Thanks!!!

ColinAdua:


See what we are talking and warning about. I don dey start.

Bro, you have entered, you have entered. No divorce o o. Divorce is SIN.

TRY TO FIND WAYS TO SOLVE THE PROBLEMS!!

God bless you.

holluwai:
Thanks!!!

You are welcomed!

jmoore:
I will marry.
I will live long.
I will sleep with one woman(my wife) for the rest of my life.


He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from God..

The op is probably joking. Marriage is sweet!!!!!

ColinAdua:


My brother am too old to react to aggressive and insultive statements bring out solid points don't succumb to cheap insults.

Moreover, talking about strength; when you defeat sexual urges for just one year.

You'll have a clearer understanding of strength and weakness.

You will then understand who's strong and who's weak.

Remain blessed.

So as an unmarried christian, how do you deal with sexual urge? or what will be your advise to intending permanent bachelors on overcoming innate sexual urge?

I asked you two questions, patiently waiting for your answers

pansophist:


So as an unmarried christian, how do you deal with sexual urge? or what will be your advise to intending permanent bachelors on overcoming innate sexual urge?

I asked you two questions, patiently waiting for your answers

I have answered these questions here in this thread.

My simple answer is RENEW YOUR MIND!! Romans 12:2. Your mind can be trained to control your body. Its not easy, but always try to look away from full pointed boobs and wide swinging booties.

Discipline your body. That was what Apostle Paul did(1Corinthians9:27NKJV). I hope this helps. If not PM me lets talk on whatsapp.

LordReed:


So the (on and off) world's richest man is not successful because he is married? Warren Buffet is not successful because he is married? Mark Zuckerberg is not successful because he is married? Michael Dell is not successful because he is married? Dangote is not successful because he is married?

Kai! Laugh no gree me. See myopia and ignorance.

Do the accumulation of money and assets qualifies one as successful? Even if it qualifies.

FYI, the richest man in the whole world(even though they take vow of poverty, so I heard), the most influential and hence successful man in the whole world, sitting on top of the richest organisation in the whole world is A SINGLE.

POPE FRANCIS OF ROMAN CATHOLIC MISSION(CHURCH).

I know you will tell me that we are not talking about churches, but let me tell you, churches uses the same administrative and managerial principles to keep afloat, like companies.

One of the reasons why Roman Catholicism is the biggest brand all over the world is the singleness of their priests (even though I don't like or support the forced singleness/celibacy of their priesthood because its unbiblical). The fact still remains that it makes their priests focused and single minded

What of Dalai Lama? A single. Head of Tibetan Buddhist Movement.

What of Jesus Christ? A single. The most successful man ever liveth. Though He did not accumulate riches and assets.

What of China? The most successful and the biggest economy for now, but they are not ashamed to acknowledge the fact that singles are the fuel that powers their economy. That is why every November 11, China celebrates singles and give public holiday. Do they celebrate married people? Find out and answer me.

Most of the richest men in the world today like Bill Gates of Microsoft has single men behind that laboured for their company to be what it is today, like Paul Allen co-founder of Microsoft, 61 years, worths $15.3 billion, a single.

Some of the rich married CEOs you see layed the foundations of their companies as singles. Such doesn't like to employ much married men. They will always tell you that married men give a lot of excuses and doesn't go the extra mile. If it is not their child today, it is their wife tomorrow and their in-law next.

Go to big companies in Nigeria today and check the ratio of single to married men labouring for those CEOs. You think they don't know. You think they are not smart. They know that sinlge men are more productive.

No wonder, Francis Bacon said "Certainly, the best works of greatest merit for the public, have proceeded from the unmarried and childless men." Francis Bacon (Essays "Of Marriage and Single life"

Perfect examples JESUS CHRIST and APOSTLE PAUL!
GBAM!!!

ColinAdua:


Kai! Laugh no gree me. See myopia and ignorance.

Do the accumulation of money and assets qualifies one as successful? Even if it qualifies.

FYI, the richest man in the whole world(even though they take vow of poverty, so I heard), the most influential and hence successful man in the whole world, sitting on top of the richest organisation in the whole world is A SINGLE.

POPE FRANCIS OF ROMAN CATHOLIC MOVEMENT(CHURCH).

I know you will tell me that we are not talking about churches, but let me tell you, churches uses the same administrative and managerial principles to keep afloat, like companies.

One of the reasons why Roman Catholicism is the biggest brand all over the world is the singleness of their priests (even though I don't like or support the forced singleness/celibacy of their priesthood because its unbiblical). The fact still remains that it makes their priests focused and single minded

What of Dalai Lama? A single. Head of Tibetan Buddhist Movement.

What of Jesus Christ? A single. The most successful man ever liveth. Though He did not accumulate riches and assets.

What of China? The most successful and the biggest economy for now, but they are not ashamed to acknowledge the fact that singles are the fuel that powers their economy. That is why every November 11, China celebrates singles and give public holiday. Do they celebrate married people? Find out and answer me.

Most of the richest men in the world today like Bill Gates of Microsoft has single men behind that laboured for their company to be what it is today, like Paul Allen co-founder of Microsoft, 61 years, worths $15.3 billion, a single.

Some of the rich married CEOs you see layed the foundations of their companies as singles. Such doesn't like to employ much married men. They will always tell you that married men give a lot of excuses and doesn't go the extra mile. If it is not their child today, it is their wife tomorrow and their in-law next.

Go to big companies in Nigeria today and check the ratio of single to married men labouring for those CEOs. You think they don't know. You think they are not smart. They know that sinlge men are more productive.

No wonder, Francis Bacon said "Certainly, the best works of greatest merit for the public, have proceeded from the unmarried and childless men." Francis Bacon (Essays "Of Marriage and Single life"

Perfect examples JESUS CHRIST and APOSTLE PAUL!
GBAM!!!

When I say are you slow again you will say I am insulting you. killjoy was talking of focusing on business and making money to which I gave examples of married men who have done that, here you are making mountains out of mole hills. Did I say to him you can't be single and successful? You are so patently anti-marriage that it is affecting your reasoning and ability to comprehend simple language.

LordReed:


When I say are you slow again you will say I am insulting you. killjoy was talking of focusing on business and making money to which I gave examples of married men who have done that, here you are making mountains out of mole hills. Did I say to him you can't be single and successful? You are so patently anti-marriage that it is affecting your reasoning and ability to comprehend simple language.

You can say whatever you like its not going to be worst than LYING AGAINST ME.

All am saying is; SINGLE MEN MAKES MONEY AND SUCCESS, BETTER.

The last time I checked Giorgio Armani is still single at 79 years, worths $10 Billion.

Yeah! Am chronically Anti-marriage not even patently and it suppose to effect my reasoning.

You are telling him that the richest men in the world are married, I prove you wrong; that the richest man in the whole world is single. You turned around to complain.

So is that the way you will conduct the successful marriage? eeeeeh? If your wife proves you wrong you become bitter.

Well, Singlehood is strength, singlehood is sweet and singlehood is sumptuous.

ColinAdua:


You can say whatever you like its not going to be worst than LYING AGAINST ME.

All am saying is; SINGLE MEN MAKES MONEY AND SUCCESS, BETTER.

The last time I checked Giorgio Armani is still single at 79 years, worths $10 Billion.

Yeah! Am chronically Anti-marriage not even patently and it suppose to effect my reasoning.

You are telling him that the richest men in the world are married, I prove you wrong; that the richest man in the whole world is single. You turned around to complain.

So is that the way you will conduct the successful marriage? eeeeeh? If your wife proves you wrong you become bitter.

Well, Singlehood is strength, singlehood is sweet and singlehood is sumptuous.

What your deluded brain can't seem to process is that I am not against being single, I am against talking down on marriage because you made the choice to be single. If that little piece of information cannot get past the mental blocks of your deluded anti-marriage brain then you need to seek psychiatric help.

You are the folks trying by all means to prove marriage is useless, meanwhile I bring up examples of successful married men and you start to squall like a cat whose tail was stepped on.

Look who is talking of bitterness. You who is vehemently anti-marriage are one carrying bitterness about, you are bitter against marriage. Not once on this thread have I disparaged singlehood but you in all your full hatred against marriage have tried to use all sorts of rubbish to paint marriage in a bad light. Evidence of your bitterness is all over your posts so please remove your log first before you see clearly to accuse me of bitterness.

Enjoy your singlehood and leave marriage to those who want it.

@ColinAdua

English definition of “more trouble than it's worth”
more trouble than it's
worth
(ALSO not worth the trouble) INFORMAL
› If something is more trouble than it's worth or
is not worth the trouble, it is not important or
useful enough to make an effort doing it:
It's more trouble than it's worth to take it
back to the shop and ask for a replacement.
It's not worth the trouble (of) applying for that
job. You've no chance of getting it.

http://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/british/more-trouble-than-it-s-worth

Before you accuse me of lying please show how the above definition is not the same as worthless.

This thread is one of the few threads on nairaland that I read from beginning to the end. Nice point OP, but your point are mainly base on the negativity of marriage, its positive size superceed all your points. My own take on the subject is simple. Do whatever rocks your boat. If being single is your thing, or getting married, its a personal choice. But if I am to advise anyone, I must admit that being single gives a more peaceful and happy life.

According to Buddhist Philosophy (a religion I respect so much), attachment is one of the roots of all sufferings for humans. I can’t agree more - If we are to streamline this notion to marriage, then its not far fetched why many married people are miseable but try to feign a happy face. Attachment keeps taking you back to the source of your pain and it incur all manners of inconviniences, changing your life to suit other person lifestyle, lost of privacy and other things that make us personally comfortable, its a kind of a ''respectable slavery'' for men, a life where you have to live for your significant other, a life of servitude and a life of tamed wildness, a life devoid of freedom and making decisions at a snap of fingers, A life most men do not dream of.

But I wont exclude the positive sides of marriage either. Marriage is fun, but of course if its only a marriage that is truly made in heaven. a marriage where both partners are not selfish and they truly understand each other. A marriage that is blissful and in a simple word, a perfect marriage. Marriage stabilize society by upbringing upright kids with a stable emotions and keep the human existential machine in a constant spin, it serves as a bedrock for moral, social, psychological supports for individuals which leads to their full mental development.

But given this age and time, marriages has becomes the exact opposite of its true definition. A union that people enter for conviniences and not for its intrinsical value, a union to domineer and cheat, a union where both partners do not have pure intentions for the other. Giving all things equal, marriage has lost its true value and if you will go into it, be ready for the challenges that comes after.

pansophist:
This thread is one of the few threads on nairaland that I read from beginning to the end. Nice point OP, but your point are mainly base on the negativity of marriage, its positive size superceed all your points. My own take on the subject is simple. Do whatever rocks your boat. If being single is your thing, or getting married, its a personal choice. But if I am to advise anyone, I must admit that being single gives a more peaceful and happy life.

According to Buddhist Philosophy (a religion I respect so much), attachment is one of the roots of all sufferings for humans. I can’t agree more - If we are to streamline this notion to marriage, then its not far fetched why many married people are miseable but try to feign a happy face. Attachment keeps taking you back to the source of your pain and it incur all manners of inconviniences, changing your life to suit other person lifestyle, lost of privacy and other things that make us personally comfortable, its a kind of a ''respectable slavery'' for men, a life where you have to live for your significant other, a life of servitude and a life of tamed wildness, a life devoid of freedom and making decisions at a snap of fingers, A life most men do not dream of.

But I wont exclude the positive sides of marriage either. Marriage is fun, but of course if its only a marriage that is truly made in heaven. a marriage where both partners are not selfish and they truly understand each other. A marriage that is blissful and in a simple word, a perfect marriage. Marriage stabilize society by upbringing upright kids with a stable emotions and keep the human existential machine in a constant spin, it serves as a bedrock for moral, social, psychological supports for individuals which leads to their full mental development.

But given this age and time, marriages has becomes the exact opposite of its true definition. A union that people enter for conviniences and not for its intrinsical value, a union to domineer and cheat, a union where both partners do not have pure intentions for the other. Giving all things equal, marriage has lost its true value and if you will go into it, be ready for the challenges that comes after.

dat is exactly why i am against marriage... u said d whole truth. lordreed, come and reply to dis

ColinAdua:


Yes!! Man! Welcome to my world. I already have a brand am working on.

hmmm nyc... i wish u all da best... meet me at d top

killjoy:



dat is exactly why i am against marriage... u said d whole truth. lordreed, come and reply to dis

You focus too much on the negative as though you didn't see this:

But I wont exclude the positive sides of marriage
either. Marriage is fun, but of course if its only a
marriage that is truly made in heaven. a marriage
where both partners are not selfish and they truly
understand each other. A marriage that is blissful
and in a simple word, a perfect marriage. Marriage
stabilize society by upbringing upright kids with a
stable emotions and keep the human existential
machine in a constant spin, it serves as a bedrock
for moral, social, psychological supports for
individuals which leads to their full mental
development.

And the begin completely eluded you

This thread is one of the few threads on
nairaland that I read from beginning to the end.
Nice point OP, but your point are mainly base
on the negativity of marriage, its positive size
superceed all your points.

The poster has a more balanced view of things than you so there really is nothing to answer.

LordReed:


You focus too much on the negative as though you didn't see this:

But I wont exclude the positive sides of marriage
either. Marriage is fun, but of course if its only a
marriage that is truly made in heaven. a marriage
where both partners are not selfish and they truly
understand each other. A marriage that is blissful
and in a simple word, a perfect marriage. Marriage
stabilize society by upbringing upright kids with a
stable emotions and keep the human existential
machine in a constant spin, it serves as a bedrock
for moral, social, psychological supports for
individuals which leads to their full mental
development.

i dnt focus on negative tins... i am realistic n practical... d good side of marriage is wot u can enjoy while still single... d bad side is sth u cant suffer unless ur married... search ur soul... im telling d truth n u know it

killjoy:



i dnt focus on negative tins... i am realistic n practical... d good side of marriage is wot u can enjoy while still single... d bad side is sth u cant suffer unless ur married... search ur soul... im telling d truth n u know it

I really understand your school of thoughts and I am sure you will find al reasons on earth to justify it, anyways I have a question for you and colinAdua. How wil the human race continue to exist if we all choose not to get married and having kids?

@bolded
There are things you can never get outside the instituition of marriage. The kind of care I got from my parents, I am sure I will never get it elsewhere. I have learnt overtime that your blood relations are usually the one that has your best interest at heart, this is why majority of the nuisance in our society today all have one thing in common, and that is a broken home.

As you begin to grow older, you will tend to realise that life has more meaning that material things and random sex you get as a single person, the love of family is one of life greatest blessings and I can testify to these because I come from a lovely home.

There have been times I was emotionally down and felt like giving up everything, and it works like magic the kind of support I got from my family, especially my mum ( women which you criticize so much). Humanity will go extinct in less than two generations if we adopt the single gospel you and your gangs are trying to preach. All kind of civilized mentality we adopted have threatened the family unit and its not too difficult to see the detoriating state of our society but such idealogy is still be perpetuated without rectifying the core cause

The dissolution of a family life is a subtle but deadly crime against humanity and nature. Homes will be destroyed, crime will increase, society will not be safe, lunatics and mentally underdevelop humans will be roaming everywhere and the gravest one will be the extinction of the human race, I am sure this is not what you wish for. Take a look at statistics in US, you will realise that the a huge amount of inmates have family issues, especially in the AA community.

Seems like animals knows better and we should learn from them, they practice the trait of family and continuity of their specie as nature defined, meanwhile humans who considered themselves an intellectual elevated species do not, unfortunately.

killjoy:



i dnt focus on negative tins... i am realistic n practical... d good side of marriage is wot u can enjoy while still single... d bad side is sth u cant suffer unless ur married... search ur soul... im telling d truth n u know it

No you are not realistic, you are opinionated and biased. What you are saying is like saying buy motorcycle instead of SUV because SUV is more expensive to maintain. It is all about choice. I used to see SUVs as pointless until I drove a couple and even though I still don't like SUVs I can appreciate what people see in them.

You cannot appreciate that marriage can have its fulfilling side and even if you don't want it don't knock it as though it has no merits.

pansophist:


I really understand your school of thoughts and I am sure you will find al reasons on earth to justify it, anyways I have a question for you and colinAdua. How wil the human race continue to exist if we all choose not to get married and having kids?

@bolded
There are things you can never get outside the instituition of marriage. The kind of care I got from my parents, I am sure I will never get it elsewhere. I have learnt overtime that your blood relations are usually the one that has your best interest at heart, this is why majority of the nuisance in our society today all have one thing in common, and that is a broken home.

As you begin to grow older, you will tend to realise that life has more meaning that material things and random sex you get as a single person, the love of family is one of life greatest blessings and I can testify to these because I come from a lovely home.

There have been times I was emotionally down and felt like giving up everything, and it works like magic the kind of support I got from my family, especially my mum ( women which you criticize so much). Humanity will go extinct in less than two generations if we adopt the single gospel you and your gangs are trying to preach. All kind of civilized mentality we adopted have threatened the family unit and its not too difficult to see the detoriating state of our society but such idealogy is still be perpetuated without rectifying the core cause

The dissolution of a family life is a subtle but deadly crime against humanity and nature. Homes will be destroyed, crime will increase, society will not be safe, lunatics and mentally underdevelop humans will be roaming everywhere and the gravest one will be the extinction of the human race, I am sure this is not what you wish for. Take a look at statistics in US, you will realise that the a huge amount of inmates have family issues, especially in the AA community.

Seems like animals knows better and we should learn from them, they practice the trait of family and continuity of their specie as nature defined, meanwhile humans who considered themselves an intellectual elevated species do not, unfortunately.

i knw not everyone is strong inof to remain single... so d world can neva remain single... some must definitely marry... ok? btw i dnt need someone to care for me, to make me happy, to love me, i am emotionally strong and can depend on myself... hard to believe but thats true. some tyms, d best moments of my day is wen am alone, either thinkin or plannin. bt alone.... for d emotional weaklings, plz let dem get married

LordReed:
@ColinAdua

English definition of “more trouble than it's worth”
more trouble than it's
worth
(ALSO not worth the trouble) INFORMAL
› If something is more trouble than it's worth or
is not worth the trouble, it is not important or
useful enough to make an effort doing it:
It's more trouble than it's worth to take it
back to the shop and ask for a replacement.
It's not worth the trouble (of) applying for that
job. You've no chance of getting it.

http://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/british/more-trouble-than-it-s-worth

Before you accuse me of lying please show how the above definition is not the same as worthless.

I never used my hands to type or write that "MARRIAGE IS WORTHLESS". All these your lying analogy is meaningless as SHIT.

You lied in one of your post that I almost cry. How? For your inconsistent replies? where you even typed that singlehood is good.

Simple, apology is what you need to type..

Coming to your question about procreation, the world is already over populate. Take Nigeria as a case study.

All these analogy will get you no where. And I am the last person that will show you the difference between "not worth the pains" and "worthless".

ColinAdua:



I never used my hands to type or write that "MARRIAGE IS WORTHLESS". All these your lying analogy is meaningless as SHIT.

You lied in one of your post that I almost cry. How? For your inconsistent replies? where you even typed that singlehood is good.

Simple, apology is what you need to type..

Coming to your question about procreation, the world is already over populate. Take Nigeria as a case study.

All these analogy will get you no where. And I am the last person that will show you the difference between "not worth the pains" and "worthless".

LoL, you are a funny fellow. You used an expression I show you the dictionary meaning and you say I am lying? I am lying because I said you are almost in tears that I don't agree with you? Sheesh, sorry I didn't know all these things killed your dog. My apologies.

killjoy:


dats ryt

tell these females to leave our thread alone oooooo

killjoy:


pre menstral syndrom... dat shit dat happens to women wen dey see der period... u knw... dem rippin out a tank to get a chocolate inside... or dancing and cryin at dsame time...

lols

Thoughtful post.

Op, I'm not surprised at your view of God's gift to humanity (Marriage) because there're always people like you in every generation - bitter, cynical, miopic, selfish, not-man-enough, ego-centric and lazy to search for gem in the dirt.

If you give up in finding a good wife that will add value to your life, I wonder how many more challenges in life you have given up on.

Please don't currupt the society with an irresponsible lifestyle by criticizing married folks because you cant get same.

You no wan marry but u still wan chop centre meat. I pity your girlfriend and other people u go deceive. In the end your type dey marry even turn marriage councellor... mtchwwwww!

So, make i leave these...? na lie a no dey gree.

[quote author=dajoaneke post=29487685]Op, I'm not surprised at your view of God's gift to humanity (Marriage) because there're always people like you in every generation - bitter, cynical, miopic, selfish, not-man-enough, ego-centric and lazy to search for gem in the dirt.

If you give up in finding a good wife that will add value to your life, I wonder how many more challenges in life you have given up on.

Please don't currupt the society with an irresponsible lifestyle by criticizing married folks because you cant get same.

You no wan marry but u still wan chop centre meat. I pity


screww you tooo

dajoaneke:
Op, I'm not surprised at your view of God's gift to humanity (Marriage) because there're always people like you in every generation - bitter, cynical, miopic, selfish, not-man-enough, ego-centric and lazy to search for gem in the dirt.

If you give up in finding a good wife that will add value to your life, I wonder how many more challenges in life you have given up on.

Please don't currupt the society with an irresponsible lifestyle by criticizing married folks because you cant get same.

You no wan marry but u still wan chop centre meat. I pity your girlfriend and other people u go deceive. In the end your type dey marry even turn marriage councellor... mtchwwwww!

I want to sincerely appreciate you for this insightful comment.
Thank you sir.

damesilver:


I want to sincerely appreciate you for this insightful comment.
Thank you sir.

sentiment and insult-ridden comment is ur idea of insight? ur either a cocckk-sucker or ur plain pathetic


or beta still ur being sarcastic (which i seriously doubt)

*

Scary

virginboy1:
Scary

d truth is meant to alert u. not scare u.