Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by Nobody: 10:03am On Jul 16, 2015 |
oseod: .
Woman, I understand your predicament... Not every woman is comfortable giving mouthaction, marriage shouldn't always be about what the man wants....marriage is more about understanding
To Every woman bashing op here
If your husband told you to lick/suck his anus (some men have some weird sexual fantasies......true!!!) Or hand fisting your anus or vaginus Or better still whip u like a goat when having šex with u (50 shades of gray style)
Would you agree just to save your marriage!!!! Would you!!!!!!
Liberally bias crowd ass-lickers
Note Those fetishes I posted above might be a big deal to some of you, but is not a big deal to some other women (e.g, porn actresses)
Same thing here, mouthaction doesn't sound a big deal to some of you, but is a big deal to some other women
We all have some principles or doctrines we aren't willing to compromise, So why attack the woman?
Shame on all of you....
Just because mouthaction have become a generally accepted sex style(or whatever) doesn't mean everbody is okay with it
BTW I see nothing wrong in mouthaction
But the woman doesn't feel comfortable with it....shey its now her fault ni?
The man can go outside to get mouthaction since his wife didnt give him The woman can also go outside to find love since her husband is denying her nau? No be so?
Woman
Best thing is to talk to your husband to know the limits of your sexuality (The ones you or him can accept and the ones you can't,
And also to know the principles you are willing to compromise....then work on this, and you can still have a great sexual relationship together, even better than those who give mouthaction)
Many marriages that collapsed, the wives were good at sucking cucumber You nailed it! Thumbs up |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by Nobody: 10:04am On Jul 16, 2015 |
Scrolling through the responses gives me a shocking view on the reason why love in our country is about to extinct.
We have embraced forms of Christianity that have little to do with what being a Christian is all about. If you go abroad to grass root places of Christian life you will get to feel what I mean to say. The type of Christianity one is trying "to sell" in most Nigerian churches is putting Christian faith to shame. Where is our common sense?
We have in our society old structures left in which the position and worth of a woman is not valued as it should be. We have a male dominant society with a deformed way of looking at women. This has also shaped our women to be what they are and to behave like they do. Those things mutually influence one another.
No self respecting lady who knows her dignity and knows what she is worth it will ever obey to someone else but to her heart and her conscience. Obeying means that you are in a lower rank or position or that you can't make your own judgements. Agreeing to the contrary means that you are equals and can discuss issues and find common grounds.
Relationships are meant to be based on searching understanding, not on one person obeying to another. How can u expect such a relationship to last? Don't we know that we are born to be free and not to be enslaved and that love is meant to set free? Relationships based on obeying are relationships based on power NOT on love. Where there is power there can't be love. The real power is in loving, not in making someone obey.
A woman is not obligated to satisfy the needs of a husband. A man and a woman are called to love. If you only love to get your own needs satisfied, you don't know what love is. The mentality that you have to give your husband what he wants to avoid him looking for it somewhere else is so sick and disgusting that any man or woman coming up with that thought should be forbidden to marry. How can such a mindset be the basis for a love relationship?
_The areaboy s can start shooting at me now ;-)_ 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by Gemc3(f): 10:10am On Jul 16, 2015 |
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Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by ProfTeeUNILORIT: 10:11am On Jul 16, 2015 |
sex styles, ok. mouthaction, not ok. is she a LovePeddler, u dont expect ur wife to be doing wht u watch on porn movies, if that is it, then go ahead and Bleep her tru d anal..,nonsense. ur wife is ur wife and not just any woman. thr r so many ways to get satisfaction not until one engage in mouthaction, if dat woman start it, i tell u, d man wl nt respect her, d day she stops it, dt wl b d day he starts cheating, so better dont start wht u cannot finish. nawa for d man self |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by IBBG(m): 10:11am On Jul 16, 2015 |
daimsy: spot on!!! that shuld be pav 2 or 3. However I graduated frm there. |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by POTUT(m): 10:20am On Jul 16, 2015 |
@OP, I can tell you these honestly: PORNOGRAPHPY1. Pornography is ill advised. Talk with your husband lovingly and firmly about quitting it completely. Remember, you have to be loving and firm at the same time. Nobody should be able to influence him more than you. MouthAction2. I have searched to find out if MouthAction/stimulation is forbidden or a sin. I have not found any reference in the Bible in which this is even alluded to, how much more condemned. Your spouse's body is for you, and vice versa. As long as you are married, and the act is in no way harmful to your bodies, please disabuse your mind and please your husband, and he is to please you in turn. TEMPLE OF THE HOLY SPIRIT3. You mentioned that you cannot use the same mouth you praise/pray with to stimulate your spouse. Now let me ask you, are you aware that your entire body is the Temple of the Holy Spirit? As it is, then, why do you even have sex at all...because at least one part of your body (your main private part) is involved in sex. Why do you even kiss, why do you touch (you lift up the same hands to God in prayer and clap in Church). Please don't overreach yourself, sex is ordained in marriage. Sex involves stimulations that differ from person to person, but all bordering on pleasure and satisfaction, bounded by your marriage vows to each other. ANAL SEX:I can tell you for sure that anal sex is forbidden. Why...because it was introduced by pop culture as the beginning of homosexual tendencies in men. This is wrong also because our backside is not designed for sex. It is not naturally lubricated, it is not different from person to person (meaning it can be substituted and would make no difference for the pleasure seeker involved). However, the same cannot be said for your mouth (naturally lubricated, sense of taste (and by extension, smell) - this is evident in some animals as they only get attracted to their mate through smell), your hands or main private part. Below you will find material culled from bible-christian.org that you can use to convince your spouse that pornography is BAD. You can copy/print it and read it together, lovingly. I hope things are clearer to you now. Pornography and the Bible by Gary T. Panell
Today, if a person desires to look at naked men and women doing immoral things, it is very easy to do so. Recently, I heard that there are more people watching pornography than there are people who watch sports. There are many magazines, internet sites, videos, movies, cable T.V. programs, and "music" programs that are porn-related. Most of these are accessed by the mere touch of a button. There are also "live" strip shows in many cities and towns besides "Adult Bookstores." Access to porn today is extremely easy. Many local market stores also sell "adult magazines." With these types of temptations being so prevalent, it is easy to destroy a life, a marriage, a home, a country. It can become an addiction that is every much as bad as a drug, alcohol, or gambling addiction. The addiction will lead to death, physical and spiritual! What price are you willing to pay? Are you willing to give up your family, your home, or your life? In the Bible we have the story of Esau and Jacob in Genesis 25: 29-34: "Jacob cooked a stew; Esau came in from the field, and he was weary. And Esau said to Jacob, 'Please feed me with that same red stew, for I am weary.' Therefore his name was called Edom (Red). But Jacob said, 'Sell me your birthright as of this day.' "And Esau said, 'Look, I am about to die; so what is this birthright to me?' Then Jacob said, "Swear to me as of this day." So he swore to him, and sold his birthright to Jacob. And Jacob gave Esau bread and stew of lentils; then he ate and drank, arose, and went his way. Thus Esau despised his birthright." You say, "What does this story have to do with porn?" It has everything to do with it! You can fill your eyes with things God never intended for you to see, and sell your "birthright" for a short time of pleasure, as Esau did. God has something far better for us in marriage, and that is lasting "love," not "lust," that lasts a short time. You say it will never happen to me; I only watch a little porn, just enough to have some fun. This is the way Satan tempted people of the Bible. Eve got close enough to the forbidden tree to see what it looked like. Then Satan tempted her even more, he said, "You will not surely die." So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, that it was pleasant to the eyes.Genesis 3:1-6 The Bible says, "For all that is in the world-the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life-is not of the Father but is of the world." 1 John 2:16 says that two of the Devil's main tools to destroy men and women are the "lust of the flesh," and the "lust of the eyes." Jesus said, "You have heard that it was said to those of old, 'You shall not commit adultery.' "But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." "If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell," adds Matthew 5: 27-29 The temptation today to watch porn is for both men and women. Even countless married couples say, "Oh, we just watch porn to encourage our sex life." Wrong, God never intended for a husband and wife to need anyone other than their own spouse to cause stimulation. Scripture tells us, "Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does." 1 Corinthians 7: 3, 4 You see Satan has taken something that is proper and right in marriage, and made it dirty. Dirt is fine and useful for growing plants, but bring a bucket of it and pour it onto the carpet in the living room and it is in the wrong place. So too, sex is right in marriage, Paul says, "Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge," Hebrews 13: 4. Using pictures of women or men other than your spouse for stimulation is playing with fire. Accessing porn is playing with fire, look at what Proverbs 6: 23-28, "For the commandment is a lamp, and the law a light; reproofs of instruction are the way of life, to keep you from the evil woman, from the flattering tongue of a seductress. Do not lust after her beauty in your heart, nor let her allure you with her eyelids. For by means of a harlot a man is reduced to a crust of bread; and an adulteress will prey upon his precious life. Can a man take fire to his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Can one walk on hot coals, and his feet not be seared?" God created the woman's breasts for nursing babies, and for the husband's stimulation. The husband doesn't need to see any other breasts for stimulation, other than his wife's. "Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; and always be enraptured with her love. For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman, and be embraced in the arms of a seductress? For the ways of man are before the eyes of the LORD, and He ponders all his paths," Proverbs 5:19b-21. The Bible also makes it totally clear that men are never to go to another woman other than his own wife for sexual satisfaction. Proverb 5: 15 says, "Drink water from your own cistern, and running water from your own well. Should your fountains be dispersed abroad, streams of water in the streets? Let them be only your own, and not for strangers with you. Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth." Then, the New Testament, 1 Corinthians 6: 15-20 states, "Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not! Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For 'the two,' He says, 'shall become one flesh.' "But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him. Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God's." In Romans Chapter One, we see that immorality leads to homosexuality, in the individual, and in a nation. Right now in the United States, I believe, we are moving from immorality into homosexuality. Here is what Romans says, "Therefore God also gave them up to uncleanness, in the lusts of their hearts, to dishonor their bodies among themselves, who exchanged the truth of God for the lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen. "For this reason God gave them up to vile passions. For even their women exchanged the natural use for what is against nature. Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due." The next step down is all sorts of perversion, no doubt, such as pedophilia and bestiality. This is where porn leads to, the only way out, and there is a way out, is through the salvation that Christ alone can give. In 1 Corinthians 10: 13 it says, "No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it." You have to realize that Satan is out to destroy as many of us as he possibly can. 1 Peter 5: 8 reminds us, "Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour." God wants us to be victorious in our lives, like Joseph. It says of him in Genesis 39: 7-12, that when Potiphar's wife tried to seduce him, he ran from temptation. "Now it came to pass after these things that his master's wife cast longing eyes on Joseph, and she said, 'Lie with me.' But he refused, and told her 'How then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?' And so it was, as she spoke to Joseph day by day, that he did not heed her, to lie with her or to be with her. "But it happened about this time, when Joseph went into the house to do his work, and none of the men of the house was inside, that she caught him by his garment, saying, 'Lie with me.' But he left his garment in her hand, and fled and ran outside." You see he did exactly what God wanted him to do to in order to overcome the temptation, he had to run from it, he had to get away from it. Do Christians have these temptations? "YES," but God can help us to be victorious! We need to realize that people in these porn pictures are not playthings-they are people God created and died to save. They are someone's sister, daughter, brother, son, etc. Job said that he had made a covenant with God not to look at women in a lustful way. Job 31: 1 states, "I have made a covenant with my eyes; why then should I look upon a young woman?" How can you overcome this temptation to look at porn? First you have to have Christ Jesus living in your heart. You can ask Him to forgive you, and invite Him to come into your heart right now. Just pray and He will hear and answer your prayer. Then start reading your Bible everyday. You will need to go to church and pray and live for God. When temptation comes, and it will come often, do what Jesus did when He was tempted by Satan, use the sword of the spirit, the Word of God! 1 John 4:4 says, "You are of God, little children, and have overcome them, because He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world." Maybe you feel your sin is too great and God cannot forgive you. Look at what King David did, the story is found in 2 Samuel 11: 2 "Then it happened one evening that David arose from his bed and walked on the roof of the king's house. And from the roof he saw a woman bathing, and the woman was very beautiful to behold. So David sent and inquired about the woman. And someone said, 'Is this not Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam, the wife of Uriah the Hittite?' Then David sent messengers, and took her; and she came to him, and he lay with her..." You may know the rest of the story, but she became pregnant and David had her husband killed. I don't think a person could get much worse than this. But this is not the end of the story. David repented, and God forgave him. You can see David's prayer of repentance in Psalm 51:1ff "Have mercy upon me, O God, according to Your loving-kindness; according to the multitude of Your tender mercies, blot out my transgressions. Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity, and cleanse me from my sin." It is a beautiful prayer, and one that you might pray. You may be saying, "But I have been involved in things God could never forgive." Consider 1 Corinthians 6: 9-11, which says, "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God." You may be thinking, "see God says I am not going to heaven," but wait read the next verse: "And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God." If you truly repent of your sin and turn from it, God can, and will forgive you of that sin. He will save you, and make you a child of His. Will you ever sin again? No doubt, but that is why 1 John 1: 9 is in the Bible: "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." What would you feel like if Jesus were to visit you in person while you were looking at porn? Jesus is looking at us all the time whether we know it or not. We want to be ready for His return and not ashamed when He comes for us. Now, go and live for God! (All the verses in this article are taken from the New King James Version of the Bible. For more information: bible-christian.org 1 Like |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by orisebawo(m): 10:22am On Jul 16, 2015 |
It is obvious from the post that the neccessary discussions that should take place between a couple in terms of desires, wants, expectations and limitations hasnt taking place, marriage is like a marathon and there isnt a one fits all manual, you will learn to adjust change and review as you go along, while pornography isnt the best and at first boils down to morality, certain situations will change your perspectives as you get older. for example i know of a pastor friend who had erection issues many years ago when he got married, the doctors adviced he watched pornography to help arouse him in addition when you go for a sperm analysis test, you are told to go into a room and produce a sample on your own, in the room are various materials to help arouse you, as a christian how do you deal with these issues.
You will have to ensure your decisions are always based on what helps to make the family stronger, as a man you want to be the only one to see your wife's nakednes but God forbid you have fertility issues, then you will find out you wont think twice of opening up to many different gynaecologists in search of a child or during fertility treatments. Somethings that are important now might not be as important in future, if you find your husband has a weak erection, what will you do, does the bible advice on how to approach such problems?
Wisdom is key in all things and the master key in marriage, my advice is to have an open mind and accept that marriage is a learning institution
This isnt a topic to bring to nairaland, look inside you and do what you feel is right, if it gives you the desired outcome fine, if not you will learn from it, you can never go wrong by keeping sensitive marital issues within the family and this isnt just about the sexual aspect, it applies to all aspect.
It is issues like this that can make a couple closer or distant............
The way you handle this with your husband is a good marker for how both of you will manage future crisis, i believe both of you can resolve this amicably, the manner by which you present your case also matters lot as it will also allow you understand yourselves
I have been married 17 years 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by NwaTheBabe: 10:36am On Jul 16, 2015 |
samonom: It is just a matter of time, his mouth action urge will die off. Stick to ur decision, his Action is just temporary, talk wit him & advise him d implication of those movies, he will destroy his career & home. As a born again Christian, there are things u don't accept. I am disapointed on d man, any way pray about it & for him . if he continue report to ur pastor tkc pls pls pls just shut d trap up, o.k?...'report to ur pastor.'..How dare you, busybodi |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by johnmark1234(m): 10:37am On Jul 16, 2015 |
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Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by tekslee: 10:39am On Jul 16, 2015 |
Listen dear,if u ain't gonna give ur man d mouth action he desires then trust me dat some other beautiful girl out there will be willing and will also keep ur man after that. If u cannot spice up d sexual aspect of ur marriage,justbwait till another lady helps ur man to it,,christianity has nothing to do with d sexuallives of couples, Be guided |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by NwaTheBabe: 11:00am On Jul 16, 2015 |
orisebawo: It is obvious from the post that the neccessary discussions that should take place between a couple in terms of desires, wants, expectations and limitations hasnt taking place, marriage is like a marathon and there isnt a one fits all manual, you will learn to adjust change and review as you go along, while pornography isnt the best and at first boils down to morality, certain situations will change your perspectives as you get older. for example i know of a pastor friend who had erection issues many years ago when he got married, the doctors adviced he watched pornography to help arouse him in addition when you go for a sperm analysis test, you are told to go into a room and produce a sample on your own, in the room are various materials to help arouse you, as a christian how do you deal with these issues.
You will have to ensure your decisions are always based on what helps to make the family stronger, as a man you want to be the only one to see your wife's nakednes but God forbid you have fertility issues, then you will find out you wont think twice of opening up to many different gynaecologists in search of a child or during fertility treatments. Somethings that are important now might not be as important in future, if you find your husband has a weak erection, what will you do, does the bible advice on how to approach such problems?
Wisdom is key in all things and the master key in marriage, my advice is to have an open mind and accept that marriage is a learning institution
This isnt a topic to bring to nairaland, look inside you and do what you feel is right, if it gives you the desired outcome fine, if not you will learn from it, you can never go wrong by keeping sensitive marital issues within the family and this isnt just about the sexual aspect, it applies to all aspect.
It is issues like this that can make a couple closer or distant............
I have been married 17 years
spot on sir, pls help me tell them ooo... i don't understand how a woman would get married to a man n start forming big girl, or feeling ashamed, or holier than thou; that is ur HUSBAND my dear, abi dem force u to marry am? if all u could do to mother a child was to give him head, wouldn't u suuccckk the hell out of his di.ckk till he faints mbok...or absconds (whichever cums first) Come on ppl, lets b real here. If i were you, i'd watch a little of d porn movie self to learn d ALL the styles he enjoys, you shld be glad ur oga opened up to you about it. If its about the hygeine aspect, lead by example and ensure to always shower or freshen up b4 play time, things like dat, also she shld be honest and polite but firm in her communication to him it's sooo key and shld be both ways... btw am not married(yet), and as you may have sniffed, we #proD!ck |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by fyxboss(m): 11:03am On Jul 16, 2015 |
daimsy: I would do that and even more to my hubby.
coming straight to your house to marry u oooo #submissive wife |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by xmaticguy(m): 11:30am On Jul 16, 2015 |
what's the big deal in mouth action? |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by daimsy(f): 11:33am On Jul 16, 2015 |
fyxboss: coming straight to your house to marry u oooo #submissive wife lol. |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by Sunseeker: 11:34am On Jul 16, 2015 |
Some woman are Foolish !! He paid dowry and now your fighting because of duty ! d ting is sweet but your forming like ingrate. Oya, when dey bring a new wife from da village u will cry. |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by NathanielJande: 11:34am On Jul 16, 2015 |
My dear sister, I quite understand your predicament. But I can assure you, it is not insurmountable. It's just unfortunate that you are using a wrong platform. You are a spiritual person, you should understand what I mean. Here most people are just like your husband (in the same bondage) and you can not expect them to give you the right counsel, they will rather compound your problem as you can already see in their various responses. Candidly, what you need to do fast before your marriage crumbles (God forbid) is PRAY. When I say prayer, I do not mean the usual , normal, conventional prayer. You need to pray like you have never done before. You need DELIVERANCE PRAYER for your husband, because he needs serious deliverance now. You need prayer and counseling. I don't know the church you attend, but you need to meet those who are very matured in the Lord, and understand what DELIVERANCE is. I mean your man needs deliverance, but for now it's you who have to undertake it for him or on his behalf. There is nothing God can not do. If somebody is telling you that what your husband is demanding is normal, it is not true , at least for Christians. It may be normal or right to some people of like kind, but definitely not for a child of God. The Bible says "All things are lawful for me, but all things are not expedient, all things are lawful for me, but all things edify not" (1 Corinth 10:23 & 6:12). your husband has been overtaken by some strange spirits especially the demons of porn. So as I advised, go to a deliverance ministry and you will be told what to do. There are many of them around, but be very careful not to fall in to the hands of impostors. I am a member of MFM ministry, and I know what I am talking about. If you don't mind, you can just walk into MFM HQs at Onike, Yaba, and demand to see a deliverance minister or group an tell them your problem, or you can call my number (08034731995), I will link you to a senior pastor for prayer and counseling. God bless you. |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by Ramj: 11:35am On Jul 16, 2015 |
Orisebawo and POTUT have done justice to this issue.
If I were your husband I don't think I would be glad to see this on Nairaland and you never know I he will or if he has.
So if people are blasting you pls just take it as a pinch of salt and take the positives and u can also delete the post when u r done
Good you guys are Christians but you should be gentle in nailing your husband. In his bid to be better in bed someone might have told him if he watches porn he will be able to satisfy you better and hence his actions. Be careful in judging.
YOU NEED TO TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND AND BOTH OF YOU DISCUSS. I am sure you call him baby, this and that.. Then call HIM and you guys need to do a heartfelt holding nothing back talk. That's the only way he can first drop the porn and both of u learning to explore one another's body appropriately.
I advice you to read the comments by POTUT.
You kiss your husband, he kisses ur body and I want to believe your breast.. Why are not bothered that it is the same mouth that he will use to pray and worship God.
You both need to talk and open up and PLEASE BE OPEN TO EXPLORE YOUR SEX LIFE TO GET THE BEST FOR BOTH OF YOU.
DONT BE RIGID THERE ARE CHRISTIAN FORUMS AND MEETING THAT NOW DEAL WITH SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP IN COUPLES.
FIND THE PERFECT TIME AND GET YOU HUSBAND.
Wish you a happy ever after marriage in Jesus name. cheers 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by daimsy(f): 11:36am On Jul 16, 2015 |
IBBG: that shuld be pav 2 or 3. However I graduated frm there. congrats. |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by braxjay(m): 11:57am On Jul 16, 2015 |
Utchgirl: Before u blame, i'm a christian.
U r angry dt ur husband watched/watching porn. U r hv a sex free courtship, right ? And 4 ur mind,he is nt masturbating ? No sex, bt he is getting d pleasure 4rm som wia else. U beta wake up ooo U guys r taking dis christianity 2 far. U wont use d same mouth u use in speaking in tongue 2 giv him mouth action ? U cant be more catholic dan d pope. If care is nt taken, ur pastor might evn be getting dt mouth action 4rm his wife. Evn d bible said dt u must be submissive 2 ur husband.And u dnt hv any right 2 deprive ur husband 4rm his conjugal rite. U guys r now married so he hv d right 2 demand it 4rm u right, left and center.
U saw porn movies and u r angry.wonda wht u wil do if he stat having extra marital r/ship.Keep ur man 2 save ur marriage 4rm some ladies dt r ready 2 giv him mouth action . |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by Handsome4real(m): 12:03pm On Jul 16, 2015 |
He is your your husband. Give him a mouth action. You can talk to him about the porn but satisfy his sexual desires. Submit to him and pray for him. God will solve the porn issue he has. |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by gbens2000(m): 12:14pm On Jul 16, 2015 |
ddippset: i think i love this post. the world has gone mad! pls DAT post did not make any sense instead it rings division.my dear look around u wella. |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by Handsome4real(m): 12:18pm On Jul 16, 2015 |
HeavenShield: PLEASE READ THIS POST. Well, i have read everything and i weep for the So-called Believers. Hmmm..1. Sister you came to the very wrong Platform to seek 4 advice. What a man sees, read and exposed to if not careful influences the man. 2. Many Marriages are hell-fire bound. 3. Marriage DEFINED by sex-pleasured will be turbulent. 4. If you are interested in heaven, Pray well before marriage 5. Did God make the mouth a vag*na? 6. If you have ever watched pornography you need deliverance..my sister your husband is not born again and needs deliverance if not you seek deliverance on his behalf.Your marriage is attacked. Flee from every appearance of evil. 7. Your marriage will not crumble if you refuse to do it in Jesus name. Jude vs7..Even as sodom and Gomorrha...and going after STRANGE FLESH...suffering the vengence of eternal fire. Read Romans1:21-28..vain imagination...darkened foolish heart...for this cause God gave them up to vile affections...changing the natural use into that which is against nature...the men leaving the natural use of the woman...working that which is unseemly(indecent)..to a reprobate mind to do those things which are not convenient(fit, proper). Ladies and Gentlemen, brothers and sisters, is Mou*h*ctio* a sin? Judge for yourself.. Can sb take this to FP without changing the contents..Thank you You need Salvation. Stop judging. A Christian that commits a sin is not a sinner. |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by achiever3(f): 12:24pm On Jul 16, 2015 |
ddippset: i think i love this post. the world has gone mad! I tell you, something is definitely wrong with this generation. |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by Handsome4real(m): 12:24pm On Jul 16, 2015 |
softysparky:
Oh ye devil, get behind me. You better make up your mind to give your husband a Mouth Action. My wife be ready for MouthAction cos I'm also ready for that. By the way you are pretty. Can we be friends ? 1 Like |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by Nobody: 12:26pm On Jul 16, 2015 |
@NathanielJandi are u married PUTOUT I rlly admire ur advice on dis subject... Marriage is an institution that no one will ever graduate from. U claim to speak in tongues with ur mouth for that reason u won't pleasure ur marriage...how about kissing Didn't God created Eve for Adam's sake? That's because God in his wisdom knows d man has sexual desires in him. Thou I won't encourage porn because to me its morally in matured but its a sign that ur husband is inexperience so he has to do it to keep u his wife. Have u eva thought how u wud feel if he doesn't satisfy u on bed? Has a matter of fact self u r alrdy complaining because he's denying sex. So same thing goes with him...in relationship the moment each party start protecting his personality and selfish interest trust such relationship is heading for a crash. Frm d look of tins u don't wanna compromise because u feel its unholy and ur husband too because believe there's not amount of discussion that will make him change his mind cos its alrdy made up. U signed for it and every other tin right frm d day u accepted to live ur father's house to get married to him so deal wit it else there exist just one way, and that way is d exist door (divorce) after ur case is not d 1st and to even make it easy no kids yet. Babe biko do anytin to keep ur marriage o because there r no men outside o that will love u do way ur hubby does o. I'm older than ur hubby thou still single and among d 5ladies I'd dated have dated all sabi am and even love it die...and I can say no there's no man dat don't like it so babe sit up and also advice ur hubby to stay away frm porn because dis is one of d effect of pornography...- hope he doesn't request anus sex some day...pray o...may God bless u! |
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Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by Nobody: 12:49pm On Jul 16, 2015 |
Shut up and suck>> |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by anumide(f): 12:50pm On Jul 16, 2015 |
[quote author=PasNina post=35908485]
"Big hug"! .... from where?
As you tiny reach!
Gerrout |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by amacastel: 1:01pm On Jul 16, 2015 |
jamest4real:
Yes der he is negative we just check last month |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by tjskii(f): 1:05pm On Jul 16, 2015 |
Mscheeeeewwww nonsense talk, dey dia no give am bj u here.. Some ladies r just silly |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by RapLawd(m): 1:08pm On Jul 16, 2015 |
Tufanja: Scrolling through the responses gives me a shocking view on the reason why love in our country is about to extinct.
We have embraced forms of Christianity that have little to do with what being a Christian is all about. If you go abroad to grass root places of Christian life you will get to feel what I mean to say. The type of Christianity one is trying "to sell" in most Nigerian churches is putting Christian faith to shame. Where is our common sense?
We have in our society old structures left in which the position and worth of a woman is not valued as it should be. We have a male dominant society with a deformed way of looking at women. This has also shaped our women to be what they are and to behave like they do. Those things mutually influence one another.
No self respecting lady who knows her dignity and knows what she is worth it will ever obey to someone else but to her heart and her conscience. Obeying means that you are in a lower rank or position or that you can't make your own judgements. Agreeing to the contrary means that you are equals and can discuss issues and find common grounds.
Relationships are meant to be based on searching understanding, not on one person obeying to another. How can u expect such a relationship to last? Don't we know that we are born to be free and not to be enslaved and that love is meant to set free? Relationships based on obeying are relationships based on power NOT on love. Where there is power there can't be love. The real power is in loving, not in making someone obey.
A woman is not obligated to satisfy the needs of a husband. A man and a woman are called to love. If you only love to get your own needs satisfied, you don't know what love is. The mentality that you have to give your husband what he wants to avoid him looking for it somewhere else is so sick and disgusting that any man or woman coming up with that thought should be forbidden to marry. How can such a mindset be the basis for a love relationship?
_The areaboy s can start shooting at me now ;-)_
Anybody who dare pull any trigger against you will get down first... This is the second good post I've read throughout this thread... @Op Woman kindly follow your heart, if he looks someone else to do it, quit the hellic marriage... there's someone out there who will always want it the right way!!! |
Re: I Can’t Believe My Husband Is Asking Me For This!! by RapLawd(m): 1:09pm On Jul 16, 2015 |
oseod: .
Woman, I understand your predicament... Not every woman is comfortable giving mouthaction, marriage shouldn't always be about what the man wants....marriage is more about understanding
To Every woman bashing op here
If your husband told you to lick/suck his anus (some men have some weird sexual fantasies......true!!!) Or hand fisting your anus or vaginus Or better still whip u like a goat when having šex with u (50 shades of gray style)
Would you agree just to save your marriage!!!! Would you!!!!!!
Liberally bias crowd ass-lickers
Note Those fetishes I posted above might be a big deal to some of you, but is not a big deal to some other women (e.g, porn actresses)
Same thing here, mouthaction doesn't sound a big deal to some of you, but is a big deal to some other women
We all have some principles or doctrines we aren't willing to compromise, So why attack the woman?
Shame on all of you....
Just because mouthaction have become a generally accepted sex style(or whatever) doesn't mean everbody is okay with it
BTW I see nothing wrong in mouthaction
But the woman doesn't feel comfortable with it....shey its now her fault ni?
The man can go outside to get mouthaction since his wife didnt give him The woman can also go outside to find love since her husband is denying her nau? No be so?
Woman
Best thing is to talk to your husband to know the limits of your sexuality (The ones you or him can accept and the ones you can't,
And also to know the principles you are willing to compromise....then work on this, and you can still have a great sexual relationship together, even better than those who give mouthaction)
Many marriages that collapsed, the wives were good at sucking cucumber We really need your kind in our societies bro!!! @ Good God bless ya!!! 1 Like |