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oseod:
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Woman, I understand your predicament...
Not every woman is comfortable giving mouthaction, marriage shouldn't always be about what the man wants....marriage is more about understanding


To Every woman bashing op here

If your husband told you to lick/suck his anus (some men have some weird sexual fantasies......true!!!)
Or hand fisting your anus or vaginus
Or better still whip u like a goat when having šex with u (50 shades of gray style)

Would you agree just to save your marriage!!!!
Would you!!!!!!

Liberally bias crowd ass-lickers


Note
Those fetishes I posted above might be a big deal to some of you, but is not a big deal to some other women (e.g, porn actresses)

Same thing here, mouthaction doesn't sound a big deal to some of you, but is a big deal to some other women

We all have some principles or doctrines we aren't willing to compromise,
So why attack the woman?

Shame on all of you....

Just because mouthaction have become a generally accepted sex style(or whatever) doesn't mean everbody is okay with it

BTW I see nothing wrong in mouthaction

But the woman doesn't feel comfortable with it....shey its now her fault ni?

The man can go outside to get mouthaction since his wife didnt give him
The woman can also go outside to find love since her husband is denying her nau? No be so?

Woman

Best thing is to talk to your husband to know the limits of your sexuality
(The ones you or him can accept and the ones you can't,

And also to know the principles you are willing to compromise....then work on this, and you can still have a great sexual relationship together, even better than those who give mouthaction)

Many marriages that collapsed, the wives were good at sucking cucumber

daimsy:
spot on!!!

Pornography and the Bible
by Gary T. Panell

Today, if a person desires to look at naked men and women doing immoral things, it is very easy
to do so. Recently, I heard that there are more people watching pornography than there are
people who watch sports. There are many magazines, internet sites, videos, movies, cable T.V.
programs, and "music" programs that are porn-related. Most of these are accessed by the mere
touch of a button. There are also "live" strip shows in many cities and towns besides "Adult
Bookstores."
Access to porn today is extremely easy. Many local market stores also sell "adult magazines."
With these types of temptations being so prevalent, it is easy to destroy a life, a marriage, a
home, a country. It can become an addiction that is every much as bad as a drug, alcohol, or
gambling addiction.
The addiction will lead to death, physical and spiritual! What price are you willing to pay? Are
you willing to give up your family, your home, or your life? In the Bible we have the story of
Esau and Jacob in Genesis 25: 29-34:
"Jacob cooked a stew; Esau came in from the field, and he was weary. And Esau said to Jacob,
'Please feed me with that same red stew, for I am weary.' Therefore his name was called Edom
(Red). But Jacob said, 'Sell me your birthright as of this day.'
"And Esau said, 'Look, I am about to die; so what is this birthright to me?' Then Jacob said,
"Swear to me as of this day." So he swore to him, and sold his birthright to Jacob. And Jacob
gave Esau bread and stew of lentils; then he ate and drank, arose, and went his way. Thus Esau
despised his birthright."
You say, "What does this story have to do with porn?" It has everything to do with it!
You can fill your eyes with things God never intended for you to see, and sell your "birthright"
for a short time of pleasure, as Esau did. God has something far better for us in marriage, and
that is lasting "love," not "lust," that lasts a short time.
You say it will never happen to me; I only watch a little porn, just enough to have some fun. This
is the way Satan tempted people of the Bible. Eve got close enough to the forbidden tree to see
what it looked like. Then Satan tempted her even more, he said, "You will not surely die." So
when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, that it was pleasant to the eyes.Genesis
3:1-6
The Bible says, "For all that is in the world-the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride
of life-is not of the Father but is of the world." 1 John 2:16 says that two of the Devil's main tools
to destroy men and women are the "lust of the flesh," and the "lust of the eyes." Jesus said, "You
have heard that it was said to those of old, 'You shall not commit adultery.' "But I say to you that
whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart."
"If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for
you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell," adds
Matthew 5: 27-29
The temptation today to watch porn is for both men and women. Even countless married couples
say, "Oh, we just watch porn to encourage our sex life." Wrong, God never intended for a
husband and wife to need anyone other than their own spouse to cause stimulation. Scripture tells
us, "Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her
husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And
likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does." 1
Corinthians 7: 3, 4
You see Satan has taken something that is proper and right in marriage, and made it dirty. Dirt is
fine and useful for growing plants, but bring a bucket of it and pour it onto the carpet in the
living room and it is in the wrong place. So too, sex is right in marriage, Paul says, "Marriage is
honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge,"
Hebrews 13: 4. Using pictures of women or men other than your spouse for stimulation is
playing with fire.
Accessing porn is playing with fire, look at what Proverbs 6: 23-28, "For the commandment is a
lamp, and the law a light; reproofs of instruction are the way of life, to keep you from the evil
woman, from the flattering tongue of a seductress. Do not lust after her beauty in your heart, nor
let her allure you with her eyelids. For by means of a harlot a man is reduced to a crust of bread;
and an adulteress will prey upon his precious life. Can a man take fire to his bosom, and his
clothes not be burned? Can one walk on hot coals, and his feet not be seared?"
God created the woman's breasts for nursing babies, and for the husband's stimulation. The
husband doesn't need to see any other breasts for stimulation, other than his wife's. "Let her
breasts satisfy you at all times; and always be enraptured with her love. For why should you, my
son, be enraptured by an immoral woman, and be embraced in the arms of a seductress? For the
ways of man are before the eyes of the LORD, and He ponders all his paths," Proverbs 5:19b-21.
The Bible also makes it totally clear that men are never to go to another woman other than his
own wife for sexual satisfaction. Proverb 5: 15 says, "Drink water from your own cistern, and
running water from your own well. Should your fountains be dispersed abroad, streams of water
in the streets? Let them be only your own, and not for strangers with you. Let your fountain be
blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth."
Then, the New Testament, 1 Corinthians 6: 15-20 states, "Do you not know that your bodies are
members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot?
Certainly not! Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For 'the
two,' He says, 'shall become one flesh.'
"But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him. Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a
man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.
Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you
have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God
in your body and in your spirit, which are God's."
In Romans Chapter One, we see that immorality leads to homosexuality, in the individual, and in
a nation. Right now in the United States, I believe, we are moving from immorality into
homosexuality.
Here is what Romans says, "Therefore God also gave them up to uncleanness, in the lusts of their
hearts, to dishonor their bodies among themselves, who exchanged the truth of God for the lie,
and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen.
"For this reason God gave them up to vile passions. For even their women exchanged the natural
use for what is against nature. Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman,
burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in
themselves the penalty of their error which was due."
The next step down is all sorts of perversion, no doubt, such as pedophilia and bestiality.
This is where porn leads to, the only way out, and there is a way out, is through the salvation that
Christ alone can give. In 1 Corinthians 10: 13 it says, "No temptation has overtaken you except
such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond
what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be
able to bear it."
You have to realize that Satan is out to destroy as many of us as he possibly can. 1 Peter 5: 8
reminds us, "Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring
lion, seeking whom he may devour."
God wants us to be victorious in our lives, like Joseph. It says of him in Genesis 39: 7-12, that
when Potiphar's wife tried to seduce him, he ran from temptation. "Now it came to pass after
these things that his master's wife cast longing eyes on Joseph, and she said, 'Lie with me.' But
he refused, and told her 'How then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?' And so it
was, as she spoke to Joseph day by day, that he did not heed her, to lie with her or to be with her.
"But it happened about this time, when Joseph went into the house to do his work, and none of
the men of the house was inside, that she caught him by his garment, saying, 'Lie with me.' But
he left his garment in her hand, and fled and ran outside." You see he did exactly what God
wanted him to do to in order to overcome the temptation, he had to run from it, he had to get
away from it. Do Christians have these temptations? "YES," but God can help us to be
victorious!
We need to realize that people in these porn pictures are not playthings-they are people God
created and died to save. They are someone's sister, daughter, brother, son, etc. Job said that he
had made a covenant with God not to look at women in a lustful way. Job 31: 1 states, "I have
made a covenant with my eyes; why then should I look upon a young woman?"
How can you overcome this temptation to look at porn? First you have to have Christ Jesus
living in your heart. You can ask Him to forgive you, and invite Him to come into your heart
right now. Just pray and He will hear and answer your prayer. Then start reading your Bible
everyday. You will need to go to church and pray and live for God.
When temptation comes, and it will come often, do what Jesus did when He was tempted by
Satan, use the sword of the spirit, the Word of God! 1 John 4:4 says, "You are of God, little
children, and have overcome them, because He who is in you is greater than he who is in the
world."
Maybe you feel your sin is too great and God cannot forgive you. Look at what King David did,
the story is found in 2 Samuel 11: 2 "Then it happened one evening that David arose from his
bed and walked on the roof of the king's house. And from the roof he saw a woman bathing, and
the woman was very beautiful to behold. So David sent and inquired about the woman. And
someone said, 'Is this not Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam, the wife of Uriah the Hittite?' Then
David sent messengers, and took her; and she came to him, and he lay with her..."
You may know the rest of the story, but she became pregnant and David had her husband killed.
I don't think a person could get much worse than this. But this is not the end of the story. David
repented, and God forgave him. You can see David's prayer of repentance in Psalm 51:1ff "Have
mercy upon me, O God, according to Your loving-kindness; according to the multitude of Your
tender mercies, blot out my transgressions. Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity, and cleanse
me from my sin."
It is a beautiful prayer, and one that you might pray. You may be saying, "But I have been
involved in things God could never forgive." Consider 1 Corinthians 6: 9-11, which says, "Do
you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived.
Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves,
nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God."
You may be thinking, "see God says I am not going to heaven," but wait read the next verse:
"And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were
justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God." If you truly repent of your
sin and turn from it, God can, and will forgive you of that sin. He will save you, and make you a
child of His.
Will you ever sin again? No doubt, but that is why 1 John 1: 9 is in the Bible: "If we confess our
sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."
What would you feel like if Jesus were to visit you in person while you were looking at porn?
Jesus is looking at us all the time whether we know it or not. We want to be ready for His return
and not ashamed when He comes for us. Now, go and live for God! (All the verses in this article
are taken from the New King James Version of the Bible.
For more information: bible-christian.org

samonom:
It is just a matter of time, his mouth action urge will die off. Stick to ur decision, his Action is just temporary, talk wit him & advise him d implication of those movies, he will destroy his career & home. As a born again Christian, there are things u don't accept. I am disapointed on d man, any way pray about it & for him . if he continue report to ur pastor tkc

ConfessionsNgr:
Posted anonymously on

http://confessionsnigeria.com/post/140/i-cant-believe-my-husband-is-asking-me-for-this

orisebawo:
It is obvious from the post that the neccessary discussions that should take place between a couple in terms of desires, wants, expectations and limitations hasnt taking place, marriage is like a marathon and there isnt a one fits all manual, you will learn to adjust change and review as you go along, while pornography isnt the best and at first boils down to morality, certain situations will change your perspectives as you get older. for example i know of a pastor friend who had erection issues many years ago when he got married, the doctors adviced he watched pornography to help arouse him in addition when you go for a sperm analysis test, you are told to go into a room and produce a sample on your own, in the room are various materials to help arouse you, as a christian how do you deal with these issues.

You will have to ensure your decisions are always based on what helps to make the family stronger, as a man you want to be the only one to see your wife's nakednes but God forbid you have fertility issues, then you will find out you wont think twice of opening up to many different gynaecologists in search of a child or during fertility treatments. Somethings that are important now might not be as important in future, if you find your husband has a weak erection, what will you do, does the bible advice on how to approach such problems?

Wisdom is key in all things and the master key in marriage, my advice is to have an open mind and accept that marriage is a learning institution

This isnt a topic to bring to nairaland, look inside you and do what you feel is right, if it gives you the desired outcome fine, if not you will learn from it, you can never go wrong by keeping sensitive marital issues within the family and this isnt just about the sexual aspect, it applies to all aspect.

It is issues like this that can make a couple closer or distant............

I have been married 17 years

daimsy:
I would do that and even more to my hubby.

fyxboss:
coming straight to your house to marry u oooo #submissive wife

IBBG:
that shuld be pav 2 or 3. However I graduated frm there.

Utchgirl:
Before u blame, i'm a christian.

U r angry dt ur husband watched/watching porn.
U r hv a sex free courtship, right ?
And 4 ur mind,he is nt masturbating ? No sex, bt he is getting d pleasure 4rm som wia else.
U beta wake up ooo
U guys r taking dis christianity 2 far.
U wont use d same mouth u use in speaking in tongue 2 giv him mouth action ?
U cant be more catholic dan d pope. If care is nt taken, ur pastor might evn be getting dt mouth action 4rm his wife. Evn d bible said dt u must be submissive 2 ur husband.And u dnt hv any right 2 deprive ur husband 4rm his conjugal rite. U guys r now married so he hv d right 2 demand it 4rm u right, left and center.

U saw porn movies and u r angry.wonda wht u wil do if he stat having extra marital r/ship.Keep ur man 2 save ur marriage 4rm some ladies dt r ready 2 giv him mouth action .

ddippset:
i think i love this post. the world has gone mad!

HeavenShield:
PLEASE READ THIS POST. Well, i have read everything and i weep for the So-called Believers. Hmmm..1. Sister you came to the very wrong Platform to seek 4 advice. What a man sees, read and exposed to if not careful influences the man. 2. Many Marriages are hell-fire bound. 3. Marriage DEFINED by sex-pleasured will be turbulent. 4. If you are interested in heaven, Pray well before marriage 5. Did God make the mouth a vag*na? 6. If you have ever watched pornography you need deliverance..my sister your husband is not born again and needs deliverance if not you seek deliverance on his behalf.Your marriage is attacked.
Flee from every appearance of evil. 7. Your marriage will not crumble if you refuse to do it in Jesus name. Jude vs7..Even as sodom and Gomorrha...and going after STRANGE FLESH...suffering the vengence of eternal fire. Read Romans1:21-28..vain imagination...darkened foolish heart...for this cause God gave them up to vile affections...changing the natural use into that which is against nature...the men leaving the natural use of the woman...working that which is unseemly(indecent)..to a reprobate mind to do those things which are not convenient(fit, proper). Ladies and Gentlemen, brothers and sisters, is Mou*h*ctio* a sin? Judge for yourself.. Can sb take this to FP without changing the contents..Thank you

ddippset:
i think i love this post. the world has gone mad!

softysparky:
Oh ye devil, get behind me.

Tufanja:
Scrolling through the responses gives me a shocking view on the reason why love in our country is about to extinct.

We have embraced forms of Christianity that have little to do with what being a Christian is all about. If you go abroad to grass root places of Christian life you will get to feel what I mean to say. The type of Christianity one is trying "to sell" in most Nigerian churches is putting Christian faith to shame. Where is our common sense?

We have in our society old structures left in which the position and worth of a woman is not valued as it should be. We have a male dominant society with a deformed way of looking at women. This has also shaped our women to be what they are and to behave like they do. Those things mutually influence one another.

No self respecting lady who knows her dignity and knows what she is worth it will ever obey to someone else but to her heart and her conscience. Obeying means that you are in a lower rank or position or that you can't make your own judgements. Agreeing to the contrary means that you are equals and can discuss issues and find common grounds.

Relationships are meant to be based on searching understanding, not on one person obeying to another. How can u expect such a relationship to last? Don't we know that we are born to be free and not to be enslaved and that love is meant to set free? Relationships based on obeying are relationships based on power NOT on love. Where there is power there can't be love. The real power is in loving, not in making someone obey.

A woman is not obligated to satisfy the needs of a husband. A man and a woman are called to love. If you only love to get your own needs satisfied, you don't know what love is. The mentality that you have to give your husband what he wants to avoid him looking for it somewhere else is so sick and disgusting that any man or woman coming up with that thought should be forbidden to marry. How can such a mindset be the basis for a love relationship?

_The areaboy s can start shooting at me now ;-)_

oseod:
.

Woman, I understand your predicament...
Not every woman is comfortable giving mouthaction, marriage shouldn't always be about what the man wants....marriage is more about understanding


To Every woman bashing op here

If your husband told you to lick/suck his anus (some men have some weird sexual fantasies......true!!!)
Or hand fisting your anus or vaginus
Or better still whip u like a goat when having šex with u (50 shades of gray style)

Would you agree just to save your marriage!!!!
Would you!!!!!!

Liberally bias crowd ass-lickers


Note
Those fetishes I posted above might be a big deal to some of you, but is not a big deal to some other women (e.g, porn actresses)

Same thing here, mouthaction doesn't sound a big deal to some of you, but is a big deal to some other women

We all have some principles or doctrines we aren't willing to compromise,
So why attack the woman?

Shame on all of you....

Just because mouthaction have become a generally accepted sex style(or whatever) doesn't mean everbody is okay with it

BTW I see nothing wrong in mouthaction

But the woman doesn't feel comfortable with it....shey its now her fault ni?

The man can go outside to get mouthaction since his wife didnt give him
The woman can also go outside to find love since her husband is denying her nau? No be so?

Woman

Best thing is to talk to your husband to know the limits of your sexuality
(The ones you or him can accept and the ones you can't,

And also to know the principles you are willing to compromise....then work on this, and you can still have a great sexual relationship together, even better than those who give mouthaction)

Many marriages that collapsed, the wives were good at sucking cucumber