nairalife2013:
say: sorry for the men AND WOMEN that believe your grandiose foolishness. Go and speak in public and raise equality issues betwin man and woman and see the approval u will receive in certain issues. U can start from yur work place. Or yur class. Becoming one doesnt mean equality in standards.the father and the son are one but the standards are established for all to see. A helper that has turned into a thorn should be allowed to pierce the soul of her master till he slums. These days, sorry men take thier time to chose even tho they make mistakes in thier choice due to luck or careless scrutiny. Thatz why u see marriages fall apart more rampantly. Am at peace cause I chosed well and u started quoting me to force yur desires on me and my peaceful wife. Why edey pain u like this na! I tire o! Must u be this bitter against a lady whose only fault is to do things u cannot do? Nawao! Live yur life and see what u will and lets see ours, good or bad. Go listen to the song Na My Choice. E go calm u down small.

i never disputed what his name meant neither did i say he was a nice person.

Abigail was loyal to her husband to the very last. when she came to plead with David, she would have asked David to spare her and get raid of the husband. nope she came solely to plead unbehalf of her husband.

whoever[ said it was?/quote]It's appaling that a 21st century man thinks like this. Even before the coming of the white man,women had enough respect and right like men.

Ihuomadinihu:

Let this be the last time you would quote me sha. Go and preach that trash to your sisters.

cococandy:
In summary she understands that any man who tortures you, beats you, brings other women into your home, get angry for no reason and locks you out in the rain just to test you is the ideal man.

I've heard it.
Pls do the same to your wife o.

Encourage your sons-in-law to do the same to your daughters too. You know that's the great way to behave and any woman who can't take such treatment is a failure.

You've the nerve to call people better than you 'burnt brains' when you and others like you should be in a psych ward.
Our people say it is the mad man that first call the same one 'mad'.

Ihuomadinihu:

Force my choices or exposing the foolishness and coward in you? You are just typing away without being coherent. A man that believes all man should wrap a woman round his finger never makes sense no matter the volume of your posts.

netsurf:
How best to handle a stubborn wife...when I say stubborn, I mean very stubborn...she doesn't listen nor take any advice or order from her husband...doesn't respect the man's opinion about anything...

On the few occasions, when she accepts she was wrong, she also want to be the judge in her own case. If the husband airs his opinion about any subject, she would insist she consult google for her to believe. It's no exaggeration...this is how exactly she behaves.

Please note that she was the epitome of an humble woman before the wedding but as soon as the wedding bell rang, she became another thing entirely.

Please anyone with good idea on how to handle such women before divorce option?

nairalife2013:
Those who go the extreme must be sure of themselves and what they are doing. @Ngokafo, there are people who stretch farther than the rest. Some women love being unconditionally obedient and respectful to men. Thatz their nature. They can never abuse, workout on or spit at som1, no matter the provocation. They have tongues that only speak of peace and apologies. Thier joy is in caring for all and thier pride is in mediation aided by feminine powers. I know of many of such ladies who would quietly walk away in the face of confrontation, even when they were innocent and should atleast exchange a few invectives with the antagonist to register thier uprightness . I needed that type and if I went the extreme distance to get it, itz all for my good and that of all. Dont do like me. My wife had her own way of appraising me. If am obedient and respectful and feminine to the core, what could be my longterm benefit and that of my kids from this man. Is there any reason to shore up with this? He is more than me in wisdom, age, wealth and everything. Am extremely proud of him and so much inlove. Should I let my longborne pride rub me of his love and care. I am a woman, I must get what I want not by might...
Just this evening,I was in the tennis court when my wife called that she took her suv to the carwash and I should take that route on my way back from the club so she can join me home. When I got there I met an old freind sipping some beverage at a table in the adjoining pavilion. We three sat there and had a chat for about two hours. All the while, my concentration was on my wife and my wife's on me and we held eachother to serries of our usuall ribcracking conversation. As we all made to depart the place, The guy told me to my wife's hearing "man, I see this kind of relationship mostly in movies. This is more than a marriage. This for sure is somthingelse." My wife just smile at him. I smiled too at him. We hear that always from all sorts of folks! Our minds eager to be let alone asap so we can continue chating and laffing and my wife would have more space to continue forming baby and cuddling in my arms an on my shoulder. My wife is a rare breed that cannot survive a day without talking to me or putting her head on my shoulder or holding my hand. If u like shove her away, she will spontaneously come bak to the spot immediately thereafter, like a little girl to her mother! She is incapable of habouring malice in her heart for the sun to return and meet. Only God can explain her ways for mortals to understand. Just forget it and go and rest!

nairalife2013:
Those who go the extreme must be sure of themselves and what they are doing. @Ngokafor, there are people who stretch farther than the rest. Some women love being unconditionally obedient and respectful to men. Thatz their nature. They can never abuse, workout on or spit at som1, no matter the provocation. They have tongues that only speak of peace and apologies. Thier joy is in caring for all and thier pride is in mediation aided by feminine powers. I know of many of such ladies who would quietly walk away in the face of confrontation, even when they were innocent and should atleast exchange a few invectives with the antagonist to register thier uprightness . I needed that type and if I went the extreme distance to get it, itz all for my good and that of all. Dont do like me. My wife had her own way of appraising me. If am obedient and respectful and feminine to the core, what could be my longterm benefit and that of my kids from this man. Is there any reason to shore up with this? He is more than me in wisdom, age, wealth and everything. Am extremely proud of him and so much inlove. Should I let my longborne pride rub me of his love and care. I am a woman, I must get what I want not by might...
Just this evening,I was in the tennis court when my wife called that she took her suv to the carwash and I should take that route on my way back from the club so she can join me home. When I got there I met an old freind sipping some beverage at a table in the adjoining pavilion. We three sat there and had a chat for about two hours. All the while, my concentration was on my wife and my wife's on me and we held eachother to serries of our usuall ribcracking conversation. As we all made to depart the place, The guy told me to my wife's hearing "man, I see this kind of relationship mostly in movies. This is more than a marriage. This for sure is somthingelse." My wife just smile at him. I smiled too at him. We hear that always from all sorts of folks! Our minds eager to be let alone asap so we can continue chating and laffing and my wife would have more space to continue forming baby and cuddling in my arms an on my shoulder. My wife is a rare breed that cannot survive a day without talking to me or putting her head on my shoulder or holding my hand. If u like shove her away, she will spontaneously come bak to the spot immediately thereafter, like a little girl to her mother! She is incapable of habouring malice in her heart for the sun to return and meet. Only God can explain her ways for mortals to understand. Just forget it and go and rest!

Wedon:


Get your wife help. She is NOT normal.

She must have suffered some severe psychological damage as a child to have lost all traces of self worth as a person or woman.

You think you got the 'best' but if I were you I will worry. Such a woman raising kids cannot be good.

What happens if you die tomorrow? How will she manage your home and take care of the kids. Because you portray her as a completely useless being whose sole purpose is to worship at your feet.

As for you, I can only think with dread what kind of sons (and daughters) you will raise.

You are a narcissit with severe pyscopatic characteristics. People like you (and your wife) should not be raising children.

. . . . No offence!

nairalife2013:
my wife is a medical personnel working in a federal establishment. She has made several successful goes at a few companies before deciding to pitch tent with d feds. Apart from her regular job, She airs periodic medical report for africare, she studies round the clock to meet up with the next interview or presentation; she cordinates for unicef and other health-related ngos in areas of rural paediatric and midwifery services . She is not lazy pls. I pity her but she sees it as nothing. Am a surveyor running corporate real estate jobs for various bodies and individuals. We are doingVERY well, my dear. U DONT KNOW THE KIND OF LADY U ARE TALKING ABOUT. LET ALONE KNOWING ME AND MY KIDS. WE PRAY EVERYDAY NOT FOR OURSELVES BUT FOR OTHERS LIKE FEW HERE, AM NOT MENTIONING NAMES PLS. THATZ HOW BLESSED WE ARE AND WOULD CONTINUE TO BE- EVEN AT MY DEPARTURE. I CAN SIT IN MY HOUSE AND SLEEP AND PLAY WITH MY KIDS WITHOUT FEAR OF HOW THEY WILL SURVIVE OR WHAT THEY WILL EAT THE NEXT MANY YEARS. THATZ ALREADY SETTLED. YET I AND MY WIFE ARE STILL WORKING HARD ROUND THE CLOCK, CAUSE ITZ PART OF OUR LIFE, IF NOT FOR US, FOR OTHER MYRIADS OF PEOPLE IN OUR CARE. u dont know what u are saying.

nairalife2013:
Ihuomadinihu, the last time someone asked u how old u are u pretended u didn't see the post. Go back there and answer him then come back here for my terminal judgement on u. Now go! I thot u were actually married sef. Dont be a crusader for feminist societies! Such females have male hormones! But they are the last to know this and the mixture makes thier sense of judgement rather complex and self-irritating. Was forced to check yur profile. Many before u hav gone haywire for it, ending up at old age with nothing more than a petcat, a sewing needle and a wrap of wool in an apparently empty home.

nairalife2013:
"force my choices" thatz not what u believe in na. My choice of companionship is in my making. Not yours. If marriage is an institution and I bring a lady into the preliminary chambers and state my likes and dislikes and inform her going against those tenets would certainly bring me and the institution to our knees and she is adamant on executing her own destructive terms and desires, isnt that a wrong woman worth sending to the cleaners to learn the ways. Am living my life cool now cause I took time to sieve thro the park. I live with my wife with a high sense of equality because she respects and adore me with uncommon love only a few women can lay claims to. U sound like a lady of advanced age whose life has seen some rough days with men and is bent on keeping it so due to pride and overzealous desires for what cannot me. Following a man up and down to keep a ridiculous ideal afloat when u are supposed to cuddle in yur man's arms at this time of the nite is a pointer to the kind of life u lead. Others with worthwhile responsibilit ies have scampered cause thier chubbies are back and need thier time but u, with all u claim u are worth, are still bent on having a tko on me. My confi sect will do d rest while am at work moro. Perhaps u could learn a thing from her own feminine words.

nairalife2013:
my wife is a medical personnel working in a federal establishment. She has made several successful goes at a few companies before deciding to pitch tent with d feds. Apart from her regular job, She airs periodic medical report for africare, she studies round the clock to meet up with the next interview or presentation; she cordinates for unicef and other health-related ngos in areas of rural paediatric and midwifery services . She is not lazy pls. I pity her but she sees it as nothing. Am a surveyor running corporate real estate jobs for various bodies and individuals. We are doingVERY well, my dear. U DONT KNOW THE KIND OF LADY U ARE TALKING ABOUT. LET ALONE KNOWING ME AND MY KIDS. WE PRAY EVERYDAY NOT FOR OURSELVES BUT FOR OTHERS LIKE FEW HERE, AM NOT MENTIONING NAMES PLS. THATZ HOW BLESSED WE ARE AND WOULD CONTINUE TO BE- EVEN AT MY DEPARTURE. I CAN SIT IN MY HOUSE AND SLEEP AND PLAY WITH MY KIDS WITHOUT FEAR OF HOW THEY WILL SURVIVE OR WHAT THEY WILL EAT THE NEXT MANY YEARS. THATZ ALREADY SETTLED. YET I AND MY WIFE ARE STILL WORKING HARD ROUND THE CLOCK, CAUSE ITZ PART OF OUR LIFE, IF NOT FOR US, FOR OTHER MYRIADS OF PEOPLE IN OUR CARE. u dont know what u are saying.

Ihuomadinihu:

Still rubbish! Same repetitive nonesense!

Ihuomadinihu:

What have you written that makes sense here? Submission is not foolishness. Stop twisting the bible cos it never said women should submit to an intimidating husband.

I only pointed out Abigail's virtues which so many a modern woman lacks. It is a pure account of the recorded gospel. you are the one guilty of misrepresentation of biblical facts when you alluded David was already king when he met Abigail and that Abigail left her husband.

You are one of those men that will lead a woman to hellfire in the name of submission. That definition of submission should never exist in the world.

could point me to where i defined submitssion directly or implicitly?

As for being igbo. Igbo cultire is not practically ran by men. Women in the past stood up against foolish submission and stupidity from men. There were numerous women groups that were in place to discipline men that maltreated their wives

Ibo community has always have female deities , like ancient Greece and Rome. It doesn't change the fact that ibo cimmunities are ran by men. women do not partake in age grade meetings or umunna gatherings where serious decisions are taken. neither are they part of the igwe's council. you can point me to an ibo community that has a different socio-economic settings

Women even took up titles seperate from their husband's identity. Women were bread winners,great merchants and community heads. If you are a ''true igbo'' person,who should know that your ancestors never belittled women.

it is my belief ibo women are the most pampered in nigeria. and women in nigerian communities are never belittled, except maybe those who have lost their feminine grace

Women were adored and never intimidated. 'Ala' was/is an Igbo female goddess,a central authority in Igboland. Nobody broke or underestimidated her laws. Breaking her laws attracted serious punishment. Men never intimidated their wives,the least the can do is to inform her parents or the village elders.
As for property,all igbo societies are not patriarchal. There are societies that surrender their properties to their daughters instead of the sons,cos the believe and know that Nwanyi bu ife! There are places were a woman will take titles and sit in place of their fathers. Don't assume that Igbo societies are the same,they are very diverse.
Most of these nonesense against women began during and after colonialism.
According to history in old Igboland,the day you lift you fingers against your wife that will be the end of the marriage. The wife's people are free to do anything to you not to talk of when you intimidate her into submission. There is a community that i know,according to history,no man maltreats her girls in the past. Cos she will come home,take your children and remarry immediately.
All these nonsense started with colonialism cos the whiteman says women should be seen not heard.
That's pure nonesense. Go and ask people how women operated in ancient igbo cultures.

nairalife2013:
"force my choices" thatz not what u believe in na. My choice of companionship is in my making. Not yours. If marriage is an institution and I bring a lady into the preliminary chambers and state my likes and dislikes and inform her going against those tenets would certainly bring me and the institution to our knees and she is adamant on executing her own destructive terms and desires, isnt that a wrong woman worth sending to the cleaners to learn the ways. Am living my life cool now cause I took time to sieve thro the park. I live with my wife with a high sense of equality because she respects and adore me with uncommon love only a few women can lay claims to. U sound like a lady of advanced age whose life has seen some rough days with men and is bent on keeping it so due to pride and overzealous desires for what cannot me. Following a man up and down to keep a ridiculous ideal afloat when u are supposed to cuddle in yur man's arms at this time of the nite is a pointer to the kind of life u lead. Others with worthwhile responsibilit ies have scampered cause thier chubbies are back and need thier time but u, with all u claim u are worth, are still bent on having a tko on me. My confi sect will do d rest while am at work moro. Perhaps u could learn a thing from her own feminine words.

lezz:
Ouch!!! That hurts. All i see are sad, aging females in a selfish alliance to misleed young ladies and turn them into domestic rebels.

netsurf:


we were having a discussion about how drugs are manufactured and I said scientist delibrately use either a dead human or live as 'guinea pigs' to test efficacy of drugs before it's realesed into the market for consumption...she shouted..it's a lie...then I tried explaining to her by giving examples of what I have seen and read...the next thing she said is untill she consult google, she cannot believe what i said. Another instance came when she developed some skin rashes which has failed to respond to so many prescribed drugs...then I said we should consider blood tonics and that she should start eating more of fruits and vegetables to strenghten her immune system...she said it has nothing to do with her blood and tha it's just a skin disease...then I tried explaining what I know about skin and the veins that supplies blood to the skin...she responded by carying her phone and before you can blink, she was already on google...that day, everything I said about the skin and her skin issue was exactly on google. Rather than become sober, she still insist that she only belives because google said so. Then it occured to me in a flash that she might not respect not only my opinion but everything I stand for.

Ihuomadinihu:

Lol,what hurts? Your inability to see that women should not be manipulated by mere laws to stick to a foolish man is what is hurting both of you.

lezz:
you have never asked what my views are about women. and i am rarely sad on an online forum. REASON: I have come to understand that most cyber bullies are real nice people in real life. it is easier to rant and rage in the shadows of internet world where there is no eye contact, body language and voice tone to be deciphered.

THAT BEING SAID, women have ever always been inherently powerful. it is ideas like yours that make them not only weak but sad and eventually unfulfilled in life.

nairalife2013:
my wife is a medical personnel working in a federal establishment. She has made several successful goes at a few companies before deciding to pitch tent with d feds. Apart from her regular job, She airs periodic medical report for africare, she studies round the clock to meet up with the next interview or presentation; she cordinates for unicef and other health-related ngos in areas of rural paediatric and midwifery services . She is not lazy pls. I pity her but she sees it as nothing. Am a surveyor running corporate real estate jobs for various bodies and individuals. We are doingVERY well, my dear. U DONT KNOW THE KIND OF LADY U ARE TALKING ABOUT. LET ALONE KNOWING ME AND MY KIDS. WE PRAY EVERYDAY NOT FOR OURSELVES BUT FOR OTHERS LIKE FEW HERE, AM NOT MENTIONING NAMES PLS. THATZ HOW BLESSED WE ARE AND WOULD CONTINUE TO BE- EVEN AT MY DEPARTURE. I CAN SIT IN MY HOUSE AND SLEEP AND PLAY WITH MY KIDS WITHOUT FEAR OF HOW THEY WILL SURVIVE OR WHAT THEY WILL EAT THE NEXT MANY YEARS. THATZ ALREADY SETTLED. YET I AND MY WIFE ARE STILL WORKING HARD ROUND THE CLOCK, CAUSE ITZ PART OF OUR LIFE, IF NOT FOR US, FOR OTHER MYRIADS OF PEOPLE IN OUR CARE. u dont know what u are saying.

nairalife2013:
my wife is a medical personnel working in a federal establishment. She has made several successful goes at a few companies before deciding to pitch tent with d feds. Apart from her regular job, She airs periodic medical report for africare, she studies round the clock to meet up with the next interview or presentation; she cordinates for unicef and other health-related ngos in areas of rural paediatric and midwifery services . She is not lazy pls. I pity her but she sees it as nothing. Am a surveyor running corporate real estate jobs for various bodies and individuals. We are doingVERY well, my dear. U DONT KNOW THE KIND OF LADY U ARE TALKING ABOUT. LET ALONE KNOWING ME AND MY KIDS. WE PRAY EVERYDAY NOT FOR OURSELVES BUT FOR OTHERS LIKE FEW HERE, AM NOT MENTIONING NAMES PLS. THATZ HOW BLESSED WE ARE AND WOULD CONTINUE TO BE- EVEN AT MY DEPARTURE. I CAN SIT IN MY HOUSE AND SLEEP AND PLAY WITH MY KIDS WITHOUT FEAR OF HOW THEY WILL SURVIVE OR WHAT THEY WILL EAT THE NEXT MANY YEARS. THATZ ALREADY SETTLED. YET I AND MY WIFE ARE STILL WORKING HARD ROUND THE CLOCK, CAUSE ITZ PART OF OUR LIFE, IF NOT FOR US, FOR OTHER MYRIADS OF PEOPLE IN OUR CARE. u dont know what u are saying.

Ihuomadinihu:

Figuratively,you talk with two sides of your mouth. Why should i seek for your views,when the little you have written here defines how you see submission in marriage. I repeat, 'submission is not a child like obedience which lacks responsibility for one's actions''. This is situated in the context of a man intimidating a woman to obey his presence in a union. Every other thing you are saying here is just a matter of inference. I don't mind if you think am being an online bully,this still depicts how you view women that speak up when you would rather they ''shut up''.