raza like you keep telling them.

Ihuomadinihu:
It's interesting how you sit behind the computer and feel you know every detail about a fellow nairalander. You can go and look for women of Abigali's time,you would never find them cos the world has evolved and women are wiser. Women now know that reverance and submission doesn't include cowardice and cohesion.
Too much education? In your mind,women are not supposed to to go through a lot of education,cos of course it's helps them sieve and weigh their rights and priviledges.
Man was not created to see himself as a king and a woman as his foot stool. You and most men on this thread have a distorted view of loyalty and submission,that is why you support every rubbish you read.

The 'bolded' is the source of women's problems in marital relationships!

"A Fool is wise, in his own eyes" .... Book of Proverbs.

Loyalty and submission comes first.... then all other things shall follow, if a woman wants to enjoy her marriage. SIMPLES!!


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The 'bolded' is the source of women's problems in marital relationships!

"A Fool is wise, in his own eyes" .... Book of Proverbs.

Loyalty and submission comes first.... then all other things shall follow, if a woman wants to enjoy her marriage. SIMPLES!!


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Let this be the last time you would quote me sha. Go and preach that trash to your sisters.

Ihuomadinihu:
Who made it a man's world? Lol. Even God made man and woman equal in his own image. While a man has the primary responsibilty of providing for his family,a woman was created to be his helper and lighten his load. Sorry for the men that believe your grandiose foolishness.

say: sorry for the men AND WOMEN that believe your grandiose foolishness. Go and speak in public and raise equality issues betwin man and woman and see the approval u will receive in certain issues. U can start from yur work place. Or yur class. Becoming one doesnt mean equality in standards.the father and the son are one but the standards are established for all to see. A helper that has turned into a thorn in the flesh of the master should be allowed to pierce the soul of that her master till he slums? These days, sorry men take thier time to chose even tho they make mistakes in thier choice due to luck or careless scrutiny. I didnt let the last two words aforementioned make minceMeat of me, cos datz why u see marriages fall apart more rampantly 2day. Am at peace cause I chosed well. u started quoting me to force yur desires on me and my peaceful wife. Why edey pain u like this na! I tire o! Must u be this bitter against a lady whose only fault is to do things u cannot do? Nawao! Live yur life and see what u will and lets see ours, good or bad. Go listen to the song Na My Choice. E go calm u down small.