vizkiz:


I guess that is where the quote "experience is the best teacher" comes in

SUGARBEE:
Good morning guys.. I've been burdened with this so I decided share.

My best friend's been engaged to her fiance for over six months now and they intend on getting Married soon.

Now the thing is even before they were engaged and still dating, I and her fiance were very close friends to the extent of him coming to me whenever they had a fight for advice which I did give him with with no negative thoughts. .

Now just last week, he came to my place all drunk and wasted. I know him and I know he doesn't drink so I knew something bad happened. In his drunken state I tried asking him what the matter was but he wouldn't tell. Few minutes later he was dosing off on my couch and woke up an hour later as he was back to his senses. I served him food to eat since he was hungry and then asked him again what the matter was to have made him gotten himself drunk.

The next thing I knew was him going on his knees and telling me stuff like ; he made a mistake in dating my friend and it was me he really loved. That he had loved me from day one but didn't have the guts to tell me cuz of my friend and that he was fed up with my friend and now sincerely wants me to be his and be the only one in his life.

Guys am really confused as I don't know what to do now. . I sent him out of the house telling him I was gonna think about it but I know I shouldn't have told him that but sent him out rightly out.

Please I need your advice. . I don't want to hurt my friend's feelings neither do I want to hurt his own too. . Thanks..

Matured comments please..

Cc lalasticlala, ishilove

Gurgle:


Yeah! although I wish the experience wasn't necessary lol

it is Necessary bae, that is life, it sucks! But we just have to take caution. And I also feel we also have better way of handling those situation since we read about it already

vizkiz:


it is Necessary bae, that is life, it sucks! But we just have to take caution. And I also feel we also have better way of handling those situation since we read about it already

Omotayor123:

You are so on point my dear.

Gurgle:


Yes. And yeah hopefully we can remember all of it when the time comes

MrsPhyno:
Odikwa serious

Please date the fiancé and allow them to break up cause it wouldn't have been a good marriage anyways. Your friend will naturally cut off ties with you, which will be good for her since your obviously not a good friend. The dude will probably break up with you later but at least your friend will have taken the trash out of her life

Sabrwahaqqo:

Quite intelligent af u

MrsPhyno:
Oh coming from you that compliment means so much

MrsPhyno:
Oh coming from you that compliment means so much

vizkiz:


yeah, hopefully. But in most cases, we don't remember anything at that moment...we only do what we "think" is right.

I.E a nigga went ahead begging. His girlfriend after a breakup because he thought it was the right think, he thought she will take him back and love him again. After reading several times that you don't engage in Exes...imagine!

Sabrwahaqqo:

**eyes rolling**

SUGARBEE:


He's not the player kind of guy

Gurgle:


Yeah I have been reading lately about behaviour. one thing that keeps coming up is the importance of habit. If you build up a habit of doing something, at a moment of crisis when you need to change what you normally do, you wont be able to even when you know that doing the usual thing is bad for you

Such is the case you mentioned; if he had kept a mentality of not going back to the ex, he wouldn't have stumbled. But when he hit a tough situation all his reasoning left him even though he had seen evidence that begging her wouldn't be successful

SUGARBEE:


Thanks for the advice. .

And in your case, ladies are more Seductive than guys so please stay away from her..

BoboYekini:
You think.
Btw, why couldn't you get your own boyfriend all this while instead of playing footsie with your girl's man? You drove him to this so you can look like some irresistible siren. Yeah, this was all about your ego. Now you've made fools of them both, you happy now?

vizkiz:


100% correct. I guess you have experienced that before

[/quote][quote author=MrsPhyno post=37194195]Odikwa serious

Please date the fiancé and allow them to break up cause it wouldn't have been a good marriage anyways. Your friend will naturally cut off ties with you, which will be good for her since your obviously not a good friend. The dude will probably break up with you later but at least your friend will have taken the trash out of her life

Gurgle:


Yes lol its very irritating. Have you?

ThatVaselineGuy:


bae, der is notin mor posive dan dat ur fresh yansh, chai!

do u no how many tim av try 2 grab dat yansh tru ma screen

now ma screen av crak

SUGARBEE:


He's not the player kind of guy

madamGift:



well said!!!
A friend that can even try to consider/ponder over dating her bestie's fiancee is not a friend worth having.

SUGARBEE:


Maybe you have not experienced it that's why you're like this. .

Am confused myself cuz I don't know if am beginning to fall in love with him

madamGift:



well said!!!
A friend that can even try to consider/ponder over dating her bestie's fiancee is not a friend worth having.

IamLEGEND1:
give the guy the cowgirl position.....

and he would cling onto you like his life depended on it.

wen girls go ever get small sense i no know.

a guy barges into your apartment in the middle of the night(drunk) and passes out on ur couch and wakes up in his half-slumber to profess his unrequited love for you..............

and suddenly, you are confused on what next to do.

So just so we're clear, i'm saying this in the least offensive tone possible......

But you are an ídiot with a fish's brain.(like the majority of the female gender).

act all tough and shìt, but when it comes to simple emotional matters where the choice to make is as obvious as when u want to take a píss.........

All common sense goes out the window.


#SMHviolently

trapQ:
what do you mean by " you have fish brain, like majority of the female gender"
that statement is hyper offensive. well you could be referring to your sister. that you've met senseless girls doesn't mean there aren't reasonable ones.