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Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by edward1984(m): 11:46pm On Sep 13, 2015 |
If there is doubt, something is wrong somewhere some how, If you go ahead marrying this guy especially now you are already disconnected, is like kicking a nail with you barefoot. Good luck.. peace out. Visit my thread for extremely cheap/clean cars from Germany. |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by onadana: 11:46pm On Sep 13, 2015 |
Squig:[color=#006600][/color] The grass will always look greener from the other side....spend 5years courting the new guy...then see the difference .Thank me later.Women....always complaining and never satisfied. |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by aimuan(m): 11:47pm On Sep 13, 2015 |
Squig:you said he's got everything u want in a man, what else attracting you ro the new guy? |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by xamuelotu(m): 11:47pm On Sep 13, 2015 |
Tashaamania:month to her marriage and ur advising her to weigh the option, after the young man has send invitation to friends and family u just won 2 disappoint him lyk dat.am jst surprise the men a given her better advice than her fellow woman 1 Like |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by Nobody: 11:49pm On Sep 13, 2015 |
Squig: Sorry babe this is one decision you are going to take by yourself. it's you that can decide how you want to live your life. take care because truly if at this point you don't know what you want, then you prob shouldn't be married, that way you don't drag someone else into your confusion, when it comes to Marriage you just have to know this is what you want. NOTE: Besides none of us want to held responsible for such grave decision, so like every other useless advice "just follow your heart" |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by MrBasketball: 11:49pm On Sep 13, 2015 |
Pidggin:This is damn funny. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by Richardonald(m): 11:52pm On Sep 13, 2015 |
Setaje:i sugest maybe d new guy na fine boy with small change u dont know say those guyz dey lyk magnet and dis gal don fall 4 trap 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by highmood(m): 11:54pm On Sep 13, 2015 |
cococandy:BEAUTIFUL |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by sukkot: 11:56pm On Sep 13, 2015 |
endeedike:there is no such thing as happiness in life. happiness is a bus-stop and not a destination. life is a series of moments. sometimes you are sad and at times you are happy. so happiness does not lie with marrying any man. you can get to that bus-stop frequently if you can capture the spirit of contentment . so thats a very bad advice to give to that woman 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by TalkingBird: 12:00am On Sep 14, 2015 |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by highmood(m): 12:03am On Sep 14, 2015 |
freecocoa:nice. I am simply impressed that ladies are giving a candid advice. The underline truth again is that if she looses this, who knows when next the other will come. Maybe when she is middle 40. For me, a bird in hand is worth a million in the sky. The devil u know too well miss o.p, is better than the angel u just met yesterday and mind you, Not all that glitters are gold. To the O.P, if you thinks you wants to give the other man a try, fine, but she shouldn't blame the devil. I suspect the new guy may be a "wayo" guy or a tester . After he is done, he leaves the O.P in a very Cold regrets. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by toksbisola: 12:06am On Sep 14, 2015 |
@OP; tread carefully. YOU YOURSELF MADE THIS STATEMENT AND I QUOTE; “HE’S GOT EVERYTHING I WANT IN A MAN” If I may ask; then WHAT EXACTLY ARE YOU LOOKING FOR AGAIN? For goodness sake, you have no business getting so close to another man; OWING TO THE FACT THAT YOUR WEDDING DATE HAS BEEN FIXED AND IT’S NOT AS IF YOU ARE STILL WAITING TO PICK A DATE. To make it worst, you’re also being dishonest by not telling the new man that you’re about to get married. From the look of things, you really don’t deserve your fiancé (No offence; hope none taken) as you’ll most likely break his heart. In fact you’ve ALREADY BROKEN HIS HEART BY SEEING ANOTHER MAN. You’re not yet married to your fiancé and you’re already having doubts and opening your heart to another man. It is better for both of you to count your financial loss and shame before the wedding takes place; than when the wedding occurs, you both start misbehaving. In all, note that some people do have cold-feet to the period leading up to their wedding day but having a close relationship with another man who’s not your fiancé SHOULD BE A NO NO; as it is not what would calm your cold-feet; it’ll only make it worse. You have not portrayed a good character by being so close with another man and when someone does something like this, they’re termed as “CHEATERS”. IN THEORY, YOU’RE CHEATING ON YOUR FIANCE PLAIN AND SIMPLE. It's not only when you’re caught red-handed before it becomes an avenue for cheating. This other man you’re now so entangled with, will most likely use you and dumb you. He’s not a man of good character if you ask me; you know why, because he knows you’re already in a committed relationship and he is still coming after you. He really shouldn’t have encouraged you to continue with him. If he had good character, then he should have at least waited until you broke-up with your fiancé (If that’s what you want) before getting this close to you. Now let me portray a scenario with this your new guy; how would your new man feel if another man is involved with his fiancée when he’s picked a wedding date already with her? I’m sure he would not like it one bit and he’ll raise dust if need be. Let him put himself in the position of your fiancé and take matters from there. The saying; DO ON TO OTHERS WHAT YOU WANT DONE TO YOU comes to mind. Don’t rush into anything CALLED MARRIAGE FOR NOW as you DON'T COME ACROSS AS SOMEONE WHO IS MENTALLY/EMOTIONAL READY TO TAKE THAT STEP YET. Having said that, maybe it'll be another option to have a heart to heart with your fiancé and align your fears and issues that you feel are occurring to hinder/distract your soon to be union. Just a side note, something tells me if you go ahead with this marriage, and you start having issues with your husband, you might stray into the hands of another man. I HOPE I’M WRONG. In all, people can only advice you about the pros and cons about going ahead with this marriage but can’t decide for you as only you can make that final decision. No one else would be there with you in your marital home as you’ll be the one who would live with whatever situation that arises whether you go ahead with the marriage or not. Lastly, I’ll advice you to think very hard BEFORE GOING AHEAD WITH THE WEDDING; ESPECIALLY SINCE YOU’RE NOW HAVING DOUBTS. Let me remind you that MARRIAGE IS NOT A BED OF ROSES and a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. I rest my case. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by Dadehmola: 12:07am On Sep 14, 2015 |
Squig: Ofcourse, the ready-made excuse synonymous with loose girls like yourself... Squig: Aha... See wahala oo What exactly are you feeling like?? Cinderella?? Funniest thing be say e sure me die say you no too fine and you flat pass drawing board Upon say you dey cheat, you even have the effontery to spew this kinda bullshit, you arrogant heifer!! No be your fault anways... Squig: you are a 2-timing, ungrateful babe who from all indications, isnt doing this for the 1st time. I just hope your fiance didnt have unprotected sex with you. Squig: Olosho Alert!!!! I hope the fiance finds out ASAP before he marries this Animashaun 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by omoikea(m): 12:07am On Sep 14, 2015 |
if your boyfriend still wants you, continue with the marriage to avoid stories that touch.. this new guy might not even have marriage plans for you, so don't lose at both sides.... play the game wisely 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by 400billionman: 12:08am On Sep 14, 2015 |
Squig: Were you inside thesame town/state and didnt talk to your guy for 3 whole months ? If yes, then your differences are too much. That relationship is sick. When dating, such quarrels should not exceed one week before reconnection... 1 Like |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by Nobody: 12:10am On Sep 14, 2015 |
dee hoes aint loyal, it aint bout ow much u bn fvcking dem or ow much u been spending on dem. its just dis loose nut in their skull dat makes dem loose their mind all of a sudden n den hook up with someother guy. mehn fvck dat b3tch |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by sinisters(m): 12:16am On Sep 14, 2015 |
Watch this movie(Confession of a marriage counsellor ). Thank me later. That new guy ll break your heart faster than you think. If you don't want your prayer to be looking for husband ,grab your ist guy. |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by smooooooth: 12:19am On Sep 14, 2015 |
OP you na confirmed Olosho. I just feel sorry for your fiance not to have noticed in 5years. The day he marries you will be a curse because his life will be shortened by half. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by nnacent(m): 12:22am On Sep 14, 2015 |
edward1984:I doubt if u are married. My dear doubts at d last minute is jst so normal. One thing dat is worth knowing is dat marriage is about commitment and less of feeling. 5yrs and uve been fine is a clear indication dat ur marriage is God approved. Dont let dis last minute doubt affect anyting. Even after marriage u will still see people/couplea that will make u feel u made a mistake. But note:Marriage is committment. I got married in June this year, i am telling u my experience. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by edward1984(m): 12:26am On Sep 14, 2015 |
nnacent: What about the fact she start seeing another guy ? |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by refreshrate: 12:29am On Sep 14, 2015 |
I don't get all this talk about OP talking to her husband to be. God is answering the poor boys mothers prayer that he gets a good wife OP don't mind then jare go after wetin dey hungry you. If it was the boy now they'll say all men are dogs What do we call this? 1 Like |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by vulpeslopez(m): 12:29am On Sep 14, 2015 |
When the New guy is done screwing U,U will wake up from the fairytale dreams u have been having....Click LIKE if u think Op is a Cheat and SHARE if u think the new guy wan just use and dump her. 3 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by prof22(m): 12:32am On Sep 14, 2015 |
Well, I'll tell you nothing but the truth, young lady, marriage is the best thing and it is better you do it with someone you know well. If u guys have been together for 5 years and you have "issues" now , come on "issues" is like the chorus of a song in marriage. You'll keep having it. When you have it there is just one option fix it. Never seek for another option FIX IT. Don't be stupid going for that nigga that just showed up ? Come he aint gonna give you the good life. You don't wanna come back here on NL telling us stories of how you lost your perfect man for that dude. I will personally be checking you here if I don't see your wedding pictures in the next two month you are in trouble. Leave that new guy. He's a walker. A passer by. He's an online guy always walking. He's not a stayer. I told you I'll tell you d truth. Ehn ehn answer ds questions jareee. Where is the wedding? How much is aso ebi? @profscomedy 1 Like |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by Nobody: 12:35am On Sep 14, 2015 |
vizkiz: True talk my brother. *in Juicy J's voice * These hoessssssssss, they for everybody |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by Homguy(m): 12:36am On Sep 14, 2015 |
Squig:you are getting married yet spending a lot of time with someone else, hoes ! They just can't hide. No wonder there is a communication gap. Please leave your fiance for a better woman. These days I just HIT n RUN, I wonder if attitudes like this I read about would ever make me settle down. The poor guy no go know sey someone else dey smooch hin wife to be |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by 400billionman: 12:36am On Sep 14, 2015 |
Ephemmm: This is one thing ladies never understand @ ur bolded comment. |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by Nobody: 12:37am On Sep 14, 2015 |
Tashaamania: Pardon me for quoting you. Your post beams wisdom and sensitivity. A relative of mine had this same premonition few months to her wedding but she ignored it and went ahead with the wedding. Today the marriage has fallen apart. I remember how much I raised my voice like a weeping prophet before the wedding because of some dreadful signs. No one listened. OP, you may want to postpone the wedding. Also speak with a counsellor as well as someone who can hear GOD clearly. Some steps of faith can be disastrous! The shame of cancelling a wedding cannot be likened to the myriad of pains you live in when a marriage collapses. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by SleekyPosh(m): 12:38am On Sep 14, 2015 |
Truckpusher: Seconded!! |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by Bootylicious(f): 12:38am On Sep 14, 2015 |
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Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by Mekurexx: 12:39am On Sep 14, 2015 |
best advice so far. raumdeuter: |
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